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So I have stopped doing drugs for two years now mainly because I noticed I was tearing my family apart and once I stopped I noticed I formed some anxiety or something maily social I think, I think it may been have been of the drugs because before that I was just fine confident had a good time now whenever there is company or I have to interact vocally with someone I become very panicy especially when I have to look them in the eyes. It's affected my last job and when I go to school it's horrible because i become very weird and akward. So what does this mean idk if I got this after I quit doing drugs but I never had it before. Can someone help me to over come this or know anything of this? If so thank you so much

I seriously doubt you're going through withdrawal if it's been two years since you last used (if I'm understanding you correctly).

I would be interested in knowing why you started using in the first place -- maybe your answers are there. I'd recommend seeing a therapist or counselor, who can refer you to a psychiatrist if they deem it necessary.

I'm sure this is impacting your life very negatively now, but you should be proud that you've stopped using and you're beyond that period in your life. The hard part is over.


a girl's, if that makes a difference? and no i'm not ugly (not cocky, just being honest), nor do I consider myself to be "really weird" or whatever. this is just the type of music I enjoy the most. I can't explain how much I love it. just curious about what others think. a lot of my music taste in a nutshell are bands like Deerhunter, Radiohead, and MGMT

It means you're a regular person that enjoys listening to extremely popular music groups. Your taste is neither uncommon nor unique.


I was in a partner work project where my partner didn't memorize her part so we couldn't pull off the play. When I would say my lines the other girl would be silent and would not say any of her lines. The teacher knew I had my part done, but she said she has to fail us for it. I spoke to her during our fifteen minute break and wrote an email to her. She was offended by it and responded to it a little too strongly, in my opinion. Was I too rude or was she just having a bad day?

My email: Hi, I'm in your Drama class. May I ask about my grade for the project? (blank) and I both worked hard on the play together and we practiced our parts, but we were somewhat less prepared for it than she originally thought. However, I had practiced and had the script memorized. I think it's a little unfair that you should count me as failing as well and I thought I tried the best I could with the given situation. I just wanted to know how you're going to mark our combined project. Thank you for reading.

Her response: Hi,

I understand you are concerning about your project grade. However, I hoped you could be more patient to wait for your grade and feedback. We just had a performance (assessment) in the morning and I have told you that I was going to grade according to the grading policy which has been published in advance.
There is no reason to hear that my grading is unfair as I haven't told any specific comments, result about your performance.
Actually, I didn't have any obligation to give you a second chance as no any other pair was granted. I gave you a second chance because the performance was way below expectation. (blank) has to look at her script every line and I believed you two have worked hard on it.
I think it is rude and unfair to use the word "unfair" to the teacher without any result on you yet. You also should not to tell me that how I should grade or what I should count.

Besides, you sent this email during my class, when you were supposed to focus on the class.
I again understand your concern about your grade. I would not count her errors on you as oral part is 85% individual grade (team work for 15% -seeing if you helped and collaborated well on script) which I have already explained and posted on the website. However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today.

I want to ask your patience for the detailed feedback and grade. I would be pleased to answer or explain further questions if you have then.

Stay warm.

My response: I did not mean to sound rude or as if I was telling you how to grade. I wasn't saying your grading was unfair as you actually haven't graded it yet. I was merely asking if you would tie my performance completely to the presentation and I apologize if you thought I was complaining about you as a teacher. I typed this email to you during break time and not during class, a time period directly after our performance. We are grateful for the second chance and once again, I understand that grading is your decision and I wasn't saying anything otherwise. My email wasn't one demanding you give me my grade, it was an email trying to express concern about how the problems in class are going to affect my overall grade. I was actually attempting to talk to you about it, and I apologize if it came off as rude, but my intentions weren't to criticize you. I'm happy to hear that my mistakes won't be counted against (blank) and that her mistakes won't be counted against me. I'm still not exactly sure why you wrote this, however:" However, it is hard to accept the negative attitude and participation you displayed in the class after the performance today." I would like to repeat that I sent my email after the performance because I wanted to talk to you privately about the grade and you specifically mentioned during our skit that you'd like to see us personally. I didn't write the email because I wanted to personally attack you, and I'm sorry if you perceived it as such. Thank you and I hope you stay warm too.

What exactly went wrong here? You guys don't have to read everything, by the way.

I disagree with both people that have already answered -- I don't think you really did anything wrong. Considering how diplomatic you are (particularly in the second email), this is your teacher creating a problem/conflict, not you.


Im 13/f,and my parents disapprove of who I am.
I'm a HUGE lover of music,it's my life.
I LOVE bands/artist like :Escape the Fate,Falling in Reverse,D.R.U.G.S.,Black Veil Brides,Get Scared,My chemical romance,Asking alexandria,Bring me the horizon,Vampire's Everywhere,and bands of the metal,screamo,rock,and alternative music.
I love "dark things".My favorite color is black.
I'm always learning about cults,love vampire's,and things like that.
But,my parents disapprove of my "emo" lifestyle.
They say it's "demonic".
But that's just who I am.
They've tried taking that music away from me,and "making me normal".
I've told them this is who I am,but they don't wanna hear it.

Fuck your parents, but fuck your pseudo-dark taste!


Real darkness that will give your parents reason to worry.


What are some Social Issues that can be found on Native reserves across Ontario, more specifically Walpole Island, if anyone is familiar.?

Alcoholism, I assume.


what is a cute nicknames for a boy named matt

Matthew, unless his parents thought they were trendy and that's not his actual name.


I am sixteen but my mom says I'm too young for a vibrator. How can I prove to I'm not to young

Ask her to buy you condoms.



Why can't I get hard after I cum?

You're human.


what does it called when having sex whith 5 people



I need a Nick name for my tall blond hair beautiful green eyes boyfriend who is amazing and keeps a smile on my face and he is really sweet also he is 15 I need a good cute onee are something u think he would like!

Not sure why you'd inbox me, since I routinely make fun of questions like these. Ask someone else!


When is the worse time to have sex

While you're being born.


Broooooooo. How'd you get so smart, bro?

P.S. Do you like Star Trek?

Born This Way



I started dating this guy for a month and a half, things were going great the first month..
recently i met his friend Jason, who suppousivly had been his friend for six yeas and just stated talking to him again. I only talked to him a few mins bc my boyfriend spent time with me, wanted to spend time with his friend afterwards. Im cool with that just.. I think his friend might be gay.. Im not sure but just by the way he sounds, dresses really nice like.. in a colorful way.. but anyway, He hung out with him that night, the next night on new years, and when I thought I was maybe going to see him today, he said he'll ask his dad. that was at three, its now seven. I dont think Its going to happen.. so spending time with his friend is cool, but hes not texting me much when hes with him at all. And his friend seems gay.. But i might be wrong. They were talking about his friends ex but. maybe hes bi? maybe hes straight. idk, just spending a lot of time with him. and hasent texted me.. Girls what would you think if it was your guy.. or guys am I just being paranoid? Another weird thing is my bf has talked about this kid alot. said his name in a funny way. not if its important, kinda weird though :/

Uh, based on the limited information that you have and that you have given, this is pretty stupid.

He hasn't spoken to this dude in six years, and now they've reconnected and they're spending some time catching up. The other guy's sexual orientation -- which is a total guess that you have no evidence of -- shouldn't be cause for concern; one of my closest friends is gay and I see him very frequently. That doesn't mean every time I go over to his place I'm blowing him.


Do you guys have any advice for a newcomer on the site? Like how to rate, how to give good advice. I've already answered a few on here but I'm worried that my advice might be bad.


(PS. I added my username for a reason so that you guys can give me a nice feedback and fully informed advice)

Emulate my column.


you are such a kidder aren't you haha!!!bye!!

I'm 100 percent serious 20 percent of the time.


well,you forgive ME!!!!I misunderstood what you had written:)

Only God can forgive you.


Hi, I'm 14 and recently started dating one of my really good male friends. I really like him, and want to stay with him for a while. But I have had a crush on another guy who I've talked to like four times the whole year, and it didn't subside when this guy asked me out...but I had a crush on him too. What I'm saying is, is it ok for me to have a crush on someone else while I'm dating someone I like as well, as long as I don't make a move on this crush? I barely talk to this crush and there is no action between us, but I can't help liking him as well as my boyfriend. Is this okay?

That's pretty much inevitable. Just don't ever, ever, EVER tell your boyfriend.


I need your opinion guys!!!It's very important for me,which one do you think is better?American English or British English?

They're basically the same. I worked for a newspaper in Europe for a few months recently that used British English, and there's no real difference beyond some phrasing and spelling differences.


the jews will remember this????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????what??????????????????????????Would you explain that to me??????sorry if I've hurt somebody's feelings,I don't think I have,though...

Haha, I was making a poor joke at your expense for not referencing Hanukkah. I'm not offended.


Hi everyone!!!I wish you a Merry Christmas and a happy New Year!!!!!thank you for your words of advice and I'm very happy to belong to this website!!!!kisses!!!:)

The Jews will remember this.


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