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I have this ex boyfriend and his new girlfriend. We broke up 5 months ago and today is their first month together. Actually, they are just reunited. They have been together, before me and I just found it out after we broke up. My ex hide it from me. I'm the one who broke up with him, but then I realize I can't live w/o him so i tried to fix things up but he said he's tired of everything. Many people say that me and the girl have similarities in our appearance (which for me is not true). So I decided to move on and get out of their lives. Recently, the girl is chatting me on Feb, telling me things about them, giving me advices abt relationships, and like telling me straight to my face that I was just a rebound. And then there comes my ex. I already unfriend him on fb but he added me again. Talks to me like nothing happened, he tells me his problems then tells me to keep it a secret, calling me out (but i rejected). He even shows my picture to his friends. Then the girl now is blocking my friends, telling the boy that we are fighting and other bitter things. What should I do with them? (link)
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It's all pointless drama. She's jealous, insecure, ect. It's really something you don't need to be a part of.
So just end things with both of them. Don't message them if they message you. Unfriend him again. Block them if you need to. Just don't talk to them anymore.
You were right in the beginning to move on and get out of their lives. So do just that and don't go back.
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21/f
Before I start, please do not tell me about the safety of having sex (using condoms to prevent pregnancy, to prevent getting STDs, even if you're on birth control pills, etc.) I am aware of all of these things.
Let me say that my boyfriend and I do not use condoms. We did at first, but I have been on birth control for the past three years. We are also both STD free.
So, my situation is I went through my boyfriend's wallet trying to get a hint of what I should get him for his birthday. His wallet didn't have many things in it and I found a condom. I got to thinking, if we don't usually use condoms, why would he carry one around with him? I thought maybe he forgot about it before he met me or he wanted to be safe just in case? But just in case what? Just in case another girl comes along that he wants to sleep with doesn't give me much of a reassurance.
I just want to understand why or the possibility of him having it would do. I know that if I got him a new wallet, he'll put another condom in it, too. I'm curious on what the purpose may be. Am I thinking too much into it? Should I even be worried about this? (link)
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You're over thinking it.
It doesn't sound like you have much faith in your boyfriend to be faithful either. That's another issue in itself though.
Maybe he does it by habit or because guys are told to be safe. It could be old, and been there for awhile. Who knows.
If you're really curious, just ask him.
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I'm 15 (nearly 16) and I've recently broken up with my boyfriend, Ryan, of 3 months. I broke up with him face to face because I didn't want to do it over text and have him hating me, then when he got home we messaged and he asked why I'd left him and I told him it was because neither of us were happy anymore and he was getting very controlling and it was making me miserable so I told him that it would be better for both of us to call it a day. He said we could be friends again one day but it would take him a while to get over it, which is understandable. As me and Ryan are in a band with our mutual friend Jake we agreed to carry on with band practice etc. as usual.
2 days later at school I was in the practice rooms with Jake and I told him that as it wasn't an official practice day, Ryan would want me to leave when he got there so I said I'd find a different room. Except when Ryan turned up he didn't even come in the room, instead he sent his cousin in to pass on the message that I should "Piss off into another room and find my own friends" which upset and angered me because was going to leave when he got there anyway so he had some space, I don't see why he had to be so horrible about it?
At the end of that same day, some of my friends came up to me to warn me that Ryan was going round getting people to call me scampi (it's a horrible nickname he gave me) so I asked them if they knew why he was calling me that and they said they were talking to him at lunchtime and he said "Once, she gave me some gone-off scampi and lemon crisps and they tasted like when I licked her out"... I feel mortified...
I've never been able to get physically close to anyone because of bad childhood experiences but he made me feel safe. I was uncomfortable doing anything with him in the first place but he convinced me that I could trust him and that he'd treat me well. He was so nice at first and now I feel like a fool...
People at school keep coming up to me and calling me scampi and when I confronted Ryan about it he just said "Well I was angry" but that's no excuse for making my school life miserable. I just want to run far away and have a fresh start. He's telling me that he still cares about me and when I didn't turn up to school the day after I confronted him, he texted my mum telling me he wished me the best but it's all bullshit.. Surely if you love someone you wouldn't be able to do something like this, right?
I've already got a bad reputation at school from people telling lies about me but he's made it 100 times worse... And even when I found out what he'd been telling people about me, I didn't set out for revenge because I still love him, despite everything, and I know it's the wrong thing to do. I feel so helpless and alone, I even made myself ill so I didn't have to see him at school. I'm ashamed and embarrassed and I don't know what to do... Can anyone help me??? (link)
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You love what you thought he was.
He's angry and it's a good thing you broke up with him. It's a good thing you ended it now before you find this later on even worse. You would not want to date a guy who spreads rumors about his ex girlfriend. It's immature and disgusting.
If he continues this, try talking to a teacher, principal or counselor and let them know what's going on. They could even give you better advice on how to handle the situation.
This was wrong of him and don't feel stupid. You live and learn and just be glad you aren't with him anymore.
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I'm having constant fights with my best friend. We've been friends for 3 years. All the previous school year and this summer we were seeing each other every day. We were inseparable. Now this school year started and I got a boyfriend. We've been unofficial for a few months and now for half a month we're official. I believe that she is jealous cause she is single for over a year and that she doesn't want to lose me as a friend. But she is showing it wrong. She keeps making scenes of jealousy, she won't talk to me, she is not even calling me to hang out anymore. I only see her at school. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose her as a friend but she needs to understand that she's not right and that even though I have a boyfriend I still love her and she's my best friend. What should I do? (link)
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You should talk to her. Let her know that you love her and you want to keep her as a friend.
Like the other adviser said, you don't need to point out why you're right and she's wrong.
Just communicate with her and make sure she knows you're not losing a friend. That you want to make time for both her and your boyfriend.
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I have been dating a guy for 2 years. Throughout this time we have had our ops and downs and I have also found out he is a compulsive liar. A few months ago he started a new job at a restaurant and has been hanging out with some of his coworkers for drinks/pool on the weekends. One of his coworkers seems to have taken interest in him. I have his instagram login and she just recently asked to befriend him on there. Well after he accepts that, he deleted the pictures with me in them. I ask him about it and he claims he deleted more pictures (he didn't) and plans to delete his instagram (don't believe it). I believe he deleted my pictures so his coworker wouldn't see them. Just two days ago he tells me he is going to shoot some pool with "the guys from work". Come to find out, he went to a bar with this girl for her birthday. The fact that he lied about who he was with leads me to believe something is going on. I actually texted the other girl and she claims there is nothing going on between them and they're just coworkers but did apologize for the feelings she has for him. I want to believe her but my gut tells me otherwise. He has done this type of thing before (gone behind my back and seen other women). I want to end the relationship because I don't trust him and I feel dumb to stick around again. What would you do? We are 24/25 if that matters. (link)
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Since he's lying, there's probably more going on. Unless he thinks if he tells you that he is going to a bar with this girl that you'll freak out and tell him not to, then he really has no legitimate reason to lie. Even though I don't think he should lie even for that reason, I can understand it better.
But like you said, he's gone behind your back with other women before so why should you trust him?
And without trust, there's no relationship.
He would have no reason to delete pictures of you and no reason to lie to you about hanging out with a girl if she is just a friend.
So staying with someone you don't trust with just make things worse for you. You'll always be wondering if he's really out with the guys when he tells you.
If I were in your shoes, I would end it.
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I'm 15/f. I have this best friend that's a guy and I've known him for about 5 years. He's not the sharpest knife in the drawer and he's not the best looking either. He's super nice and has always listened to me when I vent and talk. I can always laugh when I'm around him. He has helped me feel better about the disorders I have and about me self harming. He has done drugs before and has smoked ect. I asked him if he wanted to hangout in a week or so and so for the first time ever, I will be doing weed with him. Do not talk me out of it and it is not peer pressure; he would never force me to do anything I didn't want to. I am doing it because it won't leave terrible scars like cutting and burning my skin does. He accepts me for who I am though which is very important to me. Lately, I've been realizing that he's acting a bit flirtatious towards me. We joke around and send kissy faces through text but his seems more sincere and he always compliments me and is very cute with what he says to me. Is he falling for me? Will he take advantage of me when I do drugs with him? Am I gunna end up being his girlfriend? (link)
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Firstly I'll say that using smoking weed as an excuse to not cut is dumb.
If you cut, you need professional help. Because what if weed just isn't there when you need it? You'll go right back to cutting, you need real help.
Aside from that, he might be interested in you if he compliments you and flirts with you.
As for the other two questions, I don't know this guy, I don't have any idea of what is going to happen.
If you're afraid of him taking advantage of you when you do drugs with him, then you shouldn't do it with him. If you have that uncertainty, it's better to be safe than sorry.
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So there is this guy ( Im 13 btw ) and he told a few of my friends that he likes me. He told them he was going to ask me out today, but he got to scared so he didn't. He told them he was going to ask me out monday. I don't know what to say. I like him i just want to know do i say yes or sure? and another thing, how do i make it less awkward? I want to talk to him, but in a fun, flirtish kind of way... help! (link)
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If you like him and would like to go out with him then say yes.
Yes will definitely make him more confident and happy he approached you.
I like the other adviser on making plans to hang out. It'll make it less awkward.
I imagine it would be awkward if he asks you out then you say yes and you guys are like, "Okay, cool" then awkwardly leave. So just make plans to do something later and then you can give him a hug or something and tell him you'll talk to him later. Exchange numbers if you don't have it already or something.
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I am thirteen and this guy told my friends he liked me. He is going to ask me out on monday at school and i don't know what to wear. I am a brunette and i am five feet. I want to be flirty, but not desperate. I know i sound stupid, but i need help. Also, do you know any cute ways to do your hair? My hair is super thick and only medium length! Thx. (link)
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I agree with Dragonflymagic.
I don't think it's necessary to try to dress up nicer just because you found out he is going to ask you out.
Like Dragonfly said, it could intimidate a guy who is your age and you all of a sudden look different. Older guys might have more confidence but guys around your age might not. He might get too nervous and change his mind. Hopefully not though.
But besides that, it's not a bad thing to want to look nice and dress up for certain occasions when it calls for it but not for a guy asking you out.
Just dress in something that makes you feel good. Wear one of your favorite outfits and just look in a way that just makes you feel good about yourself.
Keep your hair cute and simple and overall, just dress in a way that you just feel very good and confident about yourself.
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I'm 14 almost 15 and my boyfriend wants to have sex this weekend it's his birthday. I feel that I'm ready but..people say we're to young and I'd never be able to admit it to my mom.. Any advise? (link)
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I don't like that he said he wants sex for his birthday.
In my opinion, I think you're too young. You may feel ready but you'd have to be prepared for everything else as well.
It will be painful, it always is when it's your first time. The thing is, it hurts much worse when you're younger, especially at your age, because your body is still developing.
If you actually do want to have sex, you'd need to get on birth control. Don't have sex without being on birth control because then you have a much higher risk of getting pregnant.
And always use condoms even when you are on birth control. You want to be extra protective and you don't want to get any STIs.
But I think it's kinda low to ask for sex for his birthday. It's such a "boy" thing and a little manipulative.
Just think things through.
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my boyfriend and i dont have a way to hang out anywhere and school isnt really working. we dont have any classes together and its hard to find time. do you know any cute gestures that can be done at school. i mean like the gesrure of letting him know *what's on your mind* without saying it? cause hes really sweet and i want him to know that i love him, but we cant show affection.......PDA! thanks!!!! ASL-16, female, U.S. (link)
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It's hard to date in school when you don't get to see each other outside of school.
There are some small things you can do that hold a lot of meaning.
You can get a sticky note and stick it in his backpack and binder and write a little note on it.
You can bring his favorite drink, snack or candy bar and give it to him to let him know you were thinking of him.
You can draw him a little picture.
If you have any creative talents like writing poems, drawing, painting, even making bracelets or making any little thing, do something like that for him.
When I had a boyfriend in high school, we had a notebook. We'd trade it off every day and write a page about our day and how we missed each other or things that made us smile. You could try that.
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I feel absolutely shattered and like my world came to an end. My boyfriend of 5 years dumped me and said he didn't love me anymore and needed to make things work for himself. I don't feel like anything I can do will help and I'll always feel this way. I'm not used to this hookup culture and don't want to sleep with someone before I know them. I'm so lost and scared :( he was my everything and I feel broken. But there's nothing else I can do.
I was there through everything for him. We had a rocky relationship because he struggles with addiction but now that he's actually bettering his life, he doesn't want to date me.
Plus we have been long distance for about 3 years and it was finally gonna be long distance no longer. How can he be so sure that he wants this? He said he hopes I find peace with it.
I feel severely depressed and like I won't find someone for me when I have so much love to give :( sorry for this rant. I just don't know where else to turn (link)
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You two were together for a really long time, of course you're going to be hurt and upset, it's normal.
Don't chase after him, don't try to communicate with him at all. He will realize what he lost eventually because you were there for him through everything.
I don't agree with the adviser below about there being someone else. I mean there could be the chance, but I wouldn't jump to that conclusion.
He may have someone else, he may just believe it's the best thing for him and he's not in love.
Whatever the reason is, you're right that there isn't anything you can do.
Break ups are a good time to find yourself.
A lot of people lose themselves in the other person when they're in a relationship. That's what you did. It's not a good thing to do and that's why you're feeling ten times worse.
Either way, that's over and the next time you're in a relationship, you know not to get lost in someone.
Right now, this is you time. You're going to take care of yourself and let yourself heal. Don't worry about finding someone else. That's not something that should be on your mind right now.
Try new things, work out, go out with friends and just do things that will make you happy. Cry it out, then it's time to move on.
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Hello there,
I have been having trouble with my weight lately. I'm 14, I'm a female, 5'3, and I think I might be 125 or so. I'm not quite sure. Well, my mom and my best friend say that I'm skinny, but I just think they're trying to make me feel better. I absolutely hate the way I look, and I need a solution.
I barely ever go outside due to my severe depression. I do little exercise, like Jumping Jacks, Kick Ups, all of that. I eat healthy.
However, I recently have been starting to starve myself. I know, it's bad, but I want to lose weight SO bad. I feel like I'm obese and a pig and just gross. I was bullied a lot for being heavy when I was younger, causing me to lose weight.
I take vitamins to help me get the nutrients I need. I probably eat somewhere between 300-700 calories a day. I just feel so freaking fat and I feel like I need to have a thigh gap or else people won't accept me. What should I do? (link)
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It really depends on your body frame.
But your depression seems to be holding you back. That's what you need to fix first. I don't know if you're getting help for that, but if you aren't, that is your first step.
You already know starving yourself is not good for you. You need to seek help for this. This could turn out so much worse. I mean you might end up skinny, but you'll end up sick as well and your bones will be weak.
I knew a girl in high school who was starving herself and she fell and ended up breaking bones. One girl got hit by a car and passed away.
Besides that, you can look up many other things that happen when you starve yourself. A lot of your body functions will shut down.
Vitamins won't give you all your nutrients.
People with good looking bodies work for them. That's the kind of body you want. Not some frail thing who can't hold herself up.
Society sucks, the media sucks. They all expect you to look a certain way. But what everyone should aim for is to be healthy.
If you want something, work for it. Go get help for your depression and your eating disorder. Eat healthy, drink water, and go exercise. The results won't happen over night but it will happen. Exercise also helps depression.
The pills you take for depression usually take a couple weeks to kick in, exercise takes a bit longer but it will help you.
So start taking care of yourself.
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I am 18 years and I am in a relationship with a guy for about two years, we love each other a lot . but he yearns for my virginity . but I want to wait but he can't , should I save it ? or its gonna be really wrong?
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No it's not wrong to save your virginity.
You want to wait and that's fine. Don't go do something that you're not ready to do. When you're ready, you'll know and you'll be 100% confident in your decision. Right now, you're obviously not 100% confident.
If your boyfriend can't wait, then he's not the right guy for you. It doesn't make either of you bad people, but you shouldn't have sex with someone just to keep them around. You won't be happy.
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Im from Namibia
Really need some advise
im friends with a guy we just made friends 3weeks ago
got to know each other ..i really like him alot he is just a guy that i want but the thing is he has a girlfriend..I dont know what to do? Help me please what should I do? (link)
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I agree with the person below that trying to be with someone who has a girlfriend is not a good way to start a healthy relationship.
You never want to get in between a relationship.
You should take some space away from him and move on and find someone else who doesn't have a girlfriend.
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I've had suicidal thoughts for a large portion of my life but recently it's been getting worse. Due to recent events, I really hate myself and I can't shake this feeling of hopelessness.
I told my boyfriend this last night and he got really angry at me and called me a coward and pathetic. I get where he's coming from and I realise now that I can't kill myself because it's selfish and would hurt my mom. But now I can't stop feeling completely worthless and depressed.
How do I get rid of this feeling? I feel so alone, but I'm scared if I tell any of my other friends they'll react the same way and end up hating me.
Also, he said he was once depressed and his best friends started getting angry and shouting at him too and he got better. So now he's doing the same to me. Why isn't it working?
I'm also really confused because he said I need to look within myself and ask myself the hard questions in life. But I don't know what that means and he won't tell me. What do I do?
Also, should I try and get him to stop hating me and apologise to him? I feel like he's the only person I really trust to tell all this to but at the same time I don't know if he still cares..
UPDATE: today I had a talk with him and he wanted to break up because I was a coward, emotionally unstable, weak and unreliable to him. He said I was holding him back from his career in comic books but he still loves me and that we should break up to make ourselves better people.
What does this all mean? And what should I do? (link)
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Ok first I'll start with the depression. It's a serious thing and it can take over your life. This isn't your fault, it's all about the chemicals in your brain.
You need to seek professional help for that. You don't want this to get worse. Take care of yourself first.
To answer your question on how to get rid of the feeling of being worthless and depressed, you should need to go seek professional help and step by step, you'll start feeling better. They'll help you because it is a common thing.
Just because he was depressed once and his friends would get angry, doesn't mean he should do the same to you. No couple should get angry at each other and shout at each other period. When they get angry, they handle it in better ways, but not shouting or tearing the other person down. That's not love.
Should you try to get him to stop hating you and apologize to him? Absolutely not. If he hates you for something like this, dump him. You have no reason to apologize to him for something you can't control.
If a guy calls you a coward, emotionally unstable, weak and unreliable, dump him. He doesn't care about you as much as you care about him. You're too good for someone like him. He doesn't love you because that is not love at all. People who love each other build each other up and are there for each other. He's doing the complete opposite.
I mean just imagine if you had kids with him, and your daughter was depressed, you think him shouting at her, calling her weak, unreliable, a coward, and emotionally unstable is being supportive and loving? Would you let that happen? I would hope not.
Dump him. You do need to focus on yourself and get better. Afterwards, find someone who is supportive and loving. Don't stay with this guy.
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My boyfriend's mom wasn't supposed to be home for another hour yesterday and she walked in on us having sex. She was so mad she couldn't talk at first and then she yelled at me to get out of her house and never come back and she watched me get dressed and didn't leave until I left. Obviously I deeply regret what we did and we shouldn't have been that stupid and I just don't know what to do now. I'm 18 and my boyfriend is 23. His mom is unpredictable and emotionally unstable and she said she wants to tell my parents about this. I am so humiliated and ashamed and I haven't decided if I should tell my mom yet i don't know if I can handle that right now. Should I? What am I supposed to do now? I can't apologize to his mom or talk to her at all because she hates me now but I want to do all I can to make this situation better. Please help me!!! (link)
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Ok first of all, you both are adults. If you want a sex life, you can have that. It's legal and nothing is wrong with that.
His mom shouldn't have stood there till you got dressed. That's disgusting and humiliating.
You shouldn't be ashamed because you did nothing wrong.
Her son is 23, he's a grown adult. She shouldn't be walking in his room and getting mad that he has sex.
You don't need to apologize to his mom. I don't see why? What happens between you and your boyfriend is between you and your boyfriend. You both are adults so it doesn't involve parents anymore.
I guess you can talk to your mom. But just remember, it's your decision and you didn't do anything wrong.
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Okay. So I've had a relationship with my boyfriend for about A year and 8 months. It's been pretty good. I feel like this summer we became, a little unattached. I don't feel like he cares enough about me anymore. We barely text. It's almost like were married. I really like talking to people so I became good friends with this guy in a couple of my classes. At the time, I thought I'd be good for homework purposes. Because i actually got attention from someone. Now we talk a lot. And I tell him everything, and the other night he said "well maybe he's not right for you" and kinda left It at that. I thought that meant something. But you'd tbink if he liked me then he'd text me a lot right? But I see where he'll text my friend back but not me. I'm confused. (link)
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I'll start with your boyfriend. It wouldn't be smart to make any decisions without talking to him first. You need to have an open conversation with him about how you're feeling. Don't argue with him or fight about it, or even point fingers blaming him for anything. Just let him know that you've been feeling like he doesn't care very much anymore and you'd like to know why he doesn't text you like he used to.
If he's willing to work on it, then there you go. If you see progress, then continue working on your relationship. If it's not changing, then you know the relationship is coming to an end.
So as for this friend of yours, I'd set boundaries and watch how you're feeling. You don't want to get all these feelings for someone while you're in a relationship. Once you're single, go for it. But as for now, it doesn't matter how he feels for you, just watch how you feel for him.
Obviously feelings are natural but you don't want to get carried away. So even though you consider him a good friend, keep your distance until you figure everything out.
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20/f
Every time I broke up with a guy he would date a girl who is much uglier than me,who he spoke ill of and never even paid attention to until after I broke up with them. It happened 3 times already. I'm not conceited or anything but I am good looking and smart and have many qualities,and those girls aren't half the woman I am. But they go for them very shortly after the break up. Like,the last guy I broke up with started dating this girl after barely 3 months since break up. And like I already mentioned,he spoke no nice things of her and barely paid her any heed. To clear things up,I have no feelings for him or any of my exes anymore,it's just that I'm curious about this thing that keeps happening every time I end a relationship. (link)
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I wouldn't know whether they are attractive or not but obviously beauty is in the eye of the beholder.
Most likely these girls your exes run to are rebounds since they went to them shortly after the break up.
But you never know, they might actually find those girls attractive. They might not be attractive to you, but they are attractive to somebody.
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This big girl in my school who used to be my friend but she all of a sudden started hating me Wich mainly revolved around my weight because whenever we got into an argument it somehow went to how small or skinny I am (small really doesn't make sense she's a fucking INCH taller than me) and it's ridiculous to end a friendship on that and you should see comments online, I wish I could show you the links but I'm anonymous and I don't wanna be banned but one article said skinny girls aren't people and they starve themselves. All about Dat bass doesn't say all body types are buteafull it says skinny girls are ugly and guys only like girls with big butts. And anaconda is worse. You'd know if it was reverse (ex. Fucking dem fat bitches) world war 3 would be declared. I'm skinny. I'm naturally skinny. Nicki Minaj used to be like me until she got surgery on her ass. I'm not anorexic. I like big macs. I'm not skin and bones or a twig. I would die if I were that thin. (link)
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Bigger girls do get teased more often than skinny girls but that doesn't mean that skinny girls never get teased.
Pretty much everyone will get teased about something. It's sad but true.
Obviously being overweight isn't good because it's unhealthy. And obviously just because someone is skinny doesn't mean they are healthy. They just have a faster metabolism.
Being teased isn't a good thing at all. Whatever is going on with your friend is probably deeper than your weight. She probably just wanted to hate on that to make herself feel better about being bigger than you.
Anyways, everyone gets teased. Some more than others and no matter what it's not ok.
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I'm 20 and I broke up with my first love a year ago. I loved him with every fibre in my being and did literally everything for him, even if it went against my morals. I spent all the money I had on getting him expensive gifts and I stuck with him, even when he couldn't care less about me. When we broke up because of the fact that he didn't wanna deal with commitment, at this stage in his life, he wasn't upset, not even for a day. It's been over a year and I've been the only one carrying all this pain and I've been holding so much hope that we could get back together, someday. We still see each other and he kisses me and that's what gave me hope that he still likes me. But last night, he told me that he'd never even think of marrying someone like me and that he needs a submissive kind of girl who doesn't pick up on the wrong things he does, like I did.I always picked up on all his lies and everything he hid from me. It hit me all at once, last night that he's been using me this past year and using my vulnerability. I cried in front of him for two hours straight and he kept saying the same things like "You're not my first love so I can't hold that much love for you" and "I told you I didn't want a relationship" "My first made me lose all my emotions" . I don't know why I'm so attached to him or why I'm even this devastated over a jerk like him. I just need someone to talk some sense into me. I worry, that I'll never be good enough for someone. What else can I do for someone to make them appreciate me? I allowed him to cross so many limits of mine and went above and beyond for him, and I get this, in return. How will I expect the next guy in my life to appreciate what I'll do for him and not break my heart again? (link)
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You are so much better off without him and you know that. If you guys got back together, you'd be unhappy. Especially knowing everything he's said to you. He can't take those words back and I'm positive you won't forget them.
He said mean, awful things to you. You clearly deserve someone who will appreciate the things you do for them and be more respectful towards you.
He was your first love so it's understandable that you feel so attached. But you need to let go. Once you move on, he'll realize how stupid he was that he actually had a girl who would give him the world but by then, you'll be happy with someone else.
Just because one guy is an idiot and doesn't see your value doesn't mean that nobody else will. I mean you're only 20, you have so much time to fall in love again.
You don't have to do anything specific to make someone appreciate you. If they love you, they'll appreciate all the things you do for them and everything about you. This guy was just a lesson learned.
Heartbreak happens. Some worse than others but either way, it all hurts. You can't go into another relationship with trust issues and walking on glass. You need to be open to finding something better and not holding yourself back.
In the mean time, don't talk to him anymore. Cut him out of your life. Delete his number, unfriend him on any social network and go out and take care of yourself.
You did things so many things for him and I think you lost yourself when you were with him. So I think this can be your you time. To take care of yourself first. You are the most important person in your life and you need to learn to love yourself and learn that if someone doesn't love you, then it's their loss.
You won't be happy with anyone if you're doubting yourself.
So take care of yourself right now. Get rid of him. Go out with friends, meet new people and try new things. Spoil yourself and make yourself feel good.
Then you'll find yourself feeling better and moving on.
If you keep talking to him and spending all your time wishing you were with him, you won't move on.
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