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friendship turning into more
I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused.
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If you're as good of friends as it sounds like, this shouldn't be all that difficult when it comes down to it. If you just want to figure it out without actually asking him how he feels, just notice how often he texts you, looks at you unnecessarily, laughs at your jokes, and playfully touches you. Sometimes it's really difficult to tell when friends are strictly friends, or when they're more. If he texts you more than normal, just to ask what's up, chances are he's into you. Maybe he keeps getting back together with his girlfriend because he doesn't think he has a chance with you.
However, I think you should just ask him if you really want to be with him. You can do so in a completely non-awkward way. If you're ever having a conversation about his girlfriend, and he's complaining about it or whatever, just casually (and halfway jokingly) say something like, "jeez, with all these issues you're having with her you should just date me!" or "I'm bored, let's hook up". Both of those are so up front that they could easily be passed off as jokes, but you can gage his reaction. If he's eager or continues to bring it up, I think you have your answer.
Hope I helped!
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Well take it slow, cause for one a guy does not like to be put on the spot or suffocated, I'm not saying you are, but kind of come around let him know your available to go out, ask him his intrest, like if he likes football, google some players some names you can throw at him, where he's like "wow you like football" jus get enough info where you can kind of win him over, then again this is very important to a guy, cause I'm one myself and I know,listen" to everything he says, like problem wise give him some constuctive critism let him know your a good listener, "I think everyone loves a good listener; those are jus ways to take baby steps towards his heart, for the real deal like to jump right in, its not always safe, its actually taking a big risk, write him a poem, in a card, tell him what you have to offer, I can help you jus visit my website www.poetrypoem.com/sadi. There's a poem I wrote called under the moon, its really touching, and for letting that special someone know exactly how you feel!! No need to rush cause "ment to be" always comes when you least expect it, he might not be the one for you, but don't live your life wandering what it could of been ;)
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I actually had this happen to me one time. My best guy friend, Jonathan, and I spent all of our time together. I started to wonder if he was into me when my friends started asking me if he liked me. So, I began to look for some signs.
1. Did he make time for me when he could have spent it with his other friends? And/or, did he cancel other plans to spend time with me?
2. Did he touch me when he talked? (Ex: When people get flirty, they sometimes touch your arm or leg. Most people just don't notice it)
3. Did he get jealous when I talked about other guys?
4. Did he hug me goodbye? Hold doors open for me? Etc.
Well, he did. So, naturally I assumed he liked me. It freaked me out because I wasn't into him & I didn't want to lose the relationship we had. I sucked it up and flat out asked him, "Do you like me as more than a friend?" There was an awkward moment, he said no, and we laughed it off. We're fine now, still best friends, and he's got a girlfriend of 7 months.
Moral of the story? By looking for the signs, I totally got it wrong. Honestly, just try to suck it up and ask him. If he doesn't, laugh it off and do YOUR best to keep things as casual & normal as possible.
Good Luck :)
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