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has God put me in this position......
let me start off by saying i belive that God has a greater purpose in my life, than what i have in mind right now. im not sure what it is but i belive that. and the reason why i belive that, alot of friends i have are in to drugs, having sex outta maraige, smoking, drinking all that stupid stuff. and i try telling them that if they don't stop they will loose control of thier life, and get in alot of trouble. every time i tell them this, it happens. and what im having trouble to understand here, is WHY does this always happen. every single time i tell a friend or a person this, it happens that way. and i also don't get if God has put in the position to basicly minister to people, and try to lead them straight, or does this just happen for no reason. some any advise to ease my mind and help me with this would be really nice.
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Maybe give some free advice about: Spirituality?
You cannot control other people. Everyone is reaching for the ultimate goal of happiness, and especially during the adolescent years this involves a lot of experimentation, mistakes, consequences and instant gratification.
Sex feels good. Drugs make you feel great. Your friends will probably figure it out, but at this point in their lives you cannot save them. Be a friend, but realize you cannot make choices for other people.
The beauty in this world is variation, besides.
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16/f and hey. =]
well i believe that like the other people said, god is testing to see what you can do in these situations. it maybe not even be that though.
i've actually learned recently in church that sometimes you can mention the littlest things like you have to someone and it may not affect a person now, but it could 10yrs down the road. life could finally hit them and they might remember you because they realized that they were wrong and you were right.
a different way to think is that of course satan causes these bad things to happen. well god may not be there to help because he already saw all this coming. he's just sitting there thinking of ways to turn the evil into good. and since you have been trying to tell these people what they are doing wrong, you might get rewarded for doing good.
and i think in this situation to minister to people how you have, you shouldn't be asking why god has you there. everything happens for a reason right? well you're supposed to be there. maybe you should ask him yourself why he has you there and maybe how you could minister to these people better where you could understand.
my last point is patience. even after you ask god what you are doing, he may answer a couple days from now, a couple weeks, months maybe...you'll never know. you just have to have faith and trust him and know he knows what he's doing.
all i can say though is just to relax and do what you think is right. you're doing the best you can. just be patient and see what happens. ;)
i hope things work out for you. =]
~sumsum~
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Hello! Im fifteen, female, and a firm believer in Christ [FBI fersurre].
But what confuses me is how God has a plan for everyone. If his plans are so big and great then why are there so many good people in such terrible positions?
Someone told me that its like a test.
Hes testing your faith. He wants to see if youre going to fall back and let Him catch you [:
Yeahh that sounds kinda corny
and im always wondering what happens to the bad people. Why is their 'plan' so BAD?
Sometimes I have some doubts about what it seems like were just supposed to believe in.
I think everyone is just a little afraid to believe in something soo big and so outstandingly massive, that they cant see.
Think of it like..believing in air!
Get it? Sorry for babbling. I lost my point. But yeahh, youll find it. Good luck! And youre never alone [;
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I agree, I'm not sure what you mean by 'it happens' I assume you mean they actually do lose control of their life. If so, here's what I have to say:
When people are told not to do something, it makes them want to do it more.
Plain and simple, teenagers are the worst at this actually. Obviously, these friends of yours don't see life the same way as you do. They may not even believe in God, therefore saying something along the lines of "This isn't what God has planned for you" wouldn't do much to effect them.
People will do what they want to do. If you're going to try to stop them, the most you can do is give them information and opinions, ultimately, they make the final call on how they steer their life. My recommendation is that you let them know, "Hey, look I hate to see you putting yourself in this kind of danger. You know it wrong, I get that it may be fun, but there are reasons why its wrong. I'm not telling you what to do or how to live your life, I'm just saying that as your friend I want whats best for you and I don't think having sex, drinking, and smoking falls into that category."
That way, you haven't judged them by calling them a sinner, you haven't judged their relationship with God and you haven't told them what to do. You merely told them your opinion and gave them advice, exactly what friends are supposed to do.
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Are you saying that every time you tell them not to do that stuff, they do?
Well you can't control people's free will, and neither can God, as much as I sometimes would love him to be able to, but it's called free will for a reason.
I think as long as you keep yourself clean and PRAY for them constantly, God will step in and help them. Sometimes you aren't meant to fight the battles against evil, and I learned that the hard way. Praying is really the most powerful thing you can do to help solve a problem that seems out of your control.
God bless ;]
--Jack
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okay i think i might have missed the whole thing that "happens" but im going to make a guessdament. I think that God might be testing you. He might be trying to see what you choose to do in these situations. I would just continue believing what you believe. But you have to remember that you can start to get on peoples nerves, and although you are thinking of them there is a fine line. So just try not to shove it down there throats. And if you say happens happens then just be there for them and try to help them find God.
-hayley
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