This guy isn't even worth your effort in asking this question!

He wants something, but is too lazy to actually try for it. Don't feel bad because he hurls insults at you when you turn him down. You're just showing some self-respect, and he's not showing you any respect at all. Next time he does it, tell him that if he wants it so badly, he should put some real effort into it and take you out for a few dates at the very least!

This guy has gotten what he wants in the past by behaving this way. You'll save yourself (and maybe some other girls) a lot of heartache by just ignoring his repeated demands. Maybe he'll learn that girls don't always want the jerk.

What this guy is asking you to do might seem harmless, but taking photos of yourself even just in your underwear is making child pornography. Some teenagers got arrested a few weeks ago for making and distributing child pornography, even though it was just a girl taking pictures and sending them to her friends.

My take: you should probably stop talking to this guy. He sounds like a jerk, and totally not worth the effort you're putting into him. If he respected you as a person, he wouldn't be talking the way he is.

What he is doing is testing his limits. He wants to see what he can get out of you. Respect yourself, and don't do anything that could come back and bite you later!

This is such a hard lesson to learn, and even harder to deal with the aftermath.

First things first: did you get tested for STIs afterwards? That's really important, because the earlier you find out about something like that, the faster you can get the help. Even if you haven't noticed a problem, there are 'silent' infections that you won't notice for years, but can cause things like infertility later on.

Also, if that guy really did what he has been accused of, it's rape. Even if you were of age, if a man has sex with a woman who is unable to make good judgments due to alcohol, he is committing rape. Know that rape is never the victim's fault, so you didn't disappoint your parents.

Make sure that the guy is actually guilty. Have you talked to him about it? Ask your friend (who witnessed it) exactly what happened. Then confront him, and get his story. Whatever you do, you want to be sure of it before telling anyone else.

My personal belief is that you should tell your parents what happened. If they don't know about the drugs and alcohol, come totally clean. The more honest you are, the more credible your story. Then they can help you with picking up the pieces, or even getting psychological help if you need it (because this sort of thing is incredibly traumatic). Unfortunately, they might not be able to do anything on a legal front, just because it has been so long.

As for talking to the girl, find out why she didn't stop it. Maybe she thought you were totally on board? Maybe she was scared to step in? If she just didn't care, then she's not a good friend. If she did, and wasn't sure of what to do, then it's not really her fault. Also, it takes a lot to tell your friend when something like that happens, so at least she did the right thing there, instead of just keeping it to herself.

When it comes to talking to the guy, get his story. After that, if you think he's guilty, don't talk to him, just for your sanity's sake.

If you have any more questions, let me know. I've helped friends deal with this sort of situation before.

Also, you should probably stop using alcohol and drugs if you haven't already. Not judging your lifestyle, because I know how hard it is to fit in as a teen, but things like this happen to girls every day for the same reason. If your friends don't like you because you won't smoke up with them, then they're not real friends.

Try anything by Courtney Love. She's got a great deeper voice!

I'd particularly suggest Celebrity Skin or Malibu.

The problem is very likely the bras that you are wearing. Are you getting them from a place like Victoria's Secret? I love their stuff, but can't wear it at all. It's made for a 34B, and scaled up or down as needed.

What you need is a (no offense, cause I'm in the same boat here) heavy-duty bra. Try a plus-sized store, like Addition-Elle, if you have one nearby. Their bras tend to have thicker straps and way better support.

If there isn't a place like that, you can always try a specialty lingerie store. They can give you a proper measuring, which is essential, and they'll have great selection in a wide range of sizes.

College life sucks sometimes, doesn't it? I feel your pain, because I had to make this decision in my freshman year too.

First off, school should be your first priority. If your boyfriend is keeping you from succeeding at school, even if it is unwillingly, then you have to distance yourself.

Maybe, instead of actually breaking things off, tell him that you need a break to get things sorted out. Make sure that he knows that you still want a relationship eventually, but that you're sticking to your priorities. If he can't respect school as a top priority for you, then he isn't a keeper.

Good luck!

I'll tell you what's on my mp3 player for workouts... it's a little weird, but definitely upbeat!

Artist - Name of Song

Bobby Conn - Never Get Ahead
Jimmy Eat World - A Praise Chorus
Aha - Take On Me
Trooper - Raise A Little Hell
Barry White - Can't Get Enough Of Your Love
Bikini Kill - Rebel Girl
Bobby Conn and the Glass Gypsies - The Style I Need
Dave, Dee, Dozy, Beaky, Mick and Tich - Hold Tight
Jamiroquai - Canned Heat
KISS - I Was Made For Loving You
M.C. Hammer - U Can't Touch This
Metro Station - Shake It
Franz Ferdinand - Michael
Right Said Fred - I'm Too Sexy
The Strokes - Last Night
Tom Jones - It's Not Unusual
Trammp - Disco Inferno
Trooper - The Boys in the Bright White Sports Car
Wham! - Wake Me Up Before You Go Go
Wild Cherry - Play That Funky Music
The Hives - Main Offender

Hope that gives you a good start! Man... now I want to go work out. LOL!

This is exactly what I go through with my asthma.

Is it really cold where you are right now? Or dry? That can make it feel worse.

If you can, go and see a doctor. They should be able to give you a medication that can help when you start feeling shortness of breath.

I'm surprised that nobody has mentioned Gravol yet! Rather than having to get actual sleeping pills, pop one or two of these babies and you'll be out for at least a few hours.

Try buying some books about China, or getting a language instruction kit. That way, you can put your time on the plane into getting excited about where you're going, and learn a little while you're at it!

Check out www.thinkgeek.com!

Every year for the past 3 years, I've given my fiance something from there.

Here's a "Gifts For Him" guide:

http://www.thinkgeek.com/interests/giftsforhim/

As someone who has been on the other end of this, please know that your relative is not intentionally being unbearable. It's so hard to deal with serious mental illness, and they are so lucky to have someone supportive in their family like you.

That being said...

Have you looked into your options? Is there a mental health facility that they can check into for a while to get regulated on medication and build up skills for living? If not, is there a place for them to stay?

For a person with mental illness, being 'abandoned' at crucial times can be a life-or-death matter. Whatever you do, make sure you have a plan, because you don't want anything bad on your conscience.

Be straight up with her. Let her know that you support her in her struggle to deal with schizophrenia, but that you have your own life to live and your own problems to deal with. Go over any possible options with her, and let her choose while being firm in stating that she cannot continue to stay with you.

Good luck!

Until she does move out, here's a great website for helping cope with the stress:

http://www.helpguide.org/mental/schizophrenia_helping_family_member.htm

I feel confident using it, but be forewarned: a lot of professors will not accept Wikipedia articles as a legitimate source. It's always best to double-check your facts before using them, anyhow.

They are really cute AND non-allergenic. That's the good part.

On the bad side:
- They're antisocial.
- They're filthy creatures! My housemate had two girl chinchillas, and instead of peeing in their cage, they would stand up against the bars and pee all over the floor.

Pretty much, they're cute and fluffy, but they don't do well around people and they're incredibly messy and high-maintenance.

For the most part, it depends on the course load and the person in question.

Me, for example: I don't have time for sex, drugs and the like, because I've got over 30 hours of class every week. I also don't have the money that it takes to maintain a lifestyle like that.

Some people have too much money and too much time on their hands, so they fill it out by living the Hollywood lifestyle.

I've seen people fail out of school because of alcohol. I wouldn't recommend it.

It's a general fashion rule to not wear white pants after labour day.

Basically, it's just because white is a more summery colour.

Personally, I'd say go with art. If the only reason for taking history is to get essay practice, then you'd be wasting your time. The five paragraph essay format that they pound into your head in high school is absolutely useless once you get into post-secondary education. I have never written an essay or report with less than 8 paragraphs!

So take art, and enjoy yourself!

I love making popcorn like this!

Kernels: Any kind will do. You should be able to get then at any grocery store.

Pan: I use a cooking pot. A fairly large one, too.

Oil: Just enough to coat all of the seeds. About a half cup or so should do it.

Cover: The pot lid, but make sure to hold it in place.

How to cook it: Don't leave it alone! It'll just burn. You have to constantly shuffle it back and forth over the burner, so that the popcorn will all pop evenly.

After it's all popped, you can put whatever you'd like on it.

If you want an easier way to do this, try Jiffy Pop.

My fiancee has a huge family, and I'm on a student budget, so here's what I did for all of them.

Get a set of huge (size 12-13) knitting needles, and some really bulky yarn (I use Red Heart Light & Lofty). Pick up some simple instructions, or get someone who knows how to teach you how to knit. I can churn out a scarf in about 4 hours while I'm watching TV, and they cost between 6 and 8 dollars each. It's a nice gift that is inexpensive while still really meaningful. Plus, who doesn't like scarves?

I'm on Depo Provera too.

One of the side effects (which you should have known BEFORE going on it... lecture over) is that you cease to have a menstrual cycle. No more periods as long as you're on it.

My guess is that it's a joke, based on Einstein's theory;

E = mc^2

Where E is energy, m is mass, and c is the speed of light.

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My name is Amanda and I'm 26 years old. I'm currently studying electrical engineering. Armed with a fairly odd sense of humour and a sunny outlook on life, I'll take on just about anything. I'm also cussedly stubborn, which has its ups and downs. Things get tough sometimes, and I've never been one to run from it.

In my last 8 years with Advicenators, I've gone from honours student to failing out of university (and getting back on top again!), from single to married, from tenant to homeowner.

Until lately, I have been struggling with a diagnosis of bipolar disorder and OCD, which had basically ruined my life and taken just about everything from me. I'm thankful every day for every experience I've had because of this ordeal, because it's helped to make me who I am today. Things like that really make you appreciate what you do have. Now that I'm back in work and school and starting to become myself again, I couldn't be happier. I credit Advicenators with saving my life back when I was a teenager, which is a big part of why I'm still here.

I won't necessarily give you the answers you want to hear, but I'll always be honest and do my best to help.

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