Question Posted Wednesday September 7 2011, 9:56 am
20/f in college, living at home. therefore, in a way, i guess i feel obligated to work. it's not that my family is MAKING me work, but if i don't work, i don't have any money. i have friends who left for college, and their parents give them like a monthly allowance, which i think is fair. if i'm going to school full time and am planning on getting a master's (so I need to get good grades, so I can get into grad school), i think i should get some form of income/allowance from my parents. i don't think i'm asking for a lot. i have a friend who gets $1000 dollars a month. i would be happy with $400. Just so that I can eat lunch and maybe do my nails . that's all. but, my mom doesn't work. i don't think she has an interest in working because she's been out of work for so long, that she would probably hate to go back. i try to be involved on campus, because i think it's important. it's good for your own development, for your application to grad school, and just to be able to enjoy your time in the university. there are certain involvements that you get paid for, such as orientation leader or student government. So, I'm looking into that. Right now, I'm working on campus. the only one who could give me the allowance is my dad. he doesn't live with us and i ask him for money all the time, but i feel bad. it's like i have to drag him here. i wish i had someone to support me. i feel like a brat... but i just want to be able to enjoy myself and get good grades, because after this... i will be working, and things change. I will have much more adult responsibilities, and I'm trying to take in this special time that I was granted. I love all of my involvements and I've made so many friends and love everything I've been able to participate in. I just wish that I could use that time at work to be studying or exercising. That way, I wouldn't feel as tired. lol. Does anyone have any ideas of how I can approach this situation? or how I can make some extra money on the side?
xokristabelle answered Wednesday September 7 2011, 12:14 pm: I think you really need to realize how lucky you are. I'm the same age, at a community college, working 40 hours a week and going to school. I have to pay for all of my own stuff- even food- and don't have a car or way of paying for anything beyond an associate's degree. Once you turn 18 and are an adult, you are responsible for making your own money. And let's be realistic here, there's a reason "poor college student" is a cliche. You're not supposed to have extra money for unnecessary things like manicures, you're supposed to be working hard (often not sleeping much) and paying for the things that matter. Find cheaper ways for the things you want (for instance, buy some nice nail polish and learn to do your own nails- it's wayy cheaper and saves a bunch of money.) The only way you could make some extra money on the side is by picking up another job, but that might be too much depending on your classes.
You can still 'enjoy yourself' during college, and actually, you'll have plenty of time to after, unless you're planning on having some 90-hours-a-week job or something. Just focus on the things that really matter and you'll be fine :) [ xokristabelle's advice column | Ask xokristabelle A Question ]
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