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So i know the only safe sex is no sex. but me and my boyfriend have been dating and it's pretty serious. we both really want to do it, but i'm so paranoid about getting pregnant! even with a condom! any advice? I'm 15, i'm not ready to be a mom haha.
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Clearly the people who have answered this question before are feminist weirdos who want nothing more then to remain perpetual virgins.
If you feel you are ready, than take that step, just make sure you educate yourself first, make him waer a ciondom, as long as it doesnt break, you should be fine, birth control id also an option, but at your age, i doubt that your parents would spring for it. Be aware that it will moere than likemy hurt a bit your first time, but that is normal. Just be sure4 that you and he are ready to priogress to that next step in the relationship. Dont listed to that "no sex before 21 bullshit" these people have had bad experiances and there situatuion is different from yours. just protect yourself.
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So don't have sex untill you are sure!
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Just like helpinghand247 said, if your not ready to be a parent then your not ready for sex. But I can't say much though, I lost my v-card at about 15 with no condom & that was the dumbest choice I ever made. But if you really think you are ready to have sex, condoms & birth control, if your not on birth control SOME health clinics have em & you can get the pill from there. BUT birth control is not 100% like NO SEX. Same with condoms. Just know the risks & things like that be4 you have sex. But no matter what USE A CONDOM!!! AND PLEASE make sure he is the one you want to lose it to....
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If you are not ready to be a parent then you aren't ready to have sex. You are only fifteen? Way too young! Think of your future. When you get married, do you want to marry a man who has had sex with someone other than you? Imagine if he is a virgin, wouldn't that embarrass you to tell him that you aren't? I know that you didn't come here to here a parenting speech, but that is what you need. you should never do anything that you would be too embarrassed to tell your parents about. Remember that Jesus is with you every second of every day. Do you really want Jesus to see you doing something like that?
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well, the best thing you can do is get a condom and some birthcontrol and maybe the morning after pill. all though there isnt a 100% protection youll still being prepaired.
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your right the only safe sex is no sex but i think that waiting for the right guy is way more worth it then getting pregnant with a guy that is going to leave you right after you guys have sex and think your 15, i am 17 and have a baby, i got pregnant when i was 16 and its hard work he takes alot of attention and takes up alot of my time (im not complaining) i love him so much, but i think that you should wait for the right guy because let me tell you my first time wasnt with the guy i wanted it to be and i ended up falling madley in love with him after cuz he was my first and i dont know what it is but when its your first time with someone then your emotions take control like you fall in love with him and when he breaks up with you it hurts badly and it takes along time to heal, and i finally healed but i wish i could have waited for the guy i have now it would have been worth the wait, so i hope you make a adult decision correctly, i know people that have had sex for the first time and got pregnant so just becareful i hope i helped some and i didnt mean to lecture you if i did, you should talk to your mother about sex especially if you have these feelings im sure she would be of more help to you because she has you.
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I know that you have been given this answer billions of times, and I know that you knew this already . . . I am sorry to have to repeat it to you but there is not any other way for me to say this:
-Do not have sex unless you are over 21 years old.
I will not go over the reason why as I believe you knew already, and because it is quite lengthy, but if you are interest, I will gladly elaborate on that. But nevertheless, since he loves you, he should know what is best for you two and refrain himself.
If you still insist on doing with him anyway, (oh, and tell your boyfriend that he's one lucky guy), then be aware that:
-sperms can come out anytime during sex. And even the pre-cum can get you pregnant.
-"sex" affects your mental and emotional state, too.
So if his penis get anywhere near your vagina, tell him to put on the condom, and it's good if you have birth-control pill, too.
But nevertheless, I recommend you to not let him take away your virginity so early. Keep in mind that there are things you cannot undo.
(And sorry if my language bothers you. Being in the medical field [or at least going into the medical field] I talk about these things without blushing =P)
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