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How do I give a guy a boner?
I am 13 and I want to give my boyfriend an erection. We have been dating for 10 months now, and PLEASE don't be concerned or tell me that I'm too young!!!!!!!!!!
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He's going through puberty right now. If you even touch him, hug him, kiss him, he'll likely have an erection. It's really that simple..
But if you start touching him down there, even over the pants, just remember that it will get him thinking about sex and thinking that you want it too.
The thing is, being 13 and having sex isn't that great. I mean countless things can go wrong, like ending up pregnant, getting STDs, suffering emotionally, your body is still growing so it will hurt like crazy, ect. So make sure you talk to him about this to make sure you both stand in the same place and one isn't thinking too far ahead of the other.
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Whether or not your boyfriend gets an erection is all to do with him and really very little to do with you.
If he has started to go through puberty just being around you and making out, kissing and hugging should be enough to give him an erection.
Now most teenagers are in to puberty by your age, but not all. Some are late bloomers and do not hit puberty for another year or more. It may also be that you don't see his erection because of the way he wears his clothes or the size of his penis when erect. If he is erect you should be able to feel his erection when close to him.
If he is not erect I would not say anything to him about it or question him as it has all to do with him and nothing to do with you. The average teenage male going through puberty will get four or more erections in an hour for no reason at all other than hormones. So if he is not becoming erect when around you he is probably aware of this and probably finds it embarrassing.
It will happen for him his body just has to catch up with his chronological age. Until it does there is no reason to embarrass him. If he does bring it up then you might suggest when he turns 14, if he is embarrassed to speak with his parents about this. He can on his own seek out a doctor, a Urologist or Endocrinologist to find out if there is a physical reason for his problem.
When a teenager turns 14 years of age they come under a federal law known as HIPPA. Within this law is a section covering teenage reproductive systems which gives teenagers 14 years of age an older. Medical confidentiality to seek out a doctors care for questions and or treatment for anything related to their reproductive system.
This means you do not need parental permission to see a doctor for anything relating to your reproductive system. This includes asking for birth control medication. All visits to the doctor for this type of visit is totally confidential and no one, including your parents can ever see these medical records without your expressed written permission.
One other thing: Your mom can force you to see a doctor, GYN, at any time she may feel you need to or she what's you too. Once you are 14 all you have to say to the doctor is; I invoke my rights under HIPPA" and the doctor will not examine you unless mom leaves the exam room and then mom will not be told of the results of the exam unless you give written permission.
Congress did not write this into the law to promote teenage sex. The did so to promote young people to seek out a doctors care when needed even when they were to embarrassed to tell their parents why when related to their reproductive systems.
So if by age 14 your boy friend is not able to get and maintain an erection. If he is too embarrasses to speak with his dad or mom about it. He can seek out a doctors help without asking his parents permission.
Do not volunteer this information. Only do so if in the course of conversation you can do so without embarrassing him.
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There are many people having sex at your age nowadays so its not looked at as odd by anyone. Only parents still freak out. I only ask that you go to Planned Parenthood and get on some contraceptive now before you have sex because 1. it takes some time before the contraceptive becomes effective and 2. condoms are great for diseases but there can be leakage, a tear or something else go wrong and you can become pregnant. Get a good contraceptive. Planned Parenthood treats anyone who comes asking and have never turned anyone away because of their age. If you have any weird reactions to a contraceptive, tell them right away and go back to be seen, they may change what you are taking.
Now on the the erection part. Are you sure that just being around you he hasn't had any erections already? Depending on his size and the cut of his pants, it may be easily visible and then again not. I remember slow dancing close with some men where I couldn't see any erection but sure felt it between us as we danced.
Have you and the boyfriend talked? Does he want to become sexual with you too? Make sure you're on the same page if you haven't talked. If this is something you both want to do, then just slowly start enjoying being sexual together. There is no hurry to do it all at once. After four years with the current husband, we both keep experiencing things we havent before with anyone else. So you have the rest of your life to experience it all.
You may want to go online and do some studying on mens responses sexually. I can tell you from experience that we don't always have control over how our bodies will perform from one time to the next, Nor will our bodies react to the same stimulation predictably. So one time, just heavy kissing is enough to get my guy erect. The next time, it doesnt. No big deal, holding his flaccid penis in my hand and playing with it, is enough to get him hard again. Don't expect something like a hard and tried routine that is exactly the same way...step 1, step 2, step 3. For all you know, the first time he's with you he may get hard simply because he watched you undress.
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