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i am 16/f.my boyfriend is very frank with me. he says there is nothing to be shy about when we both love each other. i know he has a point but i just can't stop getting shy. one of these days he asked me what i use to shave my genitals and i went red like a tomato. he laughed....did not mind though.i love him a lot and truly i have no problem with him. i just start getting butterflies when he gets closer with naughty chats or physically...and i am shy though i know i am very comfortable with him in every aspect . i know he will respect my feelings but still i am shy. and yesterday...he said he could not control so he started kissing me and stuff.....he didnot penetrate but he was touching me and licking me over there....i was moaning like hell....and twisting like anything...he had a hard time to put me in place and continue and i pleaded him to stop bcuz i was feeling shy but he continued..and suddenly i felt this urge to pee.....but he still continued and....i started feeling something i can't explain...like someone is tickling me and i want it to get over but i don't want it to stop .... finally he pinned me down with his weight n made me helpless n continued doing his stuff till i ....started trembling...he stopped and asked me to let go but i didn't, he said he wanted to see it but i didn't....finally he gave up. is this shyness normal?..was the moaning and twisting and asking him to stop normal?...was the urge to pee and trembling normal?....if i really let go infront of him...will he feel good or..will nothing come out other than urine?...plz help. he is really sad and i am too. (link)
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All of that is normal and you would have had an orgasm.
Anyways, this guy doesn't seem to be right for you. Once you're comfortable with someone, then you won't be as shy but you're not at that level yet and seems to not respect that because he brings this stuff up more than once.
He might truly be a good guy and really good to you but he seems pushy and that's not a good quality. When you're comfortable with him, then you'll be able to be intimate with him.
Then he said he couldn't control himself? Every guy should be able to control himself. That is very wrong if he can't control his urges.
The shyness is normal, I don't know how long you've been with him but you need to go slow with him because if he pressures you a lot, you won't feel comfortable with him.
So you need to move slow, you're only 16 and he hasn't learned self control so be careful.
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He is 15 and I'm 16. He's a solid Jehovah Witness and very closely follows doctrine. I really fell in love with him. I would always be thinking about him and hanging out with him and texting, calling, video chat. We live fairly close. I got the courage to tell him I was bi and loved him at the same time, he was shocked and needed some space. I saw some hope in his voice though. I'm 80% sure he's straight, although religion might cause him to hide it if he is. I want to have a strong relationship forever and can't live without him, he means the world to me. I'd take a bullet for him. My teen "love" hormones are also very high. I'm a little confused because he's family.... What should I do? How do I keep him as my BFF, and still have "fun" with him? Any other comments? (link)
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I'd have to say even if he did feel the same way, it's illegal whether you guys are blood related or not.
You can talk things out with him and try to stay friends with him but believe me, it probably won't be the same anymore.
I think that's the best thing you can do in this situation because incest is illegal. So talk to him and see if you can stay friends because it seems like he might be uncomfortable.
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Hello. So I will try to sumamrize this story.. all tho it is a long one. I am a sixteen year old female high school studnet. I have this best friend named Lisa..Lisa is friends with Jane. Jane lives out of state tho, and is 3 years older than us. As a joke, Lisa made a group text wih Jane and I. Well, me and jane, as we were talking realized we are alot alike. Now me and Jane talk literally every second of the day. I tell her eveything. She tell me eveeything. I recently found out she was gay.
I have never liked a girl in my life..and never planned on it. I am totally accpeting of gays, just wouldn't be itnerested in trying it.
Me and Jane talk so much, we call eachother fiance and fiance. as a joke of course. But recently, I have started liking it. Alot acutally.
I get excited to see her texts. I love talking to her on skype every night. we talk for hours. this is crazy because we havenever met..but i miss her alot.
I think i am in love with Jane.
accept...she is a girl.
And i dont like girls.
As so i thought. I have never had one thought abut girls before Jane. So i am just so confused now.
But i want to be with her.
What do I do?? should i tell her. because if i tell her..things could get realllyyy messed up.
And at the mioment, I need jane and cant emss thignsup. I tell her everything in my life, and loosing her.. i couldnt get through high school.
I left some parts out....so if you need more info! message me.
Thanks.
Gray (link)
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Well you're in a tough situation.
So maybe you're bi, maybe you just like the idea of it.
Anyways, if you don't want to mess things up, then don't tell her. You've never met her so right now, you love her as a person rather than in love with her because you've never personally met her and you only know what she tells you. You don't see her around her friends or family.
I mean I'd say go for it if she was where you were but it would be ten times harder since she's not there.
So for now, I'd keep being friends with her and if you start noticing other girls, you might figure out how you feel about girls and boys.
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im 13/f. my friend is 13/m and he likes me and i really dont like him like that back but i dont know how to tell him. he hangs out with me more than he does his girlfriend and it makes her upset. his girlfriend is my bestie and i dont want to make her mad either. if you guys have been in a situation like this and nave advice for me please tell me PLEASE :) PLEASE. (link)
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Well at least tell your best friend because she deserves to know.
As for your friend who likes you, I'd definitely go with Dragonflymagics advice because you all are young and are still learning. So have a talk with your best friend and then you both can talk to him.
If not that, then at least you can tell him that you just don't like him like that. That's all you have to say. Then your best friend can also have a talk with him and see how he feels about her.
It's harder to date when you're really young because boys don't really understand how to treat a girl yet. Anyways, communication will definitely help rather than keeping quiet.
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Im 14 and im about to have sex for the first time with a 14 year old too but he has had sex before..
I was just wondering..
Does it hurt? I heard it does because you viagina tears..
And what if the condombreaks?
Im not worried about much right now i just dont want a kid right now.. not ever actually. But if you could please help? Thank you. (link)
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It will most likely hurt since it's your first time and you're really young. It's different for each person but since your body is still growing, it could hurt worse for you.
Your vagina doesn't break though, it's your hymen. It can tear but that's not too big of a deal because it can be torn doing other activities too. I think it's normal for a little bit of blood but it's also normal if you don't bleed at all. If you bleed a lot, he did something wrong.
It's partially covered and stretches. So when he goes in, if he does it right, you won't bleed but it'll hurt a lot and your hymen stretches back.
You might want to look more into that.
If the condom breaks, you could possibly get pregnant so it's best to be on the safe side and get on birth control.
Of course there is infections and such to be careful about since he has had another partner before. Best to get checked out just in case because he might not know.
My advice would be to wait until you know your body and what happens, ect. At least your asking because when girls don't know, that's how they get pregnant.
So just be careful, don't rush if you're not ready, get on birth control.
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i don't know what to do im 15 and desperate for sex does that make me a slut? what should i do to have sex? (link)
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It doesn't make you a slut. I hate when people use the word slut because they just throw the word around.
In actual definition it means a woman considered sexually promiscuous.
You haven't had sex, you just want it.
Wanting sex isn't wrong, it's normal, especially at 15. Your body is still growing and your hormones are going crazy. But having sex can results that you don't want. Pregnancy, STDs, and then emotionally suffering. Everyone handles sex differently but a lot of young teenagers regret it because of the crazy impact it had on them. They just weren't emotionally ready for it even though their body was.
You're body is also still growing so it'll hurt to have sex.
So there are other ways to relieve sexual tension. Masturbation is safe and you don't have to worry about everything else.
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Hi, so I'm a 15 year old female. My boyfriend rescently went to another state for family issues. He was there for about a week, so we didn't get to see eachother alot, only talk. When he was there he started txting this girl that goes to our school. They sexted and sent nudes back and forth. We kinda went on a break because he claimed that he lost his feelings for me. When he got back we were still on a break/ broken up. He made out with the girl that he was sending nudes to. This was a couple months ago but I still can't let it go. It bothers me so much, were still together now, but he didn't tell me about all this, I had to find out about it. I have no trust in him whatsoever. I was wondering how I would be able to forget this, and regain my trust in him. Because he has moved on from it, I haven't.. And it really bothers me. Thanks (link)
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Regaining trust is one of the hardest things to do.
It really seems like there is more to this. Were you guys on a break when he went to see family? Or did you go on a break after that?
Either way, he moved on really fast. It was almost like he never even had feelings for you. I'm sure he did but it doesn't seem like they were very strong feelings.
So he lied to you and broke your trust. Like I said, it's the hardest thing to forgive someone for that and start trusting them again. Obviously, without trust the relationship won't work.
Of course he moved on from this, you're not the one who broke his trust and went and made out with another guy.
You deserve time to get over this. He doesn't deserve your trust and I wouldn't stay with a guy like that but if you are planning on staying with him, you'll have to give yourself time and he has to prove to you that he loves you and only you.
If he doesn't start showing you all this, you won't be able to trust him.
And if you can't seem to get over this, don't stay with him. You're 15 and I'm sure you know he's not the only guy in the world. So you need to be happy and not waste time on a guy who lies to you about important things.
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There's this boy name bradeon ,he is in middle school just like me but he's in eight grade and I'm in seventh but we sit together,ok anyways people are saying he likes me but I'm not sure,I kinda have a small crush on him,but its not noticable,so should I ask him out or just wait? (link)
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The best way to know whether or not you should move forward with this boy is to become friends with him first. Once you get to know him that way, it's easier to tell if he's interested in you rather than just go off of what other people tell you.
So start talking to him, be nice and friendly and eventually flirt a little bit and see how he reacts. If he reacts good, then you know he might be interested. If he doesn't, then you know.
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How do you know if your in love.I'm a girl and I'm in my teens,I curious is there a sign to know if he's the right one ,please help. (link)
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It's really hard to explain. When you know, you know. You don't have to doubt it.
As to knowing if he's the right one, it really depends if you both are compatible with each other. Like get along, find each other attractive, enjoy each others company. Then if he has the qualities you're looking for rather than just thinking he's cute. Like hard working, nice and friendly, kind, ect.
But when you're in love, you'll know it and you won't have to ask this question because you'll just know.
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Hello! I am 14 years old, and a few weeks ago i met a really cute girl (my age) and i asked her for her number and she gave it to me. we talked for a few weeks and we got really close and i told her she was really pretty and she thought i was cute. i asked her one day if we could dance and then somehow, we ended up talking about kissing after dancing. Two days ago she told me she liked me, and i told her i liked her too but we didnt date. Recently, she cancelled dancing and hanging out. I'm not really sure what happened but i'm really confused. I feel really bad, as if it'S my fault because she wont talk to me now and i feel like i must have crossed the line somewhere but im not sure where. I've been nothing but nice to her. ANY HELP WOULD BE AMAZING! THANK YOU! (link)
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Well it's definitely mixed signals unless something came up and that's why she had to cancel. But since she's not talking to you, then you know somethings wrong.
I don't think you crossed the line. So go talk to her and see what's wrong. I do agree with Dragonflymagic with the whole she might have felt hurt that you didn't ask her to be your girlfriend. I don't know if you call her or anything either.
So the best way to find out what a girl is thinking, is to just ask her. The best we can do here is just guess.
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my boyfriend and i probably wont see each other and im not sure if we'll be breaking up this summer. we have 4 days of school left.
i really want to
a) make these last 4 days memorable
b) tell him i love him
c) show him i care about him (its hard for me to open up)
tips and ideas on how to do this? (link)
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If it's hard for you to open up then maybe make him something. Cards, food, anything really. There are so many cute things to do that aren't over the top or expensive that show him that you care.
As to making the last 4 days memorable, I'm assuming you only see each other at school. Take lots of pictures and enjoy each others company. If you see each other outside of school, go some place fun.
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I am a 13 year old girl from New Zealand and i have been talking to a 15 year old guy from Algeria for almost a year now. We have skyped a few times and im beginning to really like him. But the problem is, he has a girlfriend. I would love to meet him aswell but there are problems that make me think it will never happen. Should i tell him how i feel or just leave things the way they are? (link)
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If he has a girlfriend, he's off limits. I mean imagine if you were with a guy and then some other girl who likes him comes along and tells him that she likes him. Would you be ok with that?
There are boundaries that you need to respect. You don't want to be the reason they break up either.
Other than that, long distance relationships are really hard. Have you ever met him? If not, first of all, be careful. Also, if you got with a guy in another country, you'll have to wait years and years to ever see him. When you're young, you won't be happy spending all your time texting and skyping when you could have been out with another guy having fun.
Dating when you're young is fun. You don't want to spend your time right now chasing after a guy who has a girl who is also in another country.
So my advice would to just leave it and move on.
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ok so me and my boyfriend love eachother very much but it doesn't seem like he shows it at all and hes still friends with hes ex and doesn't want to stop talking to her and says I don't trust him what should I do??? it feels like im second best (link)
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This is a really tough situation for you.
In my opinion, no one should be friends with their ex when they are dating somebody else. They can be friendly and nice to them but it doesn't mean that it's ok to hang out and text them all the time. It just causes drama and makes the relationship strained.
You can't make him do anything. Just because you don't like the idea of him hanging out with his ex, it doesn't mean that you don't trust him.
So tell him that it just makes you uncomfortable. If he wouldn't stop talking to her even if it makes you feel that way, he doesn't respect how you feel about the situation. And that's when you should move on.
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I am really scared that i peed in bed last night its first time in my life after I left wetting bed in the age of 12. I am quite healthy I don't take any medicines I don't drink wine I don't know what to do I am ashamed of telling it to others.actually last night in my dreams I went to my uncle new house but in dreams when I reached there I felt that I need to urinate badly so I used my uncle bathroom and did a lot of pee but it happened in real and I got up immediately and found my bed wet. (link)
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I don't really know what your question is but if you're really concerned then go see a doctor. This actually happens to a lot of people even after they are a child.
So if it happens again, go see a doctor. Try not to drink anything before bed and make sure to use the bathroom before you go to sleep also.
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I got a new bra and it makes my boobs look bigger than they actually are. But I'm scared that if I take it off ppl will think I was faking having big boobs but I really wasn't trying to. What should I do? (link)
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It's not a big deal. Is it a push up bra? Those normally make breasts look bigger and show more cleavage.
If someone gives you crap about it, just say it was the bra.
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We're really sure that we didn't do other sexual activity aside from dry humping. I'm just confused because the hpt we took got a faint positive and appeared beyond the recommended time indicated in it's package. Do you think it is a false positive? (link)
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If you got a positive, it's most likely false. Sperm doesn't normally pass through clothes. It's nearly impossible.
Did you take two other tests? If they came out positive then you might want to get checked out. If they came back negative, you're probably fine.
If you're still worried, go see a doctor.
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Hi, I'm 18 Female, and also English is not my first language. Well, this is something that really bothers my mind for weeks now, I have a long distance relationship for almost 3yrs now. I gave my life to him make him feels that I'm just right beside him, makes myself perfect even though I'm not and give all the love and support that I can give, let's say I have given my very best and all I can offer to him, I love him so much, he's the reason why I have to live in this world but these weeks I can feel that something is wrong, something not right, we haven't met, no never only calls and social networks but I do love him so much so I now I can feel that he is lying and whenever I have to interrogate him or confront him about what I feel he's really good in answering and also I love him so I have to trust but I can't keep off of my mind that he's still lying he told me he's enrolled in a school I googled that school and found out that the course that he told me was not in that school, second he told me that he's in the varsity of that school it's summer and almost everyday they have training for about 8am to 8pm which is not normal and awkward that's the things that made me doubt him every night he always shouted at me on phone always mock a fight with me and whenever he does that all I do is to cry and beg so that he won't do it again but he still doing it, I ask him if he lives me, if there is other girls than me, he's always answer is "you only, if I had some other girls here why should I have to call you? To text you?" and I just shut up but still, I can feel that something is not right and I don't know how to figure it out :( What should I do now? :( I'm so scared :( (link)
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I've never been in a relationship where I've never met the guy but I do know that long distance relationships are really hard.
He's lying to you, obviously. I know you care about this guy but he's not treating you right.
I want to say that you love him as a person and who you make him out to be. You don't know him really. You've never met him. You've never seen him around his friends or his family and that shows a lot about a person. You don't know how he speaks to other people or how he treats them. You just don't know how honest he is. You only know what he chooses to tell you.
But enough about that, you're giving your heart to a guy who don't trust. You want to trust him but you know he's lying. If he fights with you on the phone every night, that's not a good relationship. It's unhealthy. He doesn't love you if he makes you cry all the time.
So I don't know how you can figure all this out. You can talk to him but he might get mad. I'm just going to say that you deserve to be happy and he's not making you happy anymore.
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18/F
I'd first like to start off by saying that yes, I know being a virgin in this day and age is rare and something I should be proud of, hold onto, and cherish. Or so some say. I know I should wait for someone special who cares and respects me and blah blah. But this isn't a fairy tail and my life doesn't become anything close to those options.
I've had the opportunity to sleep with a guy I've known for about a year, I have feelings for him and I think he's really nice and very attractive so I'm very surprised I was even given this opportunity considering I'm..not. I'm just not completely sure if he feels the same about me. I have a big feeling that I'm just a booty call and I hate to be one of those girls that hopes that sleeping with him will change that fact.
On the other hand, weather it's with him or not I want to lose my virginity. I want to have a boyfriend even more than that but I don't know many people and like I mentioned, I'm not attractive and that's pretty much all anyone looks for nowadays. Or if you have a nice body they can ignore your face but then again you're just an object to them. I can honestly say if you're just going to answer this telling me to wait until someone special comes a long you're pretty much wasting your time because no one special is going to. I know the guy I mentioned above will respect me considering it's my first time and he knows that, and he's seen me mostly unclothed also so that help. Not sure about the after result though. I have a horrible time meeting new people and can't even make friends with a girl let alone a guy.
I've realized that this kind of came out like a rant, but either way is like opinions/comments whatever. Thanks for your time. (link)
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Well as long as your on birth control and going to use condoms then you're safe to do it.
As for my opinions and comments,
My opinion on sex is do it when you're ready but don't rush it.
Each woman takes sex differently and feels differently about it afterward.
I know some women who lost their virginity to men they weren't in love with and it wasn't a big deal to them. I know some women who did the same thing and regret it. Some women lost their virginity to get it over with. I don't really like the last one because it's really not something that needs to be "gotten over with".
I don't know you, I don't know how you'll react.
Since this will be your first time, it could possibly hurt a lot. So as long as the guy you're planning this with is willing to move slow and go with what you want, then that's fine.
The thing is, you have feelings for this guy. Which might make it special but I've learned that when you start messing around with a guy that you like and you're not dating, it's just that. There won't be more to it. He'll most likely call you up again for another round but you can't expect more from him.
That's why a lot of girls have a problem when they have sex with a guy they really like. Guys want sex and they love it. Women get their hopes up and then the guy just sees you sexually.
That's why a lot of people will tell you to wait because it hurts when you find out he doesn't like you like that.
But there are times when it's the exception and he feels the same. Although, that kinda makes the relationship weird.
Like, most relationships start off with getting to know each other, going on dates, getting intimate and eventually having sex. But it makes it more weird because you already know each other sexually and then getting to know each other on another level that is more than friends, it's backwards. If that makes any sense.
Anyways, I'm all for it if you can put your feelings aside and not hope for more than friends with benefits.
And I doubt you're ugly, but I've seen some people who aren't considered attractive get a guy or a girl and are completely happy. Even though this society is big on looks, not everyone is that shallow. You'll just have to look hard for the good ones.
Anyways, that's just my opinion and I hoped it helped a little bit. Good luck!
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I've know this guy for almost a year, we used to talk pretty often and hung out a few times. Were both attracted eachother and we hunting about 2 weeks ago and he stayed the night. While we were in bed we started making out and stuff and I told him I wasn't going to have sex with him (because there were other people in the next room) but we continued anyways. He wanted me to give him a blowjob instead of "leaving him hanging" but I didnt want to so I gave him a handjob instead. Since then we've only texted a few times and he always seems busy, his replys are short and really spaced out. Was he just using me and now he's dropping me because he didn't get what he wanted? I'm interested in him but I just feel like I'm bugging him when I text him.
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It does seem like he lost interest because of that.
It's not like you were in the wrong anyways. He isn't a decent guy if he expects things out of you and if he doesn't get them, he drops you.
Guys always want sex but a lot of guys can control it. He shouldn't be ignoring you because of that. You didn't leave him hanging, he should be grateful.
I knew a guy who was like this and then he'd stop talking to me and then when I realized how he was, I stopped texting him and he ended up texting me again.
I mean maybe this guy is really busy. But even if he is, a guy who enjoyed a night with you and messed around with you would take a little bit of time to show he cares rather than act more distant.
If this guy is any good and likes you, he'd make a little more effort. So from here, just decide what you want from him and if he could even give that to you.
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Hi! I am going to a school trip overnight next week, I can't wait to go!
I wonder and wanted to know of what should I bring?
The bus is going to be very cold.
I might get on water rides or just rides.
So any clothes of what should I bring? and etc.
Should I bring snacks like chips, candy and etc..?
It's going from 5:30am to 12:00am Any suggestions? Thanks. (: (Please answer) (link)
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That sounds like fun!
Well, I'd definitely bring a change of clothes just in case you want to change after you get on water rides. Bring a sweater or jacket too. Regular clothes are good, depending on the weather so adjust to that. Just don't dress heavy.
I'd say wear a couple hair ties on your wrist just in case you want your hair up. Braids always help if you have long hair because hair gets messy only rides.
I'd bring snacks for the ride.
Bringing a bag of some sort can be good but at some places you have to pay to put it in a storage thing each time you go on a ride so that can be inconvenient. But if they don't and just have little cubbie holes and you don't mind carrying around a little bag then go for it.
And definitely bring money for food and water. And if you want to get something at a gift shop.
Try not to take a lot of stuff and don't forget your camera!
Have fun!
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