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I want to get laid. I am the only one of my friends that hasn't had sex.
Yo wassup? I'm 13 years old, living in NY. I'm a guy.
Many of my friends got girlfriends. They say they had sex with them . I'm the only one that haven't had sex yet. My problem is I want to have sex with someone but I don't know with who or how to solve the sex problem about my friends.
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Like everyone else said, they are probably lying. Most 13 year old girls won't have sex with their boyfriends. It's normally when they are much older.
I think it's good that you haven't had sex yet, I mean it's a really intimate thing.
Besides that, having sex because everyone else is doing it is called peer pressure.
So they're probably lying and it's better to wait so that no problems will happen.
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tHEY MAY BE LYING......justa hint.This is going to be a really weird picture in your head,but imagiine yourself pregnant.As a man,thats impossable, but you could get this girl pregnant even with protection because not all girls your age take birth control.If you dont know its super safe,you coould get preggo figurativly speaking. They are probably lying, ignore them.
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I agree that the guys are likely all telling tall tales. If a guy has to brag about it to his friends, it's probably not true. The really good guy, when he does have sex with his lady is not going to go around school or town, telling everyone about it. That is something precious between two people who really care about each other. To tell everyone when you have really had sex makes the whole act now demeaning to her. If she hears you go around telling or it gets back to her and you really did love her, you just lost her. If those girls who are being talked about find out what their boyfriends are saying, there'll be hell to pay. Quite a few will break up with them for lying about her.
What you need to do is decide for what reason you want to have sex.
Is it to fit in with the guys? Wait til you are older and have a close female friend that you have sexual chemistry with.
Or is it because your sex drive is making you go crazy? Masturbate as often as you can to take care of it.
Experiencing sex isn't something to be rushed through just for the sake of being able to say you are no longer a virgin. Those who do have sex at your age just to do it, will not find it to be anything special if there is no connection to the girl friendship wise and more. The guys will get their BJ or sex and have their sex craving satisfied for a couple hours maybe. But thats it, their heart and their minds are not in it. And its worse for the girls if the boy doesnt know to give equal time to pleasing them.
During your time spent waiting to meet the girl your heart falls for use this time to read books, study all you can on how to relate to girls and read up on sex. You don't have to know it all. I think you could learn lots of helpful info on dating and sex on Youtube. Look up Laci Green I love her short 3 or 4 min videos. She's funny but has all the facts straight. Please check this out. Wish you the best.
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Those guys are probably full of hot air and are saying they have because their other friends have said it to sound cool. I bet the majority are virgins as is almost always the case with braggarts.
At 13 you really shouldn't be doing this or considering it. You don't need the consequences pregnancy etc. It's better to find someone you care deeply for rather than just a random person as it's much more meaningful.
Furthermore, virginity is not a "sex problem" to get rid of. Even if your friends have engaged in it this doesn't mean you have to right now. It's best for when you are ready so it comes with no regrets. It's a personal choice that they cannot make for you nor should influence.
Also, how are they going to know unless you told them? Trust me, by waiting you're being real smart. Just watch them and see what kind of trouble comes from it. That will be indicator that waiting until older, more mature, responsible isn't a bad thing at all.
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