Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good?
i use tampons, playtex sports are good.
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My mom has always drank some on the weekends to relax from her stressful job. I've lived with this all of my life and there was never a problem. Well, my dad has been gone for about six months now (died in a car wreck) and my mom has started drinking more.
Dad's death was really hard on us but it's hitting mom the worst, I think. She drinks a lot more than she use to. She drinks every night and sometimes (more frequently this past week) passes out in the hallway floor before it's over. She's even missed work a few times because of her hangovers. Since she has started drinking like this I've started waking her up for work and stuff because she's been oversleeping dramatically. I mean, I don't want her to lose her job and I know this is a hard time for her.
Anyway, I am concerned over all of the drinking now. I know alcohol does some nasty liver damage and I don't want my mom to die too. I'm afraid to confront her about it because I don't want that stress to have her drinking even more. What do I do?
im sorry for your loss. my heart goes out to you and your family... i have an idea of what your going through with your mother.my dad is an alcoholic, he has been for a very long time and now he is dieing from hepitidus c. my sister passed away from overdosing two years ago and tht just made things worse for my fathers drinking. i know it is hard to cope with greaving family members but you do need to say something to your mother. because if you dont if will get worse. she may deny having a problem at first but eventualy she will admit it. but when you say something to her you do need to let her know your their for her. there are some groups online and around your comuity that can help both you and your mother. i hope that i have helped. if you need anything else just ask.
-Tamera.
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I want to hear (in detail) your past sex (oral, anal, etc) experiences. How it felt, what you said, did, he did, he said, she did, he did, anything. I need ideas thanks :D
well if your looking for ideas on how to start sex with someone its easy. :) you just turn them on by dirty talking, messing around with them, or just making out intensly.
the first time i had sex was in a pool and i just fooled around and it just kinda happend. me and my boyfriend (at the time) where swimming by our selves just relaxing and joking around. and i pulled him twards me and started kissing him intensly. and after that we started fooling around with eachother and we finaly had sex.
i hope i helped. sorry i didnt go into that much detail but its something. i hoped i helped. if you need anything else just ask.
-Tamera.
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how do you turn on a 16 year old guy? with out having to touch him in places?
well you could go on top of him and start making out with him very intensly. and just add a small twist to it. if you feel comfertable with him touching your body take his hand and guide him over your body. but only do that if your comfertable with that. if you have any other questions let me know.
-Tamera.
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So i really like this guy and he likes me. He has done a lot more than i have and ive done basically nothing. I'm supposed to hang out with him sometime at his house and im very nervous. I have not kissed a guy since i was in the 6th grade and im in the 10th right now. Ive had bf's but it was always so weird and awkward until now. This is the first time in a very long time where i like someone a lot. And im very nervous with everything and i dont know what to do. Im very afraid that im going to suck at everything because im so inexperienced. So what do i do to get better or how do i handle the situatuion. I'm not planning on having sex with him but other things might come up if not when im there then some other time so i just need help on how to handle it and what to do.
the best thing you can do is talk to him about it. although you may night be going out with him im sure he will be fine with it and he will walk you through it. and alot of the things you do with guys arent that hard to do. and he can also tell you how he wants you to do the things if you tlak to him about it. well have fun and be careful. any thing else just ask.
-Tamera.
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okays sooo, ive been on birth control for like two years now, and i have never known the answer to this question, ive tried to ask my ginocologest but she didnt really answer me.
butt.. when your on birth control, can the guy like cum in you and you wont get pregnant. Like im not stupid me and my boyfriend still use condoms every single time and were still going to, but im just kinda curious casue if not then what does birth control do?
well birth control doesnt have a 100% posibility of protecting you from being pregnant. what birth control does is it has hormones and it helps with the hormones that cause pregnancy. id stick with both of them. if you need anyother help just let me know. :D
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So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.
well, the best thing you can do is get a condom and some birthcontrol and maybe the morning after pill. all though there isnt a 100% protection youll still being prepaired.
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Okay me and my boyfriend have been dating for almost 9 months. Me and my gay bestfriend hungout the other day and got drunk together alone. Me and my gay bestfriend had sex. For like 1 minute then I stopped and said I cant do this. We were both really drunk and didnt know what we were doing. And I really love my boyfriend and if I tell him he will dump me and beat my bestfriends ass and I dont want that too happen. But I cant have sex with my boyfriend now not thinking about what I did with my gay bestfriend. What should I do?
well, everyone makes mistakes. but as hard as it will be your going to have to tell your boyfriend. he will be mad and hurt and all of those lovely emotions but you will feel better from telling him. hiding things doesnt help. and if he truely loves you then he will stay with you. as hard as that will be for him to trust you he will. and you have to tell him it was an accident. you eed to tell him everything that happened. and if you and your friend didnt know what was going on then you need to include that part. you should tell him before someone else finds out and tells him because thats happened in a lot of situations. and hearing it from another person makes it worse. i hope things work out for you. if you need anything else ask me.
-tamera.
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My bf and i have been together for almost 6 months were both 15 and hes still insecure about the size of his penis i told him i love him no matter what that it didnt matter hes doesnt want to do anything sexual what can i do? why do guys worry about penis size?
well, most guys are always worried about that kind of stuff. the best thing you can do is just let him know your ready if he is and just guid him through this faze. good luck and hopefuly things will brighten up soon. anyother questions just ask me.
-Tamera
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sorry if this ends up being long but i have two questions kinda...
17/f
ive never understood why society made it so bad for teenagers to have sex. i mean people 13 and even younger were having babies in the past, and that was considered acceptable? In fact if a girl WASNT married by 17 she would be considered too old...
i just dont get why its SUCH a horrible thing for someone my age to have sex if they are ready. and i know about sex. i know that it should be done only out of love, and only if youre mature enough to handle it, and only if you can take on the responsibility of sex and protecting yourself to avoid pregnancy. but if everything is perfect, then whats the big deal? thats my first question if someone could explain that to me...
the second ???? is more personal.
ive been dating my bf for a month, and weve been talking for two. hes already said he loves me, and hes proven it. but then again i can never again trust someone so blindly and im not sure its even possible to love someone after only going out for a month. (i havent said it back btw)
and i asked him how long he would be able to wait because im a virgin and i wasnt planning on having sex anytime soon so he should know that. he looked at me and said "i dont want you to have sex with me until you can look me in the eye and tell me honestly that you love me". That was great to hear, but of course i still get paranoid sometimes. because we started having oral sex and sometimes we get so into it we both just want each other, and i feel like i really wanna do it. BUT i know i shouldnt yet and want to wait longer...just that he forgets about what he told me about sex in the moment as well, and im understanding of that. I asked him if he remembered what he told me later and he said "yeah, but its easy to forget when youre in the moment" which is true because it happened to me as well. i guess my question is...can someone give me a reason why i shouldnt have sex with him, becacuse im running out of reasons... i already told him to get tested before we even had oral, and im going on birth control next week for acne issues so pregnancy wont be possible. and i really feel like im falling for him, and he shows that he loves me everyday....so...y wait? can you have love without sex for an extended period of time? im turning 18 this year btw...
well the first question is hard to answer. everyone has their own opinion. now your second question. sex isnt everything in a relasion ship. you can love eachother and still not have sex. like you said you shouldnt have sex until your ready. yes sex is supose to be for people who love eachother (if you go by the book or what people say) but love isnt just physical its supose to be mentaly as well. and it is hard to control yourself when your in the moment because your hormones kick in. love is a tricky thing. if think your ready then you should go with it. it all depends on you. good luck. anything else just ask.
-Tamera.
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I've known this boy for a couple years now & I started developing feelings for September of 2008. I thought it was just going to be another one of those little crushes.
It's been eight months now and I still can't get over him. When I liked this boy, he told me he liked me too, a whole lot. We never got into a relationship because we lived too far away to be able to see each other as much as we'd like to. In the middle of October, he told me he also developed feelings for another girl at his school and of course I was crushed for I was even more in love with this kid by then.
They went out until the end of December-ish & he recently told me that he does not like that girl anymore.
My problem is that I can't get over him & it's been eight months. I've never completely fallen head over heels for anyone this bad before.
The only two options I'm letting myself have are
1) let him go - if this is your answer for me, I'd like to know how to get over this kid. Whenever he talks to me, my heart lights up. I fix MY schedule to have time to talk to him.
2) fight for him - if this is your answer for me, what am I supposed to do?
3) if there's anything better than the two, please please tell me. I'm killing myself over this kid & I'm just ready to stop.
Thanks so much in advance for whoever answers this.
15/f if it helps.
well, letting things go with guys you realy like is hard. if you truely want to let him go then itll take time. and if you think he is worth fighting for then try it. depending on how far away he lives from you, you could try to work things out. any other help needed just ask.
-Tamera.
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Okay here is the thing my ex and I broke up over a month ago. I had this guy friend Tony who invited me over to watch a movie and talk about things. He kissed me a cried and so he stopped. we ended up having sex some point that night. well it ended up he just wanted sex so i quit talking to him all together.
David.. I meet him talking to him online. we hung out a few times. he keep grabbing my face because i keep pulling away to kiss me and he kissed me for like 30 minutes well we ended up having sex. he really likes me a guess but im not attracted to him and i get annoyed easy with him
Dustin.. My best friends brother and my ex's cousin. my ex doesnt talk to any of them. We all drank at his sisters house one time but i was dating my ex at the time. I seen him and his sisters baby shower for a minute on saturday. and we talked for just a minute. I texted him that he and i should go drink sometime but he didnt get it because he doesnt have service where he lives. I called him yesterday (sunday). i went out to his house we went dirt roading and ended up having sex but he didnt force me i told him i wanted to. and he didnt even kiss me until i was positive. we talked for hours before that. im attracted to him just hearing his voice gives me butterflies. he asked me if i was wanting to date someone and i said i wasnt sure. which i am sure. he had running around to do in town today and asked if i wanted to come and of course i said yes i wanted to see him.
i dont want to be judged on what i did with having sex. im just looking for advice. i dont know if im pregnant or not. i doubt it. i havent got my period but i dont know what day i started last month.. thank you for taking the time to read.
noone should judge you because they dont know exactly what your going through. and the sex thing well if you think its a mistake then thats your buisness. people make mistakes all the time. and if you truely like this guy then maybe you should talk to him about it. say something like im not try to be clingy or anything but i like you. let him know how your feel so he knows. and he sounds like hes sweet. as long as he makes you happy do what you please. just make sure your sure about your opinion. and the pregnant thing, well if you used a condom and if your on birth control then the chances are low. and questions or need anyother advice just let me know.
-Tamera.
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I'm 15/F. And i'm dating a guy who is 17. We've been dating for 2 months now, and he's starting to talk about wanting to have sex. I'm still a virgin, and i'm scared to death. I told him I didn't think I was ready yet, and he got kind of aggravated, and said, "that's okay, that's not what i'm in this relationship for anyway" And he's been mentioning it more and more. Any Advice for if i do decide to have sex with him? Or anything else i should do?
I really don't want to lose him.
In my opinion you shouldnt have sex if your not ready. if he leaves you just because you wont sleep with im then hes not the right guy for you. if your not ready for sex yet and you feel like maybe you want to "play aound more" then do that, but make sure he doesnt pressure you into doing anything you dont want to do. good luck and if you have anyother questions let me know.
-Tamera.
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When did sex become so bad? I get that teenagers shouldn't just sleep around and pregnancy & STDs are a problem. But why do parents go to great lengths to make their teens feel guilty about wanting and/or having sex? If its so natural and if everyone feels the need at some point, shouldn't it be talked about more openly and embraced in a better manner?
I'm 16, thinking about having sex for the first time, but I keep finding notes from my parents saying, "Absolutely no sex. Wait until your married."
I'm not religious, but I'm not a bad person. (All A's, no drinking or drugs) So why do my parents make me feel awful for even thinking about it?
Ugh. Thanks.
I just want opinions and how other people's parents react.
well like you said most parents are afraid their children will get pregnant or catch something. my mother doesnt want me sleeping around but if i told her i was or had sex then she would be understanding about it. i would talk to your parents (or just your mother. sex talks arent realy the best things for fauthers.) and tell her that if you think your ready before marrige then you will have sex. i mean i wouldnt get cocky about it but just tell her how she/they make you feel about sex. and it is nautural, there for if you think your ready then go for it. any other questions just ask.
-Tamera.
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Hi im almost 16 im a guy and im gay my bf is 15
weve been together for almost 9 months we love each other and weve talked about coming out of the closet and im a bit nervous im a bit worried well get picked on i love him a lot he says i shouldnt worry about it what do you think?
dont care about what people say. love is love. and thats all that matters. yeah you might have some people who say stuff. but most people in highschool realy dont care about it anymore. so just comeout of the closet. and if your friends are true friends then they will except you for who you are. and so will your parents if they dont already know. just come clean, youll feel alot better. i hope things work out anyother questions just ask me. :)
good luck
-tamera
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My boyfriend is about almost 9 inches, thick as like, spray can of that string stuff. Im a 15f virgin, if we have sex, how bad should it hurt? Will it feel good at all ? If not, about how many times after should it feel good? and my cherry is already popped.
well i always say the bigger the better;) but it all depends on your tolercence to pain. when i had sex the first time it hurt for like 5-10. but after that it felt realy good. it might take him a few minutes to put his penis inside you because youve never had one inside you before. well have fun and be safe. if you need any more help just contact me. :).
-tamera
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im 15 and im a bit confused about my sexuality although i think im gay i did have a girlfriend for about 3 months but i wasnt really into it we didnt click but i have been attracted to guys more but i was a bit nervous about it because i was worried about what peoole would think and the last few months ive become really close to this guy i like him a lot we hang out togeter im a bit nervous but i want to tell him that i like him a lot he seems to like me i dont want to come on too strong i really like him how do i tell him?
well from the sounds of it you sound like your bi. i mean you might not stick to it your entire life most teens experiment around this age. and if you like this guy just tell him. just say it to him casualy and be like hey i dont want things to be accward but i like you more then a friend. and let it all come together.:)
good luck
-Tamera
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im almost 16 and my gf and i are thinking about having sex were both virgins im a bit nervous
ive got a small penis and im worried that i wont be any good or be able to please i might be worrying to much but will i be able to please her? will it get bigger?
well size doesnt always matter. the penis only goes into the vigina about 4inchs. dont worry about it. youll be fine. you are worrying about it a little to much. just try and relax and have fun, im sure you will get bigger as you finish pubirty. good luck. any other questions just get back to me.
-Tamera.
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yeahh..do you think he'll talk to me again though cause well i met him at my friends house and hes always talking about what he wants to do with me when i see him. but i think he does have this girlfriend..but still hes too shallow and too much of a dick to care about hurting his girlfriend so i feel like he'll still talk to me cause he doesnt want to do all of those things..i dont know if he was only using me for pictures..thatd be dumb since he knows i would do some stuff with him..ugh i hate saying that..i dont think i want to anymore though. that would be so slutty of me dont you think..i dont know what to do or not..sorry to keep bugging you its just that all of my other friends dont really understand..
your not bugging me. i dont mind. he will probly still talk to you. he wouldnt just use you for pictures, i think hes just trying to see what he can get out of you. if you realy want to have a fling with this kid i would wait till hes single again and show him what hes missing out on. let me know how it goes:)
-Tamera
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