Hello!
My name is Natalie and I am 15 years old.
My passion is to help those around me with any problem they are facing in their lives at the moment. I do not judge no matter what, I would hate to be judge myself, and I am no hypocrite.
Do not think of me as an angel, or a perfectionist, because I am far from it.
I'm just a normal school girl that wants to help those around her.
If you like my advice, and want to ask me more personal questions,
send me an e-mail on here, or my personal e-mail.
I would love to help.
Alright,
See yeah :D
Natalie--
E-mail: x.breaking.the.tide.x@hotmail.com
Gender: Female
Location: Canada
Occupation: Advice Columist
Age: 15
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alright so heres my problem. I am a 15 year old girl who has never had a boyfriend. never had a kiss or even a guy tell me he likes me. becaues of this i now have little confidence. also this year when i entered high school all of my friends got gorgous. most of them have blonde hair and blue eyes, one of them is the prettiset girl in my grade. and when im with them i feel so down because i am not pretty at all. seriously i have brown hair and eyes and just a weird face. plz help. plz. if i dont figure this out soon im gonna go through high school resenting my friends and always wishing for something i didnt have(good looks) (link)
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Hello.
The first thing you have to do is keep telling yourself you are pretty. If you continue to tell yourself that you are ugly, your confidence will drop and that will not go any goood. Second, Just because your friends are blonde with blue eyes and your a brunnette doesn't mean that your not equally as pretty. To you, it may seem like your the only one on the planet that is 15 and haven't been kissed but your not alone. You have to keep thinking positive, because people can see that your not comfortable in your skin, in the way you look and that makes them feel awkward. Keep thinking positive and think beautiful because that's what you are. Everybody comes inside a package, a work of art with it's own rare design.. so just keep thinking happy and everything will work out for the better. i promiss (:
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My family currently has a male Lhasa Apso. he is 3 years old and pretty protective of us. We used to have another dog (female) but she died in december. so the current dog has lived with other dogs before. we want to get a new dog next month, a small one about his size. and i was wondering if it mattered if it were a male or female? would the current dog get along better with a female dog? or a male one? (link)
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Hello.
What would be best, would be to bring your dog to the nearest pet store that allows pets and casually bring your dog near the other dogs,If he reacts more with one sexe more than the other, well, than you know not to get that sexe.
If not, if he seems to be calm with both, thanI guess you don't really need our help.
The only thing really to watch out for, is if youget a female, that one day you might wake up to find unexpected puppies in your house, unless either of the two have been fixed.
Good luck with it and if you have any other questions, do not hesitate to contact me.
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okay, so im 15 female, and im hispanic.
so this is whats going on, im talking to this boy, hes superrrrrr sexy! ahah and hes mexican and black. (i know that doesnt sound like a sexy mix, but omgggg, this boy is gorgeous ;] lol) and the problem here is that my parents dont like me dating black guys, and no there not racist, they jus think its wrong for me to be with a black guy. which i think is dumb... but anyways, im just thinking like if me and him do end up as something serious, and start going out, how would i tell my parents? cause i would like for them to know about him.. and i wouldnt be able to keep it from them cause i have older bros and cousins that will tell and then eventually they will find out! advice? thanks (link)
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Hello.
Keeping him from your parents, if something became serious would be bad. What I would suggest doing, is to wait, and see if this 'relationship in progress' goes anywere...
If it looks like it's going to start up soon enough, have a 'sit down' with your parents and talk it out. Explain to them that you really have feelings for this boy, and if they love you they'll respct that. If, they are still uncertain, maybe have them meet with this boy before things get to serious and then they can see that maybe 'black boys' aren't as nad as they thought..
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I want to try out for my first school talent show, But I cant find a good song to sing!!!!! I only have 3 preferences, which are not taylor swift, not colbie caillat and not a male song. Other than that Im open to Ideas! :) oh, and I am STRONGLY an alto, so I could use a low ranged song. Thanks! (link)
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Hello.
What i would suggested you to do is the following,
Google, or use www.youtube.com, and type in alto songs and thinngs of this sort.
Also, what you could do is, Listen to your local radio station, and if there is any sogns you like on there, you can experiment with those.
If you would like a few ideas, i could suggest
-Kelly Clarkson
-Lisa marie Presley,
-Melissa Ethridge (Not to sure how you spell that)
And
-Avril Lavigne
Hope this helps, and wishing you to have a good
talent show (:
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For the past 4-5 years of my life, I have been struggling with the realization that I am most likely a lesbian, and at the very least bisexual. I don't consider myself homophobic in the least, but admitting to myself that getting married to a nice boy won't make me happy has been difficult.
I have had a limited number of same-sex encounters with other girls, but nothing too serious. I am now in college, and ready to face my future bravely and with certainty.
I am not sure how to explain this to my close friends. I feel uncomfortable. I'm not sure how to begin living out this "new chapter" in my life. Any advice? (link)
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Hello.
First off, Before telling anybody of this decision, you have to make YOURSELF beleive it. No one will beleive or you be able to help you if YOU YOURSELF don't beleive. Until you are 100% sure that you are in fact lesbian, no one can help you. So start with that.
once you are sure.
talk to me.
ill help you with the next step.
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i need to open up and i need confidence (link)
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Hello.
what ever you need help opening up for, and need a boost of confidence,that's why advicenators are here, you cane message me, or another advice columist. Whatever your problem is we are here to help.
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i am about 5'1", 100 pounds, started my period a few weeks ago, and am and totally desgusted with my body because i have no boobs. i don't even have buds yet, there's nothing there. i'm so concerned about it, and i'm the only person i know with this problem. i know i'm slightly on the small side, but i have a friend who's even smaller than me and she has boobs- EVERY SINGLE person in the high school does other than me. i feel so alone and and i want them so badly. i already wear padded bras and i don't think anyone notices, but i can't even go swimming with my friends because i know they'll be able to tell. people keep telling me to wait but i'm so afraid i'll never get them.
please help,
thanks. (link)
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Hello.
Beign flat chested is completly normal. Not every girl has them. Some girls take longer to develope and some girls develope a lot faster. It's a part of life and a part of puberty. You might not like beign small chested but it's what makes you, you!
You should just feel comfortable in your skin, and shouldn't be afraid to show people the real you. Don't feel presured to need to wear patted bras because everyone else is bigger than you. Even if it takes a while to developpe, people will still love you just because your you.
So don't worry about it and live life like you want.
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15/f
Hi, me and my boyfriend 16/m have been together for 11 months (a year in 2 weeks). But now I dont know if I can even make it to a year. When we first got together everything was great, but I guess that's how it is in most cases. He started to change a little over summer break. Now, it's even worse. I just feel like he lusts me now, and I really don't like it. I told him that I'm not into anything sexual until I'm married (or at lest old enough to know what I'm doing), but he just doesn't seem to get that. He always talks about other girls, he says it's just to make me jealous, I told him that doesn't work on me anymore. He rarely calls me unless I beg him to. He always busy, it seems like he loves his computer more than me. I mean, how can I lose to an inanimate object!? I always seem to do everything I can think of to make him happy, but he just doesn't get it. I guess I've changed too. I used to never cry, he used to make me really happy, and now it seems like everytime I talk to him via. phone, I ALWAYS cry. I've gotten more... naive, confused, and I just feel like I lost all respect for myself. I feel if I just get away from him and focus on myself I can regain my self respect. Now, the thing is, I don't know how to break it to him lol. Now, that I typed this out I see how bad it really was. Could anyone give me some advice?
Much Appreciated~ (link)
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Hello.
I can't really tell you how to break up with your boyfriend, because i'm not as knowledgable about the subject (i.e your boyfriend) you should tell him what you told me. How you feel like your being ignored and such. Tell him you don't want to hurt him but you need to get your self confidence back. I'm sure he'll understand
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I'm a 15/f who loves makeup!
I usually wear mascara and eyeliner, and it tends to run under my eyes so im always using Q-tips to wipe it off. And when i take my makeup off it usually all runs under my eyes, so i have to rub harder under my eyes. Anyways what im trying to ask is how do i prevent sagging, and bigger eye bags from all this rubing, because im sure from all that rubbing my eye bags are only gonna get bigger.
any advice!?
please and thank you! (link)
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Hello.
It is quite simple really. Simple make-up remover you can pick up at your local drogue store will do the trick.
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I LOVE to draw. Last year I went through 2 sketchbooks just during the school year (about 200 pages together). So yeah, last year was really awesome because I could think of something and just draw it as it came to me. And I could see as I improved. Now, I don't draw nearly as much :( Over the summer, I guess I kind of lost inspiration and just didn't bother getting started again. Well this year I'm taking art again and I love it, but it's so hard to start drawing again. I don't draw near as good as I did last year, I don't draw near as often, and my ideas aren't nearly as creative. I hate feeling like I have to start over at the beginning again, but I'm just not as inspired and creative as I was last year. This year, I've taken to looking at pictures on art sites like Deviantart. I love looking through them and everything just amazes me and inspires me. Unfortunately, it's the wrong kind of inspiration :( It's like, if I see a picture of flowers, I want to try to draw flowers like them. If I see a painting of a circus, I want to draw a circus too. I hate it because none of those are my original ideas and I feel like a copy cat :( How do I get my creativity back? Not only do I love drawing, I'm also going into advertising in the future and that involves a GREAT deal of creativity and originality. Please help :( thanks! (link)
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Hello.
The only thing that can get your creativity back is you! Throughout your summmer you've told me that you seemed to have lost the will to draw as much as you used to. What I would suggest doing is continue to draw like you used to and look for inspiration on sites like Devianart. The knack willl come back eventually and everything will be alright again.
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13/F
Okay, here is the thing. I have liked this boy for a while now and he likes me too. I am 13, he is 14, we like eachother, it should be simple right? Well it isn't. He says he likes me, but that he doesn't want a girlfriend. But see, even though he says that, he still acts like my boyfriend. We hang out a ton, we talk all the time, he can get a little protective and sometimes a little jelous when it comes to other boys, and yet he insists that he just does not want a girlfriend. It isn't like he is playing me because I am really the only girl he ever talks to/ hangs out with, besides he is TOTALLY not like that. So what the heck? I mean it really pisses me off because if he doesn't want to be my boyfriend, he should quit acting like one! And I do NOT do the whole Friends with Benefiets deal, that is just not me, and I don't want to do that but I REALLY like him, and I just want things to work, but I can't change how he feels, right?
So what do I do? Should I wait around and hope he changes his mind? I mean there are tons of other boys that would appreciate me but I'm just not interested and I just cant see it... Besides, this boy actually does like me and what if I chuck him and I end up regretting it... Help please! (link)
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Hello.
It seems like this boy is into you and you are quite into him. He could be just hanging around to see if he's into you enough actually consider you as his girlfriend. You should try talking to him because then at least he will know how you feel and that's a start. Comminucation is always very good so the other pupil can know how you feel so he's not always questioning.
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someone once told me not to download limewire because it makes a open connecting and will easily let viruses into my computer,
but i want to download music and stuff.
so is this true? and if so any other good music downloading sites that won't give me a shiznit load of virus?
i'd love you feedback, :) (link)
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Hello.
First of all limewire does let virus in your computer. I'm not saying you shouldn't dowloaded but you should consider diffrent sources example Itunes,frostwire ect...
You can always check your local library or internet to find more safe places to get your music.
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My boyfriend and I are perfect for each other. We didn't kiss for a loooong time and waited. I spent the night at his house last weekend with no intentions of even kissing but we kissed and kissed and kissed and were SO close to having sex. He really wanted to but I kept saying no (even though my body was telling me yes ! lmao!) because I want to wait & for it to be special. Later, he told me we really should wait, too. But bottom line is: we can't. I just know we can't wait. What can we do to in order to not have sex? Even by one little itty bitty touch, we're ready to get it onnnnnnnnn. hahahaha. (link)
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Hello.
First of all, I am not going to say to go right on and do it, and I am not going to say not to. Since it's not my decision. It all depends on your body and your feelings. Even though YOU might think the time is not right, you should listen and follow your heart. If you both think you are ready for this kind of comitment, then I say go for it. If not, than wait. Have a sit down with your boyfriend and talk it out. Don't feel presure that you need to have sex. Because that is defently not the case. You should never have sex under pressure. If you both think deep down that you both have reached this point in your life were you're ready for this. Then, you don't really need my advice now do you ?
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15/f/uk
So there's this guy I like, let's call him S. He's 16, almost 17, not that that's important, just thought i'd add it in.
I mostly know him through school trips we've both been on. The first was a year ago, and although we didn't talk much then, he still seemed to be fond of me, always saying hi to me, trying to start conversations and asking me to come hang out with him and his friends.
Then he always say hi and hugs me if he sees me out.
Then the most recent school trip, which I only got back from a couple days ago, was when I started to fall for him. Although he is a flirt with everyone, he was always teasing me, comforting me if I was a bit down, putting his arm around me, walking beside me, trying items of his clothing on me, putting accessories on me in shops, taking pics of me, standing beside me in pictures.
We ended up flirting a lot, sharing food, sitting with each other, constantly making eye contact and smiling at each other when no one was watching. It was like we had some kind of connection, when other people were talking we would make eye contact with each other and smile (or nto smile sometimes), as if we were sharing some kind of private joke.
After a while, my friends sensed that there was something going on between us, and left us on our own. S had obviously wanted them to, because when they said they wanted to leave he said. "Okay, you go. Me and M will stay here." and then he asked me to come sit next to him. So we sat and it wasn't uncormfortable at all. He kept looking at me in a kind of intrigued way, like he couldn't quite work me out. I made a comment about him, and then, he suddenly seemed to get a little more serious, like he cared what I thought about him, and asked if he really appeared that way, then tried to explain why. But he started to kind of get confused with it, it was really cute. Then he studied me for longer and we made eye contact, and he started saying what he thought about me, which was along the lines of, I act innocent but I'm mysterious and he can tell just by looking into my eyes that there's something more to me, that he thinks I'm a bit of a bad girl, but I'm hard to work out. I never gave him a straight answer to that, just kind of smirked or smiled and made eye contact and then would change the subject, which I hope keeps the mystery. Then he bought me a drink (:
When we were with everyone again he mostly talked to me and joked about, and once when talking about something he loved and found we had in common, said, "Ohmygod, I think I'm in love!". I know he wasn't being serious, but there must be something to it.
However, after that, he didn't really speak to me on the flight home, apart from saying hi every now and then, though sometimes I'd catch him watching me. Oh, also he asked for my number and gave me his.
He hasn't contacted me since the trip, except for saying "snap." next to one of my facebook updates.
What should I do? I really want to get to know him more and get him to like me more, but I don't know how. I have his facebook and number, but I don't ever really see him. Any ideas?
Also I should add that he is generally quite a flirty guy. It's just that to me, he seemed genuinely interested.
Thanks, x
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Hello.
Sounds like S is interested in getting to know you, but doesn't want to seem to eager. Give him some time to come to you. it is possible that he is into you but doens't know if he's ready for a relationship just yet. He could be shy around diffrent type of people, and this is why, back from your trip,he is acting diffrent around certain people. Try going up to him and start making conversations. He could be waiting for you to make the first move to prove if your brave enough to be by his side.
It could talk longer than you may want but if you keep your head up straight and show your not just waiting after him, I'm certain things are going to turn out for the best.
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k theres this guy lets call him eric, and were like bff's but 2 days ago he said he loved me more than a friend &&i reacted badly and told me ididnt see him that way && a day later he started dating anotehr chick and tells her he loves her but never tells me he loves her is it just me or dusnt this make sense ?? is he just somneone to avoid b/c he tells people he loves them regardless or is he doing it to get over me? idk. help.plz! x0x (link)
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Hello.
I would have to say this "eric" fellow isn't really sure of his feelings right now. His head isn't on straight since you told him you did not feel the same way. I would tell you not to avoid him because that will make him feel inscure and unsafe. Eric could still love you even though he is dating some other girl. For one it could be the old jealousy act. What i would consider doing is telling him how you feel and how you are really confused of what's going on right now. He could also not be telling you because he could be thinking you don't want anything to do with him. Tell him how this is bothering you and talk it out. Talking is very important. So start with that. And then see whats going on .
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Hi, im 17 years old going on 18 this summer and i am trying to loose weight aka get abs before this summer and i try doing sit ups i have an ab coster and an ab lounge but yet i still cant loose this baby weight i had a baby in march 2008 and ever sense then ive been trying to loose weight ive tried a weight loss patch called the pink patch, a weight loss loly pop and weight loss tea but nothing is working i have some stretch marks on my stomic also that are almost gone but yet there still visible i need help and fast i dont know what to do i feel awful about my stomic i hate how it is everytime i look in the mirror i cant even look at myself naked in the mirror and its really sucks i used to weigh 116 pounds before i had my baby and now i weigh 120 pounds thats bad somebody please help i need it badly. thanks for reading this. (link)
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Hello.
It's good that you're trying diffrent things to lose this baby fat. What you should do is, Try weight lose centers. Try going to a library or bookstore near where you live and check out some deiting books. You don't want to starve yourself though. Also, after having a child,there is always going to have some leftovers, that is completly normal and you have to accept that. Once you have accpeted that, trying jogging once a week, and eating healthy food. Sitting on a couch watching T.V won't help you get the wight you want to lose. Try setting a weight lose goal,of how many pounds you want to lose and work at it and never forget since THAT is the key to loosing your weight.
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Ok im an 18 year old male. I recently met this 22 year old girl, she is turning 23 in like july or something. Im pretty sure she is into me. My question is, is she too old for me to date? (link)
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Hello.
I would like you to remember a very important peice of advice. AGE IS JUST A NUMBER. As long as your comfortable with this woman you have met, and she is comfortable with you, then age shouldn't be a probleme here. As long as the feelings you have for each other are real, that's what you should be focusing on. Because that's the most important thing in this relationship. The key is to maintain the love you too have for each other.
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