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LongDist Reltionship (should I go for it)
background: straight girl, 16 years old, sophmre in hs
Febuary of this year my best freind Lisa decided to introduce me to this girl Mia over skype. Lisa and Mia had met a concert, and Lisa thought me and Mia would get along pretty well. Side note, this wasnt for like a "hookup" dating wise, just as freinds.
Anyway, I started talking to Mia more than Lisa ever planned. Mia and I just got along very nicley, and had many simmiliarties. Only thing was, she is a sohpmore in college (age difference) and lives in a different state. Either way, i really enjoyed talking to her. Soon enough, we were telling eachother everything...including when Mia told me she was gay. this did not bother me tho, i am extremely confortable with my sexuality as a straight girl and my new knowledge of her sexuality did not affect me my view on her in any way.
But than, I started getting theese weird thoughts. It happended after a long skype girl with Mia I had had in which I was venting abotu some drama. I had a sorta "day dream" about us together. and I sort of liked it.
Theese thoughts continued on, but i just chose not to tell her. I figured why mess things up, and also I decided it was only natural to have a few day dreams here and there for someone if you care about ..and anyway, what if we never met? There would be no point to tell her I liked her if we would only keep it through the interent/ texting. So i just didnt
But last night, i messed up. and told her that i had a dream about us holding hands...and that that night, I had feelings for her.
Now, we are talking about "us" as an item, and she seems intrestsed. But i dont no. first off, i am confused myself at this. I can say that i really like her, but how do i fully know without meeting her? it also doesnt help that she is a girl, and before this, i would have never found myself interested in the same sex.
So.
what do I do?
Mia wants a relationship. She says i have to be optimistic.
But..
I dont no. I can't tell if i don't want one because I think long ditance things never work( what i keep telling myself)
or because i am in denial of liking the same sex
please help!
ps...if u need any more details..please include them in your answer, and i will reply back.
Thanks !
Gray
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You are 16? Lesbian sex is still sex, and if Mia is over the 18yo mark, she could wind up facing a statutory rape charge. "Child molester" is a bad thing for a college sophmore to have on their record.
If you like her, then *for her sake* don't do this. If you still like her in two years, whatever.
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Long distant relationships are really hard. Because if you never get to see them or you have no plans on seeing them soon, it can ruin it.
It would be different if you guys knew each other in person first. Your relationship will just consist of texting, the internet and phone calls. Which isn't so bad if you have a plan to see each other, but since you're still in high school, that makes it hard.
Then of course since you're so young, you miss the experience of dating. Which is a lot of fun to learn about when you are in high school.
Anyways, I would look at the pros and cons.
First I would look more into your sexuality. You don't want to get into a relationship with her when you're still confused. You need to figure that out first before you consider the relationship.
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It can be super hard to have a long distance relationship. Maybe if you think you might like girls you should try to be with someone who lives closer. That would help you decide if you really are into girls because you get to see her in person. Also believe me, long distance relationships do not work out. She is a lot older and in college so my guess is that she probably already does stuff with people (girls and guys) and you are just someone else she can talk dirty too. Btw just so you know I am 18 so I am not that much older then you and I'm bi so I know how you feel. Also I was also thinking about having a long distance relationship with a girl but it didn't work out and now we never talk. I never had an actual girl friend but I did do stuff with girls.
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