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Alpha female, always tries her hardest, analyzes the situation too much, overthinks what the other person says, tries to please others, stresses easily, high achiever, loooooves to laugh. I'm still learning the facts of life, but I can always share my mistakes and lessons learned. :)


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does anyone know the actual age you have to be to go skydiving?

Most Dropzones will require you to be 18 years of age to go skydiving. Some dropzones in some states will allow 16 year olds to jump with parental consent.

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Hey guys! I have a Sims 2 for Play Station 2 and this is funny but How can you get a Sim Pregnant. My Sims Do the "WooHoo" ALOT. But she has never got pregnant. lol. Please Don't Be Rude! :) Ty

1.Unlock love heart bed.
2.Then, come up with the guy (make sure the couple is in bed)
3.After a couple of minutes, a sign comes up saying "accept or forget".
4.PRESS ACCEPT!
5.After all is done, the woman will get out of bed...look at her belly.
6.Each day it will grow.. It will take about 4 days (in sim days)
7.Then, after those days, your screen will automatically zoom to the woman. The woman will make weird noises... After a tiny baby comes out, another sign will appear.
8.It will say:: Congrats! It's a Boy/Girl.
9.Name the baby..It will start to age as well as the adults that made the baby.

Hope I helped!

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Alright I think my friend is a cutter, But I'm not sure. I've never seen any cuts but she is always wearing long sleeves. How can I tell if she is? Are there other signs?


Well, for starters, don't jump to conclusions!
Make sure you know for sure that she cuts..or else you'll go too far and hurt her feelings.
Maybe you should straight out ask her. (Maybe she'll lie..maybe she'll tell you the truth.) Confront her about it and ask her why she always wears long sleeve shirts. (Then again, it is WINTER..and it's really cold outside!)

If you confront your friend and you think she's lying...let it go..(for a while) and see if her behavior changes in anyway (Is she depressed, moody, scared?)If you do notice scars on her arms/legs..ask her where they are from.

Here's what to do if your friend is cutting:

Understanding why a friend may be cutting allows you be supportive. The first thing to do to help your friend stop (if she is cutting) is to be realistic about what you can accomplish: As with any damaging behavior (such as alcoholism, drugs, or eating disorders), some people just may not be ready to acknowledge their problem and stop. So don't put too much pressure on yourself - your friend's problem could be a long-standing one that requires help from a professional (therapist).

If you find out for sure that she cuts, here are the steps to take:
*Talk about it.
*Tell someone!
*Help your friend find resources (therapist)
*Help your friend find alternatives to cutting.
*Acknowledge your friend's pain.

Also, no matter what...don't judge her.

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what are some intense leg workouts i can do to get rid of the flab on the upper part of my legs without running or equptment? thanks!!

All leg exercises will do is build muscle and increase strength in your legs. If there is any fat, muscle will be built underneath this fat.

The ONLY way to lose fat from ANY part of the body is by doing enough cardio (jogging, riding a bike, etc.) and eating a perfect diet.

If you still want to tone your legs:::

Do squats:
1. Get in a comfortable upright stance with your feet shoulder width apart. Your toes should be either pointed straight ahead or slightly outward, never inward or knee strain will result).
2. Focus your vision straight ahead. Do not tilt your head backwards or raise your eyes in your head as this will disrupt your balance.
3. Place the barbell squarely on your traps and shoulders (not the neck) and grip the bar comfortably with your hands slightly wider than your shoulders.
4. Keeping your heels planted firmly on the floor, inhale and move your butt back and downward. Do not start by bending the knees.
5. Continue downward, by bending the knees, but be careful not to allow your knees to move forward. This will save you stress on your knees.
6. When the thighs reach parallel, begin exhaling and return to the starting position. There should be no sideways movement, especially in the knee or hip area.



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Hi advicenators :D

well, i am an icon maker on iconator (and if you've ever been there you know that there are millions of idiots who have nothing better to do then i/m you), so sosmeone imed me long enough for me to say "who is this", and then warned me. I was justs wondering, do warnings go away? How long does it take to go away? And also, i tried to warn HER, but it wouldnt let me; why is this?

Warnings go away usually by the next day (depending on the percentage you've been warned.) Everytime your warnings increase, it decreases your ability to send/receive IMs.

- You cannot send a warning to someone if you were the person who started the conversation, IM or chat.

- You can issue only one warning for each message someone sends you.

- If a user warns you, consider ending the conversation. Every additional message you send enables that user to warn you again.

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Ever since sophomore year in high school a group of friends and I have always gone to South Padre for spring break. We're all sophomores in college now so this year is going to be our 5th. Well I have another friend that isn't apart of our group and she's going to Italy for spring break this year and asked me to come along.


Now, I'm not sure who to go with. I know what you're thinking though, "Italy, what an opportunity" But, I just went over the summer so it's not like a big deal. So should I just say no and go to South Padre?

I think you should go to South Padre and keep the tradition going...If you go to Italy with the friend that you aren't quite as friends with, it won't be as fun..right? Also, since you already went this summer, why waste another thousand bucks to go to the same places.

Anyway, hope I helped!

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I don't even know if I should be worrying about this...but I've been at a new public middle school for four months now. I have eight friends that I hang out with, and the rest are people I say "hi" to. I'm a really shy person, and I know that's part of my problem. How do I get those people that I just say "hi" to as my true friends? And I'm afraid that I ever try to hang out with these friends they'll think I'm weird or something. I keep getting nervous that I'll never really gain these true friends. I don't want to be forever that new girl that nobody knows or cares about. Please help, I rate fives.

OK..well for starters..start ACTING confident..and more outgoing. Smiling is the key. If you ever see your friends/people you say hi to in the hallway, smile..and say Heeeyy!..(Hi sounds too boring) If you see something that they are wearing that you like, compliment them! Flattery can go a long way.
Maybe if they are going in the same direction as you are, walk with them. Start a conversation..Even if you aren't interested in what they say..pretend you are! Be friendly and you've got your work cut out for you.

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I am a 20-year-old woman and have a friend of eight years whom I'm trying to break it off with. She calls me her "best" friend but lately I've realized I don't even like her -- I mostly stay with her out of habit. I mean, she is an okay person and I wish her the best, but I'm not especially fond of her and I'm tired of having to support her and let her cry on my shoulder all the time (this happens a lot, as she has a rough life and some issues with depression and cutting). She also has a tendency to get angry over very small things, and after I had to apologize for the 100th time for making some little remark which would not have offended anyone but her, I realized I didn't want to be friends anymore -- I am not getting enough out of the relationship for what I put in. I thought I could "lose touch" with her and the relationship could die a natural death, so I've avoided her for a month, not returned calls and so on. But she has come to me and demanded to know why I am acting this way.

If I tell her the truth -- that I'm not angry but don't want to talk her -- she'll never believe that. If I tell her I don't like her behavior (getting mad so easily etc), she will apologize and promise to change, I will get softhearted and forgive her, then after a few weeks she'll get mad at me again for no reason and round and round we go. (I know because this has happened before.) How do I resolve this without (A) deeply hurting her or (B) leaving me stuck in a friendship that does nothing for me?

I think you should advise her to get a therapist or something..so she won't have to lean on you all the time. I understand you may be annoyed of her..but there's no way you can ditch her without hurting her feelings.

I guess you could change your phone number and avoid her completely and pray you don't run into her-ever.
You could introduce her to a guy..maybe that will cheer her up and make her less dependent on you.
OR if you really don't care..straight out tell her that you're getting really sick of all this whining..just don't give in. Maybe tell her over AIM/email so you won't have to face her "sorry" look.

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Can anyone give me good brands of Hair Straightners? Doesn't matter if expensive, just the best brands in your perspectives. Thanks.
NaImEE ♥

Chi's are the BEST! It heats up instantly (like less than 2 minutes!)and it makes your hair look B-E-A-U-T-I-F-U-L! The cost::: $150ish..you can order it at your local hair salon/buy it at Trade Secret/Ulta..hhmm lots more! Hoped I helped!

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so my guy asked me out on MYSPACE...
and now we dont even see eachother..
my ? is how do i ask him to hang out.
FAST PLEASE
i rate

Message/Comment/Ask him if he's going anywhere winter break. If he isn't going on vacation or anything, then ask him to hang out: "Wanna hang out (this weekend)?"

He should want to hang out with his girlfriend.

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my dad is always really impatient and sometimes he hurts me but i dont know if it would be considered abusing me. the worst time was when he shoved me up the stairs and started smacking me screaming at me and then shoved me into my room and i hit the door..it was horrible. other times he squeezes my arm or twists it so i listen to him. so would this be considered abuse or not? if it is should i do something about it? thanks, i rate high!!!

Yes, this is abuse. Seek help from another guardian/counselor immediately.

Child abuse is defined as the physical or psychologoical maltreatment of a child.

Don't just sit there and take it. Maybe talk to him about it if you're up for it? If he doesn't stop, please consult another adult. You shouldn't have to deal with this.

Drop one in my inbox if you need more help.

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I quite often wish that I am more ill than i actually am. I found myself wishing that I could be in hospital over a christmas at some point. I was always ill as a child and spent a lot of last year ill with depression and glandular fever and in a way... i miss it.

I find myself exagerating all aches and pains, I almost like the pain sometimes.

I feel so messed up, do any of you guys ever feel like this?

I'm sorry to say that I have never felt this way. I don't enjoy pain...like you say you do.

I'm wondering why you wish that you could be more ill and end up in the hospital. This is not normal.

Depression may be a possibility.
Signs of Depression:

--Noticeable change of appetite, with either significant weight loss not attributable to dieting or weight gain.
--Noticeable change in sleeping patterns, such as fitful sleep, inability to sleep, early morning awakening, or sleeping too much.
--Loss of interest and pleasure in activities formerly enjoyed.
--Loss of energy, fatigue.
--Feelings of worthlessness.
--Persistent feelings of hopelessness.
--Feelings of inappropriate guilt.
--Inability to concentrate or think, indecisiveness.
--Recurring thoughts of death or suicide, wishing to die, or attempting suicide. (Note: People suffering this symptom should receive treatment immediately!)
--Melancholia (defined as overwhelming feelings of sadness and grief), accompanied by waking at least two hours earlier than normal in the morning, feeling more depressed in the morning, and moving significantly more slowly.
--Disturbed thinking, a symptom developed by some severely depressed persons. For example, severely depressed people sometimes have beliefs not based in reality about physical disease, sinfulness, or poverty.
--Physical symptoms, such as headaches or stomachaches

If you know for sure that you are not depressed, than go talk to a counselor/guardian/therapist about your feelings. This sounds serious. The sooner you get help, the healthier you'll be.

Good luck!-Mary

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does anybody know of any cute *name brand* jeans other than american eagle (i basilcly have all of their jeans!) that has *petite/short sizes* that come in zeros!
thanks!
i rate high!

Abercrombie&Fitch!! I wear 00S (double-zero short)..yours will be 0S...I love how I never have to hem them!

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I get really nervous whenever I have to give a speech or even read outloud in class. I start shaking and sweating and i can't breathe right. Even my voice starts to shake. What can I do about this? In about a month I have to take a speech class. Are there and medicines my doctor can prescribe to help me?

Hey! Well this happens to me sometimes also..the weird thing is..I love getting up and presenting my ideas/projects..I hate it when I get nervous! But what I try to do before I get up is breathe..I mean it's not like a serious thing..I'm not like really anxious and I don't start sweating..but It's like stage fright..You eventually get over it. Maybe you're afraid of what others may think of you..well, don't be..I make lots of silly mistakes and people make fun of me about them..but I don't really care. Be confident!...It's not easy to accomplish..but I know you can do it..because if I can..anyone else can! If this shaking, sweating, and your inability to breathe correctly continues, definitely go to a doctor!--As for now, practice getting up infront of people..put on a smile..if you look nervous..people make fun of you..and I'm not saying this to be mean..but It's really kinda true.

Learn to be confident. Build up your self esteem. It helps that you know the people that you're presenting it to. Breathe before you stand up and present..Tell yourself that you will do GREAT..and guess what? In about 5 minutes, it'll all be over.

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ok i am going to get my two friends christmas present but like i dnt know what to get them and i dont want to make anything but the point is i dont have that much money to pay for them so i was thinking about 10 dollars each 5s for everyone that anwsers

Ten Dollars is definitely enough for a great present!

Try Claires..lots of cuteee, girly stuff there.

Lipgloss..what girl doesn't wear lipgloss!

A pair of earrings :) :)

A pretty picture frame with a picture of you and your friend(s) in there.

Bath Fizzers--those are so cool and an awesome gift!

Friendship rings...fun stuff

A small bottle of perfume from Hollister.

Get a small, cute bag(put their name on it) and fill it with lots of candy!

$10 dollar gift cards.

Teddybears!

Makeup!

Candles!

Bake them yummy cookies and put it in a pretty bag!

anndd that's pretty much all of I can think of right now..let me know if I've helped!

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ok my dad does weed and i just know my mom does it too. and well they are always saying how much they hate people that do drugs and here they do it. well i hear that if your parents smoke and stuff well the kids are liable to start and well i smoke ciggaretts and my parents dont know about it. my point is will i start doing drugs since they do? an help will work thanks jennie

Well..a percentage of that is true. You can choose either NOT to do it..or to do it. It's your decision. It's not a fact that if your parents do drugs, you will for certain do it...but I see you're on the path. Cigarettes are really unhealthy for you and can increase your chance of lung cancer, etc. I'm not here to baby you and tell you what to do with your life though..so that's all I'll say about the hazards of smoking---My dad smokes cigarettes..but I don't..I choose not to because I know it will put me in danger of everything-my life.

Your question is "Will I start doing drugs since they do?"....It's not hereditary, you know. Decide for yourself if you want to do weed or not..(I really don't think you should though...but that's not my decision to make for you.)You can decide how you want to spend the rest of your life..smoking, being unhealthy, being at risks for many diseases, ruining your body,ruining your appearance,slowly killing yourself OR you can have a happy, healthy life.

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Sorry if this question seems obvious. But I need in-depth answers if possible! I need to study for some tests I was absent for. How can I just get myself to sit down and do it before I get too tired and want to go to bed?

Anyway to force myself or encourage myself?

Thanks.

Turn off the T.V.
Turn off the radio.
Even turn off the computer if you don't need it.

I was suppose to be studying for my finals 2 hours ago..but I got distracted from the computer, my radio, and the tv.

Sit down at a desk..NOT on your bed..(it makes you want to close your eyes for a bit..then nap)

Concentrate.
Trust me. It works.

Good Luck!

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Yeah i know this is like really random, but i was just wondering, how do you guys feel about the store Abercrombie and Fitch. I was reading about it online and so many people seem to hate it!!!

i don't really shop there that often but i was thinking of getting some clothes there for christmas and i was just wanted to know some of yall opinionss on it

Well, I'm not a guy..but let me just say that I LOVE ABERCROMBIE&FITCH! It's the best store because it's like a clean look...it's not like trashy..it's really good quality and their clothes are super cute!..People just hate it because they aren't one of those AF people..maybe they have different tastes in clothes?? But yesss..I highly recommend Abercrombie!

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Hey. Well, I was wonderign where they sell those "PINK" sweatpants at Victoria Secret. Do they sell them at Victoria Secret or sowewhere else? Thanks!

Yep they're from Victoria Secret and I really want a pair! You can also try and get them off ebay for cheaper..(you never know!) I really want the blue ones! :)

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what are some stores that sell clothing that everyone wears? (list preferred)I rate high!

Casual, cute outerwear:

Abercrombie&Fitch (awesomeawesome store)
Hollister (awesomeawesome store)
American Eagle
Forever 21


Formal/Semi-Formal/Casual cute/outerwear:

Nordstroms
Macys
Neiman Marcus
Saks Fifth Avenue

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