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I just want it to be over
15/f
Hi, me and my boyfriend 16/m have been together for 11 months (a year in 2 weeks). But now I dont know if I can even make it to a year. When we first got together everything was great, but I guess that's how it is in most cases. He started to change a little over summer break. Now, it's even worse. I just feel like he lusts me now, and I really don't like it. I told him that I'm not into anything sexual until I'm married (or at lest old enough to know what I'm doing), but he just doesn't seem to get that. He always talks about other girls, he says it's just to make me jealous, I told him that doesn't work on me anymore. He rarely calls me unless I beg him to. He always busy, it seems like he loves his computer more than me. I mean, how can I lose to an inanimate object!? I always seem to do everything I can think of to make him happy, but he just doesn't get it. I guess I've changed too. I used to never cry, he used to make me really happy, and now it seems like everytime I talk to him via. phone, I ALWAYS cry. I've gotten more... naive, confused, and I just feel like I lost all respect for myself. I feel if I just get away from him and focus on myself I can regain my self respect. Now, the thing is, I don't know how to break it to him lol. Now, that I typed this out I see how bad it really was. Could anyone give me some advice?
Much Appreciated~
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Ah, a classic problem. Don't feel down about it, this sort of thing always happens with girls your age. Get you courage up and talk to him about it. However, if you don't think you can keep yourself together, simply leave it. In other words, ignore him. It is quite clear that he does not really care about you. In all honesty, such things should be expected at that age. On the other hand, it is entirely possible that he's simply got a case of raging hormones. Sometimes, teenage boys feel a potent need to act/be more manly than they really are. In most cases, this need is sex. If this is the case, he will grow out of it in due time. However, it is your decision as to whether or not you're willing to take that chance and wait it out. That is a decision you'll have to make on your own. I hope I've helped.
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It seems to me like you're getting a guilt trip. Your boyfriend knows you aren't ready for sex, so he's using it against you. He's making you feel low, and he's hurting you purposely so that you'll give him what he wants.
I know you obviously know better to let your morals & your dignity come first so that's what you should do.
This kid doesn't respect you, or what you believe in, so he doesn't deserve you. I'm glad that you're seeing this situation as it is instead of what it should be. I think you need to stop busting your ass to please this kid. He's a jerk, and he needs to be treated like one.
If I were you, I'd break up with his ass, HARD. He doesn't respect you, so don't respect him. Why should you give out what you are not receiving in return? He doesn't care about your feelings, so stomp his when you dump him.
You need to get out of this relationship altogether and not date for a long time. You need to take the time to get yourself back before you can be with anybody else. And the next time you date, take time getting to know a guy before you date because when you jump into things, they go sour pretty quick.
I hope you can gain the confidence to break up with this guy. Best of luck!
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I had a boyfriend like him. I really want to say that when you do try to break up with him, don't be fooled by what he says if he still "wants/loves" you. But I don't really know how he's really like.
But it seems like he doesn't respect you at all. He shouldn't be making you feel bad. And if you want his attention, it shouldn't have to get to the point where you have to beg for it.
You'll be much happier without him.
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Hello.
I can't really tell you how to break up with your boyfriend, because i'm not as knowledgable about the subject (i.e your boyfriend) you should tell him what you told me. How you feel like your being ignored and such. Tell him you don't want to hurt him but you need to get your self confidence back. I'm sure he'll understand
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