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not wanting to send a picture.
16/f please please read this and help me..
well, you may have seen many posts about this situation i keep mentioning/bringing up. but here is something a bit different. if you havent already read about this, i met this guy at my friends house, hes chill. but hes kind of an asshole who only wants sexual things from me.
anyways, we talk on facebook and lately hes been asking almost every week for me to send him a picture. first, he wanted one of my chest. i never sent it. then he wanted one of my thong. so i did send a picture of my thong just by itself on the floor, it didnt matter. then last night i saw he sent me a text. it said hey are we still gonna do those sexual things still? and i responded, yeahh haha why do you ask? and he said, i dont know lol so send me a pic of you in your panties.
..hes asked me multiple times for this. hes really pressuring me..i feel like i cant say no because then he wont talk to me anymore or want to do those things with me and he'll find some easy slut who will. i know im being stupid but i dont wanna lose him like that..but i just cant say no..i dont want to send one though. 1.) he will most definitly show it off to his friends.
i know this because when he was texting me last night, he said he was chillin with people. and i said, so you ask me to send a pic while your with people..? and he goes, haha no im leaving now but send a pic i want it bad
..i feel so slutty talking to him. i cant believe i even say half of the things i say to him. he pretty much asks if he can play with me and asked me to give him a lap dance and moan and all of this other perverted shit like that and i said yeah i would. i dont know why im being so stupid. i do somehow still want him though..but i dont want to send a picture. people could find out..even if its just of me wearing a thong, only down there though. but still..
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I see what you're saying, and I can tell that you don't want to send the pictures, but you want him to keep liking you. This guy seems like he only wants you for your features and not the real you, stay away from those kind of guys. Being stupid and making mistakes is part of being a teenager, but if you KNOW that what you're doing is wrong, then don't do it. I used to have a best friend who knew everything about me, and she told me that she was desperate for a guy, and I felt bad because I knew that in the future she would do anything to get with a guy, we're no longer friends anymore, so I don't really know. But sometimes, girls feel like we have to do stuff to get guys to like us, or keep liking us ... and its not true. at all. I really hope I can help you through this, so inbox me!
hope I helped ! xxo
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well first off i know what your going through because the exact same thing is happening to me now. if i were you dont send him the pictures. if anything make him send the pictures. make him work for it. i know he may be very tempting but just say no. hell probly say i might send one if you send one and all this other crap. but he wont. the guy thats doing this thing to me is the exact same way. i know you dont want to loose him because im the exact same way because i love this kid that wants me to send pictures. (and i was stupid and sent them). he only wants me for sexual shit. but becareful. dont let him think your essay and dont let him know he can get any thing out of you. please keep me updated:)
good luck i hope you are ok.
-Tamera
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i have actually been in this exact situation, a few times. i took the stupid route and gave him what he wanted. after that he, well they, stopped talking to me.
my advice to you is if that is all he wants then forget him. seriously. dont send him anything, dont do anything with him. cause its only going to turn out badly, most likely for you. you sound so much better then sending those pictures. go with your gut instincts and dont.
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What this guy is asking you to do might seem harmless, but taking photos of yourself even just in your underwear is making child pornography. Some teenagers got arrested a few weeks ago for making and distributing child pornography, even though it was just a girl taking pictures and sending them to her friends.
My take: you should probably stop talking to this guy. He sounds like a jerk, and totally not worth the effort you're putting into him. If he respected you as a person, he wouldn't be talking the way he is.
What he is doing is testing his limits. He wants to see what he can get out of you. Respect yourself, and don't do anything that could come back and bite you later!
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Why do you WANT do talk to him anymore? He doesn't want to talk to you. He obviously doesn't actually like you or give a shit about your feelings or thoughts, he has made it perfectly clear that he only likes you body and talking about how he can get at your body. The rest of you doesn't matter.
You know you are being stupid, and that's okay, but at some point saying stupid things HAS TO turn into doing stupid things, or it has to stop all togeather.
You've reached that point. You either have to cut this guy off now and put a solid end to this OR do something really stupid like send him a picture.
Ending this is really not that hard to do, and you feel much better if YOU end it, rather then letting him end it whenever he realizes he can't get into your pants. Just tell him "Dude, chatting with you like this is fun, but I'm not sending you a photo. What kind of idiot do you think I am?" and then repeat that message until he gets it "Nope. I don't care what you promise or swear. I'm not sending ANYONE those kind of photos, and if you think I'm a prude for that, well, that would make you a scumbag."
It's easy. And it's either that or give in and do something really stupid that you know you'll regret later. So be the bitch, and put your foot down. He can never reject you, if you reject him. And you SHOULD reject him. He is unworthy.
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