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I'm a mother of 2 boys who are 13 months apart. Talk about a handful. I'm a wife to the best husband I could have ever dreamed of.
I'm one of the very blessed.


I have Bipolar 1 Disorder. I hate taking all these medications and always going to doctors appointments, but life is too short to let mental illness get the better of me.


Often times life is a challenge, and nobody knows that better than me. I wake up wondering if this is going to be a day my illness overpowers my meds, and either sends me flying like a bat out of hell, or leaves me laying on the couch like a wet dish rag.


Thank all that is good in the world that I have an excellent support system at home.
I'm one of the lucky ones.


I'm honest, and that can either be a perk or s flaw. Depends on how you choose to look at it.
I like to see it as a perk, because it's better to hear the truth than to be told candy coated bullshit.






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i heard that you have to sign up for something when you turn 18, otherwise you go to jail or something, what is it?

You have to go to the courthouse and sign up for the military draft. Though the draft is no longer in affect, by law, you still have to sign up for it when you turn 18, if you are a guy, in case they decide to reinstate it.

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there's thei girl and she ruined my life. made all my fiends hate be by telling them lies. she made rumors about me and she even wrote a letter, sent it to my house so my mom would read it and the note said "i over heard your daughter in the bathrrom thursayd and she was telling one of ehr friends that she was having sex with her boyfriend and was trying to get pregnant just so she would make her mother mad" and she signed it with "a concerned friend" which if anyone here believe that i or anyone would ever do that is cazy. i never said that and my mom knows i would never. she didnt belive the letter but just the fact that she would write that is repulsive. now shes going out with my boyfriends best freind of 7 years and she forces him not to talk to my boyfirend. he now can only have friends if they arent friends with me or my bestfreind kayla or the people she picks for him to be friends with. she forces him not to go to work on days shes not doing anything. and when hes off of work she gives him 20 mins to get to her house or she starts calling everyone of him "friends" and gets her brother out looking for him. she is phsyco. and now jake's (my boyfreinds bestfriend) life it totally under watch by this stupid girl. see me and jake were good friends to and he was going to ask me out but my boyfreind now, his b/f asked me first. and now i sort of reget not going out with jake. dont get me wrong i love my boyfriend but jakes life is now runid because of kaitie(his g/f) and now my boyfriend lost his best friend. i guess you could say i hate this girl. and i want them to either shut up with all thier shit they've been saying about me, my firends and my boyfriend ro them to break up. i know someone out there knows good ways to make people break up and i do have morls and i know it isnt a good or nice thing to do but i cant take it anymore. is anyone read my questionslast year i asked some about this girl before. shes a life ruiner. i need then to break up. but i need a plan that would make me look like i did it and a reaaly reaaly really good one that will for sure make jake break up with her. and by the way... at school she is all over every guy. her b/f doesnt go to school there but since hes gone shes all over guys. she even let a boy touch her bobs in school!!! wile she was going out with jake.! ahh i cant say anymore or ill start getting mad. i need help

I fully agree with Razhie- He is allowing her to treat him that way and run his life for him. There is nothing you can do about it but hope he sees it for himself. If you go off trying to break them up, you are most likely going to get him mad at you. He has to see this as being a problem for himself.
I mean, really, the best way for him to learn is from his own mistakes. Sad but true.

As for wanting to ruin her life, why would you want to do that? You hate how she acts, so why sink to her level? Why act like her? Come on. You're better than all that.

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ok so i have a school french project with a partner where we have to put our personality types, likes, and dislikes, and in the middle we have to write what we have in common.. me and my parter have a hot pink poster board and we are planning to take pictures of all the things we wrote and then developing them and putting them on the board...but the thing is, to me it doesnt seem good enough...it seems to boring, because everyone elses is really good with popups and themes (ex ocean) and a whole bunch of stuff..i/we want something different from somebody else, but still cool and makeable in about 5 days (thats our deadline) any ideass?? btw im in grade 8 if thats helpful...

Maybe you have interests that you could put on without taking a picture.
For example, say one of you prefers leather and the other prefers lace. You could paste on a strip of leather and a strip of lace. You know, stuff like that. That way, not only do you have the photos, but you have a crafty quality to it.
Make sense?

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would anyone consider smoking marijuana a drug problem. Not heavy smoking like everyday. but like maybe a few joints a month. they can go without using it for a a few weeks, so yeah, is it a drug problem? thanks a bunch y'all :D

Since it is illegal, it would be probably considered a drug problem to smoke pot.
Personally? Though I would never suggest one use illegal drugs, I would consider someone who used it all the time as someone who has a problem.
Why? There is a big difference in someone who drinks a few times a month and someone who drinks all the time, for example. The one who drinks all the time has an alcohol problem.
However, I think you shouldn't smoke pot because it is illegal and can get you into heaps of trouble.

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when would be a good time to put up a christmas tree? i was thinking firtd day of december, but thats a little early isnt it?

A lot of folks put it up day after Thanksgiving and leave until New Year's Day.
But it's really whenever you WANT to do it. If you feel December 1st is too early, then wait until it feels like the right time to you.
You could put it up Christmas Eve if you wanted to.

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can someone PLEASE tell me the true definition of Anorexia?


Can a 14 year old girl, be 5'2 and weigh 70 pounds, and her BMI was low and she was named 'anorexia'

is that anorexia?
when a person just starves themselfs?
i'm so confused, and i've always wondered, thanks!

This link gives the definition in good detail.
http://www.answers.com/definition+Anorexia+nervosa?cat=health

According to a BMI calculator, at 5'2 and weighing only 70 pounds, said girl would have a BMI of 12.8- 18.5 is the bottom number for healthy weight. 12.8 is underweight and unhealthy.
"A BMI of less than 18.5 is considered underweight. You may not be getting enough of the right foods. This can lead to a weakened immune system, fragile bones, and other health problems."
From the link: http://www.healthatoz.com/healthatoz/Atoz/tl/cl/bmi/bmi.jsp?UserSource=google&Campaign=TOOLS&AdGroup=BMI_CALC&LinkType=search&Creative=01&KeyWord=bmi_calculator

In my opinion, the girl you speak of has a problem and she needs to seek medical attention. She may not have Anorexia Nervosa, but could be suffering from Bulimia, another, similar eating disorder.
Here is a link that tells about bulimia. Scroll down for more info: http://www.answers.com/definition%20bulimia

Even if she doesn't have either disorder, she may have some other medical problem causing her to be so dangerously underweight. She needs to see a doctor right away.


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well recently i measured my heart rate, i am a 14 year old male, turing 15 next week. i play hockey and football. I measured my heart rate twice while resting at diffrent times. by resting i mean calm and sitting. my heart rate was between 65-75 bpm what should it be? and if it isnt good enough what should my goal be and how can i better it

http://www.weather.com/outlook/health/fitness/tools/heartrate
I couldn't calculate it for you because I don't know your weight, but try that link to calculate what your target heart rate should be.

If you feel your heart rate is too fast or too slow, which isn't healthy, you need to seek medical advice from your doctor to find out why and what to do.
The best advice is from someone who is qualified to give it. :)

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the otehr day one of my best guy friends brother told me that he liked me, not the brother. my friend. we get along really good, and we easily talk to eachother. but, he doesnt come off to me as a guy i would date. i mean, we get along great but i like our friendship and i dont want that to get ruined but i also dont want to hurt his feelings.
don't answer this by saying, "tell him you admire our friendship and dont want to ruin it by going out" i've heard that too many times and don't need to hear it again. i just need things to do or say to make him relize that were better off friends.
thanks in advance.

Well, that answer is the true answer. You don't want to beat around the bush about it, for certain.
Tell him the easiest way to lose a friend is to date one.
I mean, the truth is all you can say. He is your friend so he deserves your honesty.
No matter how you say it, he will have hurt feelings, but he will get over it. Better he has hurt feelings now than you date him and he ends up heartbroken.

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i love old bands like.
the beach boys.
savage garden.
& the monkees.
can you name some other good bands and/or songs? :] thanks.

LOL I never thought I would hear Savage Garden being called an old band LOL ;)

Old stuff from times like The Beach Boys:
Jan and Dean
The Mommas and The Pappas
The Beatles
Janis Joplin
Santo and Johnny

I can't think of anymore off the top of my head.

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So my boyfriend and I have been fighting alot lately and it seems like we will be doing fine and then one night he'll say hes going out to the bars with his friends and ill suddenly feel upset. He doesn't understand that that bothers me but it does. I'm 19 and he is 23 and I hate that he can get into the bars and i cant. I dont understand why his friends cant have a party at their place that way i wont be left out :/ Am I overreacting? Is it silly that that bothers me? Because anytime I sound upset that hes going he'll say things like "so are you made that I want to go out with my friends? i havent been out with them in a month" and then Ill be like "well i dont care" when I really do! and "do what you want"

Well, you have to realize he is entitled to his own personal space and time spent with his friends.
I know you feel left out, but you can't honestly expect him to give up his 'guy time' because you can't go to a bar.
I know it sucks, but that's just how it goes sometimes.

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Ive been bestfriends with this girl for two years. We do everything together including work together i see her all the time. Well when i first met her she told me she doesnt smoke or do any kinda drugs. And i believed her and throughout the past two years she has said it many many many times that she doesnt do drugs. She even dropped a friend because they were saying she was doing drugs. Well yesterday i was hanging out with a girl i just started working with she has hung out with my friend a couple times and she told me that my bestfriend smoke weed all the time. She has came into work high as the sky. And i could never tell. I even asked my bestfriends brother if it was true and he said yes she smokes with me all the time.

Im so pissed off how could a bestfriend lie about this i wouldn't in a million years judge her over that and she knows that. I can't say well ya know ___ told me that you smoked weed. I'm very hurt over this and i dont even want to look her in the face for lying to me. Is there anything you guys recommend me doing? thanks

I would confront her. You don't have to tell her who told you- tell her it was a reliable source.
She could have been lying because she still feared your judgment, even if you reassured her you wouldn't judge. Or maybe you have said things here and there about others that would make her feel as if you would judge her.
Either way, you need to let her know that what she personally chooses to do is on her, but the lying needs to stop or the friendship will.
I know you don't want to end your friendship, but what else can you do if you can't trust your friends?

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13/f
ok im really mad right now so i might start like going at it....
my dad is seriously going out of freaking control,
everything that i do..even if its not bad if its just the regular me...he freaking has a freaking spazz at me its freaking driving me insane, and im really sensetive and stuff so it makes me bawl my eyes out everytime that he does things like that. and he hits me in the head like really hard everytime, he doesnt know his strength so it gives me a headache after a while..anyway my question is what do i do about this?? how can i get him to stop, or at least have a little bit more sympathy for me? please dont give me answers like calling child services or the police or anything cuz i dont want to get it into a huge thing, i just want to know what i, myself, can do that in the long run he will soften up on me...
thanx:)

Well, you need to try to talk to him before you do anything else. Try to get to the bottom of his spazz problem. You can't solve the problem if he doesn't tell you what the problem really is.
It could be he is freaking out because you are 13- entering the land of "teenage girl". "Teenage girl" is a thing I think fathers have great fear for.

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I have see nthis famous photo around heaps: http://www.joe-ks.com/archives_jul2004/LighthouseSafety.jpg

Can anyone tell me the name of the lighthouse or where it is or any other info about it?

thankyoul
xx

I can't tell you where it is, but I can give you an idea of where to look and find out.

http://images.google.com/images?q=lighthouse+images&ndsp=20&svnum=10&um=1&hl=en&client=firefox-a&rls=org.mozilla:en-US:official&start=0&sa=N

There are tons of lighthouse pictures here. Scroll through the pages and see if you can find the one you want. When you do, you should be able to link to a website that has the picture getting more information about it.

I would have looked, but there are so many pictures and I don't have the time to look through them all. :(
Good luck! And I hope you find the one you are looking for. It is a cool picture. Also, there is another sort of like it a few pages in... (I did look through about 25 pages)

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alright, so i used to reeeally like this guy and we went to homecoming together. i kind of left it at that because i didn't think i had a chance. but then i found out that he used to like me too. so immediately i want him to like me again haha.

so he came over tonight and (unfortunately) my other friend was there too and she was all over him (i'm not concerned with her, though. believe me, i don't need to be) so i was like whatever because i know they're just friends. so when she left i told him how i thought he was reealllllyyy attractive and i was bummed we didn't get to have a 'snuggle party'. Do you think I was too forward? like i was trying to be all cuddly and stuff

so he was like "okay next week we'll get together and have a different kind of party". i don't know what to do. is that good? or am i coming off as skanky? i'm in no way skanky. not the least bit. like i'm not all that innocent but i'm definitely not a slut.. gahh i dont know what can i do to win him back!??!?!?!

Well, sounds to me like you already have his interests drawn in your direction. I wouldn't fret too much about winning him back.

As for sounding skanky, I don't think it sounds like you sounded that way. Yes, you sounded forward, but there is nothing wrong with that.

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I'm thinking about getting a tattoo (not at this moment, but within a few years)and I'm wondering where the area of least pain is. I understand its different for everyone and it's always painful to some extent, but is it true that it's less painful on more fleshy parts of your body and more on bone-y parts? I was thinking about getting it on my wrist...

http://www.umcs.org/chrismons/patterns/triquetr.gif

that but very small (like no more then an inch and a half all around) It represents the trinity, which is meaningful to me, and I want to represent my irish heritage so I was wondering if anyone knew what "past, present, future" was in irish/gaelic, or "father, son, holy spirit" or "simply blessed"
Those words would go around the triquetra.

I also want my ears piereced, but the problem is I've had them piereced twice but the holes closed both times (both because I got an infection and had to take the earrings out for a period of time)Do you think I'm just unable to have earrings? Is scar tissue a problem? I always wore hypoallergenic earrings and cleaned my ears once a day, so I really don't understand it.
Sorry for the long questions and thanks to all those who answer!

As for the tattoo, I don't know. I have one on my shoulder and it wasn't bad at all. Sitting still for all that time was the worst part of it.

As for the earrings, I don't know that scar tissue would be a problem. If it is, it is a very small pin hole of scar tissue, and they can pierce next to it.

Hypo-allergenic earrings don't work for me either. I use either sterling silver or gold. Sterling silver is less pricey, of course, though I got a nice pair of gold hoops for $20 at Target. But they are good metals that have never given me a problem.
Avoid pewter, etc. I don't buy it unless it says "sterling silver" or "X amount karat gold."

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i am on a birth control pill. not for sexual reasons, its for period issues. i missed my pill the other day, but i took it the following day. i am somewhat on my period now, since i missed that day, like only a little, and i have horrible cramps! i took the pill within like a day and i only missed one. shouldnt my period be going away now? its been like 3 days. and also, i dont remember because i haven't had a period in FOREVER! but i have a lot of gas lately! ever since i missed my pill. its like bad haha. is this part of having your period? thanks!!

If it is too much of a problem and your cramps are severe, you may want to call your doctor and ask about it. They will give you the best advice on this.

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Ok so i've been trying to get my life back on track now and it seems to be falling in place i've been a better person and i like the person i'm turning out to be me and my friends have so much to say about things and i really think we could make a difference anyway my question here is whats a way we could really make a difference and make people notice us and notice we have many good talents and i'm not trying to brag or anything cause i know there are people out there that have better talents then us or whatever but we want to be noticed in a positive way we've been acting differently and we are better people now or are working at it any suggestions

Personally, I say that the best way to be noticed for changing your lives in a positive way is to not try to throw yourselves in the spotlight. People WILL notice you are good folks just by your actions.

As for your talents, I have no clue as to what they are to suggest what to do with them.

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My boyfriend of 9 months i think has changed. I dont know if it's b/c we had sex 2 months ago or b/c of football but heu sed to treat me soooo good. we used to be the best couples out there. then things started getting rough. He got caguht for chewing and he swore on our relatioship and PROMISED me he wouldnt ever do it again and he did. So he got grounded for 2 weeks and the next day i flirted with someone he hates b/c hes the most popluar guy in the school and i was mad at my boyfriend. but the next day people told him i cheated on him which i didnt i made a point not to b/c i love my boyfriend but it took him a while but he trusted me. Now im asking him what makes me trust him now that he isnt going to lie to me when he chews again and everytime i say that he turns it back on me and how i flirted. I DIDNT CHEAT ON HIM THOUGH. And he hung up without saying i love you he just screamed and hung up and i cant talk to him until tomorrow now. he never goes to bed mad at me which is why i think hes changing. what should i do from here. anything i say to him he yells and turns it back on me. this is a serious problem b/c im the one left crying all the time please help me.

Well, first off, your best bet would be to stop throwing the whole chewing thing up in his face. NEVER ask and expect someone to quit smoking, chewing, drinking, or any of that other bad stuff for your benefit. Why? Because they won't stop unless they realize themselves that they must do it for themselves.
If you quit throwing that up in his face, then he will surely quit throwing the whole flirting issue into yours. I mean, if you keep reminding him you don't trust him about tobacco, he will keep reminding you that maybe he shouldn't trust you. Even if you really did nothing wrong, it is your word against theirs. Right?
Best bet? Learn not to fight over things that aren't worth fighting over. If he chooses to chew, then you have to either accept him or move on. It isn't worth fighting with him about.
Make sense?

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I'm 16/f
I've only ever had two boyfriends, one for almost 5 months, and the one I'm dating now for 1.
Well, we've only been dating for one, but we've been best friends for a year. And we both knew we liked each other while we weren't dating.
Well I've never dated a virgin, including my boyfriend now, and he always teases me about how he's ready for some with me.
And I mean, I don't know if I have a problem with it. I mean, I love him, I've known him for a year.
I am afraid though, of what could happen. You know? I have a lot going for me and don't want to get pregnant. I've also only been to second base before, so the nether regions are a new thing.
I know we should work up to that, and I was fully intending to.
I guess, how do I show my affection in a way to show him that I'm willing to have sex, just not right this second? I think we should work our way there.

Well, you need to TELL him how you feel. I mean, you don't want to make moves that you feel are showing this and have him feel like you are teasing him or something.
He is your best friend, so he will understand where you are coming from if you just say to him "Look, man, I want to, but I can't right now." Explain to him why you can't.

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hi! i'm new to this whole shopping business. need to get some christmas shopping done :)

do i need to be early at stores like best buy/comp usa/circuit city to get the best deals? or can i go anytime? is there a limit to how much the stores will sell? whats going on?

You need to go as early as possible or you run an extremely high risk of the sale items being gone.

Never been Black Friday shopping? Bring a helmet. Sale shoppers turn animal on Black Friday. ;)

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