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Sex?
Well I don't know. You see, i'm 13. This boy has been my best friend for about two years and we've been together for a year. It's nice and everything. We are real close and know almost everything about eachother and everything. He's different from the rest of the guys i've gone out with. Don't think I am a slut or anything but we are both comfortable being naked around eachother. He trusts me and I trust him. No, this is not my first relationship. Anyhow, he's always there when i need him. Well, he's actually a nice boy and won't take advantage of me or anything like that or trying to get me to have sex with him. I know i'm young and yes i am still a virgin. Most of you are probably thinking "teen love dont have sex with him" Of course i'll be on birth control and have a condem and everything but i'm not sure if i should give up my virginity so young. So what do you people out there think about the whole situation?
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sex might be fun and all at that time, but really think of the consequences. You have your whole life to live, and you wouldnt want to get pregnant now (yes, it could happen!). You can get AIDS, get pregnant, etc. Please, dont make a mistake in your life at this age.
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If you thought of your virginity as a gift that you could only give once to a single person, then maybe that would help you consider if he is the right person to give it to...and whether or not it is the right time.
It isn't something you can take back. If you aren't 100% sure about it, then wait until you walk down the aisle with the one you plan to spend the rest of your life with. What if he moves away, decides to break things off, or takes advantage of things? If he steps out of your life, then what happens? You can't take it back. I'm not going to preach to you - you have friends and family for that. Personally, I do think that is too young. I'm not judging you or others.
If I'm ever put in a situation where I don't know what to decide, I look into the future. I see myself as a parent, and that my kid is that age, in the same situation...what would I want him/her to do? Hope that helped and good luck.
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I know you probably don't want to here this but 13 is a really young age to be thinking about sex. I have friends who lost their virginity at age 13 & 14 and though it seemed like a good idea at the time, later they got into more serious relationships and had serious boyfriends that they loved and they regretted that they didn't wait and give their virginity to someone that they did actually have really strong feelings for. What I'm saying is just think before you give up your virginity because later you might regret it and you can only give your virginity to one guy. Is this the right one?
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I think it's great that you guys are so comfortable with each other and have a good relationship at a young age but I think you can express your love for each other in other ways besides having sex. there are, believe it or not, otehr ways to make each other happy. what's the rush? you guys have the rest of your lives to have sex. you can hold off for a while and it will be more special to you. I know a couple that was like that... they were together 3 years and after 2 years they started doing sexual things and tried to have sex but it hurt so bad that they had to stop. they ended up breaking up after 3 years and the girl went crazy after it because it was hard to let go. they probably had some other issues but what i'm trying to say is don't rush it, it's not a requirement in a serious relationship. best of luck to ya and lemme know if you need anything else. <3
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If you love him, and he loves you and you BOTH are comfortable with it...then do it. Of course you are going to have protection and all that but if you think it's love then go for it. BUT!!!!
I believe that I will never have sex before I get married because to me it's an intimate thing that should only be done when you and your partner are ABSOLUTELY sure of it, for example MARRIAGE!
You can do what you like. But if you really thought about it. There is a million other guys that you could have sex with. But don't you want your first time to be with someone who has VOWED to be your husband FOR EVA!?
-AJ
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Well I know what you mean since I lost my virginity too and im only 13. The thing is that no matter what people say about sex having a certain age isn't really true. Sex doesn't have an age and its really up to you. I made the mistake of losing my virginity and thank GOD im not pregnant but just knowing you've done like at such a young age gets you in a shock. I kinda regret losing my virginity but that's just me. Like since then my period has been comin irregular so i thought i was pregnant (no that you needed to know)and the guy i did it with which was also my close friend i haven't talked to since half the reason if probably because he'z under house arrest and he doesn't have the oppurtunity to see me. Do you even like the guy??...because if u don't you probably shouldn't do it..you have to make sure you love him or at least like him alot so then u can make sure you won't regret it. I hope my story got you thinking a bit and i was some what help!!
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dont do it becuase what if you dont stay with this guy and he has aids then you will get it and give it to the next person you have sex with
let me know how it all works out
lots of love,lizzie
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If you're having doubts about it, then you shouldn't go through with it.
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If there is any doubt whatsoever...dont do it. SOmething is trying to tell you something...
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you asked for my opinion on this situation so i honestly think you should wait. i understand that you guys and really close and are probably truly in love, but you a lot more time to be doing that or not. if something happens like the may slip off and you get pregnant your life is going to go down the drain, not because you're boyfriend will ditch you cause i'm sure he won't, but you guys will need to support that baby or get an abortion which i am completely against, because if your not ready to take the chance of having the baby, then you shouldn't be ually active. remember, you're only 13, you have your whole life ahead of you :]
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