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Q: A long time ago i read this inuyasha fan fic where inuyasha and kagome get married and inuyasha takes her to a house where his father and mother came for like a honey moon. there is a demon servant that used to serve inuyasha's father. In the bedroom there is a big fur covered bed. Kagome and inu have lots of sex in this one and inuyasha turns kagome into a half demon. It had quite a few chapters, and it was really sweet and romantic.

does anyone know where i could find it again?

Hey there hun try this website.... www.imdb.com.... Next to search all box there is an empty box type in Kagome and see what comes up for you. Hope the helps.

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Q: I am trying to obtain medical insurance for my kids that have pre-xisting conditions (daughter age 25 has Lupus and Cerebral Palsy), (son aged 23 has Mixed Connective Tissue (includes Lupus, Rheumatoid arthritis, and schederma)). All the companies I've tried, they don't qualify or it's too expensive. any advice is extremely helpful.
I am currently unable to work because I take care of my spouse that also has Lupus, I'm retired military so she has medical coverage, also both kids are full time college students.

Thanks

Have you talk to Tricare Standard to see if they can refer you to someone that will take the remaining balance of the bill? Also contact your SSI let them know you need to fill out forms for disablity or you can apply online at their website. Make sure you keep all medical records in case they want to have an interview with you. You can fill out everything online takes about an hour or two. Have phone numbers, address, time of service, when diagnous etc in front of you. Its a long procedure and very fustrating. Last but not the least contact you local dfas or human health service ( welfare building) to apply for medicaid and bring all documents with you, it takes about 30 to 40 days to get an approval.

Tricare number is 800-444-5445

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Q: I was talking to this guy, lets call him john.
I like john A LOT, and he said he liked me alot to. We talked everyday and he called me his GF and stuff but we werent BF&GF. But last week he didnt txt me at all. He finally did on his Bday and told me that maybe we should just leave eachother alone :(.. I asked him if thats what he wanted and he said " Yes..I guess." I dont know what happened, we were doin GREAT..

But there more, His stepsis is my bestfriend.
She knew about us talking and didnt like it, she made that clear. We both got yelled at for it..
the day before he txted me,she told me that she made him mad,and the stuff was about me. She yelled at him for talking to me, and also for talking to me for then her..

I think he stopped talking to me because of his sister... What do you think?

Dear Unclueless,

I think you already know the answer to your own question.

Clearly as you stated the Step sister confronted both you and her step brother.

The question is what you wanted to ask is What do you do about it?

Nothing!

If he choose to let his step sister run his personal life that is something he has to deal with not you. And if you also allow her to control your life well then.. you have to really get a reality check on yourself.

Lets see how long this last dont pressure it wait for it.

You will see

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Q: does anal sex actually feel good to some girls?
like after they've done it a couple times..
just wondering, not going to try it!

Dear Anal Wonder,

Very interesting question which I am going to give you an interesting answer.

If that is what they choose to have done to them I am sure it does.

Q: K...so my Boyfriend always talks about how he likes about other girls.Like in gym today,he kept on staring at girls when they were playing volleyball.but heres the thing....Hes joking about the whole thing! just to get on my nerves.
I know hes joking,but it still hurts. hes always ,Can you just tell me what to do? please plz!

Dear Time Bomb

Lets get you on the right road before you blow up. Sit him down and start by explaining to him that in fact you do like his open and honest talk about other girls. However he is going over a little overboard. Let himn know how you feel if he cant give you enough respect after the conversation take place It's then really up to you if you want to keep putting up with it or not.

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Q: Hi, i am 17 going on 18 and i had a baby in march 2008 and i need help on getting rid of stretch marks on my stomic i used that mederma cream for stretch marks it worked a little but i can still see them i want to get rid of them before this summer i really want to wear a bathing suit this summer to go swimming i havent went swimming in public sense before i had my baby and it really sucks somebody out there please help. thanks

Dear Visiable Marking,

All creams takes a long time to fade away the markings on our body.. Because of our tissues we all heal different some take time more than others, the darker they are the longer it takes.

If you are so worried about people looking at you and you think they are going to mock you wear a one piece.

Or we can say the heck with them flaunt what you got woman. Keep working on the cream that you use or scarlight (cvs drug store).

Love your body woman you are worth it!

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Q: 18 female
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, nearly 10 and we havnt had sex!
we have stayed over night with each other and went through all the steps but when we get to the stage of actually having sex he pulls away!
I know he isnt a virgin because I know a girl he has slept with! is it me?

Dear Sexually Fustrated,

I can say that it is very good that both of you have have waited this long to think about sexual intercourse.

Lets look at the age difference you haven't told much about his...

Second it shouldn't make a difference but in a man eyes it could.

Third what kind of atmosphere are you in when that moment hits?

Are there any protection around for both of you to feel comfortable?

Have you and your bf talked about what is going on?

Have you brought up that you know.. he has been with another woman? (not a good idea if so it a total recall for you)

These are just a few questions you may want to ask yourself and help him understand your feelings as well. NEVER bring a past in your present it gives a reason for the other to do as well.

Sex is not the only thing in a relationship remember that sweetie.

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Q: okay so today my grades from school came in. suuucked! you see, i usually get a's and maybe one or two b's. but this time i got some c's. so my mom was really really mad at me since i kept tellin her that i was doin good in school. also she asked me why i was so tired sometimes. so she ended up taking my phone away.

i had no time to erase any of my text messages. but i handed her the phone. not only did she read a lot of my text messages, she viewed who i was callin, who was callin me, and voice mail ppl had left me. i feel like i have no privacy at all. :(

anyway, after my mother had gone through all the spying, she came into my room and asked me all these questions. she asked me who carlos was. of course i knew that was my bf but i never told her i had a bf because i knew she wouldnt accept that. so i lied to her and said he's just my friend. but she caught me. she knew i was lieing. she told me she also knew why i was tired all the time. it was because of my late phone calls i had with my boyfriend. she said that i have no respect for her, all i do is lie, and that i have a dirty mouth. Also that she has no reason to believe anything i say to her anymore.

i feel horrible since i made her cry. i dont know what i am goin to do...what should i do??!

Dear Gaining Trust,

It is really hard to be a teenager now a days. Guess what it is no different from when I was growning up.

Accept that you lied to keep the truth from her.
Accept the fact that not only she has cried that you need to cry too. It's hurts her as much as it is hurting you right now.

As mothers always knows everything even when they don't say a word. And in her eyes that is all she sees is the dishonesty of her daughter.

Now to gain the respect back talk to her..Hold her hands and look into her eyes open up and be honest. Let her no why you lied. Let her know you will try your best to earn the respect back that once was taking away. and you will try your hardest to bring those grades up and yes you did get side track but all you can do is try at this point.

Yes, her words hurt you too its a lesson all of us come to past in our life time. So cheer up darling and put faith in yourself. Its going to be a tought road up ahead. Think positive and do whats right and both will get that respect that once lived in the hearts.

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Q: Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date?

Dear Too Old,

So you recently met a woman that is about to turn 23 soon, and that you are pretty sure that she is into you...

Well first off age is nothing but a number... I am sure that in the back of your mind you may think that you are to young for her. Thinking about what experience she may have had via ( sex, relationship,job, clubs etc..)

Now, that can just have your mind running a mile a minute. Sit back relax and enjoy the life. If in fact she is into have fun with it.. Most women dig younger guys not to play with them but to still enjoy the young life and it keeps their and your youth glowing. Nothing wrong with dating don't past it up and most of all don't fast play it instead let go with the flow.

I don't mean spend money on this and that. Be yourself don't act how you think she wants you to act. If like you for who you are not what you may think she would like..

And if it doesnt work out, you can atleast look back and said I took a chance instead of looking back thinking why didn't you

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And always without a doubt sweetheart just in case. Always use protection. Pregnancy is not the biggest problem that is out there.

Q: 16/F

is it normal for a 16 year old girl to have some gray hair? I was looking through my hair and found strands of gray hair ...I don't think its genetic because my mother started getting gray hair when she was 25 ..why am I getting gray hair at 16?? Is there any reason as to why and how to stop it?

Dear Helpless Gray,

It is very normal to have gray hair at a young age exspecially if it is genetic. As you stated mom didnt get hers until she was 25. Depending on when you get yours is totally up to your body. Mom Dad and siblings we all have differents bodies but run in the same blood. One is more advance than others keep that in mind. It could have came 2 years before or 2 more years in the future. Stess I couldnt say I am no med doctor or research analyst to say if in fact stress causes the chain reactions.

As far as stopping the gray hair..

It is not possible to stop the process of gray hair. If there is one make sure it is approved by FDA also( make aware of side effects)
for example: you want to cover up or stop gray hair, but one of the side effect hair loss down the road

Second you can dye your hair but when the dye runs out, you spend more time and money looking for more gray strand and more dye in your head instead of accepting it and going with the flow.

Third see if mom/dad can make you an appointment with an Dermatologist yes they deal with hair also.

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Q: Hi, im 17 years old going on 18 this summer and i am trying to loose weight aka get abs before this summer and i try doing sit ups i have an ab coster and an ab lounge but yet i still cant loose this baby weight i had a baby in march 2008 and ever sense then ive been trying to loose weight ive tried a weight loss patch called the pink patch, a weight loss loly pop and weight loss tea but nothing is working i have some stretch marks on my stomic also that are almost gone but yet there still visible i need help and fast i dont know what to do i feel awful about my stomic i hate how it is everytime i look in the mirror i cant even look at myself naked in the mirror and its really sucks i used to weigh 116 pounds before i had my baby and now i weigh 120 pounds thats bad somebody please help i need it badly. thanks for reading this.

First and foremost I don't sugar coat anything. I keep it real and if you can accept that then you can accept any challenge out there in life.

Now as far as your stomach fat. Do you know how many women would die to even get to 120 after having a baby? Alot sweetheart! Instead of looking in the past focus on the present and future.
Number 1.
Accept the balance of the differences. ( past present future)

Number 2. We all no that we really have to stick with what we want to do as far as any accomplishments.

Number 3. We have to love and accept our bodies in order for us to change what we dislike about it. (looking at yourself in the mirror and loving what you still have)

Number 4. I (anyone)can tell you what you can do as far as trying to lost weight but it doesn't happen over night nor in weeks time. Please don't be fooled by everything you seen on tv and internet advertising.

Number 5. Last but least get a friend that is willing to help you (physically,emotionally,mentally and spiritually) To get you on the right track to success of the body you desire to have.

If you get all these down pack there will be nothing to stop hun. You may not see the change but others will trust me.

Take Care and Good Luck Dear!

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I am that woman that Keeps it Real

Five things I don't do...
1. I do not sugar coat
2. Tell a person what to do with their lives personal belongings etc..
3. I do not judge( sex, religion, race and etc..)
4. I do not read or study others answers and take their response and switch it to my answer, thats just tastless and not real.
5. I don't google, ask,etc to find the answers when in fact you can do it yourself. Am I right?

I give advise and only advice. I don't need an degree to help anyone. It takes and open minded, caring, honest and patient person to handle others personal problems and question. Every one need advice as well as me. I wont stear no one in the wrong direction. I won't tell a lie. If I have not answered your question its either. I don't have an answer too, I havent gotten to your issue, It's not in the section that i will respond too, Or the question have already been answered and you don't need an duplicate.

Just remember you want someone to be open and honest with you.... I can be a little harsh but at the same time sympathetic we all have feelings.