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how do i break the touch barrier
Im 13 and my boyfriend and have bren dating for 7 months now, and we haven't broken the touvh barrier yet. We hugged twice and thats about it
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Just start with holding his hand or giving him a hug. You guys have only hugged twice so just try to do it more often.
He's probably just as nervous as you are so don't freak out. If you're sitting by him or walking next to him, hold out your hand. When you're greeting him or saying goodbye, give him a hug. He definitely won't have a problem with it.
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The answer to this question is an old saying: "Everything happens at it's proper time and place."
Frankly you two are a bit to young to be at the feel up stage, I think. Then again I'm old enough to be considered from the dark ages, since I am of your grandparents ages. When I was 13 we were playing spin the bottle and Post Office. I think I was closer to 15 before a girl let me feel her breasts and I was much older before a girls allowed me to put my hands under her cloths.
The answer is that if your boyfriend is ready to touch you. He may be afraid to because he is not getting or reading the signals properly from you that you are ready to let him touch you.
Like everything else in life being intimate with another person is a learned experience. We learn from each other the different, usually silent signals, as to how far we are willing to go. You might even tell him; "Johnny if you want you may touch my breast but be gentle and keep your hands over my cloths." He may ask you to rub his penis through his cloths.
This is called communicating and is how we learn from each other what the others needs or desires are. It is through this that you can tell the other what you limitations are so you both know.
As I said above, I think you are both to young to go beyond hugging and kissing. Forget what you may see in movies that is all fantasy. You both need time to mature and understand what you are feeling and the consequences of your actions.
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I totally know how you feel!
The only way around this is to build up slowly. Start by holding hands and often.
Ask in a text, may I hold your hand? Or even in person. Then its simple, offer your hand a he'll take it.
Once you've broken the barrier, things should naturally progress.
So even if you're shy, just take the first step! Honestly, it'll be such a relief. Plus the 'text' thing kinda lets him know if he didn't already you're shy. So he'll be more open about the subject of contact.
The next step would be hugging but a bit more often. However, you have to go at your OWN pace. For sure, couples around you may be practically making out after just 3 months, but don't copy!
What I advised you worked for me (I'm a girl!) and it really helps release that nervous tension that there is-important for the relationship to last.
Good luck-you honestly have nothing to lose!
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Well, you need to think about what it is you really want. Would you be happy with just some kissing and holding hands?
If your boyfriend has not tried to kiss you yet, either he is scared because this will be your first foray into anything romantic, or he wants to but wants to leave it up to you to make the first move.
Next time you are walking together, just say, "Lets hold hands and grab for his hand. If he is comfortable with that, then find a chance to hug him again and while hugging, give him a quick kiss. Look for his reaction. does he seem happy about it or uncomfortable. And ask him too. Did you like that Tom? Would you like another kiss? or ask, Would you kiss me this time? You have to be doing something where you are close like a hug or cuddling together somewhere so that kissing will feel natural and not as awkward for you.
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