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How can I "think before I speak"? HELP
I'm in a rough situation right now, and it keeps happening because I can't "think before I speak"... The situation won't help with the question, by the way. But I really need to know how to think before I speak because I just speak and don't think... I know that's weird and confusing but please tell me how I can think before I speak. Help asap please, thanks.
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When you get to urge to speak or have already started, pinch yourself real hard. Make it something unpleasant you feel each time you open your mouth too quickly.
You want to get the attention of your sub conscious mind where all your feelings and emotions come from. It is your feelings and therefore opinions about things that get you to jump in without thinking first. Or emotions like anger at something that someone said. Instead of keeping quiet and not responding, you add fuel to the fire. So give yourself a pep talk saying things have to change cus we are getting ourselves into trouble. Let your sub conscious know you will give it a chance to voice its opinion as it so much wants to do but from now on it must tell you when you are by yourself so you can think about it and evaluate how is best to respond if at all. Your awake/conscious mind needs to become friends with your subconscious. Right now it sounds like your subconscious mind is leading you around on a leash.
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This is a tough thing to overcome because it obviously won't happen overnight.
You really need to work on it and stand by it. So when you're talking to someone normally, nothing tense going on, practice pausing and thinking through what you say.
So then in tense conversations, you won't just blurt out the first thing that comes into your head.
Honestly, it's really just self control. You need to train yourself how to control yourself.
When you realize you're in one of those situations, relax. Then let them say whatever it is they are going to say, don't say anything, think about it, then speak.
Over time you'll get better, just keep working on it.
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Do exactly that, THINK before you speak. Pause slightly before answering- but not too long. Just think about what they said and all the things that you SHOULDNT say that'll make it worse. Observe the situation and carefully word your answers.
Don't be so hasty to reply- I don't think there's any other way to master this other than practice.
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Thinking before you speak is the way to better comebacks too!
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