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is she my friend??
i am 19 male, i have this friend who is girl.. let me first make it clear that i am just interested in friendship with her...
i ll start from the beginning, about in the starting of this year at college, she joined our friend cirle..we were having no problems, and helped her in whatever way possible regarding her relation with her boyfriend. however she had a small fight with one of the friends.. she didnt feel comfortable being with us any more...she joined an another friend circle... now she continues to talk to me... she share her thoughts with me that she shares with no one else{atleast as far as i believe}... recently she broke up with her boy friend also at the same time her mother fell ill, she asked for my help and i helped her in whatever way possible...
but for past sometime i am feeling that she is only using me whenever she requires me... i wonder many a times that what is my importance in her life but dont know should i ask directly her or not?? what should i do?? should ask her and how should i ask her??? i really want to know about her feelings for me...
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It sounds like this girl just needs someone to talk to because she is depressed because her mother is feeling ill and she does not know how to handle with it. And I think this girl can probably like you to because she is opening up to you I would just try to get to know her and just ask her out then when you go out ask her if she likes you then if she does she does and if she doesn't she doesn't but I'm sure she like you she sounds like she does like you cause girls usually talk to other girls about stuff there going through so I would just ask her out then ask her. I hope this helped. Tell me how it goes. If you have any other question you can leave a message in my inbox. Thanks!!
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Girls need someone to hold on to during her troubles and someone to talk to and will listen to them. She probably dosn't mean to bother you of any way but she has probably been going through alot at this moment and needs someone there. Its real nice that a guy would help a girl when she is in trouble. She probably trust you and know that you will help her in her time of need.
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Some girls need something to hold onto. They search for reassurance, support, and - 9 out of 10 times - just somebody who will listen.
I understand where you are coming from. I've encountered several girls who (unfortunately) would always tell me about their problems. But that was it! They didn't tell me about their lives or anything positive going on. Heck, they didn't even bother asking how I was or where I was with things.
It did bother me. I gradually moved away from them, because yes, while I love to help people and I'm all for that, it isn't a friendship when the situation is a one way street like that. I'm not saying that what you have isn't a friendship, but just be careful not to let things get sucked into that vacuum. If you want to maintain the friendship and you value and respect her, then let her know exactly how you feel - everything you wrote. If she really does want to be your friend and wants to maintain that status with you, she will make the effort to reach out you or not come to you with only problems.
Give it some time. There's nothing wrong with asking her how she feels about you - a friend, more than just a friend, somebody there to talk to, etc. She should be, as any friend would be, open to hear what you have to say and your thoughts on any situation, including this one. Don't let small things get to you, even if you happen to be the one she goes to with problems. You never know though: she might be going to a lot of people with the same problems for reassurance and security, maybe just to feel better. Give it some more time, and don't be afraid to talk to her or ask her anything at all. If she really does want to be friends with you, she will listen. I think its great that you're helping her out. Hope that helped and good luck.
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Since she has been going through alot lately she really just needs to know what someone will be there for her. To her that could be you. if you feel comfortable enough ask her something along the lines like do you really like being my friend. (( corny i know but it works )). She's happy that your there for her.
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