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very inexperienced
So i really like this guy and he likes me. He has done a lot more than i have and ive done basically nothing. I'm supposed to hang out with him sometime at his house and im very nervous. I have not kissed a guy since i was in the 6th grade and im in the 10th right now. Ive had bf's but it was always so weird and awkward until now. This is the first time in a very long time where i like someone a lot. And im very nervous with everything and i dont know what to do. Im very afraid that im going to suck at everything because im so inexperienced. So what do i do to get better or how do i handle the situatuion. I'm not planning on having sex with him but other things might come up if not when im there then some other time so i just need help on how to handle it and what to do.
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Welll, I was in the exact same position like a month a go. I had just had my first kiss this year, and I'm in 9th grade. I knowwwww, lame. Anywayss, what I did was asked my guy friends what they thought felt good, and what I should do. Then I practiced on a pickle ;P hehe, it may sound lame, but it actually helped me test my gag reflex. Have you ever masterbated? Well it helped me so it wouldn't hurt as bad. I started with my pinkie, then I used on finger, then two, then three. This will help you loosen up so when he does it it won't hurt. When I went to my bf's house, I was really scared. So I started off saying that I was nervous and excited, and that I reeeally wanted to pleasure him. I started off telling him that I wanted to lick his shaft, etc to get him aroused, so then he could do it back.
Please reply and let me know how you feel and if it helps.
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the best thing you can do is talk to him about it. although you may night be going out with him im sure he will be fine with it and he will walk you through it. and alot of the things you do with guys arent that hard to do. and he can also tell you how he wants you to do the things if you tlak to him about it. well have fun and be careful. any thing else just ask.
-Tamera.
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I know this might be hard to believe, but things will all work out in their natural order. In terms of kissing, couples always adapt to their partners' kissing styles. So while there may be that initial second or two of awkwardness, or a sense of uncertainty, it will wear off VERY shortly. Take it from someone who went two years without kissing.
In terms of other things, they are literally as easy as they look. Everything like that is very straight forward, and I assure you that you'll have no problems. I know you're nervous now, but when it comes down to it, you'll know exactly what to do. There aren't really things that you can do to prepare yourself, as far as I'm concerned, but just trust me that the fact that you really do like him will make up for any insecurities you may have.
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usually instinct will kick in. if it doesnt, then you should just be honest. tell him that you havent had much experience but youre willin to learn and try it with him, make sure your not implyin sex though. and if you arent comfortable with him when you are startin to do somethin with him then maybe hes ndot the guy for you or its not time for you to do certain stuff. if youre not comfortable with somethin DONT do that, i learned that the hard way.
lemme know how things go, ill be happy to help you out along the way :)
x sweeethoney
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First of all try to shake all the nervousness off and relax. I remember my first time being over one of my ex boyfriend's house. I was so nervous just like you are, I flat out told him. And he tried his best to make me feel comfortable. Just tell yourself to chill out. You are with a guy you are so into so try your best to have a good time but don't do anything you don't want to. Its good to have boundaries.
If you guys do fool around or whatever just let him take the lead. Like you said he is far more experienced than you are so he should know what to do. Just have fun with it.
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