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I'm Christina, and I'm 27. I tend to be brutally honest when I give advice or an opinion. I don't tell people what they want to hear but rather what they need to hear. They don't always appreciate it at first, but I usually get a thank you in the end.

I have 15 tattoos, and 8 piercings. I'm married and just gave birth to a baby boy in May. I'm currently a SAHM so you can find me taking care of my son and binge-watching television while he naps.

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what are you guys opinions on someone getting drunk to lose there virginity. because im thinking about doing that cause im scared its really going to hurt. and i dont want to have to deal with the pain. and by the way im 16 female. thankyou in advancee

I think you're an idiot.

You're not old enough to drink, and you shouldn't be having sex. Alcohol & sex do not go together. How about if you pass out & someone rapes you without a condom & you end up pregnant?

It's going to hurt whether you're drunk or not. If you can't deal with the pain of losing your virginity, then stay a virgin forever because it's going to hurt no matter what.

Honestly though, don't have sex. You're going to make a bad decision that you're going to regret. Grow up.

We were doing a berthing inspection when we seaqrched one of my shipmates' racks, only to fu=ind the "extenze" male enhancement product. Does this stuff actually work? of so how? if it does i migh invest in it, not to put myseklf down im fairly satisfied with what ive been endowed with, but as far as for making average guys larger, is it wirth the money?

That stuff usually doesn't work. It's just a gimmick to invest your money in something that you don't need.

Those infomercials are all a bunch of shit, and I would bet everything to say that those people are actors. Don't purchase them or fall into it. It's a waste of money and you shouldn't bother with it.

15/f

So my current boyfriend and I have been going out for a while now and he is so sweet and amazing. He always tells me he loves me, and I tell him I love him as well (because I do) but the other day he came over to my house and gave me a beautiful silver ring with a turquoise stone. He told me that it was a promise ring that we were going to be together forever and get married one day. But sometimes people say that and don't really mean it. How do I know he really really means it. Because I love him so much and I do want to marry him when I grow up. I have dated other guys and he is the only one who makes me feel this way. I just want to know if I am going to end up getting my heart broken. Does he really mean he wants to be with me?

Usually any guy that gives a girl a promise ring means business, but it doesn't always turn out that way.

I think that if you really love your boyfriend & know for sure that he loves you, this wouldn't be something you'd question. He probably more than likely is serious about this decision. Besides, no guy gives a girl a ring for no reason.

My bunny just had 5 babies, I didnt know she was pregnant! I think they were born 2 days ago. Here are some of my questions:

- Can I clean the cage?

-What should i do with them since i might not want them

-Can I hold them? and will my scent bother the mum?

http://www.mybunny.org/info/newborn.htm

I think that if you don't want them all, you should at least keep one or two & sell the rest. I'm saying to keep 2 because if you sell them all or give them all away, it will really affect the mother.

I think that site should help with what you're looking for, but if you don't want them all, keep a few & sell the rest.

well i've been wanting to get something done on my face for awhile now, and at first it was going to be a stud on the nose. but then the whole universe decided it was a good time to get that done, so eh, i thought maybe a lip piercing isn't too shabby after all. most people are against my decision, saying it'll look bad. but i really want to get it done, regardless, so i ignored those remarks. but one grabbed my attention, my sister who knows quite a lot about piercings had told me i could chip my tooth on it, it could destroy my gums, i could swallow the back. so i was wondering- are these really as big as they sound or is it just an over exaggeration? and before i get it done, what are some things i should know? thankyou.

I think your sister is over-exaggerating. Was she someone who was against your decision? If so, she could just be saying that to try & change your mind.

I got my lip done about a year ago (It'll be a year on the 11th) and none of those things have happened to me, and I've had many different types of rings put in.

I've never heard of anyone chipping their tooth on it or swallowing the back. Nor have I heard of it destroying someone's gums. My brother also has his lip done but he has the stud. The "back" is on the outside of your lip (because it's easiest to get off that way) so it's on your face. Swallowing it shouldn't really happen, nor do I think you should be worried about that. I think your sister is just trying to scare you.

As for what you should know:

- When you get it done, you cannot drink alcohol, or soda. It can cause the swelling to take longer to go down. So, your best bet is drinking water.

- Whenever something touches your lip, you need to cleanse it. Just run some warm water from the sink onto a Q-Tip & swab around the area. Also, you'll need Saline Solution (the piercer has it available in most cases, but if not you can find it at the grocery store). There's also something else they recommend that I'm trying to remember but can't. They'll tell you what you need.

- You CANNOT have crispy foods so it's best to stay away from things like chips, fried chicken, crackers, etc. This also interrupts with the healing process and makes the swelling take longer. It can also cause infection. As for cleaning your lip whenever something touches it, this goes for your hands, drink & food.

- You need to clean it every so often because crust will usually build up.

- You cannot kiss, perform oral or do anything else that involves your mouth & another person simply because of germs & because you're so at risk for infection from another being. Do not take chances. I'm pretty sure that the wait to kiss somebody is about 2 months. I could be wrong, but I'm pretty sure that it's 2 months. So, if you're not single, this will be a hard task to follow up with, BUT I'm sure you can refrain from that if you really want the piercing bad enough.

Depending where you get it done, it should cost around anywhere from $40-60. Every place is different & has different fees, so you must search around for deals. Also, make sure the place you're going to is clean. You do not want a parlor with a bad reputation piercing you. If they're dirty, you surely don't want that either. If you see that the piercer does not explain the process, NOR does he/she open things in front of you, it is your job & your right to leave immediately. If they ask questions, just say you've changed your mind & go somewhere else. You may want to have a few places chosen as back-up in case the original place you go to is how I described.

It doesn't hurt too much. It basically feels like someone is pinching the inside of your lip. However, the pain also depends on how you're acting/feeling. I was nervous & shaky when I got mine done, so it hurt a little more than it should've. If you're calm, you might not even feel anything. I do advise you though, to not look down because I did & I saw a needle hanging through my lip while the guy got the ring. :( It wasn't scary, but it was definitely not a fun experience. They'll sometimes ask you to just breathe in & out or to close your eyes if that's a preference. They also ask about placement so don't be scared to be specific about where you want it.

Depending on your age, you may need a parent, an ID, and some other form of identification. They aren't going to pierce anyone who's underaged without a parent. At most places that I know of, consent is around 16 but you still need a parent. I got mine done when I was 17 & still needed my mother there simply because I didn't have my ID yet. I'm not sure if it's the same deal, but if you call around, don't be afraid to ask! If you don't ask, it could be a waste of time going in & they may ask you to go home & retrieve it.

If you have any other questions, feel free to inbox me OR ask the piercer. They'll give you all the information you need, and you can also do a little research online. I really hope this helps you, and if you do get your piercing, have fun with it & good luck! I'm sure it'll look great!

OKay my boyfriend and i have dated for a really long time we have only made-out and held hands. i have never been fingured before and i want to experience it with him.. But i haven't ever fingured myself and i dont know what to do in this situation.. Do i just sit there or what

PLEEEAAASSEEE HEEELLLP!!

You seem a little young to be getting fingered, seeing as you didn't spell it right.

I guess you should sit down and tell your boyfriend you want to take your relationship up a small step. However, I personally don't think you're ready for it & I think you should wait.

i'm a 19/f and i'm korean. i'm 5'6", but i love wearing heels, i try to find ones that are only 2 1/2in tall, but i always end up getting ones that are around 3-4 in. i know this is random, but i was just wondering (since koreans/asians in general) are sort of conservative) if 3-4 in heels on a girl is too high/looks bad? thanks all for the advice, i'd love both asian girl and boy opinions, thank you :)

I'm not Asian. My boyfriend is Filipino though, and he loves when I wear heels. :)

I personally think 3-4 is a little too much, but if that's the height you like & are comfortable with, stick with it.

Ugh it makes me so mad because it seems like everytime I find a boy that I really like he's either using me or he just wants to feel me up and doesn't care about me at all... What do I do?
14/F

Stop dating for a while.

You're 14 & have all the time in the world to worry about boys. Concentrate on yourself.

15/f
this is a VERY long story, but im gonna try to lay this out as short as possible and please, im desperate here, you have NO clue what i've been through these past few months, and i need all the help i can get..

last year i met a REALLY sensative guy. he was 16, about to be 17, and i was 14.. he was soooo shy, hes VERY insecure. when we first started dating, all he said to me was how i saved him and pulled him out of his misery because he has had no luck with relationships and was treated like shit by girls his whole life. hes not even that cute and popular, and i have a waaay higher social status in my grade/ school then he does in his grade.. but ive been known to have wierd taste and i can look beyond looks and things like that very easily. i think when we first started dating him i was just excited over the fact that he had a car and he was a junior and i was only a freshmen.. but i actually did end up falling in love with him. and he was COMPLETELY in love with me. we lost our virginities to eachother and ill tell you, im smart, and not at all a bit naiive.. i knew this kid loved me. & we did NOT have a sex based relationship whatsoever.. we became eachothers best friends. both of us lost all of our other friends because we were only with eachother 24-7. he called my mom 'mom' and i did the same with his mom.. we were incredibly close.. and sense he was older, i felt so comftorbal and secure with him, and i went to him with all my problems, and he would help me.. ive been suffering from depression for years and me and my mother never had a good relationship, and my father left me, and i was molested as a baby.. but when i was with him, he made me feel so comftorbal. we told eachother EVERYTHING. and i was postive he was there to stay. he promised me forever every single day. we dated for a year. i messed it up, biggest mistake of my entire life.. he started getting very annoying and up my ass. you know when youre in a bad mood and you just want to be left alone? well he would never leave me alone. he'd be like 'its okay babe i love you' bla bla. all mushy, when i just want to be mad!. i tried talking to him about this many times and all he could say was im sorry i just love you soooo much i cant help it.. all my friends called him whipped cream and everything.. it was BAD. but anyways, one night i was out with my friends the day before a cheer competition, and my ex was there.. and somewhere along the lines, we kissed.. my boyfriends friend was there and told him that if i didnt tell him, he was going to.. i knew he wasnt going to break up with me or anything.. so i told him.. but the thing is.. i think i was looking for a fight with him because our relationship was so boring. when i told him, it pissed me off how he was crying instead of being mad, yelling at me. so i started saying things to make him mad.. i said TERRIBLE things. like i was gonna keep cheating on him because he basically lets me, and how i know i take advantage of him because he trusts me so much but i shouldnt.. and he was like well maybe i have to break up with you then.. and he was like i really dont want to. and i was like fine just do it idont care! yelling at him and stuff.. and then he did. i was thinking we would get back together in a couple weeks.. so after we broke up, we still talked because we obv. still loved eachother and everything. we acted like we were going out, and we even 'hooked up' a few times.. but when he asked me back out, i kept saying no, i wasnt ready.. because the relationship was SOOO akward after we broke up.. he was acting so different. and i knew why. it was because i broke his heart. and i did, bad. so one day after we hooked up, my friend told me that her brother saw my 'boyfriend, x-boyfriend, whatever u wanna call him' at a store.. and he was saying how he was done with me and he was trying to get with this new girl 'leesh'.. i was FURIOUS. i called him up screaming at him asking for all my stuff back and it was over for good and everything. but really, i wanted an appology from him, not my stuff back. btw, i was very remorsful for cheating on him and saying what i said to him, i mustve appologized a million times.. but he didnt say anything, he justgave me all my stuff back and acted like it was nothing.. and then i kept trying to get him back, but he kept rejecting me. i was litterally down on my knees for this kid. until one day i found out he had a girlfriend. not just some girl.. the girl who dates ALL the boys that i date after me.. but thats a whole nother story.. anyways, i was devistated. i couldnt eat, i couldnt talk, i couldnt sleep, i couldnt go to school,, nothing. all i did was cry and cry and cry and cry. i tried talking to him seeing if we could be friends and stuff, but he hates me now. if i send him one text, he shuts his phone off. he goes all different ways in the halls so i dont have to see him in school, he wont even look my way. he saw me practically drown in my own tears and he didnt even care. i wrote him long long letters, i tried everything i could just to be able to talk to him when i need to, so i wouldnt be so hurt about the situation.. now, i have two weeks left of school and im failing 4 classes.. and im an honors student. i DONT fail. its not me. and im grounded because of it, so i cant even go out and try to forget it. its been sense thhe end of february... and still,all i can think about is killing myself.. people say they are heart broken.. but this gives heart broken a new definition. there is litterally a hole in my chest. and i keep getting maaaassive anxiety attacks in class, and i do go to counceling wich is sort of helpful but we mostly talk about my parents.. three days ago, she broke up with him. and he was very upset from what i heard.. he hasnt tried talking to me or anything but i dont know what to do, i want to talk to him but he'll just ignore me.. i love this kid and care about him with my life. today i thought i was going to DIE. it was the last day of school for the seniors. the last time ill EVER see him again. the last time ill ever get to look for him i the halls so i can walk by him.. that was the only time i ever got to see him, and today was my last day. and when i walked by him for the very last time of my life today, he didnt even look at me. it was so painful. he couldnt even have the heart to say bye to me considering im his first love and helll never see me again. i havent been able to stop crying sense i last saw him. i dont even know what to do with my life any more. someone PLEEEEEASE tell me what to do to get him back. ANNYTHING. I AM DESPERATE FOR HELP. we had such a good relationship till i cheated and we Never ever had one fight. but you dont even understand. this kid wouldnt even look at any other girls, deleted all the girls in his phone book, couldnt go an hour without texting me just saying he loved me, couldnt go a day withouth seeing me, brought me flowers randomly, did EVERYTHING for me. how can you love someone so much and go through everything we've been through together, and then just completely shut them out of your life?

Obviously you understand that this was wrong. Cheating because a relationship is boring is stupid. You should've talked to him about it so that something could've been done to make the relationship better.

I honestly DO NOT blame him for shutting you out. You cheated on him, took advantage of him, and then said things you knew would hurt him so that he would dump you. Do you honestly think he would let you back in & be your friend again?

You broke his trust. You do not deserve his trust. I don't know why you think that he should forgive you when what you did is terrible. I think if you want to get back into his life, you need to slowly ease your way back into his life.

I suggest just sending him a text. Nothing like "I LOVE YOU, PLEASE COME BACK." Just send him a text that says "I heard about what happened with you & so & so. I hope you feel better, and if you need anyone to talk to, I'm always here. Just so you know." If he doesn't respond, I would just back off. If he does respond, then get to talking with him again and see what can happen.

If you do happen to get back together (which I honestly doubt), make sure you have an open communication with him. Things cannot work if you do not communicate. And communicating is not yelling at each other about the things you hate. Communicating is sitting down and calmly discussing the issues at hand & finding a solution or a half-way point so that things can get better. And if you find yourself wanting to break up again, tell him things aren't working out but you'd like to stay friends. That way you're still in each others lives and you're not left with an empty feeling.

Someone told me once that you can tell how big a guy is from there foot. but then i heard it wasnt true. then someone else told me if you look from there wrist to the tip of there middle fingr thats usually how long it is wen its hard. is this true? someone please help me. is there an actual way to find out how big someone is?

That's not true at all. Whoever told you that is pretty naive and stupid.

In order to find out someone's penis size is to ask, but some guys like to lie & over-exaggerate a little. Not all, but some. There's pretty much no way to tell.

Do more people dislike miley cyrus than like?

I was just wondering because she "seems" popular in america, where I live , the uk, not many people seem to be that keen on her.

So my main question is how popular is she in america, and within in certain age groups do the opinions change on her?

I know this isn't a proper question, but I'm just wondering why she is so popular....

The people I know hate her. I know I sure do.

I personally don't think she has much talent, nor do I think she's attractive. She seems to come off very self-centered and obnoxious. Surely if she was normal & went to high school with me, I would've been rude to her.

She's pretty popular mainly among children & tweens but the older the ages go up, the more people seem to dislike her. It's really only children that she appeals to. She's really only popular because of her father, and she's just riding out his wave which will soon be gone.

Trust me, after Disney tells her to get the hell out, she'll have nothing.

what is a western new yorker's accent? exaples please?

I'm from Western, New York. The accent is kind of hard to put place on, but the city where I'm from is pronounced Raaachester even though it's called Rochester.

Everyone else considers Rochester to be Upstate, NY but I don't. Mainly because Upstate to me is more towards the Adirondacks & such. Western, NY to me is more Rochester & Buffalo. :)

I don't understand how to explain this for you, but as far as pronouncing my city, I think that's the best I can do. Sorry. :( Accents are hard to pinpoint sometimes.

Is there any jobs that are hiring at the age of 14?

Not really. Most places don't hire until about 16 or 17 depending on the place. Some places even wait to hire until someone is 18.

Your best bet for right now is just to do some extra work around the house, or babysit. You still have a few years until you can get a real job.

Hey,
I am 16f. I had this one friend for a long time previously, we were BEST friends, she even said so. Until she decided to give me up, for my brother... sad sad.. anyhow, ever since we first knew eachother, she has copied almost EVERYTHING she could think of. When I got a new sweater,she would have to go out and but one that weekend. When I got a laptop, she got the EXACT same one. When i got a certain binder, she got the same one, and when I got a dog, she had to go and buy a dog the next week. Now, I am not rich or anything, but her family IS sort of richer than we are, they have bigger,fancier items,and a much wealthier lifestyle.. but anyhow, I don't care at all. I am happy with who I am, the lifestyle I live, and such. But it drives me INSANE when she has to copy everything I do... She even works at the SAME place I do, she never even considered getting a job until I did! Oh, and when I bought a vehicle bout six months ago, she was SOOO close to buying an exact replica! (I am sure she STILL might (get her parents too).) Yes. Insane I know. But the most recent one, that just happened today is burning a frustration hole in my chest. She walked into my room, because she practically lives here, since she is (blech) dating my brother, and she finds my resume on my desk and starts reading it. She asked what I was applying for, and I didn't even want to tell her because I know she is going to apply for it, so long as I do.. arg! .. And I know the resume she applys to get the job with,will be (you guessed it) an exact replica... Sure maybe it will have a few things that apply to her, but I KNOW SHE WILL COPY IT! and it is BURNING A HOLE in my chest... I really dont know what to do or how to excape it. She sees something I have or wrote in school (yes. she is in some of my classes and in the same grade), and she just pounces on it. What do I do? I am SO sure she knows I was going to apply for the park job with this resume.. and now.. her resume is going to look the same. ANd I may end up stuck working with her.. While she sucks faces with my brother. If you know how I am feeling right now.. :( .. PLEASE HELP ME!

You need to set her straight.

Tell the damn girl to get some originality. She seems so fake. She's probably struggling to find an identity because she's so busy becoming you that she's forgotten who she is. Talk to her about it. Tell her that it's starting to piss you off that she keeps copying you all the time. If she asks when she's copied you, list all the instances that you've noticed, and make them very clear.

I can see how this would be annoying. Just be straight up with her, there's no better way. If she still doesn't get the hint, get another job or change your schedule at work so you don't have to work the same days as her.

i like this boy named josh. we get along really well and we went out for almost a year 2 years ago...then we kind of broke apart. well im in 7th grade(going on 8th) and we stareted talking again and i like him. hes really an awsome guy but hes dating my friend kelsey. truthfully i dont think they act like a couple AT ALL! im not going to go into detail. so anyway, i want to show josh that i can be better for him than her but i dont want to make an enemy, if you no what i mean. so i just need to no what i should do.

what do you think...let me no.

Move on. You may like him, but if you tried anything it could ruin your friendship with Kelsey, and it could give you a bad reputation.

Not only that, but how would you feel if some girl tried to prove to your boyfriend she was better? It's not your place to judge either. Who cares if they don't act like a couple? They could hang out a lot after school & you would never see what they're like. Just because they don't act like a couple, it doesn't take away from the fact that they're dating & you should mind your own business.

Besides, you're like 13. You have plenty of time to find boyfriends. This isn't even something you should be worrying about.

Ok so i still am in love with my ex and he doesnt know it ,but he has a girlfriend and she lives soo far away , but he talks to her on the phone all the time

do you think he loves her?

He might.

Okay i am a 13/f and i want to have sex with my bf. We have known each other since pr-k. We have been dating for almost 3 months and things are getting to be really serious. i always told people i was going to stay a virgin until i get married but i dont think i can do it anymore. He worships the ground i walk on and he isnt like most 13 year old boys. He loves me for me and we have grown up togather so he knows everyhting i have been through. I want to have sex with him and he only wants to if i want to. i do but i dont want my parents not to trust me anymore i have told my mom about it and she said just to let her know. i did and she flipped so what do i do... Please help AND FAST!!

Just because you've been dating for 3 months doesn't mean things are serious. That's shit compared to other relationships. You're 13 years old. You shouldn't have a desire for sex at this age, and you REALLY need to wait until you're older before you jump into anything this serious. Sex is a serious ordeal which brings on serious consequences that a 13 year old cannot deal with.

Can you deal with a baby? Can you deal with an STD? Can you deal with AIDS? Oh, you can't? Exactly, then don't have sex.

Your mother flipped because you're out of your mind. She does not want her 13 year old having sex. When she told you to let her know, she probably didn't expect to hear the words "Mom, I'm ready to have sex," so soon. So, do not have sex. Wait until you're older because you're way too young. And you can wait, you're just choosing to grow up too fast because you think you're in love.

If something happens (such as a pregnancy), I hope you realize no 13 year old boy in his right mind would stick around. Grow up first.

hi im john and im 13 i realy cant stop thinking about sex and i realy want to try it out but i know i shouldnt i have tried evrything please help me.

I think you should just stick to masturbating.

You're 13 and way too young to be having sex. Sex is an adult experience, and should not be done by children. You are a child. Keep it in your pants until you're an adult.

There are a lot of diseases out there, and abstinence is the best way to prevent them.

okay..so me and this guy talk about doing stuff sometimes..but the thing is. is that i'm 15. and he's 19.

is this illegal?
or does it matter what state you live in?

It's illegal. You're a minor, and he is an adult. To do anything like kissing, touching inappropriately, or the like can get him into some trouble if the wrong person found out.

Just be his friend for now because doing anything else would cause trouble.

Im 15 is my penis small? its like 5 1/2 inches

Nope. 5 inches is average size.

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