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bestfriend has lied to me for 2 years,
Ive been bestfriends with this girl for two years. We do everything together including work together i see her all the time. Well when i first met her she told me she doesnt smoke or do any kinda drugs. And i believed her and throughout the past two years she has said it many many many times that she doesnt do drugs. She even dropped a friend because they were saying she was doing drugs. Well yesterday i was hanging out with a girl i just started working with she has hung out with my friend a couple times and she told me that my bestfriend smoke weed all the time. She has came into work high as the sky. And i could never tell. I even asked my bestfriends brother if it was true and he said yes she smokes with me all the time.
Im so pissed off how could a bestfriend lie about this i wouldn't in a million years judge her over that and she knows that. I can't say well ya know ___ told me that you smoked weed. I'm very hurt over this and i dont even want to look her in the face for lying to me. Is there anything you guys recommend me doing? thanks
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i understand your anger, but i also understand what her reasoning probably is. your probably a great friend to her and she doesnt want to lose you just because she smokes weed. confront her about it and ensure her you will still be her best friend, but you need her to be honest about everything from now on
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Talk to her about it.
First of all, dont believe something someone told you about someone else unless you have some level of proof involved.
Second, if its not something youd judge her for, she may not neccesarily know that. It seems obvious, but she might have been scared.
If she didnt tell you, it was because she was scared of something happening. This isnt something that should destroy a friendship, just talk to her about it and tell her that she should trust you more, you arent going to ditch her over something like that.
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I would confront her. You don't have to tell her who told you- tell her it was a reliable source.
She could have been lying because she still feared your judgment, even if you reassured her you wouldn't judge. Or maybe you have said things here and there about others that would make her feel as if you would judge her.
Either way, you need to let her know that what she personally chooses to do is on her, but the lying needs to stop or the friendship will.
I know you don't want to end your friendship, but what else can you do if you can't trust your friends?
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