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Does a torn hymen mean a girl is no longer a virgin?

Question Posted Wednesday September 7 2011, 8:40 am

if the hymen in the virgina is torn without the woman having sex does it mean that she is no longer a virgin

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Carriebeca answered Monday September 12 2011, 6:58 pm:
A woman can have a torn hymen and be a virgin.
She could have had full penetrative sex but still have an intact hymen.
Virginity is a male obsession, designed by men to control women and their sexuality through the ages, to maintain their legal rights and patriarchal authority.

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adviceman49 answered Thursday September 8 2011, 8:10 am:
There are a number of definitions of Virginity and the loss there of.

The most common definition of being a non-virgin is when a female is penetrated by a male penis in her vagina. The least common definition of being a non-virgin is when you have any type of sexual, I'll use the word intercourse all though it does not mean vaginal sex, intercourse. Meaning Being fingered or hand lob given, oral sex given or received or any other type of sexual contact.

A broken Hymen is not a sign that a women is no longer a virgin. A women can break her hymen riding a bike, horse back riding or doing athletic exercise.

The short answer to your question is: No; a torn Hyman is not a sign a women is not a virgin.

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DangerNerd answered Thursday September 8 2011, 2:43 am:
Nope, she actually has to touch another human in a sexual way for that to happen.

The only problem is that SO many women lie about this constantly, that a guy would be absolutely stupid to believe her in many cases.

If you doubt that, I can point you to hundreds of questions here from women who have had anal sex, oral sex, and, if you can believe the stupidity involved in all of this... still claim to be a virgin.

Some people would say: "Well, virginity means different things to different people." Sorry folks, the word has a meaning. Look it up in a real dictionary, and by golly there it is.

I usually ask people who say the above: So, how do you think it would go if someone who killed a woman goes before the judge and says: "Well, your honor, this is the thing... murder, well it means different things to different people, so I don't think you should hold it against me that I killed her."

Same difference. Words have actual meanings, and if we make up our own meanings for them, we become liars every time we use a word we just made of a definition for.

Sorry, back to the point: Yes, many ways to tear a hymen by accident. Will anyone ever truly believe you? I wouldn't, as I have been lied to about that before. Guys are catching on to the whole lying about what virgin means situation.

Only the good guys care, though, so if you find a good guy you have a chance he will trust you, or at least try to trust you and stomp down the constant doubt about it. The most important thing is to not let it be a surprise. This way if he is like: "NO hymen, no future." You will know sooner than later, and you can look for someone who doesn't have that same outlook.

Good luck.

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Xui answered Wednesday September 7 2011, 7:23 pm:
No, Generally in order to no longer be a virgin you would need to come in sexual contact with another person. Meaning intercourse

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littlemee answered Wednesday September 7 2011, 1:23 pm:
no, because the hyman can tear due to tampons and things. Your only no longer a virgin once you have had sexual intercourse.

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