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my boyfriend of 9 months is different.
My boyfriend of 9 months i think has changed. I dont know if it's b/c we had sex 2 months ago or b/c of football but heu sed to treat me soooo good. we used to be the best couples out there. then things started getting rough. He got caguht for chewing and he swore on our relatioship and PROMISED me he wouldnt ever do it again and he did. So he got grounded for 2 weeks and the next day i flirted with someone he hates b/c hes the most popluar guy in the school and i was mad at my boyfriend. but the next day people told him i cheated on him which i didnt i made a point not to b/c i love my boyfriend but it took him a while but he trusted me. Now im asking him what makes me trust him now that he isnt going to lie to me when he chews again and everytime i say that he turns it back on me and how i flirted. I DIDNT CHEAT ON HIM THOUGH. And he hung up without saying i love you he just screamed and hung up and i cant talk to him until tomorrow now. he never goes to bed mad at me which is why i think hes changing. what should i do from here. anything i say to him he yells and turns it back on me. this is a serious problem b/c im the one left crying all the time please help me.
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aww im sorry. you should take time off from the relationship or just give him a few days to get his head straight(but tell him)...if you want to take time off just tell him..i know thats a hard thing to do because ive been dating my guy for 8 months..itd have to be really bad 4 me to leave him.
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Someone who chews won't change that for you. Things like drugs, alcahol and smoking take priority over relationships. The physical and mental effects these things have on a person are extremely strong. Your boyfriend is a chewer. Do you want him to think you accept him hurting himself(by chewing)? Or would you rather move on to find someone else with values more similar to your own? Since you love your boyfriend, this will be a hard choice to make. But sometimes, to show someone you love them, you HAVE to leave them. I guess it just depends on what you want for yourself and what you want for him.
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Well, first off, your best bet would be to stop throwing the whole chewing thing up in his face. NEVER ask and expect someone to quit smoking, chewing, drinking, or any of that other bad stuff for your benefit. Why? Because they won't stop unless they realize themselves that they must do it for themselves.
If you quit throwing that up in his face, then he will surely quit throwing the whole flirting issue into yours. I mean, if you keep reminding him you don't trust him about tobacco, he will keep reminding you that maybe he shouldn't trust you. Even if you really did nothing wrong, it is your word against theirs. Right?
Best bet? Learn not to fight over things that aren't worth fighting over. If he chooses to chew, then you have to either accept him or move on. It isn't worth fighting with him about.
Make sense?
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well he's hurt since he heard it from other people he doesnt know what really happened. To me it sounds like he's stressed. Let him sleep mad he'll spend the night thinking on what he's doing and what needs to be done. When you try to talk time him approach him calmly and let himknow what happened. Since yo didnt cheat on him, he has nothing to be upset about.
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