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Q: My computer is infected by a trojan virus that came in through a video off the internet. I know where the file is and everything but it won't let me delete it saying that another program or person is using the file and won't delete. I use Trend Micro PC-cillin Internet Security and attempts to clean and quarentine the virus failed. The file is a Video AudioX Object. I dunno how to get rid of this virus if anyone has any ideas please let me know I want to get rid of it as fast as possible. thanks.

www.download.com

Look for and download the following:

Spybot - Search and Destroy

Ad-Aware

Run those two programs one after the other and it should get rid of it. They look through registry files/keys pretty well and both programs delete bad files off your computer for free. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: does anyone know how many pounds are in a kg or how many kg are in pounds? When you weigh yourself on those things they give it in pounds but when I read celeb's profile to compare my weight to theirs it's like 63kg and always in kg and I don't know much much that is in pounds!

1 kilogram = 2.20462262 pounds

So take 63 and multiply by 2.20462262 = Roughly 138.89 pounds.

1 pounds = 0.45359237 kilograms

So if you have the number of pounds and want to convert it to kg, then multiply the pounds by that number. Hope that helped.

www.google.com

type in: convert ___ to ___ and they usually have an answer for you too

Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for 6 months now. Everything is going really well, but I have one concern: he's a Republican and I'm a die-hard liberal. Because I have this knowledge, I avoid any type of politial discussion with him. My friends are convinced that this will lead to our demise, but I don't know. I love him very much, we get along so well, and he makes me very happy, but I sometimes feel like I'm hiding my feelings about certain subjects from him. This is not like me at all; I'm a very opinionated!

I'm wondering if I should end it before we get in too deep because of this, or if I should just stay with him and allow whatever happens to happen.

Thank you all in advance!

Openly confront each other about it. I don't think you should end things. You should both find it within yourselves to love and accept the other. I don't believe too much in that whole 'finding the right person to love' kinda thing. MTV might disagree with me, but in our moralistically deprived society, finding it within yourself to love and learning to love is more important.

Talk to each other. Both of you should be willing to make the effort to learn from each other and accept. Why should politics get in the way of love? I don't see why it should. Yes, you should have somewhat of an agreement on some things. Just like there is more than one thing you both like each other for, there shouldn't be just one thing that messes things up.

Don't be afraid to be open. If you feel that you aren't being yourself, then he might not have a chance to get to know and love the real you, but only what you present him. So try not to let it get to you and don't be afraid to talk to him about it. Yeah, avoid confrontations if you can, but it shouldn't break things up. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: So I've always been really mature for my age, and sometimes I feel like I'm one of the only people in my school who actually is mature. But now it's really starting to get to me. I mean, I'm sitting there in English class trying to get work done while all of the obnoxious people in my class are yelling and talking about how drunk or high they were last weekend and I just get so angry! I want to turn around and scream "shut the hell up" to them but I know this will just make matters worse and I'd probably just get picked on or something.
Also, when i was in middle school, I was really excited to go to high school to get a nice, unannoying boyfriend, but in fact, all of the guys seem to go after all of the ditzy, slutty, obnoxious girls that crave attention in high school. Well, I always used to think that in high school, people would be more mature, but in reality, they are just as obnoxious. I sometimes think that things are going to be so much better when I'm in college, but I really dont know, college could actually turn out with even more immature people who are even more obssesed with getting drunk.
So, my question is, will I, a person whose felt like she was too old for her age, fit in more in college? Or am I just too mature and serious, and I'll have to be less responsible and less mature to ever really fit in? I know this is really long and I appreciate anyone who took the time to read it.

Whoa there slow down. Don't ever change yourself for anybody by being less mature. It really depends on what college you go to. You have to visit and get a feel for the environment.

If it seems like they will drink and get high and just do as they please, then it might not be the best choice for you. There are plenty of great colleges that have a more studious, and work-friendly environment - do some research and visit for yourself whenever you get the chance.

Stay mature as you are and don't ever lower yourself to fit in. Also, nobody says you have to have a boyfriend right away either. You will have plenty of opportunities to meet other people and spend time with friends. I would concentrate more on making good friends, because from that you can try to build relationships. Don't give into the misconception that older guys = more mature. In some cases yeah, but not always. If you block out or stop giving anybody your age a chance, then that isn't fun and it isn't very mature of you to do in the first place either. Good things come to those who wait, so don't rush with things either. You'll always find people to be friends with and associate with at college - its a pretty big place. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: I have been getting really bad anxiety lately, and its been keeping me from going to school. When I do go to school its like I'm just trying to get through it and get home...Its really bad, it makes it hard to do my work. I'm failing all my classes...I've never failed anything before. I'm a a-b student. But by the looks of it, I'm going to end up failing almost, if not all my classes. If I'm not there, I cant learn the stuff to do the papers and if I can't go...well then I'm screwed. I'm trying all I can to just squeek by but I don't see that happening with the percentages I have now.

My question is, if I fail my freshman year, will colleges not take me? I intend on doing online schooling next year and doing everything I can to catch up but...I'm really scared. I've always wanted to go to college and now its like...I'm ruining my life and its all going down the drain. So, will colleges not take me because of this?

Colleges like to know about that. If you are having personal problems or problems at home, anything holding you back whether it be physical or mental, they want to know that so they can take it into consideration. Why? Because if they see you were going through depression or got into an accident and that caused a significant impact on your grades, they know it isn't due to laziness or lack of applying yourself. Most colleges ask you about anything that might have affected your grades, so I would definitely let them know that.

Will you get into Princeton? Nah. Can you still go to a really good college? Absolutely! To be honest with you, what college you go to doesn't really make or break your life/career. It's all about graduate school and what you make of yourself when you are there. College, like high school was, is just another stepping stone. If you improve your grades and catch up, they will notice that. In fact, they like that. They would rather see you going up than going down. It shows what you are capable of and your potential.

So don't give up. Keep working hard and try not to let your anxiety get to you so much. I know it is a lot easier said than done. If you need help, please don't hesitate to ask. You have teachers, adults, family, hotlines, doctors, etc. I hope things go well. You can still great colleges out there. College isn't all about grades - you have letters of recommendations, community service / volunteer / jobs, SAT/ACT scores, extracurricular activities and clubs, and personal essays. Don't worry - no one part of your application will be used to determine your acceptance. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: i have a movie & a tv show on my computer that i downloaded from a different source instead of itunes. i need a program to convert them into something that will enable them to be opened into itunes and put onto my ipod. what program do i need and where can i get it?

Google: Videora

Simply search for the file on their browser and they convert it to .m4p

Look up the file and open it using iTunes.

Q: how do i get them copyrighted?

Also, as a suggestion from a music conductor I once had:

Mail yourself a copy of the poems. Don't open the copies. If it ever comes to a court case or something big where you have to prove you wrote these and when you did, you'll have the sealed envelope postmarked to prove it. I always thought that was very clever. Hope that helped.

Q: Well I don't know. You see, i'm 13. This boy has been my best friend for about two years and we've been together for a year. It's nice and everything. We are real close and know almost everything about eachother and everything. He's different from the rest of the guys i've gone out with. Don't think I am a slut or anything but we are both comfortable being naked around eachother. He trusts me and I trust him. No, this is not my first relationship. Anyhow, he's always there when i need him. Well, he's actually a nice boy and won't take advantage of me or anything like that or trying to get me to have sex with him. I know i'm young and yes i am still a virgin. Most of you are probably thinking "teen love dont have sex with him" Of course i'll be on birth control and have a condem and everything but i'm not sure if i should give up my virginity so young. So what do you people out there think about the whole situation?

Hmm...

If you thought of your virginity as a gift that you could only give once to a single person, then maybe that would help you consider if he is the right person to give it to...and whether or not it is the right time.

It isn't something you can take back. If you aren't 100% sure about it, then wait until you walk down the aisle with the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. What if he moves away, decides to break things off, or takes advantage of things? If he steps out of your life, then what happens? You can't take it back. I'm not going to preach to you - you have friends and family for that. Personally, I do think that is too young. I'm not judging you or others.

If I'm ever put in a situation where I don't know what to decide, I look into the future. I see myself as a parent, and that my kid is that age, in the same situation...what would I want him/her to do? Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: When you get to be in your 80s do you start to get more negative and criticize more and get more sensitive.

Hahaha thats funny. I don't think thats true, because I've seen people my age who criticize everything and are super-sensitive. I think its based on the person and their character.

I think that for the most part, people who turn out to be more negative and sensitive when they are older is because they face the physical and mental reality that they will, eventually, die. A very touchy-feely subject for people in our society today. Think about it - how would you live your life if people treated you or reminded you that you aren't going to be around much longer... I don't know about you, but that would set in a negative vibe for me. So maybe that has something to do with it.

Also, our society immortalizes being young. The biggest department in those big stores like Macy's or Bloomingdales is the cosmetics section - full of an infinite array of creams, pills, powder, and make up that guarantees to make you look better (and they claim) feel younger, which in turn makes you feel better. I think a lot of factors go into why somebody might be a bit condescending when they are senile, but for the most part, it depends on the person. Hope that helped.

Q: Hey. I'm 15 years old. I have never had a boyfriend, but guys have been interested in me...eh immaturity in guys sucks..but thats besides the point..totally diff. story ha. Basically, i'm scared to grow up & Be Alone. Not find somone out there for me. And turn into some cat lady. I know i'm young but i cannot picture myself being with anyone. Have you ever felt this one at one point or another? Help =[

I'm really starting to think it's natural for most people to feel this way. In the grand scheme of things (try to imagine this yourself), fifteen is really young. You have so much time, but you don't see that right now. Trust me.

There's nothing to worry about being alone. I've always felt that way: that love was for everyone except me. But I stopped worrying about that, I stopped caring what might happen, and that made all the difference.

If you keep those thoughts in the back of your head all the time, then it might stop you from making friendships which could have developed into relationships. Oh, and about immature guys...if you take anything from my answer... don't go for older guys just because you think they will be more mature. That is not always true, and in most cases they end up being more immature by taking advantage of you or making you believe things that aren't true.

Be patient - good things come to those who wait. There is plenty of time for you to consider relationships. Hypothetically, if you were to get married at 25, which is still relatively young or average for most, that still gives you ten whole years to find somebody and learn how to love. It's a lot more time than you think. So try not to feel that way, you're definitely not the only one who does feel that way. Make the right choices when it comes to friends, and things will happen on their own from there. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: i am 19 male, i have this friend who is girl.. let me first make it clear that i am just interested in friendship with her...

i ll start from the beginning, about in the starting of this year at college, she joined our friend cirle..we were having no problems, and helped her in whatever way possible regarding her relation with her boyfriend. however she had a small fight with one of the friends.. she didnt feel comfortable being with us any more...she joined an another friend circle... now she continues to talk to me... she share her thoughts with me that she shares with no one else{atleast as far as i believe}... recently she broke up with her boy friend also at the same time her mother fell ill, she asked for my help and i helped her in whatever way possible...

but for past sometime i am feeling that she is only using me whenever she requires me... i wonder many a times that what is my importance in her life but dont know should i ask directly her or not?? what should i do?? should ask her and how should i ask her??? i really want to know about her feelings for me...

Some girls need something to hold onto. They search for reassurance, support, and - 9 out of 10 times - just somebody who will listen.

I understand where you are coming from. I've encountered several girls who (unfortunately) would always tell me about their problems. But that was it! They didn't tell me about their lives or anything positive going on. Heck, they didn't even bother asking how I was or where I was with things.

It did bother me. I gradually moved away from them, because yes, while I love to help people and I'm all for that, it isn't a friendship when the situation is a one way street like that. I'm not saying that what you have isn't a friendship, but just be careful not to let things get sucked into that vacuum. If you want to maintain the friendship and you value and respect her, then let her know exactly how you feel - everything you wrote. If she really does want to be your friend and wants to maintain that status with you, she will make the effort to reach out you or not come to you with only problems.

Give it some time. There's nothing wrong with asking her how she feels about you - a friend, more than just a friend, somebody there to talk to, etc. She should be, as any friend would be, open to hear what you have to say and your thoughts on any situation, including this one. Don't let small things get to you, even if you happen to be the one she goes to with problems. You never know though: she might be going to a lot of people with the same problems for reassurance and security, maybe just to feel better. Give it some more time, and don't be afraid to talk to her or ask her anything at all. If she really does want to be friends with you, she will listen. I think its great that you're helping her out. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: I'm going to New York over the summer and I'v never been there before. What are the must see places? And not just the tourist places!

The Statue of Liberty, Empire State Building, and Central Park. If you have a lot of time there, stop by some museums, they are actually really nice. Definitely take the subway when you can. Walk around mostly, it's easier in the city and you can really get a feel for the place. 5th and 7th avenue are good places to take walks and shop. Broadway street is nice too. Times Square is awesome at night, so try to get there if you can. Take a taxi [not for a long trip] once in awhile too. Hope that helped.

Q: I think I'm going to save up for a new digital camera soon. What are good things to look for? I really don't know anything about them, but like what should I find in terms of megapixels and such? Thanks!

Here is something you need to know, please take the time to read all of it. An article posted by the New York Times:

http://www.nytimes.com/2007/02/08/technology/08pogue.html?ref=technology

Anywhere between 5 and 8 is good for megapixels. More money doesn't always mean better. Check to make sure the camera has a good flash and settings you would want (cropping, red-eye reduction, smart lens zoom, etc). When you go to buy one, ask the people there for help and which one they would recommend. I have a Sony DSCN 1 with eight megapixels and it works great. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: which programs help get rid of spyware? any you can download free?

spybot search and destroy

Q: To start off, I am 16/f :D
I don't know why but I've been feeling down lately. Bit depressive to be precise. I know I shouldn't feel any sad because I have lot of good thing going on for me. I got pretty decent grades for mid term, my mom's trusting me more, I've got a great boyfriend, made new friends and whatnot.

However, I can't help but to wonder, how long will my relationship last with him? Just for record, I never had relationship longer than 2 weeks. Previous relationships just ended weirdly. It was either me dumping a guy because I kinda got over them, which is bad but it was better than me just hanging on to them for the sake of their sadness that might come, or it just ended with neither of us breaking up. So I decided to give my self some break so I haven't had any relationships for over 6 months before my current boyfriend. And this new guy I'm going out with, I've been going out with him for a week and 3 days, so it has yet to hit 2 weeks. He's great and all but I don't know... Little things that gets to me. Like he doesn't talk to me at all online when he's on AIM, I mean he kind of ignores me until I IM him first, and when I saw him today at work, he didn't hug me or kiss me goodbye. He appologized later on the phone something like..."I am sorry I didnt kiss you goodbye, my workers would've gave me a hardtime" or something like that, meaning pretty much the same but I can't remember what he exactly said. But obviously he doesn't care if other people see's because he can apparently kiss me in some restaurants and whatnot out in public, and in front of his best friend and my friends, so I am probably making a big deal when it's not because I tend to do that sometimes. So I want to confront him about that, which I am even not sure about how I am going to say without sounding like I am mad... So basically, I am just lost... I am not even sure I'm mad or disappointed, confused. What's going on in my head?

Slow down. I think you might be reading too much into it. Since it is pretty early in the relationship, give him some time. Why should you expect him to be exactly the way you imagine him within the first two weeks? It's very difficult to expect that and hit it off.

Yeah you can talk to him about it, but don't present it as something that needs to be changed immediately, drastically. I know that for most guys, me included, it takes some time to get into the routine of a relationship. So maybe he doesn't always call or IM you - that doesn't mean that he doesn't want to talk to you.

With a few of my friends, it took them awhile to not care about getting a hard time from other people. Give it some time, he'll get over it. So if you want to talk about it, wait a few days to do it. If you say it as soon as it hits you, then you might sound mad without meaning to. Try giving it a few days, maybe four or five, to see if you still feel the same way or if its changed.

When you talk to him, if you decide to, then tell him ahead of time that you don't mean it in a bad way, you aren't mad, and for him not to take it the wrong way. That should ease things up. Be straightforward and whatever you do (too many girls do this), don't think for him. If he does something in particular, don't just decide that you know exactly what he must be thinking or intending. Give him a chance to vent and explain for himself. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: k so your prob like, why is this little 14 year old inboxing me.

well i would just like to say that i agree with your bio on the whole, love, sex thing. and it's really nice to here a guy say things like that. cuz lord knows in my town, barley any guys think that way.

so i would just like to say good job hahaha and best of luck to you and your girlfriend =)

Thanks a lot, I really appreciate it =)

Q: this guy that i like, he's really nice and all, but i dont understand him. ive tried starting convos with him but they never work out or turn out to be a few sentences. im friends with his friends and vice versa, but we always end up talking indirectly. here's an example. we would be in a small group at school. i would say something about 1 of the guys were talking to & he would reply back talking to that guy. that probably doesnt make much sense. it would go like this- me:heyy remember when this happened him:yeah dude [to the other guy] that was really funny. never directly talking to me if that makes sense?? anyway, even if i am talking he wont join in the convo and just watches me talk. does he really not like me or something? also if im sitting near him in groups, he'll automatically just move. i never did anything to him & everyone thinks im a pretty nice person and really funny. he doesnt act like this towards anyone else that i noticed. yes he might be shy but it seems different. if something is funny he'll laugh about it in groups and if i laugh he'll just stop. what did i do?! the only somewhat communication we'd have is if hes watching me talk to someone else. any ideas??

I think you should try to talk to him when he's by himself. If you are both within a group, then it makes it easier for him to talk to other people instead of you - if he's alone then you can't.

As for whether or not he likes you...tough to tell. Try asking your friends or his friends to see if they have heard him say anything about you. I don't think there would be anything wrong with trying to confront him and being straightforward about it by saying that you like him. Weird? Not as much as you think, because he might feel the same way. If he doesn't like you back, then trying to chase after him might get messy. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: I look around the site at comments about how high school relationships suck/are based off the wrong things/etc. And I am getting REALLY freaked out, because there's a guy I like (i'm 14 and a freshman by the way) and I want to get with him but i don't want our relationship to end up like all others..I genuinely like him as a person and as a boyfriend so I'm not just lusting after him. I guess my question is, how can i make a high school relationship last past that?

Be friends.

Sounds simple because it is. All the things you would maintain with your best friend - trust, honesty, responsibility, respect, support, etc - are the things you need to maintain in a relationship. If you are both good friends and reach the point where you can both openly express yourselves to each other and not feel weird or awkward, then going into a relationship like that will probably yield better results.

Also, don't let other people get involved in the relationship. None of that he-said she-said stuff. If they trash talk you guys, ignore them. Don't feel like you have to be 100% in love soon either, its OK.

As a test, you can both try to not do things with each other sexually. Why do I say that if everyone else does it? Well, thats my point. Everyone else does it and things go right down the drain afterwards, no matter how much the girl 'loved him'. Make sure you can both have fun and a good time without crossing the line or doing anything stupid. Be straightforward too, don't play games or beat the bush and expect him to know exactly what you mean...I mean come on, we're guys. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: For a while, I've been through my ups and downs with guys. I've liked a few, and they haven't liked me back. I realized that it was okay, because I eventually saw the light and understood that they weren't good for me, anyway.
But now, there's a guy who is just... amazing. I like him, but he's so easy to talk to. He's nice, sweet, a real gentleman, funny, cute, smart, and he actually has dreams and aspirations in life. He's different from any other guy I've liked.

My problem? I don't have overall low self-esteem, but because of past rejections, it's hard for me to believe that a guy like that would like me (especially when guys who aren't so great didn't like me). I don't want my fear of pain to hold me back. What should I do about this?
Thank you SO much!

Go for it. Be his friend. If you can just be regular friends with him for awhile and build a strong foundation, then it will be easier to get a relationship going.

Don't let past experiences hold you back - you'll miss out on some great chances life has to offer. Don't hold onto the mindset that he is going to like you; don't let that be the reason why you are friends with him either. Get to know him and let him get to know you, all of you. If he doesn't show interest, then I wouldn't push it. If you feel like things are going well with him, regardless of how you think he feels, just let him know exactly how you feel about it - be straightforward about it.

Try to just be as good as best friends you can be, and not just for a relationship. If things go well, they will fall into place and work out. Hope that helped and good luck.

Q: I have a 30 GB iPod.
When I connect it to the computer to put songs on it,iTunes opens.When I click a song in the library to put it on my iPod,a '!' comes up by the song & wont go away & I can't put the song on my iPod.It doesn't happen all the time,though.Help??

The song needs to be located on your computer. In other words, it is listed on iTunes, but does not have the proper directory. To fix this, right click on one of those songs, click get file, and manually search for the song within your computer. This should solve it. Hope that helped.

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I really like giving advice, so thats why I have a column here. I've been inactive for a long time, but I'm back and will do my best to catch up. Advicenators is a great site and it is what we make it. Having my own advice column helped me learn a lot of new things, even about myself, while giving me the chance to help others along the way. Thanks.