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no sex after 9 months?
18 female
I have been with my boyfriend for 9 months now, nearly 10 and we havnt had sex!
we have stayed over night with each other and went through all the steps but when we get to the stage of actually having sex he pulls away!
I know he isnt a virgin because I know a girl he has slept with! is it me?
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Not nearly enough information to give you more than a guess, but more than likely he's scared of something, self conscious, something along those lines.
Bring it up. Ask him if he wants to talk about it, and let him know that whatever he needs is alright, and if he needs to wait you'll wait as long as he wants to. Let him know you just want to understand whats inside his head, and you want him to be able to share that with you.
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First off, props for going this long without sex. You may see it as a bad thing, but other kids jump into sex WAY too quick & it ends up ruining their relationship.
Anyways, why don't you talk to him? Something is telling me that either he respects you too much to go that far with you, OR he had a bad experience with sex prior to dating you. You should talk to him about it and see what he has to say. He probably hasn't said anything to you about it because he's shy, embarrassed or doesn't know how to bring it up with you because he's nervous about how you'll react.
Just talk to him & see what's up. I doubt it's you sweetie. Don't worry. Good luck!
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Dear Sexually Fustrated,
I can say that it is very good that both of you have have waited this long to think about sexual intercourse.
Lets look at the age difference you haven't told much about his...
Second it shouldn't make a difference but in a man eyes it could.
Third what kind of atmosphere are you in when that moment hits?
Are there any protection around for both of you to feel comfortable?
Have you and your bf talked about what is going on?
Have you brought up that you know.. he has been with another woman? (not a good idea if so it a total recall for you)
These are just a few questions you may want to ask yourself and help him understand your feelings as well. NEVER bring a past in your present it gives a reason for the other to do as well.
Sex is not the only thing in a relationship remember that sweetie.
Real Talk
xoxoxox
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Hmmm. 9 months is a decent amount of time for a relationship. He won't go all the way? Have you asked him why? I would ask him outright.
How do you know he actually did have sexual intercourse with this other girl? Did she tell you or did he?
At this point, you just have to confront him with that question.
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if he didnt like you he wouldnt stay with you. its definately not you or his level of attraction. he might just be trying to be respectful or may not want to do it before he thinks youre ready to. if you really want to let him know. im sure hed be more than willing to. hope i helped.
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