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Okay so i'm 17/f..and i have small boobs.Like i feel you should have my size boobs when your in like 8th grade..but i'm a senior. Me and my two other friends all kinda have this problem. Each year i think Oh they'll probably grow and be like their full size at the end of this year..especially for bathing suit season lol but they havn't. WHEN WILL THEY JUST ACTUALLY COME? I'm done with puberty like seriously its annoying lol i don't want huge boobs i just want them to grow already. And how do you cope with it? Like its like annoying and depressing when you can't like wear a certain dress cause your boobs don't fit it

There isn't anything you can do. I'm a college freshman and extremely small in that department, unfortunately. There isn't really anything to do.

As for dresses and other clothing, it doesn't cost much to get a dressed altered if you like it enough to wear it more than once. It's definitely worth it!

There is no secret boob growing potion that we can use to help us out. It's annoying, dumb, unfair, etc. I'm totally there with you.
Most of my friends are at least a C cup, and quite a few of them have Ds & DDs... so unfair to me!
They're always making fun of me, but I also have quite a few positives that come with small boobs.

I don't always have guys gawking at me - we're friends for personality rather than looks. Some days I just don't feel like wearing a bra, and if it's not cold outside, you would never know the difference (especially if I'm wearing a hoodie over my shirt).
Every time my room mate leaves the room after she's in her pjs, she has to put on a jacket or put her bra back on... I never have that problem.
When it comes to exercising, my boobs don't get in the way when I run.
Some of my big boob friends have back problems, problems wearing certain clothing because they don't want such big boobs, etc.

Basically, all I'm saying is to be happy with what you have. Everyone always thinks the grass is greener on the other side, but to those people, a lot of them would rather be a few cup sizes smaller.

Anyway, there is no magic solution to this. You may not get boobs until you have a baby (if you have one) and even then, the size goes back down. You may end up growing a lot before college or during college.
Chances are against anything changing, but you never know.

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in high school we needed good grades to get into college but in college, what are good grades good for besides maintaining a scholarship and not getting kicked out of school/your program? do employers see your college gpa?

If you don't pull at least a C-average, the college can put you on academic probation. If you get down to a D-average, they consider (and possibly do) expel you. If you are failing for more than one semester, you're out of there.

If you want to go to graduate school, you need to keep up an A/B average.

Employers can look at your college information if they want to. I'm sure they would look at your cumulative GPA rather than individual grades, but you never know...

I'm in college now, and to get good grades, all you have to do is actually go to class (that's the hardest part!) and pay attention/do the work.

It's much easier to pull an A in college than it ever was in high school as long as you get up and actually go to class.

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Are there any jobs near Ogden Utah that hire 14 year olds?

Not legally...

The lowest age you can work for someone who isn't family is 15 and that's at a few fast food restaurants such as chick-fil-a and quiznos sub.

If it's a relative you're working for, I'm fairly certain that would be legal.

It's actually very, very difficult to find any job under the age of 16.

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Ok I just got my braces off (Yay!) and my teeth are SO straight! It looks SO much better, but I'm kind of worried because there are a few places that are like SUPER white on the outer edges of a couple teeth. What is it? Is it normal? How can I get rid of it? Thanks!!!

It's spots where you may not have been able to brush well enough. It could be other reasons, but that's most likely it.

I definitely had some spots like that and my dentist is fixing them for me. Yours should be able to do the same.

Unfortunately on my part, I'm in college right now, so I can only go to the dentist when I'm home over long breaks.

Make an appointment with your dentist to see what he/she can do. If not much, you can probably go buy some whitening strips.

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I write a column for my school paper, and I was wondering if it would be offensive to anyone if I said the Mayan calendar looks like a Monopoly board on crack. Because it does...

Hah, I think it looks more like a Trivial Pursuit board on crack, but I see where the monopoly thing comes from, too.

It may be offensive to some people, but it couldn't get you in any trouble as long as your intent is to be honest or funny and not to harm. Freedom of speech protects anything you say that does not have the intent to harm, cause chaos, etc.

Should you phrase it differently? Yeah, probably.

I think your "monopoly board on crack" line would work better for friends than for something that a superior would read.

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I just saw the movie Juno for the first time. Juno is a 2007 movie about a 16 year old teen girl, Juno MacGuff, who gets pregnant by her best guy friend, Paulie Bleeker. Juno is played by Ellen Page (also played in X-Men the Last Stand as Kitty Pryde) and Paulie Bleeker is played by Michael Cera (also played in Nick and Norah's Infinite Playlist as Nick, Superbad as Evan, and on Arrested Development as George-Michael Bluth).

Anyway, the movie has a lot of slang in it, like:

Rollo: "That ain't no Etch A Sketch. This is one doodle that can't be undid, Homeskillet."

Juno: "This is not a food baby all right? I've taken like three pregnancy tests, and I'm forshizz up the spout."

I know most of the slang so I wasn't very confused except a few parts when Juno says, "Pork Swords." What is pork swords? Is it a really gross food or something because she keeps calling guys (like the Dancing Elk Track Team) this name.

I just didn't get it, I guess, and I've never heard anyone else but Juno call people this name. What is a Pork Sword or what are Pork Swords (whichever one is right)? I don't want to look stupid in front of my best friends if they say it like Juno did!

Can anyone help me understand?
THANKS!

Pork Swords means penis in that movie. She wasn't calling the guys a pork sword, she was talking about their "junk" as teenagers tend to call it these days.

Thus the reason every time she says it, they move the camera to focus on that general region of all of the guys.

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I used this amazing site last year where I just put the information in and then it does the citations for me. But obviously my computer can't remember the sites form last year...

If I just had like 5, I'd do it by myself but I have like 20 citations for this project and it'll take a while.

http://citationmachine.net/

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17/female, This boy I like asked me out almost 2 years ago by note and i liked him then and still like him now but i didn't respond to his note because i was being dumb. So, now he's on my myspace and I e-mailed him telling him everything but i sent him a few e-mails all explaining everything little by little but he never responded. He's still single and we are both seniors and I really just want to be with him and can't stop thinking about him. He is probably the sweetest guy you'll ever meet. The last e-mail I sent was about 2 weeks ago and i'm giving him time to see if he'll respond but he won't respond and you can tell if they read your e-mails when it says read so he read them all but he's just ignoring everything and now I don't know what to do because I feel like I shouldn't e-mail him anymore and I should just wait. I've been waiting for little over a month and I don't know why he won't answer and I even gave him my aim screenname and number but nothing and it's driving me crazy. He's the greatest guy that I have ever met and I just don't know what to do anymore and I just don't know if he still likes me or not. Please help, thanks!

Have you ever considered that he's over you? It has been two years and he hasn't shown any interest in you since you rejected him.
It's possible that he's still hurt, but I doubt that. After 2 years, most people get over someone who rejects them, especially if there never was a relationship in the first place. He asked you out, you basically told him no... what makes you think he still likes you?

Let it go. You've sent him tons of emails, messages, etc. He has your number and your screen name. You're doing nothing but making yourself look desperate and silly. If he likes you, he will contact you. Honestly, though, it doesn't look like that's going to happen.

Leave him alone. You're basically "myspace stalking" him, and I'm sure he thinks it's annoying. If not, he would have made a move by now. Get over him because he's apparently gotten over you.

I'm sorry, but this just seems so obvious to me. Why would he ignore you if he liked you? Why keep trying if he's not showing any signs of interest? You're pestering him with e-mails! Just stop already and move on. It may seem difficult now since you claim to like him so much, but it'll be easier in a while. You'll find someone else who is actually right for you.

I hope you don't take what I'm saying as offensive. I just think you really need to hear something other than "oh I'm sure he likes you, it just takes time" because that just doesn't seem to be true. I understand this isn't what you want to hear, but honestly... he would have said something by now if he likes you.
Sure, there's a possibility he's "playing hard to get", but I doubt it.

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What careers are available if I get a major in music?

Here are some links that give insight to careers you can have with a music major:

http://64.233.169.104/search?q=cache:gRqfFrYAHh8J:www.southwestmsu.edu/campuslife/careerservices/pdf/music.pdf+careers+for+music+major&hl=en&ct=clnk&cd=4&gl=us&client=firefox-a

http://www.udel.edu/CSC/music.html

http://www.smwc.edu/academics/departments/music_theatre/music/careers.php

http://www.careers.csulb.edu/monographs/coa_music.html

Good luck, and I'm happy to hear you want to go to college. There are so many people these days who could not care less about college. I'm in college right now, and it's a fantastic experience!

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I have always wondered exactly what religious/spiritual catagory I fall into. I believe in a higher being but I do not believe in organized religion. Where would I fall?

The person who answered before me is incorrect. Atheists do not believe in any higher source.

Agnostic comes close to how you feel.
Agnostics believe there can be a higher power. Agnostics don't believe in God but they don't disbelieve either.

You, however, sound like me. I believe there's a God, so to speak, but none of my beliefs fall into any organized religions...
I'm sorry to say that I have no idea what religious/spiritual category that is. I've been trying to figure that out for a while now, but I've given up on deciding what to call it. Who needs a name to describe what they believe in (or don't)?

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I had a really bad day..my mom took me to the doctor and i was barely told that the shot i was taking was Gardasil. I told my mom about the bad things i'd heard about it but she wouldn't listen to me! She asked the doctors and of course they told us that the media was lying to me. When i got in the nurses room, i seriously began to cry. There was some old bitch there telling me that later in life i'll thank my mom, whatever, I googled it and i read there are serious issues with the vaccine.

http://ppjg.wordpress.com/2008/04/24/whats-in-your-gardasil/

Really? How bad is this? I also read it was FDA approved and other good crap about it so now i'm kind of feeling guilty of what i told my mom, but i'm just really confused and really concern with my health. My arm has been hurting where i got the shot but apparently thats natural..

Your website is definitely not a credible source. One, it's a .com site - never reliable if you want credible information. Two, the person who typed the information has horrible grammatical skills. While nobody is perfect, I'm certainly not going to trust someone who can't properly tell me their opinion. Three, anyone who wants you to accept their opinion will just give you facts that support what they believe. Anyone who is giving you truth (biased or not) will tell you both sides of the story. I don't trust .com websites when I'm looking for information. If you want the truth, see what the FDA has to say; get your information straight from the source who knows best.

The person who gave that information has zero sources to back up what they are saying. The person claims people have died from the shot but gives no proof, and you trust this person? Yeah... something's wrong there.
This person throws out information such as people are becoming ill after receiving the shots... hello, some people are allergic to all sorts of shots. Allergies and adverse reactions are why doctors always make you wait 15-30 minutes after getting a shot - they want to make sure you don't have any bad reactions. It's not just the gardasil shot. They do that with tetanus shots and all vaccinations.

Try this site - it has reliable information that you can trust. It's an FDA question/answer, so it's run by the people who KNOW what they're talking about.
http://www.fda.gov/CBER/products/hpvmer060806qa.htm

Good luck. Don't be afraid of the shot. I've gotten all 3, my friends have gotten them, and my family has gotten them. It's nothing to freak out over. I know people who have had the shots and gotten pregnant (your site says that it causes infertility - I just proved that wrong).

S_C

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Hey, you answered my question about talking to my teacher, writing her a letter.

Didn't work. Shes like complety over the fact that I'm upset & I need to talk to her. She acts like nothing happend to me. I can't even look at her anymore without being upset. I trusted her. & now she wont't even talk about anything.

I cut myself because of her. I pretend I'm happy now because of this, I don't trust anyone else to talk to, but my leg hurts really bad. :/

Thanks for trying to help, I appericate your time.

I'm really sorry that talking with your teacher didn't help at all.
Is there anyone else you can talk to? A friend, another teacher, a friend's parent? Do you have an aunt, uncle, cousin, anyone?

Don't start cutting! It's really horrible. It's extremely addicting because of the endorphins released when you do that. I know it's the age old "solution", but have you ever tried the rubber band snap? If you enjoy the blood, rather than cutting, draw or paint on your arm with read. If you enjoy the pain, put ice on your arm, make yourself numb.
If you're a competitive person, the next time you feel like cutting, wait 15 minutes. See if you can go that entire 15 minutes without cutting. Then, once you do, wait another 15 to see if you can push yourself even longer. Continue doing that until the urge goes away.

There are tons of sites out there that can help you with your cutting, but you still need to talk to someone. You may have to go to that social worker because, in the end, they do care!

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I have to write a rhetorical (persuasive essay),- and I was wondering if it would be appropriate to put some narration at the beginning of my introduction for lighthearted humor. I want my essay to be sophisticated but creative at the same time. I want it to stand out in a good way. Is that OK?

I have never known it to not be okay to include a little bit of narration while writing an essay, especially an essay of persuasive intent. Of course, don't use too much narration, and it's always best to use nonfiction narration, but you want an eye-catching introduction. Make it interesting, and you should be okay.

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i watched about 20 minutes of a movie the other day but i forgot to remember the name of it
the main character's name is scotty who has a german pen pal which he thinks is a guy but is actually a girl and she wanted to arrange a meeting with him but he then thought she was a rapist and she blocked hiim so he went to berlin with his friend cooper harris to find her
thanks for any help

Could it be Eurotrip?

I've only seen bits and pieces of that movie, so I don't know if that's what it is, but it kind of sounds like what I've seen of that movie.

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You just answered my question about talking to the teacher monday-

what should i type in this letter?

instead of talking to her should i just hand her the letter?

typing a letter, will that make me look stupid to her ?

i really feel like im wasting her time, am i?

i really think i annoy her now, i've seen her friday, im gonna be upset again monday & tuesday ill see her yet again.

should i type the letter & be more scared
or should i just try & talk.

If you decide to type the letter (which no, it shouldn't make you look stupid), then be very careful.
If you give the letter to her, she can turn it into a higher authority if she feels you need more help than what she can give. Your teacher cares about you and wants you to be helped.
I'm sure you haven't been annoying her, maybe she just isn't sure how exactly to handle the situation. When I went through a tough time, the teacher I spoke to was only a first year teacher. I was in the first class she ever taught. She wasn't experienced and probably didn't know how to help other than telling me she cared, but it did help.

Anyway, if it's easier for you, type the letter and read it to her. You can give it to her, and that may seem like the easiest solution, but know that she has the option of turning it into the social worker.

As for the content of the letter, write what you want her to know. Tell her why you chose her to talk to. Tell her how you feel about what is bothering you and why you think you feel that way. Let her in on whatever is going on in your life that is causing you to act the way you do. Let her know why you want to stop, why you're seeking help. Just kind of pour your guts out. Let her know everything because that's how she can help you best. She may feel that it's best for you to get professional help, and that's okay. I started seeing a psychiatrist when I was in early 6th grade because I was suffering from an eating disorder and my parents and teachers knew that was the best way to help me. Had I needed to see a psychiatrist for my behavioral issues and the pain I felt over my friend's death, I would have gone just to have the pain go away. Sometimes it's easier to talk to psychiatrists. I've seen a total of 3 that I can remember. The first one, I didn't like at all. She didn't seem friendly, and she kind of frightened me. The second one I loved. I was happy to go and see her, talk to her, etc. She really helped me. She's the person who determined what was wrong with me. After my diagnosis, she wasn't the person I needed to see anymore. She wasn't a specialist with my problem, so they brought me to someone else. I didn't like the 3rd person, and I really missed my other psychiatrist...
Basically, sometimes you just need to find the right person to talk to and help you.


When you're seeking help, don't ever feel like you're wasting someone's time. Now, if you're seeking help but refusing to tell why, that is kind of a waste of time. There's nothing your teacher can do for you if you don't give her the details and let know what's going on with you.

I have AIM, but it doesn't appear that you're on. I rarely use it, but I tried getting on to chat with you. My screen name is c0ncreteAngel79, so if you ever see me on, feel free to talk to me and just let me know you're from Advicenators. I'm in college, so I don't really have much time to chat between classes and stuff, but I'll try.

S_C

PS: I hope everything works out for you, and I'm glad you find my advice helpful. There are tons of other columnists on the site that could help you just as much as I can. :)

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Im writing a story for class and one of my main characters is going to die. The death cannot be done by someone or a disease or over dosing. Im having a hard time because i have never lost anyone to any sort of death. I need scenerios of how she may die. For example: drunk driver. But i need details. Thank you in advance.

I wrote a story where I had a character die by driving drunk.

Do a little research on drunk driving and it will give you insight into how the alcohol effects the mind and causes the person to not be able to drive as well.

Or, if you're having a drunk driver kill your main character, make notice of the bright lights, the sound of the car hitting your character, etc.

Details are important, so do a little research.
If you really want to make an impact, have the main character's friend drink and drive and hit your main character who was sober... make it show kids that drunk driving is stupid and dangerous.

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I dont know what the hell i'm trying to ask anyone anymore. Please give me some kind of advice, i can't deal with this shit anymore.

I left a question to someone about asking a teacher for help with shit. well i never talked to her. she came and got me out of class yesterday & we talked the entire class (1 hour, 40 minutes) but i'm so fucking stupid i didn't talk.

i have this teacher in class monday. I NEED to talk to her. But I can't.
How can I get enough courage to go up to this women & just tell her to take me in the hall so we can talk?
I just wanna tell her I wanna talk to her iinstead of a social worker at my school. I wanna tell her i didnt tell her everything friday when I saw her. I wanna tell her everything, but i'm so fucking scared I can't.

I wanna talk to her about everything and just cry & let it all out, but I CAN'T. I cried befor ei went to bed last night b/c i wanted to talk to her and tell her everything. why can't i say it to her face?

she knows i tried smoking now, she got that out of me. she went with me to a social worker who took notes, then i went back with her.
i dont wanna talk to the social worker if something is wrong, i wanna talk to my teacher who helps me. but i just can't find the courage to tell her fucking anything to her face. what the hell is wrong with me & how do i fix this before i do something bad?


PLEASE RESPOND BEFORE TOMORROW
& JUST TELL ME HOW TO TALK TO HER.
I CAN'T EMAIL HER. I WANNA TALK FACE TO FACE.
SORRY THIS IS LONG. I'LL RATE YOU A 5 IF YOU ANSWER TONIGHT.

Wow, I'm sorry you're going through such a tough, crummy time.

When you see her, you just need to take a deep breath and tell her you want to try talking again.

If it helps, tonight you should write a letter that says everything you want to tell her. That way you're prepared on Monday and you don't forget what it is that you want to say.

It's really hard to get up the courage to tell someone, but once you have them alone and begin talking, it can get much easier. Sometimes, though, when you're really stressed it can be extremely difficult to just speak up. That's why I suggest writing down everything you're feeling and everything you want to say. That way, if you get nervous or start really freaking out, you can refer to the note and help yourself get your thoughts together, etc.

The first thing you need to do is just walk into the classroom on Monday and tell the teacher that you're ready to talk but only if it's one on one. You won't talk if the social worker is around. When you're finally alone, just pour your heart out. Let her know that you're hurting and don't know what to do. Just be weary, she may not know how to handle it and may want to tell someone and get you real help. Remember, while she's a teacher who loves and cares for you, she can only do so much, especially if you're really in serious trouble.

Good luck, and I hope this all works out for you!

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Hi, I'm hoping you can help me. & Not tell me to go talk to my school couslar or a professinal, my friends, or even my family. I won't do it.

I use to cut in 7th & 8th grade. (Wrists) I recently (about 5 months ago) cut on my leg because I couldn't take it. I told myself it's the last time I'd do it.

Well, I can't take it any longer. We're reading a book in English 2 where this kid cuts himself because of his life, Wanna know what I did when I had to read it? I cried. & I didn't read the rest.

I don't know who I can talk to without them telling my parents, or me going on 24/7 sucidide watch. I'm not that bad. I wanna talk to my favorite teacher, but I CAN'T.

What can I do to make myself not cut myself? I hate writing, running doesn't take my mind off anything, and I feel like my life is going down the drain. I never use to drink, I drink now, I think about smoking to cure my problems almost daily. & I even skip school now. Please, what do I do before I screw my life up?

I'm not sure I trust the teacher, she might tell my cousler on me.

I'll rate 5 if you answer asap, please.

I was in a situation very, very similar to this my freshman year of high school.
I didn't want to tell anyone: not my parents, councilor, friends, etc.
I had a friend going through the same thing, so we tried helping each other. I tried to stop, but I realized that I couldn't do it on my own.
Also afraid that my favorite teacher would tattle on me, I wasn't sure if I wanted to tell her.

What I did:
I created a fake e-mail address (yahoo gives you a free address). I used a false name, etc on the address because I wasn't sure if there was any way for her to trace it back to me or anything. Yeah, I was paranoid, haha.
Anyway, I sent my favorite teacher an e-mail. I didn't say who I was, I just said I was one of her students. I told her that I trusted her and I needed help. I basically told her the gist of my problems and asked for advice.
We kept up the e-mail relationship for a little while before she realized it was me. It was obvious after a while.
She never told on me. She just wanted me to get better, and eventually I did.
Here I am 4 years later, I've graduated high school, I'm in college, I went to her baby shower this summer, and there's a high chance she'll give birth to her first child tomorrow on my 18th birthday. Just goes to show how close we became after she helped me through a really tough time in my life.

If you aren't going to tell anyone (even anonymously through e-mails), you need to do something to stop your destructive behavior.

I drank, smoked, ditched class, cut my wrists, and wanted to die. You may not be that bad now, but eventually it can and will progress and become worse.
My best friend died by drinking and driving, and I'm the one that handed her the keys. Every day I am reminded that her life ended and I was given the chance to continue on. I lived and her life was cut short.
That's my daily reminded to be careful of the choices I make in life. I would hate it if you had to have a tragic event in your life happen for you to realize how much you're harming yourself.
Then again, you're asking this question, so you know you're in trouble. Thank you for asking this because you want to get helped.

The only way to get help is to realize WHY you're doing what you're doing.
What made you cut in the first place? Why did you start drinking, smoking, and ditching class?
You need to get past the cause otherwise you'll never find a solution.
If it's solely because of your friends, you need to make new friends. About 80% of my friends from my freshman year of high school were horrible influences and as hard as it was, I had to go out into the world and make new friends. Here we are now, graduated, and my group is still friends. We don't need to party to have fun, we're don't need alcohol to act goofy, etc.

Live your life for you. Find what makes you happy and try avoiding what makes you sad.
If you continue getting worse, you may have to tell someone who will tell your parents.
They wouldn't put you on 24 hour suicide watch unless something really bad happened.

If you don't want your parents to find out what's going on, DO NOT speak to a guidance councilor. They are, by law, required to tell your parents if there is any harm coming to you.

Please, if you ever think that life is getting out of control, let me know and I'll do my best to help.

Also, if you are feeling suicidal, I strongly suggest speaking with your parents and getting help. Suicidal feelings can be treated with medication.
If you're ever really desperate to talk and can't find anyone, there is the suicide hotline (if you live in the US)
18007842433 or 18002738255

I hope everything turns out okay for you, and I really hope you speak to someone. Depression, cutting, smoking, drinking, etc at such a young age can really hurt you later in life. It's very difficult to stop these problems in general, and it's much more difficult to do it by yourself!

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This might be long, sorry.

Anyways, I'm a highschool Sophomore. I get along with three teachers out of like, nine this year. On top of that, I'm not a good girl anymore. I found myself, I drink I get high when I need relief & I pop pills.

So my question is, when I'm laying down in bed before I go to sleep I keep dreaming (almost everynight for the past week or so) That I was in school, kicked out of my house & staying the night with this one teacher I hate. Then I kept dreaming & had 5 sleeping pills, then went to school. I got knocked out, sent to the nurse. I then went to the hospital & only the three teachers that I liked came and saw me. It's weird. They stayed there the entire time until I got out. Then my favorite teacher asked me stay the night at her house.

Is something wrong with me? Or do I just really like & trust these teachers. Please, any advice would help.

You asked if there's something wrong with you, and I'm going to answer this as honestly as possible and hope not to offend you or hurt your feelings.

As for the dreams, nah... that doesn't have much to do with anything. Then again, it depends on your opinion. As far as I know, there's no proven fact that dreams mean anything. There are tons of people who interpret them. Most of my friends and I believe that you dream about whatever you were thinking about, but that our dreams become skewed and just a little strange.

BUT, I do think there's something wrong with the fact that you drink, get high, and take pills. You're much too young to be throwing your life away like that. Saying this makes me a bit of a hypocrite because I was doing the same things at your age, but one big event changed my mind. My friends and I were out partying, I tossed my best friend the keys to a car (I was supposed to hold the keys so she wouldn't drive), and she ended up killing herself drinking and driving.
It took a while for us to realize how destructive our behavior has been. Another girl died from binge drinking (defined by more than 4 drinks in one setting). She passed out drunk, threw up, and ended up choking on her puke and suffocating.

Do you want that to be you or your friends?
I doubt it. Seek help if you can't stop drinking, pill popping, getting high, etc. on your own.

I know that being in high school, partying and doing stupid things is a bunch of fun. I know you probably think that death can't happen to you or those you love, but I used to think that, too.

I know your question is about the dream, but I really thought I should throw this extra information in because it really does mean a lot.

Again, for the dreams, I personally don't believe that dreams mean anything. Then again, studies show that everyone dreams every night. We don't always remember our dreams, though.

But, if you want a "dream interpretation", it would probably be what you're saying... that you trust those teachers a lot and that you believe they have your back.

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religion is essential to a moral society?

what are your guys opinions or support?

Nope, not entirely.

I think that most religious people have morals.

BUT, you don't have to be religious to have morals.

I'm not religious, but I definitely have morals.

I'm anti murder
I'm anti abortion (but pro-choice)
I believe that a "fetus" is a baby on life support.
They can't quite live on their own, but after a little bit of time, they'll be just fine.

You don't have to be religious to dislike lying, cheating, adultery, forgery, honesty, foul language, etc.

Like I said, I'm not the most religious person, but I have morals. I don't want to be lied to, cheated on, etc. I would never think to cheat on someone I loved. Yeah, I've lied and cheated on homework, but I always feel guilty afterwords. I consider that having morals.

Of course I don't believe being religious is essential to having morals. I do, however, believe that religious people have morals and that being religious certainly can't hurt.

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