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If you just started going out with a boy and you wanted to kiss him is it to soon?

I personally would wait a little while or until he kisses you. some people kiss after a week... some wait 6 months. it's up to you really.

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K, i broke up with my girlfriend because i was confused, i had a lot going on at home (parents getting divorced, brother and sister fighting constantly) and im the oldest... so all the pressure falls on me... and so i couldnt handle it, i was confused, and for some reason my confusion went to my feelings for her.. and now (2 weeks later) i miss her tremendously.. one of my football coaches asked me if someone in my family has died because of how i have been acting... The truth is, ive been down cause of her, and i called her the other day to try to get her back, but she said she doesnt trust me, and i made a stupid promise to her that said "i will never hurt you" when in fact i did.. and right now it is killing me, when i talked to her she siad no... what can i do to get her back??

Sorry for the long question...thanks!

you poor thing! :(
i think you two should go out to dinner or just somewhere you can talk things over. a movie would be easier to get her to but won't really give you a chance to talk things over. i like the one idea about writting her a letter. It's more personal than email or IM.
butttt.. if she simply doesn't want you in her life anymore, know when to give up. there are other people out there that will mean a lot to you. don't kill yourself over this, i'm sure you are better than that!

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I am female, 15 years old, 5'2 ish and 136 pounds. How much weight would it be necessary to loose to be average? Don't tell me to get a doctor's opinion, I already have, but I want to know what you guys think. I'll rate; Thanks in advance!

At 5'2, i was good at 120-123. that's my opinion... different people are built differently so you might look awesome at 130.

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I shave like once a week...sometimes twice a week and sometimes once in 2 weeks. Anyway my legs don't really itch but right now they itch ALOOT! Since I shaved I used st ives whipped silk and jergens extra healing. Wen I don't itch it it urges me to and then wen I do I get EXTRAA red bumps and more urges to itch. I know it's dry skin but is there something I can buy to cool it down?...like lanacane or something?

i think you're having an allergic reaction to something you are using on your legs. I can't use shaving cream because that happens to me and I only use unscented lotion. try some other products and see if that works.

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ok this is like super embarrasing but ok i sweat A LOT ok like not even when im playing sports like NO MATTER WHAT!! is there any type of deoterant that has like EXTRA protection to make me not sweat? because i have like huge rings around my shirts, so i try to wear sweatshirts, which make me hotter but then you cant tell that i am sweating like a pig..so yeah please get back to me on this!

Well i read about something like this in a magazine once and it's a disorder that can be cured so see your doctor. either that or they can prescribe a stroger deoderant for you. take care!

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Hi. I am 14. My mom is VERY hard to work with. I have talked about shaving before, and she says "Why honey? Who do you need to impress?" I dont want to impress anyone I just want to shave. Well, if you can help me try and talk her into it or something. THANKS~

oh god. my mom was liek that too when I was 11/12. i finally got to her with "it's so embarrassing!" and tell her it's lowering your self esteem... she should understand.

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i've been dying to now: in Rent the movie what r they talking about when they talk about baggage. cuz it comes up so many times and i dont kno wat it is. its been killing me!

baggage! ok the way in enterpret it is as like the things in their past and the fact that they got AIDS... roger finds out mimi has AIDS after la vie boheme. that's my best guess.

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14/f
i've never really been like, close with my mom. like we're not really friends. but umm i just got my period and ummmmm i know i have to like tell her sometime! but i don't know how because it would be soo embaressing. should i just tell her or like...? idk!

i was the same way! we were at the store like the day after i got it (i was also 14) and i was like "mom...i think we need to get some pads" and she's like "oh,ok". it was painless. just tell her, it's not bad.

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i tried out for a play for the first time. i was so suprised when i actually started reading the poem we were supposed to recite because i actually felt more comfortable with people watching me and i wasnt nervous at all and i think i did good... then the director said "thats exactly what i wanted" or something like that. then, the next person up he said "see how jackie did it? :)" in a good way. does that mean i'll get a part in the play?? or is he just being nice???

sometimes what the directors say can be misleading. I had the directors really digging what i was doing and i got called back. after that, i didn't even get a small part. just wait and see because it really depends on the person.

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Hi all! Okay, so I am usually great at this, but for some reason for this show I cannot pick/find a song to sing. I agreed to be in a talent show that is a fundraiser. I love to sing, and I can sing anything. I'm hoping to do something where I can belt, but I don't mind not. If you have any suggestions I'd LOVE them. I love ballads, don't really want a dance number. Any time period is fine. Thank You!!!!

angels by jessica simpson... great one to belt. i won a cometition with it.

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But there are no more math conferences my school has to offer for the rest of the year! They said "this is the last math conference." And he lives 80 miles away! I don't know anyone who talked to him. And next year he'll be at a high school at god-knows-where and will be too old to qualify for this particular conference. I will definitely not see him again. What a shame I didn't get his AIM while I still saw him. How do I get over him? The guys at my private school are really not my type and not into me anyway.

Oooh that sucks!
well i've seen this happen several times actually, ask the principal of his school for his number. one of my teachers did that in high school. she called the school and said she had a crush on the guy and they gave it to her. if you really like him, call him. you have nothing to lose. he lives far away so even if he thinks it was weird, you dont have to see him the next day. once you call him once, you can ask for is sn and thats out of the way.
buttt if you really want to get over him, just look for other people, put him behind you like it was just a little thing way back in the past.

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I met this guy at a series of math conferences. He's really cute, fun to talk to, and really smart. During the conference breaks, we basically spent the whole time talking and hanging out. I know this sounds ridiculous, but...I have a crush on him now. The only problem is---I'll probably never see him again. He goes to school in a different county. How should I get over him?

I know this makes me sound like a moronic, blathering idiot, but at least I can find some advice here without anyone actually knowing who I am.

Interesting. first things first-- go to another math conference! ask anyone who talked to him if they have his number. if you know his name and the school, find someone that has a directory and look up his number. counties aren't that far away... once you get his number (i'm assuming you don't have it already) you can meet up somewhere or have him over and you can hang and eventually go out. let me know if you need me!

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I really like abercrombies clothes but they are really expensive but abercrombie kids in fairly reasonable and i was wondering if i had a chance to fit into their clothes. i wear a small/medium now in juniors and the only reason i switched to juniors about 4 years ago is because all the clothes just didnt fit right like the pants werent long enough and the shirts were loose and stuff. well i know abercrombies clothes fit tightly both kids and juniors so do i have a chance to fit into their clothes?

the nearest abercrombie kids to me is like 45 mins away and i dont wanna drive there if i dont have any chance? any ideas?

Wearing a 3/5 in Juniors, you could wear a Large/XL in juniors. my friend has them and they are really tight but they fit.

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hey okay i tried doing what you said and its a little easier but still just so hard. i am strongly considering cheating. my question is..is cheating okay if youve tried really hard and it just wont click??

well I personally do it, but people on here will kill me if I encourage it. what you do is study things you don't know....put them really small on a notecard like if you were allowed to use it on a test. by writing them down, they will seem easier. then pick out the things you still cant memorize and put those on your thigh or write them on the desk in pencil.

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Okay so i've got a BIGGG habit of biting my nails! what can i do to stop? and don't tell me to put my hand in dog poo or anything like that because thats gross lol!

thankyou sweeties xo

if you can't get your nails done of that won't stop you, think of all the crap thats under your nail. you miss that area when you was your hands. think of all the stuff you've touched that you don't want going into yourmouth. ewww. that stopped me!

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What do you do if you have a test in a class and just dont understand anything? And the teacher, your parents, and tutors just cant explain it well enough to get it?? Im so worried and sad about a test coming up because I dont understand it! Its history, too, so its memorizing too and I just dont get it! I seriously think Im going to fail this test.

memorize everything you can. if its about countries fighting each other, relate it to people you know or celebrities. make a chart... brittany = germany...she did these things in the war, etc.
I don't want to encourage it, but you could cheat. (bad, risky...)
let me know if you need me.

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well im 15/f and i think i want to go to a away from home (boarding)school next year. i have many reasons for this one being i just dont really like to be at my house anymore (family issues) another being i dont really like my school&most of the people. i am friends with alot of people but i just want to get out of here, well for a while anyway.

i have to ask how can i apporach my mother or father about this?

if i didnt like it at any point would i be able to return to my school? or do parents pay at the beginning?


are they eally strict? like are there really early curfews and stuff?

well, I don't know anything about boarding school besides that it's expensive. a lot of schools sound stricter than they really are...that's what i've found for the most part. maybe you could try going somewhere as a foreign exchange student for a year and see if you like that. I might try that nextyear because I also have issues. good luck, lemme know if you need anything!

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My whole life I've been striving for a goal and working really hard in school, and ive been doing good. But lately, the last two years to be exact, ever since i changed schools, i have been doing worse, and I feel that all my hard work is lost because the last two most important years of my schooling have stunk. I feel like i lost my dream.

If youhave a bad year or two, get back in the game and keep trying! don't give up! there are always years when everything goes wrong but you learn from them. stick to your dreams!

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ok so i just got $360 for my sweet sixteen but i cant think of anything to spend it on besides clothes!! help..what else can i get. any ideas?

save up for a car, redecorate your room, a purse, save up for a laptop or something. that's what i would do!

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My hair is abnormally thick and is really wavy. I want to be able to wear it down instead of in a ponytail all the time. But t takes like an hour and a half to straighten and i dont have time to do that every morning before school. Are there any products i can use or any ways i can style it?
(oh, and it also gets very frizzy when i wear it down)

my hair is also pretty wild... what i do is take a shower so my hair is really wet then i blowdry with a brush...its a lot faster then using a straightner on dry hair. hairspray is good. hope that works for you!

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