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Sex..... I'm 13, I'm a guy lol,I'm from USA (New York), and willing to have sex. if I ask a girl I really know well, she's sometimes horny and wants to have sex ; i think if I ask her, she will say no and she might tell her friends or say I'm a pervert and slap me. What do I do? ( if it doesn't make sense well my bad because I didn't know how to say it out ;) .) (link)
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Most girls around your age won't have sex with you. If you think she will say no, then don't ask her. There is no she might tell her friends, she will tell her friends. Girls like gossip, and if a guy asks them to have sex, she will tell her friends. She might even tell an adult so I wouldn't risk it.
Plus young teenage girls aren't normally on birth control. So it would end up worse if you got a girl pregnant.
So the best thing to do is wait. Wait until you find a girl you actually like and you date. It's just better to be safe than sorry.
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Yo wassup? I'm 13 years old, living in NY. I'm a guy.
Many of my friends got girlfriends. They say they had sex with them . I'm the only one that haven't had sex yet. My problem is I want to have sex with someone but I don't know with who or how to solve the sex problem about my friends.
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Like everyone else said, they are probably lying. Most 13 year old girls won't have sex with their boyfriends. It's normally when they are much older.
I think it's good that you haven't had sex yet, I mean it's a really intimate thing.
Besides that, having sex because everyone else is doing it is called peer pressure.
So they're probably lying and it's better to wait so that no problems will happen.
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i want to die ??? help (link)
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I don't know what your situation is, but just know that you're not the only one who feels this way.
And really, everyone deserves to be happy.
So I'm sure you realize that other people have gone through what you are going through and they can make it out fine.
What you need to do is talk to someone about it. Go talk to a counselor or go to the hospital. They will get you help.
This is also the suicide prevention number, 1-800-273-8255
Please call them and they will also help you.
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Im 16 and all of my friends have had their "time of the month." I havent. I really feel bad because im dating this guy and he tries to to intimate but i dot know if i should get intimate. Would it effect me at all if i would have sex even though i havent had my period? (link)
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It depends on what you're asking what it would effect.
If you're asking if you could get pregnant, I've looked into this awhile ago and saw that it would be possible to get pregnant. So if you do go through with this, use condoms. I wouldn't suggest it though since you wouldn't be able to get on birth control because you haven't had your period. It is better to be safe than sorry.
And as for it effecting your body, it would hurt ten times more. I mean it hurts girls who are 13 and have barely started their periods. So your body is still developing, it will hurt like crazy.
Honestly, I would wait awhile because it doesn't sound worth it right now. You could end up pregnant and it just won't be enjoyable.
Anyways, I hope this answers your question. Other than those effects, everything else would be the same as anyone else (emotional stuff, STDs, ect)
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I'm in a rough situation right now, and it keeps happening because I can't "think before I speak"... The situation won't help with the question, by the way. But I really need to know how to think before I speak because I just speak and don't think... I know that's weird and confusing but please tell me how I can think before I speak. Help asap please, thanks. (link)
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This is a tough thing to overcome because it obviously won't happen overnight.
You really need to work on it and stand by it. So when you're talking to someone normally, nothing tense going on, practice pausing and thinking through what you say.
So then in tense conversations, you won't just blurt out the first thing that comes into your head.
Honestly, it's really just self control. You need to train yourself how to control yourself.
When you realize you're in one of those situations, relax. Then let them say whatever it is they are going to say, don't say anything, think about it, then speak.
Over time you'll get better, just keep working on it.
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How can i avoid my cheating boy friend (link)
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You don't talk to him. It's no different to ignore anyone else.
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No real names/places are being used in this.
Hi.
So, my great-grandmother who lives in Kentucky recently passed away on Thursday. I was supposed to be going out of town Sunday morning and coming back Monday night. Last minute, my dad wasn't able to get off work so we weren't able to make it. (This is in June.) April 29th, I had a "one night stand" with a guy who means nothing to me. In May, my period came super late. I was worried, thinking I was pregnant, but then my period came at the VERY end of the month so I thought I was fine. I've been seeing a new guy, "Kyle." Well, the Thursday I found out my grandmother had passed away, I took a cheap pregnancy test a friend had because I was feeling sick and had been throwing up. When I see cheap, I really mean a cheap dollar store one she had at home. It came back positive. I was really scared and confused. Instead of telling my boyfriend and friends that I wasn't going out of town, I made them believe I was still just so I could lay in bed those two days and think about everything. A friend of mine ended up going to my boyfriend and friend, Kelsey, apartment and told them I wasn't out of town. Now they all hate me. I tried apologizing and telling them why I did it, but they hate me. It wasn't intended to hurt them or anything. It just gave me a day or two by myself without anyone asking questions.
Please help me. What do I do? (link)
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You can't really do anything else. You already apologized. So just give them some time. If they were real friends, they will come around. We've all had friends lie to us and everybody messes up sometimes so if they really were your friends, they'll forgive you and you all will move on.
If they hold this on you forever, they weren't real friends.
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background: straight girl, 16 years old, sophmre in hs
Febuary of this year my best freind Lisa decided to introduce me to this girl Mia over skype. Lisa and Mia had met a concert, and Lisa thought me and Mia would get along pretty well. Side note, this wasnt for like a "hookup" dating wise, just as freinds.
Anyway, I started talking to Mia more than Lisa ever planned. Mia and I just got along very nicley, and had many simmiliarties. Only thing was, she is a sohpmore in college (age difference) and lives in a different state. Either way, i really enjoyed talking to her. Soon enough, we were telling eachother everything...including when Mia told me she was gay. this did not bother me tho, i am extremely confortable with my sexuality as a straight girl and my new knowledge of her sexuality did not affect me my view on her in any way.
But than, I started getting theese weird thoughts. It happended after a long skype girl with Mia I had had in which I was venting abotu some drama. I had a sorta "day dream" about us together. and I sort of liked it.
Theese thoughts continued on, but i just chose not to tell her. I figured why mess things up, and also I decided it was only natural to have a few day dreams here and there for someone if you care about ..and anyway, what if we never met? There would be no point to tell her I liked her if we would only keep it through the interent/ texting. So i just didnt
But last night, i messed up. and told her that i had a dream about us holding hands...and that that night, I had feelings for her.
Now, we are talking about "us" as an item, and she seems intrestsed. But i dont no. first off, i am confused myself at this. I can say that i really like her, but how do i fully know without meeting her? it also doesnt help that she is a girl, and before this, i would have never found myself interested in the same sex.
So.
what do I do?
Mia wants a relationship. She says i have to be optimistic.
But..
I dont no. I can't tell if i don't want one because I think long ditance things never work( what i keep telling myself)
or because i am in denial of liking the same sex
please help!
ps...if u need any more details..please include them in your answer, and i will reply back.
Thanks !
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Long distant relationships are really hard. Because if you never get to see them or you have no plans on seeing them soon, it can ruin it.
It would be different if you guys knew each other in person first. Your relationship will just consist of texting, the internet and phone calls. Which isn't so bad if you have a plan to see each other, but since you're still in high school, that makes it hard.
Then of course since you're so young, you miss the experience of dating. Which is a lot of fun to learn about when you are in high school.
Anyways, I would look at the pros and cons.
First I would look more into your sexuality. You don't want to get into a relationship with her when you're still confused. You need to figure that out first before you consider the relationship.
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I have trouble dealing with my shyness. It prevents me from making friends and asking girls out what should I do? (link)
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A lot of people have a problem with being shy. There is nothing wrong with being shy, it only becomes a problem when it prevents you from making friends like you said.
So you need to realize that you need to get out of your comfort zone. It will be extremely hard but that's the way out. I like what Dragonflymagic had to say about it. It's good with starting out slow and then working your way to more. It's taking baby steps.
What most people are afraid of is being judged. Which might be your case because you're thinking too much about what will they think of you if you say hi.
But honestly, most people are thinking about themselves. They're normally more consumed thinking about themselves rather than thinking about what someone else is doing.
So you need to also stop caring about what other people think. That is a hard thing to do. But if you work on it, eventually you'll feel more comfortable with people.
So start slow, keep working on it and then you won't be so shy anymore.
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I am a 13 year old girl and have gotten my period since I was 11. My period comes from the first through the seventh of each month. I know that it's irregular for the first few years, but in the last few years I have never been a day late. I'm not sexually active and I don't even masturbate! Is this bad? Should I be worried? (link)
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Lots of things change the timing of your period. Stress, exercise, the way you eat, ect.
I don't think you should be worried but just to make sure and be safe, I'd suggest talking to your mom or go to a gynecologist. A gynecologist can check and make sure that nothing is wrong. Only we can make guesses but they will know for sure why this is happening.
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Ok so im 14/f and the boy is 13. Im going to highschool next year and weve reccently started flirting alot. Ive liked him for about a year now. 2 nights ago we were at a school trip to a 4 day camp and on the last bonfire day, we sat together. He held my hand and pulled me closer because I was shivering, he put his arm around me and gave me hugs after we had to go to bed. I like him alot and he likes me alot. Problem is that we wont get to see each other very much after school ends. He wants to date me but in highschool. I dont really think it will end up being that way because ive ben in the situation with my ex boyfriend. I want to date him so badly. Hes the perfect guy for me and everytime I felt like moving on, something didnt let me inside. We are going to hangout soon alone and he really wants to kiss or makeout with me. Im ready for that. But I want it to last forever. What can I do to keep our relationship strong until hes in highschool? (link)
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Ok so you want advice on how to keep your relationship strong until he's in high school? It will definitely be hard but the best thing to do is keep in touch. Talk on the phone, text, and hang out on weekends. You don't need to move really fast like a lot of couples your age do. You don't need to text all the time, or talk on the phone all the time. That could end up ruining it because one of you will get bored. So do it every once in awhile but also have a life for yourself. Just don't let your world revolve around him.
So what is the situation with your ex boyfriend? Are you considering dating him again or something? I just don't understand that part.
Well since I gave you the advice on keeping the relationship strong, I'm going to talk more about the bad things that might happen.
I'm sure you're aware that couples that are your age don't normally last forever. Normally you'll have a few boyfriends in high school and even then, most high school relationships don't last. Mostly because you're growing up, and people start changing. You won't be the same person you are now and neither will he. You might change what you're looking for and he might not be that. So keep that in mind before you start jumping to being together forever. Then of course there is college and that's when relationships become more serious.
I'm not saying that it's impossible because I know a happy couple who knew each other in 8th grade and ending up dating when they were sophomores in high school and ended up together for 20+ years. But that's if you are lucky and they were both headed in the same direction.
So that's just reality and making sure you knew all that. Just enjoy yourself for right now and when you guys become more serious, then start thinking about forever. Just talk to him and get to know him before you guys "fall in love".
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Also explained how she feels to be locked up. I asked her why she is telling her these things and she said she wants her daughter to know the truth. That is understandable do you think so? (link)
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Yes, that's understandable. I mean she's in prison, she's obviously going to feel locked up and it's good for her daughter to know that you won't feel good about being there.
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Hi, i'm a 20 yr old girl, well there's this guy who friended me on facebook, i figured tht since i was in a relationship with my thn boyfriend 2 years ago, i told him tht i had a bf, but still tht guy and i became really good friends. Later i found out that my boyfriend cheated on me and went a person who tried taking advantage of me. So i did go through depression for a while, he was there to kinda like check on me, and i really admired tht. Then suddenly he said tht he was in love with me, so i lectured him tht we were like best friends and still havn't forgotten abt my previous relationship. I switched of my cell and deactivated my facebook account, later whn i switched on the phone aftr a day, he texted me saying he was joking. So we went on fr a while like strangers, then one day he said "i can't take this anymore, can't handle my heart broken again nd again, again i adviced why its wrong, he again said tht he was pranking me. Thn he avoided me fr a while and thn he calls, avoids and again calls. Why? (link)
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Do you know him in person or just on Facebook?
If you only know him through Facebook, he's probably just into you because he obviously can't be in love with someone he's never met. Even if you talk to someone all the time, you only know what he tells you, and vice versa.
Honestly, what he's doing is really immature. He'll pull some random stunt and tell you he's in love with you (which he may think he is, he might really like you or he could just be really bored) and then he avoids you. Avoiding people is immature.
If he really does have feelings for you, he's handling it wrong. He's acting like an elementary or middle school student. If they tell someone they like them and the person doesn't return the feelings they'll be like, "Oh I was joking!" That's not how an adult should be acting.
Anyways, so he could actually like you and then pull a little kid act or he's just being stupid.
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I can't seem to get a girlfriend. They all seem to ignore me. And after countless attempts by my friend I'm ready to get advice. So how do I get a girl to talk to me? Maybe go on a date? (link)
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Start by being friends with them. I mean obviously a girl isn't going to say yes to a guy she hardly knows. So to become close to a girl, you'll be closer to getting a girlfriend.
It would really help more to know your age though.
You don't have to get a girl to talk to you. You need to talk to them. Introduce yourself. If you're in school, talk about schoolwork, teachers, ect. Girls like to be complimented. Don't shower one with a bunch of compliments but maybe compliment her eyes or her shirt or jewelry. Also, you don't want to ramble on about yourself. People like to talk about themselves.
You make friends with a girl the same way you make friends with a guy. Although if you talk to your guy friends about gross or inappropriate things, just leave that stuff out.
Once you make friends with a girl, then ask her on a date to the movies or some other activity. If she says no, there are plenty other girls in the world.
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Im 13 and my boyfriend and have bren dating for 7 months now, and we haven't broken the touvh barrier yet. We hugged twice and thats about it (link)
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Just start with holding his hand or giving him a hug. You guys have only hugged twice so just try to do it more often.
He's probably just as nervous as you are so don't freak out. If you're sitting by him or walking next to him, hold out your hand. When you're greeting him or saying goodbye, give him a hug. He definitely won't have a problem with it.
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All my friends have had sex but me. Probably because they have girlfriends but still. What must I do to get a girl to have sex with me? (link)
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You can't make a girl have sex with you.
Also, having sex because your friends do is kinda lame. You'd be doing it just to fit in or be cool. And getting a girl to like you and just to have sex would be using her and then you'd get a bad reputation.
They probably get to have sex because they treat their girlfriends good and are nice and sweet. Girls need to feel cared about and loved.
Sex is an intimate thing and no respecting girl will have sex with you just because your friends do it.
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Im 16 my boyfriend is 17 and we have been dating for almost a year. I love him alot and we never get into fights. He is so sweet to me but sometimes i feel like he relies on me too much for sexual pleasure. He isnt a pervert by any means(trust me i have already expireienced those..) and my parents love him. The other thing that annoys me the most though is when we are texting and then he just stops in the middle of a conversation or he takes 30 minutes to respond... i have talked to him about this before and he tries to make improvements but it still hapens all the time. When we hang out together we always have a great time though and i love him alot. So should i break up with him or not? Is that a good enough reason to.break up with him or is that unfair? (link)
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Have you talked to him about the sexual stuff? If you haven't, that's where you should start. Explain to him why you feel like he relies on you too much for it.
I actually did used to feel that way with my boyfriend. We would mess around a lot during the beginning of our relationship but since we talked, it's been at a good medium for the both of us. So that's how you should be with him, where it's more comfortable for both of you.
As for the texting, if he tries to make improvements, that's really good. Some girls try talking to their guy about it and they never even try to work on it.
I don't really want to keep using myself as an example but my boyfriend used to text me a lot, all the time. We've been together for almost two years and we hardly text because he just doesn't like texting. Every once in awhile we'll have a good conversation over texting but it's not often.
So maybe try phone calls more or just text every once in awhile.
You should break up with him if you are unhappy with the relationship and if you're unhappy with him. If these two things are going to make you so unhappy that you don't want to date him anymore, then that's fine. But just make sure you remember that no relationship will be absolutely perfect.
So just take your time to figure out if you can handle it or if you can compromise with him.
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England. Female. 16.
I've been dating a guy for a couple of weeks now. We were friends for almost over a year. I've always dated the boys that had the bad side to them, I always seemed to be attracted to them, even though all of those relationships ended badly. However, the guy I'm currently dating, he wanted to be with me for ages, but I just somehow wasn't attracted to him in any way shape or form. He's one of those good guys, he's so nice, sometimes I think too nice. He does make me laugh, he encourages me to do things I never would of thought I had the ability to do. The thing is, I don't know whether I'm doing the right thing by being with him. But, if I wasn't with him, I think I'd miss him. It's like I want to be with him, but I don't. The littlest things he does, sometimes really annoy me. Like, the way he's so clumsy, the way he just falls asleep whilst texting. I don't know what is going through my head. Is he just a friend? What can I do? I'm unsure about my feelings. (link)
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These kinds of situations are tough because only you can figure out how you feel about him.
He does sound like a great guy but if you don't have feelings for him, maybe you only see him as a friend.
It's obvious you don't want the types of guys from the past because each relationship ended badly because most boys who have a bad side to them, aren't fit to be boyfriends.
So I think you need an in between. A guy who can actually be a good boyfriend, who is good to you, treats you well and loves you but also a guy who is bold and spontaneous, sometimes unpredictable.
What you should do is take time off. Spend time away from him for awhile till you get your feelings sorted out. If you feel like you won't be happy with him and you don't feel anything for him then let him go.
I think with every person you date, there will be something that will bother you. Nobody is perfect so you can't expect your boyfriend to be. But the reason why those small things don't break couples up is because they work through them and try to see past it. They don't let it affect the relationship.
So you can't change that he is clumsy. That would be something you would have to live with. As for the texting and falling asleep, that should be something you should talk to him about. When he gets tired, have him tell you goodnight.
So right now, get time to yourself to think. Don't talk to him for awhile or hang out with him. Just ask him for some time and then figure out your feelings.
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My guyfriend texted me sayin he felt used by me so we had to talk about it he said he wasnt upset with me later i tried callig for many hours his phones were busy what do i do (link)
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Well if he won't answer your phone calls or text messages then you should probably just talk to him face to face.
So just wait until you see him again and then talk to him. It will probably go way better than it would over a phone call.
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I am 13 and I want to give my boyfriend an erection. We have been dating for 10 months now, and PLEASE don't be concerned or tell me that I'm too young!!!!!!!!!! (link)
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He's going through puberty right now. If you even touch him, hug him, kiss him, he'll likely have an erection. It's really that simple..
But if you start touching him down there, even over the pants, just remember that it will get him thinking about sex and thinking that you want it too.
The thing is, being 13 and having sex isn't that great. I mean countless things can go wrong, like ending up pregnant, getting STDs, suffering emotionally, your body is still growing so it will hurt like crazy, ect. So make sure you talk to him about this to make sure you both stand in the same place and one isn't thinking too far ahead of the other.
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