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how to be pretty, get guys.
alright so heres my problem. I am a 15 year old girl who has never had a boyfriend. never had a kiss or even a guy tell me he likes me. becaues of this i now have little confidence. also this year when i entered high school all of my friends got gorgous. most of them have blonde hair and blue eyes, one of them is the prettiset girl in my grade. and when im with them i feel so down because i am not pretty at all. seriously i have brown hair and eyes and just a weird face. plz help. plz. if i dont figure this out soon im gonna go through high school resenting my friends and always wishing for something i didnt have(good looks)
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Having once been a young man myself, i'm glad to have the chance to let you see what boys see.
Keep in mind that there are basically two types of men -- the "nice guy" and the "bad boy". How they got that way usually has a lot to do with what happened in their teen years.
The bad boy type is definitely interested in girls having good looks, and even better if you "put out". For the Bad Boy, it's all about him and what he wants. If you can't give him what he wants, he has no use for you. If you can give him what he wants, he'll take it until he's bored with it, then he moves onto something else.
The Nice Guy is also interested in good looks, but not at the expense of a pretty heart. To the Nice Guy, a pretty heart is far more important than a pretty face. The nice boy has got his eyes open for a girl with kindness, who respects herself, and is a down-home sensible girl. Even if she has a funny face. ;)
The bad boy is often pushy and domineering (hey, some girls just like that in a guy), but the nice guy often has a quiet confidence. The bad boy doesn't appreciate a girl's REAL beauty; the nice guy looks for ALL the ways she's beautiful. For the bad boy, it's about what the girl can give him. For the nice boy, it's about what he can do for her.
Remember too that nice boys your age often have just as little self-esteem and confidence as you might. Of course they're not going to approach you; they probably think they're not good-looking enough for you! A little kindness from you, however, can spark a healthy dose of self-confidence in a nice boy, enough to make him feel closer to you.
The teen years are tough because you, your friends, AND those of the opposite sex, nobody is sure what to do and where they belong in this world. Too often teens fall into the trap of comparing themselves to their peers as a measure of their beauty or their worth.
My advice: stay level-headed about relationships. At this young age, try to make as many male friends as possible. That's right -- if you like a guy for some reason, make conversation with him. But don't go in looking for a boyfriend; you might come off as being aggressive or desperate or maybe even a little slutty, depending on how you dress. Instead make him feel good about being himself. If he's interested in being a good friend for you, he'll make you feel good about being yourself. And often the best boyfriends were first your best friends.
Watch out though; some bad boys try to make themselves out to be nice guys. So TAKE LOTS OF TIME. Don't rush in to anything; if a boy pressures you to do something you know deep-down is wrong, follow you're instinct and let him know you don't think you and he can be friends. There are lots of guys out there who appreciate a girl who can be a kind friend.
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Ok I doubt you are ugly. I have a confidence issue too. Like you, I feel jealous when I'm around my pretty friends. But seriously, I've gotten way better. I'm 14, turning 15 this year. I have had boyfriends but most of it was stupid. I haven't had my first kiss yet either. You don't need a boyfriend. One of my friends are like boy crazy and always needs a guy to make her happy. Its kinda sad. All she gets is guys who use her. You don't want that. To be honest, one day you will find the guy who will think everything about you is great. Instead of being in high school wishing you were someone else.
Ok, so your not the prettiest girl in the school. I'm not either. Doesn't mean there is no hope for you. Don't get jealous over those kind of things. Real guys see the personality.
The problem with alot of guys today is that they are after looks. And only looks. Its sad. They could care less if the girl is nice but all they want to do is use the girl.
My desperate friend had a crush on a guy. She thinks she is so ugly and guys don't like her. Yet, so many guys have liked her and she is pretty. She has brown hair and brown eyes. She is a really good girl, but she thinks she will be happier with a boyfriend. Right now, she claims she is in love with a guy. This guy is horrible, and he uses her. Its really sad.
Seriously, if you show who you really are, you don't need looks to get you through high school.
Just wear clothes that make you feel comfortable and pretty. Not too tight and not too loose.
So just because your friends are blond with blue eyes doesn't mean people with brown hair and brown eyes are ugly. We are all individual and we all look different. Yeah, beautiful in our own way. Good luck and think positive!
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Just because your friends have blonde hair and blues doesn't mean their prettier then you are. all the really pretty girls in my school have brown hair and mostly brown eyes. all guys have different types. in my school alot of people consider my two best friends (and me, i guess. i don't knowww.) some of the prettiest girls in school. my one friend (who has brown hair & blue eyes) gets a tonnnnn of guys, like everyday, new guy likes her it seems. but shes also a huge slut. thats honestly why a lot of girls get boyfriends in high school, their just getting used, or using the boy. my other friend (who does have blonde hair & blue eyes) never gets asked out by anyone. i mean shes known of guys who like her, or think shes pretty, but they know she isn't easy at all. she even asked her one really good guy friend why guys don't ever ask her out or anything, and he said because she wouldn't put out. and i get asked out sometimes, i've had two boyfriends this year. and i'm not a slut or really prude either. soo i just thought i'd tell you how things are in my high school.
Anyway, your 15! i know that probably seems really old, i'm only a few years older then you, & i don't think i'm old or anything. don't worry so much about boys & just do whatever you want to do. if you want to get a guy to like you, well then just try talking to a guy you like and flirt with them. or if you have a friend that knows a cute guy, ask her to introduce you. do things like that. do you wear make up? if you don't try wearing some eye make up and lip gloss or something, get a new hair style, change up your clothes, change the color of your hair, do whatever will make you happy & look good. don't resent your friends for being prettier then you. everyone is pretty in some way. i'm sure your pretty. just list all the good things about yourself & tell yourself you are. confidence is a huge part of your look, if you look confident (not stuck up) then you will get attention for that too. my mom always tells me whenever i say i think i look ugly, she always tells me to do something about it then. & thats what you need to do if you think you aren't very pretty. don't change who you are, but just make yourself in who you want to be. try highlighting your hair or something. go on a diet if you think you need one. wear high heels if your short.
i hope that helped :)
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Hey there...
This is the problem with a few girls these days. They don't actually realise they are beautfil too. It's definitely NOT always about looks to see who's beautiful and who's not.
Everyone is unique in their own way. So do not for a second think your not. Who cares if your not a blondy with blue eyes. Those girls are fake. Brown hair is awesome!!! So many guys out there dig a girl with brown hair.
If your wanting to make yourself look 'pretty' conentrate on your highlights. Wear a bit of make-up, not much. A bit is hot. Don't copy your friends because that will make you just another girl, If you look different to your friends you will be noticed.
Who cares if you don't have a boyfriend, they only cause heart ache.. well most of the time!!!
Give yourself time to find out who you really are, your only young! You don't need a guy to rely on, you are your own person. An individual!
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Hello.
The first thing you have to do is keep telling yourself you are pretty. If you continue to tell yourself that you are ugly, your confidence will drop and that will not go any goood. Second, Just because your friends are blonde with blue eyes and your a brunnette doesn't mean that your not equally as pretty. To you, it may seem like your the only one on the planet that is 15 and haven't been kissed but your not alone. You have to keep thinking positive, because people can see that your not comfortable in your skin, in the way you look and that makes them feel awkward. Keep thinking positive and think beautiful because that's what you are. Everybody comes inside a package, a work of art with it's own rare design.. so just keep thinking happy and everything will work out for the better. i promiss (:
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