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my boyfriend likes my best friend!
well, at camp, this kid asked one of my really good friend's out, and she said no, and then he asked me out, and I said yes, and so now, we're going out! But, I think that he still likes her, while he's going out with me. It's like they're always flirting and stuff. It makes me so mad! And, I asked his best friend, who is my really good guy friend, if he could ask my boyfriend if he likes my friend, while dating me, and so he asked my bf, and my bf goes, only as a friend, but now, it seems like he is mad at me because I asked him that! And, my bfs best friend likes me, too, so, i mean, if my bf likes my frend, and we break up, would it be wrong if I went out with his best friend? How do I find out if he likes my friend, how do I find out if he's mad at me, and if we break up, would it be bad to go out with his best friend? ahh please helpp !?!?
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It sounds to me like you and your boyfriend need to sit down and have a very long talk.
Ask him everything you are wondering about with regard to your friend, his anger, etc. Do your best to work things out. I'm sure you can work out your problems.
Of course, if things do not work out between the two of you, you can always ask him if he would be okay with you dating his best friend.
Good luck =)
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I think the whole situation was bad from the begining. I mean, nobody ever HONESTLY says "I really like [your friend's name], but since she said no, well now I guess I like [your name]!" That dosn't make sense. Its not like as soon as you get rejected by somone you suddenly dont like them anymore. Crushes dont work like that. And then you dont just suddenly like a new person. If he was rejected by your friend and very soon after asked you out, (please dont take offense to this!) well, it sounds like he was desperate or somthing. He just wanted somone, no matter who it is. Therefore, it should be no suprize that he still likes her, I mean, he DID ask her out FIRST. So I would say, based on the situation, he does like your friend. He is mad at you for asking because he is going out with you and I'm sure he wants your trust. If you want to know if hes mad at you, why dont you ASK HIM. If you are dating him, you should easilly be able to talk to him! If you break up, I think it would be rude to go out with his friend. That would be doing the exact same thing to him as he did to you, (dropping one person and picking up another in a snap) and look how upset you are about it! If you even care about your boyfriend a little bit, you would want to spare him the kind of pain you are in now.
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The fact that he's still dating you tells me that although he may like her, he likes you more. It isn't uncommon for guys to have small crushes on other girls while in relationships. It usually doesn't mean anything, though. If he wanted to be with her, trust me, he would have been. He's with you.
To find out if he's mad at you, don't go around and ask all of his friends. One, that's just creating unnecessary drama, and two, it's so indirect and his friends can make up anything. Go to the source: ASK HIM. Don't be whiny, though. Just be calm and ask if he's mad. If he says yes, apologize. If he says no, then believe him.
If you break up, it wouldn't be bad to go out with his best friend. I mean, yes he would be hurt, but he can't control you after you break up, you know?
--Jack
(16/m)
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