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What does this guy really want?
Hi, i'm a 20 yr old girl, well there's this guy who friended me on facebook, i figured tht since i was in a relationship with my thn boyfriend 2 years ago, i told him tht i had a bf, but still tht guy and i became really good friends. Later i found out that my boyfriend cheated on me and went a person who tried taking advantage of me. So i did go through depression for a while, he was there to kinda like check on me, and i really admired tht. Then suddenly he said tht he was in love with me, so i lectured him tht we were like best friends and still havn't forgotten abt my previous relationship. I switched of my cell and deactivated my facebook account, later whn i switched on the phone aftr a day, he texted me saying he was joking. So we went on fr a while like strangers, then one day he said "i can't take this anymore, can't handle my heart broken again nd again, again i adviced why its wrong, he again said tht he was pranking me. Thn he avoided me fr a while and thn he calls, avoids and again calls. Why?
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Do you know him in person or just on Facebook?
If you only know him through Facebook, he's probably just into you because he obviously can't be in love with someone he's never met. Even if you talk to someone all the time, you only know what he tells you, and vice versa.
Honestly, what he's doing is really immature. He'll pull some random stunt and tell you he's in love with you (which he may think he is, he might really like you or he could just be really bored) and then he avoids you. Avoiding people is immature.
If he really does have feelings for you, he's handling it wrong. He's acting like an elementary or middle school student. If they tell someone they like them and the person doesn't return the feelings they'll be like, "Oh I was joking!" That's not how an adult should be acting.
Anyways, so he could actually like you and then pull a little kid act or he's just being stupid.
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Well, I'd say he probably thinks he's in love with you. Whether something could ever come from that is a shot in the dark. I miss use internet dating sites for an example cus it doesnt matter how you met or where you met online,,,the outcome is the same. I did online dating. Thats how I found my 2nd husband. But until I did, here's what I learned. You can be talking to someone and pick up on certain things like you like their sense of humor, and for example long talks about my interest in natural health and Non smoking. I cant say how many hid that they were smokers or that they in fact did not care about their health or were obese..using an older pic of themselves. I had more criteria than that but those are a few examples. If I chatted continuously for a month before meeting them, I found my mind was dreaming up and filling in all the cracks of what he is like in person because there is lots of info missing that you won't get until you are face to face. Like body language, mannerisms, facial expressions and their aura/energy and what kind of chemistry there is or not. When finally meeting the ones I had talked to continuous almost daily on the net, and then I finally met them, always at a Starbucks...my choice...lots of people around to be safe... I found they were nothing like I thought they would be and was actually repulsed by some, others no good energy coming off them, and yet others no chemistry. Even one I found who looked like a hot model just walked off the covers of a magazine, had two real dates with me. During that, I found he thought the world revolved around him and he wanted my adoration and attention to a certain degree where if he didn't feel the ego stroked enough he was no longer interested. So your guy has only a flat 2 dimensional idea of who you really are but has no idea who the 3d you is. He only said he was kidding because he was terrified of losing your online friendship. Maybe he's a nice guy. I can't tell you for sure. But there's a chance he has low self esteem and is needy and won't feel like a whole person until he has a female in his life. That is all stuff you don;t want to get messed up with. If the guy lives somewhere in your city where there'd be a possibility to date if you met and hit it off, then its up to you to meet him or not at a public place and maybe take a girlfriend along. If he doesn't live anywhere near you, don;t even go there...don't meet someone you have no way of having a daily in face relationship with. Since you do not feel at a 2d level, the same amount of interest in him, tell him you appreciate him being there for you during a hard time but you are not in love with him and would appreciate him not contacting you. If its FB and an IM window pops up, close it dont answer. Unfriend him if he becomes a pest. You dont have to respond to any texts and you dont have to answer his calls. Dont take his number off your cell yet cus you'll need to see who is calling so you dont answer. He still thinks he has a chance with you and thats why he keeps contacting you. So explain first and then cut off contact.
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