|
I lied and lost my friends
No real names/places are being used in this.
Hi.
So, my great-grandmother who lives in Kentucky recently passed away on Thursday. I was supposed to be going out of town Sunday morning and coming back Monday night. Last minute, my dad wasn't able to get off work so we weren't able to make it. (This is in June.) April 29th, I had a "one night stand" with a guy who means nothing to me. In May, my period came super late. I was worried, thinking I was pregnant, but then my period came at the VERY end of the month so I thought I was fine. I've been seeing a new guy, "Kyle." Well, the Thursday I found out my grandmother had passed away, I took a cheap pregnancy test a friend had because I was feeling sick and had been throwing up. When I see cheap, I really mean a cheap dollar store one she had at home. It came back positive. I was really scared and confused. Instead of telling my boyfriend and friends that I wasn't going out of town, I made them believe I was still just so I could lay in bed those two days and think about everything. A friend of mine ended up going to my boyfriend and friend, Kelsey, apartment and told them I wasn't out of town. Now they all hate me. I tried apologizing and telling them why I did it, but they hate me. It wasn't intended to hurt them or anything. It just gave me a day or two by myself without anyone asking questions.
Please help me. What do I do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Friendship?
You can't really do anything else. You already apologized. So just give them some time. If they were real friends, they will come around. We've all had friends lie to us and everybody messes up sometimes so if they really were your friends, they'll forgive you and you all will move on.
If they hold this on you forever, they weren't real friends.
]
Give them time. They will come around. They need to get over the fact that you wouldnt come to them and confide in them and lean on them for support. Maybe they care about you that much and thats why they are so hurt. If they really are true friends, they will get over it and forgive you. You dont have to do anything but give them a couple days or a week and then contact them to do something together.
I think part of the problem these days is knowing how much to confide in others and how much is too much because so many are quick to say TMI. too much information.
As for the predicament that started this all, Honey, next time please remember you can go to Planned parenthood and they can check to see if you're pregnant or not. Better yet is for you to go see them right now and get on some birth control...dont count on condoms...those are good for not getting STD's but if counting on for not getting pregnant, it could have a rip or tear in it...thats happened to me, or there is leakage along the side or it slips off him as he withdraws and remains inside...thats happened alot. It depends how quicking a guy shrinks after ejaculating. So go see them about a contraceptive. Research them ahead on the web. There are side effects to the hormonal ones. Many women have those side effects and are writing in here for advice. You may be lucky and not get them. But know what they are and dont choose to put up with them. The best alternative in that case is the copper IUD. Read up on the side effects and benefits of that. Good luck dear
]
More Questions: |