My name is Jennifer, I'm a native Minnesotan (yes, I have the infamous mid-west accent). I love indie music that no one has heard of, obscure but brilliant artists, and meeting amazing people! I can help in giving advice in most situations, from light-hearted questions regarding lyrics to deeper questions like those involving broken hearts. I'll try to be honest, and know that if my advice is harsh it isn't meant to hurt you; I'm a firm believer in honesty being the best policy and I intend to bring that to the table here on my column!
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I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused. (link)
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If you're as good of friends as it sounds like, this shouldn't be all that difficult when it comes down to it. If you just want to figure it out without actually asking him how he feels, just notice how often he texts you, looks at you unnecessarily, laughs at your jokes, and playfully touches you. Sometimes it's really difficult to tell when friends are strictly friends, or when they're more. If he texts you more than normal, just to ask what's up, chances are he's into you. Maybe he keeps getting back together with his girlfriend because he doesn't think he has a chance with you.
However, I think you should just ask him if you really want to be with him. You can do so in a completely non-awkward way. If you're ever having a conversation about his girlfriend, and he's complaining about it or whatever, just casually (and halfway jokingly) say something like, "jeez, with all these issues you're having with her you should just date me!" or "I'm bored, let's hook up". Both of those are so up front that they could easily be passed off as jokes, but you can gage his reaction. If he's eager or continues to bring it up, I think you have your answer.
Hope I helped!
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OK so me and my ex girlfriend broke up because she was crushin on another guy.....and i loved my choice on brakin up with her but i just i cant move on i just cant and each time i get a text message from her my heart jumps for joy and i loved er so much and she tells me she loves me everyday what should i do???? (link)
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It was good that you broke up with her when she liked someone else. That was the right thing to do. However, the fact that you're still in love with her and she's still in love with you is holding you back from experiencing new things. You ultimately need to ask yourself what YOU want, and what would make YOU happy. Consider the pro's and con's. If you don't take her back, what happens? Would you ever get over her? Would you be content? And would this be better or worse than if you did take her back? Do you trust her to be completely focused on you? It sounds to me like you want to take her back, and if that's the case, I think you should. If she does it again, I think you'll have your real answer, but if you're willing to give it another shot, you should.
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I was wondering if anyone new any great sites that tell you what sort of books you would like to read? I mean the sort of thing were you answer some personality questions and then a list of books your personality would like comes up.
I'm interested in love stories, fairly modern. I'm a girl, and i like reading teen stuff (15, 16 that sort of thing).
I've read pratically everythin by Meg Cabot, and loved it. I've also read and ABSOLUTELY LOVED the Twilight series.
Thanks! (link)
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The answers below look legitimate, but my go-to technique has, and always will be, amazon.com. If you start by searching "Twilight" it will link you to books that other people interested in Twilight bought, as well as lists that real people have made of books related to Twilight in some way. This goes for any book on the site; you'll be sure to find whatever you may need!
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So i really like this guy and he likes me. He has done a lot more than i have and ive done basically nothing. I'm supposed to hang out with him sometime at his house and im very nervous. I have not kissed a guy since i was in the 6th grade and im in the 10th right now. Ive had bf's but it was always so weird and awkward until now. This is the first time in a very long time where i like someone a lot. And im very nervous with everything and i dont know what to do. Im very afraid that im going to suck at everything because im so inexperienced. So what do i do to get better or how do i handle the situatuion. I'm not planning on having sex with him but other things might come up if not when im there then some other time so i just need help on how to handle it and what to do. (link)
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I know this might be hard to believe, but things will all work out in their natural order. In terms of kissing, couples always adapt to their partners' kissing styles. So while there may be that initial second or two of awkwardness, or a sense of uncertainty, it will wear off VERY shortly. Take it from someone who went two years without kissing.
In terms of other things, they are literally as easy as they look. Everything like that is very straight forward, and I assure you that you'll have no problems. I know you're nervous now, but when it comes down to it, you'll know exactly what to do. There aren't really things that you can do to prepare yourself, as far as I'm concerned, but just trust me that the fact that you really do like him will make up for any insecurities you may have.
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So ive been taking birthcontrol since thursaday..
saturday i didnt take it..
this morning me and my husband had sex. and the condom broke.. we're not sure if his sperm went inside..
can i still get pregnant even though ive been on birth control for a couple of days? :[ (link)
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I'm not sure about the specifics of your particular birth control pill. However, I know in most cases they take a while (more than a few days) to come into effect. You cannot rely on this pill until it has come into complete effect, which I suspect will be around a month. Check the box, or call your doctor for specifics.
Regarding the condom, if it broke there is a very good chance you could have gotten pregnant. The good news is that you still have a few days to get a "morning after" pill (like Plan B). You need to take it within a few days of having sex, and the sooner you can take it the better. There will be no real way to know until you get your period (or not) or take a pregnancy test a few days before you should be getting your period. If you take Plan B as soon as possible, though, your chances of unwanted pregnancy are much slimmer.
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alright so, just a couple weeks ago my hair started getting really gross feeling and it felt like shampoo was still in it when it was dry and washed and scrubbed several times. I was using herbal essences, so my mom went to buy paul mitchell to see if it'd help, it worked for about a day then got to be the same thing again. We then found a Pantene Pro-V clarifying shampoo that removes shampoo build up and helps oily hair, well now it seems to be working pretty good, but the hair closest to my scalp is still gross, and sometimes at the crown of my head it gets bad again. I dont know what to use! i just want my old hair back! (link)
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Generally what you are describing is caused by using too much conditioner on your scalp, or not rinsing it out completely. When using conditioner, which I'm not sure you're doing, as you didn't explicitly mention it, make sure not to apply it to your roots. A good place to start is usually from where you would put your hair in a ponytail to the ends of your hair.
If conditioner isn't the problem, make sure to really massage your scalp with the shampoo; almost scratch it like you would scratch a dog behind its ears. It will feel good, and it will dry out your scalp, hopefully eliminating that excess oil.
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i like this guy and everyone says im better than him but i like him alot .. i want to tell him i like him but how should i do it? either phone or person and how do i tell him? n what do i say?
thanks . i really need help :)
loveboys (link)
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As a general rule, I wait until I'm fairly sure that the guy I like returns the feelings before I put myself out there. This isn't something that all women believe in, but it's generally a way for me not to get hurt or put myself out there unnecessarily. That being said, I would wait until you guys have flirted a significant amount before telling him at all.
Regarding the best time to do so, it entirely depends on your relationship. I can tell you, in any case, that you don't want to stage it or make a big deal of telling him. If your relationship is primarily over the phone or via text, just subtly slip it into conversation. For example, if you're talking about an after school sport that you play, you could casually say "you should come to one of my meets sometime. You could see how awesome I am, and I'd also get to spend some extra time with you".
If you do most of your talking in person, you could say the same thing. Otherwise, if you want to start by asking if he has anyone special on his mind, and if he responds with the generic, "I don't know... who do YOU like?" you could just say, "well, I think it's pretty obvious", and smile. Like I said, just slip it in at an opportune moment, it would be much better and less awkward if you didn't spend too much time planning it out. Spontaneity is always an attribute!
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I just got back from florida. I'm naturally tan, so I tan easily and I get a really nice one when I go on vacation. I've never peeled before. I came back and literally right down in between my breasts I am peeling. And now it's kind of on my chest too, but the cleavage is what's annoying me. A part of it is whiter than the rest of my skin. When the peeling eventually stops, will it stay a different color than my skin or will it adjust? Please help. Any peeling prevention and treatment tips would be great. (link)
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Take it from someone who has burned many a time, it will even out eventually! This is something I have worried about countless times, and no matter how awful it may look now, it will even out once it stops peeling. In the meantime, make sure to moisturize your skin as much as possible to a) stop the peeling and b) preserve your tan for longer!
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