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Help me!
I don't even know if I should be worrying about this...but I've been at a new public middle school for four months now. I have eight friends that I hang out with, and the rest are people I say "hi" to. I'm a really shy person, and I know that's part of my problem. How do I get those people that I just say "hi" to as my true friends? And I'm afraid that I ever try to hang out with these friends they'll think I'm weird or something. I keep getting nervous that I'll never really gain these true friends. I don't want to be forever that new girl that nobody knows or cares about. Please help, I rate fives.
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just go up to them at lunch period and just start a conversation or just say that u would very much like to become friends with you guys if it is not such a big deal. hoped i helped. plaz send feed back.
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What's wrong with the friends you hang out with now?
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First off, always remember that regardless of the person, you will always share more with them than you will ever differ from them. If you are hesitant about introducing yourself then chances are it shows and its possible they are hesitant as well. The best thing to do is wipe away all of your fears and insecurities and go to school with a fresh attitude, a forward looking demeanor that does not recognize the thoughts you've had thus far. Mostly, you should have in mind something to say to whomever it is you'd like to meet, or at least be in such a good mood that they truely find you interesting and desire your company as well.
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well i know it might be hard but just start talking to them and ask them to hang out at the movies and start to write notes to them and pretty soon you will be closer with alot more people and have them over ♥
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OK..well for starters..start ACTING confident..and more outgoing. Smiling is the key. If you ever see your friends/people you say hi to in the hallway, smile..and say Heeeyy!..(Hi sounds too boring) If you see something that they are wearing that you like, compliment them! Flattery can go a long way.
Maybe if they are going in the same direction as you are, walk with them. Start a conversation..Even if you aren't interested in what they say..pretend you are! Be friendly and you've got your work cut out for you.
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Communication amounts to.. expressing something, and listening to somebody else express themselves. Of course, I'm in college and haven't really figured out how to get people to open up, let alone get myself to relax.
Ask people about things you have in common, make mental notes of things they're going to do eventually, or interests they have. Be genuine. Not everybody needs your interest, or is worth your interest.
It is the most repeated phrase for a reason: Be yourself. Be honest with yourself and other people. If you're honest, anybody that puts you down is an asshat.
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Perhaps try to talk to your acquaintances a bit more. Get to know them better, perhaps get their username and talk to them online. Then build up to going out and hanging out together. I know it's hard to be new in this society, but you shouldn't be worrying about them shutting you out because of your concerns about being accepted. If they are going to be your friends, they shouldn't mind if you're weird. Hope this helps! :)
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Well, the facts are that it's extremely hard to find true friends. If these people think your wierd than their not your true friends. I started hanging out with some friends when I first went in to high schoo they excepted that I was wierd so if you are then they just have to get over and accept you for who you are now get out there and make friends.
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If they think you're weird and don't accept you for it, they're not really your true friends anyways.
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