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I went to my first school dance tonight (I'm thirteen) and I HATED every minute. I felt ugly and worthless because I didn't dance for the entire time. If you didn't have a date, it was pointless being there. Everyone else was slow dancing with their girlfriend/boyfriend and I just watched. I was really mad because my crush was dancing with the most popular girl in school. I just called my mom to come pick me up. I just cried for an hour when I got home. I hate Valentine's Day too, because I've never gotten a valentine before. I was never invited to birthday parties either. Should I just give up on my social life?
My contribution is short and pretty simple;
Fuck being 13, and fuck middle school. It's a horrible time to exist and luckily it's only temporary.
help me for naming my chick?
English, please.
The title asks it all. I don't get it; why does someone your age get so much enjoyment out of trolling up people's questions? Do you really have that pathetic of a life to where you have to make fun of people who have genuine questions and concerns they need answered? This is a website where ANYONE is free to join, so there are obviously going to be some crappy questions. But why can't you just bypass those?
I hadn't been on this site in two years, so I recently decided to look at all my past questions, and laugh at how stupid I was. I asked a question on this site about three years ago. I was a stupid freshman girl asking love advice or whatever, (Not cliche at all, right?). Anyhow, your answer to my question was, "You're overreacting.", and I had to laugh. I was curious, so I looked at your column. You have tons of questions you have answered, but most of which are you making fun of them. Which I have to say is quite strange. I mean I laughed at a few, like that "Nazi Joke" one, but some people really needed help, and you just made fun of them. You don't have to answer over 1,500 questions with answers like, "No.", or get over yourself, crap like that. So again, I'm just wondering, what's your problem?
Your threshold for trolling is laughably low; how exactly does giving extremely blunt answers that are stripped of the usual fat qualify as trolling?
You said it yourself. You were a stupid freshmen girl asking for love advice. Why are you so wounded that I told you what was obviously the truth? That you were legitimately overreacting and three years later you would look back on yourself and realize you were being silly. Is it because I didn't package it with a little pink bow and floral patterned gift wrapping? I give short answers because I don't want to waste anyone's time, least of all my own.
The problem here is not me, it's you. You're upset that I gave you blunt but accurate advice three years ago and continue to give it. How thin must your skin be that you felt so personally wounded that you launched into writing a nicely typed, but poorly thought out two paragraph message to me? Were you trying to be humorously ironic by criticizing me for being offensive while at the same time accusing me of having a "pathetic life," or is hypocrisy a character flaw you can't control?
My advice is only as long as the answer requires; that you're a sensitive person that feels a little vindictive is not my problem.
how do you stop watching pornography,sexual urges etc.
if christian, feel free to add any usable bible quotes to memorise to abstain from these things
AGE: 13
GENDER: MALE
Usable Bible quotes? Isn't that an oxymoron? KIDDING
Chillax bro, I don't know any guys that don't watch porn. Just make sure you still go outside and hang out with your friends and don't spend all your time doing it.
I'm a 16 year old girl and I've noticed my attraction to the same sex since I was 14. I'm also attracted to some guys too but that's usually so rare I find it hard to define myself as bisexual. Or lesbian. I'm just undefined right now I guess. Last year, I came out and told my dad and my step mother I had feelings for other females while driving in the car one day. They're strict Catholics and I knew that they'd give me all this shit about, "being gay is a sin" and "gay people are forever banished heaven" also "gay people can't create children therefore an abomination." I was prepared for all that mess. I have my own mind and challenge written/spoken authorities. I also believe that it's not a crime to appreciate the same sex by love. That's what makes sense to me, and they hate that and preach to me every day about it. "Thou must honor thy father and mother....etc"
To this day they bug me about being baptized into the church. After I told them about how I felt they preached to me and denied my feelings. They told me that I was just confused without god in my life and that once I found him and let him in then I would lose my sinful "thoughts." (Yes.....they actually refered to them as thoughts. As if I hadn't ever explored my feelings before in order to verify them myself.) Since then they've been setting me up on play-dates with some of their friends kids who are guys. I'm not allowed to have any girls come over to the house anymore, or guys. Anytime they catch me looking at a girl in anyway they find unsuitable they ignore it or steer me in the opposite direction. I'm forced to attend church twice a week and sing at the shitty ceremonies. And get this.....if they do catch me checking out a dude that I find attractive or if I say I find a guy attractive they automatically assume that I'm completely straight again! (Like I was ever completely straight)
I talked one on one with my dad last night and again brought up to him that i was interested in girls. He stared blankly at me and then kept talking about the previous subject that we were on as if I'd said nothing. When we got home, we came across the subject again this time with my step mother too. She yelled at me for about a half an hour about how women were put on this earth to be with a man and blah blah blah. I'm just sick of them telling me that I don't have feelings for women and I DO! Not that I don't have them for men to, but I'm more attracted to women. My parents can't truely and completely love me until they accept what and who I am. What can I say to make them understand that I DO have feelings for the same sex?
I'm not really interested in answering this question, only undoing poor advice. In short, the first portion of Zane's answer is so full of shit my eyes need to use the restroom.
If you're unsure and undefined in regards to your sexual orientation then that's what you are; uncategorized and still exploring yourself. Could you be bisexual? Sure. You could be straight, lesbian, pansexual, whatever. But the only thing you definitely are is 16, and it is so ridiculous for someone, let alone someone that doesn't even know you, to assign a sexual orientation to you even though you've explicitly stated that you're undecided. Don't ever let some someone put you into a neat, tidy little box... especially an anonymous person on the Internet.
20/f in college, living at home. therefore, in a way, i guess i feel obligated to work. it's not that my family is MAKING me work, but if i don't work, i don't have any money. i have friends who left for college, and their parents give them like a monthly allowance, which i think is fair. if i'm going to school full time and am planning on getting a master's (so I need to get good grades, so I can get into grad school), i think i should get some form of income/allowance from my parents. i don't think i'm asking for a lot. i have a friend who gets $1000 dollars a month. i would be happy with $400. Just so that I can eat lunch and maybe do my nails . that's all. but, my mom doesn't work. i don't think she has an interest in working because she's been out of work for so long, that she would probably hate to go back. i try to be involved on campus, because i think it's important. it's good for your own development, for your application to grad school, and just to be able to enjoy your time in the university. there are certain involvements that you get paid for, such as orientation leader or student government. So, I'm looking into that. Right now, I'm working on campus. the only one who could give me the allowance is my dad. he doesn't live with us and i ask him for money all the time, but i feel bad. it's like i have to drag him here. i wish i had someone to support me. i feel like a brat... but i just want to be able to enjoy myself and get good grades, because after this... i will be working, and things change. I will have much more adult responsibilities, and I'm trying to take in this special time that I was granted. I love all of my involvements and I've made so many friends and love everything I've been able to participate in. I just wish that I could use that time at work to be studying or exercising. That way, I wouldn't feel as tired. lol. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can approach this situation? or how I can make some extra money on the side?
thank you!
You are entitled to nothing; get a job.
EDIT:
Get another. Better yet, get a job in a nail salon.
I used to be so happy...what can I do for immediate relief? No drugs or booze...
Human interaction.
I am seventeen, female, senior in high school. I intend to go to college after high school with a major in elementary ed. I want to be a 2nd grade teacher because I love kids so much, I babysit all the time and I am a teacher for two year olds at my church per request by my pastor's wife. Now, I would like to minor in something completely different so I can keep my options open, I would like to minor in either political science or communications.
My question is, what jobs would I be able to do with a minor of communications? What jobs would I be able to do with a minor of political science?
Thanks!
The way I understand it, a minor is pretty worthless if it's not augmenting your major. It will look nice on your resume but I wouldn't by any means pin your hopes on obtaining a job in the field you choose to minor in based solely off of that minor.
Hi, I am 17 and female. I am a senior in my high school and have yet to take my SAT's. I am registered to take them very soon. Before I take them, I intend to do some college visits. I know I should have done this over the summer but I was to busy with work. After I do college visits, then take my SAT's, I plan to apply for the colleges of my choice. That would probably be in 2 months. I am very concerned that applying that late would already make me not eligible to be accepted because I know you need to apply super early.
Am I correct in thinking this? Or will I get accepted to a college this late when I do my applying?
You need to find out when applications are due from each school you're even remotely interested in. That will assuage your fears and allow you to set up a mental timeline to keep your shit in order.
last night, my friend and i went to a party. she only got high but i got drunk. we went home after awhile and i smoked. i felt extremely relaxed and tired so i passed out. around six this morning, i woke up feeling restless so she and i smoked a bowl. i took 4, maybe 5 hits off the bowl and then we tried to go back to sleep. i had my eyes shut for about 15 seconds before i realized something didn't feel right. my eyes and brain felt like they were swelling and my heart beat felt like is was beating at an extremely rapid rate. i sat up and woke up my friend, who proceeded to calm me down until i felt like i could fall asleep. also, before i fell asleep again, she informed me that my heart beat was going at a normal rate, it was just pounding hard. what weirded me out the most was the eye and brain thing. my vision was off, like i was seeing all of my surroundings for the first time, even though i pretty much live at my friend's house.
anyway, i'm officially scared of weed. i'm afraid this might happen again. can anyone tell me what might have happened? could it have been laced?
You were high. That's it.
As for the myth of laced weed, that needs to be addressed. Let's use some logic... the idea of laced weed means there's another drug in the weed. Now, some drugs (PCP for example) can be laced into weed because it's an easier way of taking the hard drug. That's always entirely intentional and that will never happen accidentally. You will never be dealt weed that's laced with something because that means it would cost way, way more; you would know. To just randomly have your weed laced with something while still paying the same price would be the equivalent of receiving free drugs. There's not a dealer in the world that would do that. It would be similar to buying a car from a dealership, and only after driving it off the lot do you realize that the dealership has given you the souped up version of your car with the sound system and sun roof for no extra charge; not gonna happen.
In conclusion, it sounds like you were just very high. You don't have to be scared of weed, you just have to be able to recognize whether it's for you or not.
EDIT:
No, russianspy is wrong. The idea of a dealer intentionally lacing weed and then selling it to you at a normal weed price to get you addicted to it is a ridiculous product of War on Drugs propaganda. If I'm wrong, show me an example. It's basic logic... what drugs would need to be laced into weed to actually make it addictive? LSD and ecstasy are both non addictive, so it would have to be something like coke, H, or meth. What do those all have in common? They're extremely expensive. What russianspy is saying is that drug dealers will intentionally and secretly lace a comparatively extremely expensive product into a very cheap product while still charging you the cheap price. The drug trade is the absolute purist form of capitalism on the planet; you don't get anything for free. Drug dealers that are willing and capable of operating at a financial loss on the off chance that you'll become addicted to their product do not exist, I'm sorry. That's just conspiracy minded nonsense. In a fantasy land where that does happen, then congratulations, you just got free drugs! There's a reason that sounds ridiculous, and that's because it is.
My boyfriend is on the varsity football team and he asked me to make him a sign for his game. he is number 6. I can't think of anything that rhymes with the number 6. I really want it to be creative and cute. PLEASE HELP!
Just make a sign saying 666.
my brother is not letting me do the same as him so i dot have an idea for the talent contest
Do the exact same thing he does and blow him out of the shallow talent water.
I really like drugs they honestly are the best thing to me i love the gritty scene the crazy nights and the idea of doing them and doing them too. Does that mean im bound to become an addict cause i can stop smoking weed anytime but my life isnt being destroyed by it so i dont feel the need to stop. so does that mean im more prone to being a recreational user instead of a hardcore addict..
Probably depends on the drugs. There's a big difference between smoking weed a lot and rolling a lot.
So, what is your drug of choice?
how can i turn my boyfriend on through my laptop?
GoToMyPC.com.
My dad has been taking codeine for around 2-3 years. He first took it when he broke his collarbone and his doctor continues to prescribe it for him. I've read about people getting addicted to prescription medication and I'm just wondering if it's possible for my dad to have become addicted to the codeine?
He's almost definitely addicted to it at this point. I don't want to say codeine is "highly addictive" or anything like that... it can be legitimately helpful. But it also causes dependence; it's an opiate, the same way heroin is.
Your dad is probably addicted to it after so many years of use, and him getting off of it (or switching his painkiller) depends on whether he still feels pain in his collarbone and needs a painkiller. If it's strictly an addiction/physical dependence and he wants to get off of it, he'll probably have to go to rehab. He will then probably crave it for months afterwards and he will most likely relapse. A tough road ahead.
Does alcohol increase the effects of other drugs? It is dangerous to mix the two?
Sometimes, depends on the drug. Alcohol is a downer, so if you combine it with another downer like Xanax or weed or some type of opiate, it would exacerbate the effect.
If combined with an upper like ecstasy, what will happen depends on the amount consumed. Ecstasy and alcohol can counteract each other so that you don't really feel either. This is also known as "wasting drugs and ruining your evening."
19/f
i'm gonna try to make this short. so basically me and my boyfriend just broke up... kind of. we've been together for 10 months. we had a good relationship for the most part and really loved and cared about each other. he broke up with me the other night when i was drunk because i say stupid shit when i'm drunk like how i wanna be single or wanna hook up with other guys. obviously i don't mean any of it i just was dumb and said it to make him jealous. i know that sounds horrible but i guess i've just been a little insecure in our relationship lately and it was nice to see that he cared. apparently this pushed him too far because he broke up with me. we got back together the next night but a few days later he said things were still weird and he broke up with me again. i wrote him a really long letter apologizing and telling him how much i care about him. he told me he's really confused and needs space. it's been almost a week. the last time he broke up with me he took 2 weeks to talk to me but he texted me when he was drunk and only because i ignored him when i walked past him. (the last time we broke up it was because he was mad because he broke up with me when he was blacked out and i hooked up with another guy because i was upset). clearly the things i've been saying only hurt that wound more because he still is worried that i'm gonna cheat on him (even though i would NEVER) and he's just really self conscious and vulnerable right now. when he broke up with me he named all of his flaws and then told me all the guys he thinks im gonna move on with. so basically we haven't talked in almost a week. i don't know if i should keep waiting for him or move on because i'm really upset. i really miss him and wanna be with him. he's the only guy i've been this comfortable with and wanted to spend every moment with. i've been with lots of guys (not talking about sex just making out or having a 'thing') and i know what i want by now. and it's him. i think he's having trouble trusting me and i don't know what to do to fix things because i literally said all i could say. it's up to him now. i don't know if i should play games and make him chase me because that's what he's attracted to or if i should just be honest. should i wait for him to talk to me even though it's killing me? what if he never does? or should i wait a week and then talk to him and see what's up? he kinda left me in a really shitty position just wondering if things are gonna work or not
You are too childish to be in a relationship and he is too vulnerable.
My bf and I were skyping, and he was able to see my screen without me sharing it on my laptop. I know he got a program where he could do that because I saw it, but when I asked him about it he said he deleted it. I don't believe it though, does anyone know what the program is? The name of it? And can he see my screen when I'm signed off of skype? I feel invaded. But I act like I have no clue. Thanks!
The program is called Break Up With Him. It's free.
Hi all-
This summer I have been working at a little cafe, not a chain restaurant or anything just a local place to eat.
I get paid $8 an hour, but after the taxes are taken out of my paycheck its only about $7 an hour! I lose about $50 from my paycheck every WEEK!
Some of my friends get paid straight $8 an hour without tax deductions because of the deal that if it is only a temporary job (such as employed for less than 6 months or something like that?), then money won't be deducted.
I am not planning on returning to this job next year; so since this would qualify as a "temporary job," is there ANYTHING I can do to get back the money that has been deducted?
I have saved all my receipts or whatever the top portion is that comes with the checks. If anyone knows anyway I can get money back, such as file for something, I would really, really appreciate it! I have gotten about $600 taken from my paycheck this summer :(
Thanks for any information!
You'll get a good chunk of it back in your tax return next year.
" You are not a good mother. You started off by bringing not one, not two, not three, but four children into this world when you're clearly in a terrible situation. I realize that that's an oversimplification of the situation, but I doubt you were living the good life when you became pregnant with baby number four. The more children you have, the more resources you'd better have ready to put into them so that they can live happy, healthy lives. You appeared to have made a misstep somewhere back, but that's okay because there's nothing you can do about it now. It's in the past.
But even barring past mistakes and leaving those to history, a quick summary of your question STILL debunks your "I'm a good mother" statement. You're with a man that continually robs you of the money you rightfully want to put into your kids. He blows it gambling, doesn't support your family at all, and leaves for days at a time. However, your rational for not leaving is that your family isn't there for you. Don't you think this could be due to your outright unwillingness to really entertain the thought of leaving this man? You say you deserve to be happy. You don't. Your kids deserve to be happy, not you. You forfeited your happiness when you became pregnant with your first child. What's best for your kids is to leave this man no matter what. Go to your family. Go to your friends. File a police report. Something. Sitting around fuming over him not wishing you a happy Mother's Day will do nothing when your children are being absolutely robbed of their own happiness. You are an accessory to this crime. "
I am VERY HONESTLY sorry for picking at your advise and i really have no right to and im aware of that. I am going to go against my beleifs and bud into this remark. My mother was in the same state, not to the exact but to an extent. I feel like this imformation you gave to her is completly rediculious. You do NOT call any woman a bad mother when you dont know them, a bad mother doesnt care or take care of her kids.. this mother clearly loves and takes care of her kids. Certain situations define certain peoples actions and there was clearly reason for why she didnt leave him, its not as easy as you think Matt, i wouldnt have said anything if you didnt call her a bad mother, and tell her she doesnt deserve to be happy. Yes, her kids deserve to be happy but that REALLY doesnt mean that she doesnt as well. That is a very discusting thing to say to a woman in time of need. Guys lie and make you think there someone there not. He clearly did this with her, she didnt just walk into the relationship knowing he was an asshole who was going to make everything harder on her, i agree with you when you say she shouldnt have brought 4 kids into the world if she wasnt ready, i can give you that. But since there already in the world there is no reason to bother her with that dession she made probley 10 years ago, that is not why she asked for your advice. If i were that woman i would feel like a terrible mother, a terrible person, and a speck of sand, and you Matt, should not be making her feel that way. I once again apologize for going out of line and ripping apart your way of thinking but i think you need to clear your way of thinking when it comes to motherhood. Also i recommend you to not give advice on mothering if you aren't aware of what your talking about.
Oh and when people ask you questions you really shouldnt answer with "get a life" that proves that you shouldnt be on this site... noone asks you questions to hear that remark, ive notives your quite rude to alot of people looking for your help. That makes you look like some guy sitting behind a computer using it as a mote and taking advantage of it by giving out rude remarks. You really shouldnt have a column if your going to make the people who need advice feel like crap. Lots of your advice is very good becuase you clearly have expirience with certain things, but take MY advice becuase right now " all you are is mean" -Taylor swift.
Throwing off one or two more honest apologies, i feel bad for saying this and i really have no say in anything, but i dont care, that comment and afew others REALLY bothered me so i think you need to know this, sorry.
You're entitled to your opinion and your Taylor Swift quotes and the false idea that you have somehow "ripped apart" my advice, so I'm glad you got this off your chest.
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