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Having Sex: How do I ask her?
Sex..... I'm 13, I'm a guy lol,I'm from USA (New York), and willing to have sex. if I ask a girl I really know well, she's sometimes horny and wants to have sex ; i think if I ask her, she will say no and she might tell her friends or say I'm a pervert and slap me. What do I do? ( if it doesn't make sense well my bad because I didn't know how to say it out ;) .)
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sex is something that shouldnt be asked for; it is something that just happens because the moment is right. you'll know when the two of you are ready because the chemistry feels unexplainable. it may put you in an awkward situation if you ask for sex, you never know how that person is going to react. just wait until the time is right.
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Keep it in your pants, son. You are old enough to get a girl pregnant, and that's trouble you don't need.
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Most girls around your age won't have sex with you. If you think she will say no, then don't ask her. There is no she might tell her friends, she will tell her friends. Girls like gossip, and if a guy asks them to have sex, she will tell her friends. She might even tell an adult so I wouldn't risk it.
Plus young teenage girls aren't normally on birth control. So it would end up worse if you got a girl pregnant.
So the best thing to do is wait. Wait until you find a girl you actually like and you date. It's just better to be safe than sorry.
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I like what kittenlover told you. Its true, better to know a gal really well through being her friend and dating her. So are you saying "if I ask a girl I really know well," as a hypothetical what if in the future case scenerio? Or did you mean there is already a girl you do know that well. When you say she's sometimes horny and wants sex, it makes me think this is a real person you're still talking about. So how do you know that she wants sex? Are you guessing from signs you pick up? It could be the signs you take as a girl wanting sex, are simply a girl flirting because she likes you and would like to be your friend and date you. If a girl was horny it depends on the girl as to whether she'd have sex. To take care of their horny feelings, some girls masturbate or use a vibrator. These are the girls who don't want to have sex just to ease an itch. They intuitively seem to understand that a friendship is an important base to any relationship and she would rather wait to have sex with a guy who is like a best friend to her and they have developed feelings of love...not lust for each other. This is the kind of sex that is most rewarding for both people. Yes, this might be the type of girl who would get upset if you asked her. As was already explained there are the trashy girls who will have sex with anyone almost...I suppose she has to think the guy is cute for her personal tastes. Many of the gals who are easy to have sex with have a low self esteem. They feel better when a guy pays attention to them. They choose to believe the lust is love. And so they come with all the hormonal problems of a young female who is angry when she finds the guy didn't really want to date her but just wanted sex. She may try to latch onto you and bug the heck out of you to convince you to date her. Too much drama and not worth it in my book.
Another thing I would suggest you keep in mind is that at 13, very few girls are on contraceptives yet. So if you hope for convincing one of the nice girls at a party or some other event, you're taking a great chance at getting her pregnant.
Better for you to get to know her. Then later when you have feelings for each other have discussions about having sex the first time together. I have heard from girls in your age range who want to have their first time but most have not considered birth control yet. Use condoms against STDs but Dont rely on it for birth control. If you had a girlfriend who is considering having sex with you for the first time, it might be a nice gesture to accompany her to Planned parenthood where she can get the pill or the shot, something more trusty than a condom.
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It depends if you want it to mean something.
If not, just go for the trashy girls in a club or something. Trust me, you'll know if they want it or not.
Alternatively, what I recommend is being in a relationship. I do not mean use a girl for sex, I mean that you have to let the girl know she can trust you, before even thinking of sleeping with you.
The easiest way is to get into a relationship. So great, you know a girl well? Enough to want to be with her for reasons other than sex. If so, your in a winning position.
Other than that, the setting has to be right. E.g. at a party or something.
But I really think you should get with a girl who you don't just use as a sexual object but for more things. You may think other guys are doing it, but they are likely to be lying-the psychological process of mate competition.
Also, if you're really stuck usually one thing leads to another anyway. The only time it does not is if you are in a relationship, where normal protocol is to ask.
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Bro I know how you feel I'm also 13. But just wait don't be stupid and ruin your life at a young age. But if you do use a condom!!! But i dont know how you'd ask her. Hang out alone one day, be a flirt. And it "might" happen.
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