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my boyfriend wants to have sex this weekend because it's his birthday.
I'm 14 almost 15 and my boyfriend wants to have sex this weekend it's his birthday. I feel that I'm ready but..people say we're to young and I'd never be able to admit it to my mom.. Any advise?
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I don't like that he said he wants sex for his birthday.
In my opinion, I think you're too young. You may feel ready but you'd have to be prepared for everything else as well.
It will be painful, it always is when it's your first time. The thing is, it hurts much worse when you're younger, especially at your age, because your body is still developing.
If you actually do want to have sex, you'd need to get on birth control. Don't have sex without being on birth control because then you have a much higher risk of getting pregnant.
And always use condoms even when you are on birth control. You want to be extra protective and you don't want to get any STIs.
But I think it's kinda low to ask for sex for his birthday. It's such a "boy" thing and a little manipulative.
Just think things through.
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Do not have sex with him! Using his birthday as an excuse to do so is just his way of manipulating you. You are absolutely not ready to have sex at all and neither is he. You have so much more life to experience before you could possibly be ready to take such a serious step. Give yourself time to meet other young boys and to grow up before you choose to lose your virginity. As much as you won't want to hear this there's a great chance that you will not be with your boyfriend for much longer. Young people usually move on to another relationship very quickly. Wouldn't you hate to give up your virginity to some one who just moves on to another girl a couple months from now?
The next and greater issue is teen pregnancy. Do you have any idea how difficult your life will become if you get pregnant so young. Raising a child is hard at any age but to be so young is even harder. I promise you if you get pregnant you will be suffering and struggling alone. That boyfriend will be out with his friends while you are home alone with a crying newborn. That alone will cause you to breakup with your boyfriend simply because he will continue having a fun child hood while your child hood will be over. Trust me when I tell you birth control is not 100% effective. I got pregnant using condoms and while on birth control pills. You might think it won't happen to you but it will happen to you so just WAIT. You have the resy of your life to think about sex. Sex is going no where. Enjoy being a young teenager. There is so much more you can be doing with your boyfriend. You can go to parties, dances, movies, arcades, football, basketball, baseball games. If you want to get close with him then just try kissing and holding hands. You can hug and snuggle together while watching a scary movie. Life is so full of things to do other than sex. Please don't limit yourself into thinking you have to have sex to keep this guy. If thats all he wants then you don't need him. You are too special and worth way too much than to let some guy take away your virginity something that should be saved for that one special person you are spending the rest of your life with
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The two of you are way too young to be having sex. IF he is using his birthday as a reason for you’re to have sex with him then I would say he is not truly in love with you as much as he is in lust for you.
Boys his age have a different meaning for love one that is more the meaning for lust. They say things like, "If you love me you will have sex with me, or in this case "The best birthday present would be to haves sex with you." Boys have only one thing on their mind; sex. Because like you they are going through puberty and they need a release for the sexual energy brought on by puberty, hence the word horny. You can give him this relief with a handjob or oral sex, you do not have to let him have intercourse with you and you should not allow him to do so.
It will also be very painful for you at your present age to have intercourse. You may have your period, your breast may be filling out and your body may be taking on the curves of a woman. What probably has not happened yet is the hormones that are needed to release, unfreeze, the muscles of your vagina so a penis can be accommodated, have not been released yet. This does not mean he can't enter you it just means it will be painful and he can cause damage if he is overly large.
For a female losing her virginity will always be somewhat painful. Waiting until you’re older and closer to the end of puberty rather than the beginning will make it less painful and a much more enjoyable experience for you. Not only that but with losing your virginity comes the worry of pregnancy. Do you really want or need that worry at 14?
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WAIT! If you feel unsure than tell him you want to wait because you aren't ready. He should respect that. If he doesn't than that's his problem and he shouldn't be yours. You'll be fine but not feeling 100% means it's not time for you yet and that's okay. You'd regret it otherwise.
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