Well I'm 25 and iam here to listen and give advice, I want people to know that reality sometimes can be hard but with the right words spoken it can actually put a whole new perspective in peoples eyes, just like myself I want people to be on the same level and know the situations we face everyday, and I'm willing to adjust myself in proper persona, jus to give you the better outcome in life!
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To start off, this will be extremely long. I will appreciate it greatly if you take the time to read this, and tell me your feedback. So here it goes.. (Ready?)
19/f
This is a long distance relationship.
Well, it started when our 1 year anniversary hit (Nov, 2008). I call him to give him hints about it and he finally figures it out. So I ask don't you care? He says only 2 year anniversaries and up matter.
So it hit my birthday, which was April 6th. He promised me multiple times he'd call me at the set time of 8:30. He doesn't have a cell phone, just a landline right now. So I said ok. I waited at the phone for two hours then suddenly give him a call at 10:30. He picks up and I yelled at him why the hell didn't you call? He said he forgot. And then I said well fine lets talk now then. He said he can't he wants to watch a tv show instead. So yeah I started to cry and said you'd rather watch a tv show than talk to me, especially since it's my birthday?? He said yeahh. So I called him a jerk and hungup. Cried over it the rest of the night of course.
Then he sends me a letter by mail, it was a card. All it was, was a card with a cat on it, I open it up it ends up being some religious card, and at the bottom it says happy birthday. And on the side he wrote you think I am a jerk but I am not. Look at the back, and I find out this is a card he found with a stack of the same cards. And said nothing about he loved me or anything, and expected some sentimentality on it. Showed a couple of friends and they laughed and said yeah, that is pathetic.
So I call his mom upset and said tell her to tell him don't even bother calling me for awhile until he straightens up. I tell her the story so she's obviously going to yell at him.
So, two weeks pass. He hands out the same excuses: "I'm too tired to talk", "I'm eating", "I'm going to bed", "I don't want to talk"... I try calling him. But he doesn't want to talk.
Distraught, I call his mom. I tell her what's going on since we're pretty close. She said she'll try talking to him but she is sure nothing will work. I seriously recommended military school. She tells me his uncle got him into drinking (possibly drugs), so that can explain his anger and apathy. He just wants to sit around all day, drink, watch tv. He doesn't want a job (he's 19), and when he did have interviews he cancelled them. For what reason I don't know. So I broke up with him. It was very hard..
So tonight, after giving him the silent treatment for a few days. I finally give him a call to see how he's doing. Of course I care about him and love him. I worry about him, even though we're not together. I don't know how it started, but we began to fight. He said he wasn't drinking, but he was yelling at me, telling me to f**k off, and I was with my good friend so he assumed I F***ked my friend behing his back. Which isn't true!! I never cheat!! Would never do it! He also threatens me with a gun, and threatens to beat my friend and i up, along with having his uncle to help. I cried hard. I am scared. He's done this before.. but not this bad. And these threats were heard over speakerphone so a few friends heard it as well.
What should I do? Who should I talk to? He lives in TN; I live in OH, so how can this be resolved?
Thank you again for reading. It means a lot to me.. I just need some advice! (link)
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Hey sweetheart, dumped the loser, sorry jus had to say it, no really long distance relationships never work, I actually was in one for 3 years and we went to a match made in heaven to enemys in the flames of hell we slowly drifted apart, and thts gonna happen, either one of you will let go, and it sounds like he was the first, I'm a guy, and its a lot easier for a guy to move on, cause he's more on the go, and quick to decide make and you know we always make the wrong decisions!! This is wht you do, he knows your gonna be there for him, don't be show him your loosin intrest, even if your really not, sike him out, don't call as much, slow it down, he's gonna notice and either hell pull the crying card, or the I don't give a f**k card, but seriously when he lays in bed at night byhimself without his boys or uncle, he's gonna finally realize what he gots, but it will probly be gone!! Stay strong, and mingle a lil it will get your mind off things, and you will realize there's good men out there, goodluck, and tell him I said he's an ass hole for forgetting, your b-day, and your one year aniversary, don't waste your time cause honestly people never change, if they do its only in time, they'll find those, poisoned roots, but it will be to late for you to get out, chk my site out its really cool www.poetrypoem.com/sadi leave some feedback, take care, and goodluck honey!! JE
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I've been friends with this guy for a couple of years now; we get along great, we spend time together whenever we can (we both work full time so it doesn't happen often) but whenever we can, we do.
I know at one point in our relationship he liked me for more than just friends, but now i don't know if he does or doesn't. He has an on again off again girlfriend whom he says he doesn't really care if she's in or out of his life, so as bad as this may sound, the girlfriend isn't really a problem.
so my question is... how do i know if he likes me as more than just friends. I don't want to ask him because what if he doesn't, i wouldn't want to ruin our friendship. So what signs should i be looking for? or what do you suggest i do? i'm so confused. (link)
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Well take it slow, cause for one a guy does not like to be put on the spot or suffocated, I'm not saying you are, but kind of come around let him know your available to go out, ask him his intrest, like if he likes football, google some players some names you can throw at him, where he's like "wow you like football" jus get enough info where you can kind of win him over, then again this is very important to a guy, cause I'm one myself and I know,listen" to everything he says, like problem wise give him some constuctive critism let him know your a good listener, "I think everyone loves a good listener; those are jus ways to take baby steps towards his heart, for the real deal like to jump right in, its not always safe, its actually taking a big risk, write him a poem, in a card, tell him what you have to offer, I can help you jus visit my website www.poetrypoem.com/sadi. There's a poem I wrote called under the moon, its really touching, and for letting that special someone know exactly how you feel!! No need to rush cause "ment to be" always comes when you least expect it, he might not be the one for you, but don't live your life wandering what it could of been ;)
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16/F
So a lot of things have gone wrong in my life since about October and they just keep happening. I've always been a really happy person, always even if something was wrong i would only let my bf know and no one else would be able to tell. Well this past weekend it got worse than it ever has and ive just been in the most depressed mood, ive gone shopping (something i love) ive done pretty much everything and im just in this downer mood that i cant get out of and its really bothering me becase im never like this. im just always sad now and i cant cheer up no matter what i do.
And no im not thinking of hurting myself, i just want to be happy again. Does anyone know what i could do to stay happy??? anything is appreciated thanks! =] (link)
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Oh yea we go through stages of depression, all the time and even when are back is already against the wall, the things that happen to us is only makeing us stronger and your maturing at 16 so its actually hittin you pretty hard, here's the solution,...look at your self in the mirrior look into your eyes focus really hard, that person you see, that's you, your soul through your eyes think of all the people who love you think about the roof over your head about the nice purses and things you have, the good friends, those things we take for granted, there's more to life,there's passion,love friendship, and most of all family, your depressed, cause you feel an emptyness inside, you feel alone, and that's natural, but jus know that person in the mirrior is the only person who can love you and take care of you, and don't think so much with your heart, cause most of the time, when were upset it affects our decision making and that makes our life a little difficult ...chk out my website www.poetrypoem.com/sadi! Good luck
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16/f boyfriend is 15/m
kinda long but kinda interesting too
my boyfriend has bipolar disorder and depression
i also think he is schitzophrenic at times... but thats just me. oh and hes also the biggest asshole you will ever meet. but im a bitch at times so we make a great couple...most of the time
you would never know that he had these problems though. hes captain of the varsity football team, plays lacrosse, class clown, one of the most loved guys in schoool. all the girls find him really hot and they all want to date him. but he was known as the biggest player in school too. as in he had 10 girls at the same time. and i know this because we were best friends before we dated and he would tell me everything. when we were best friends everything was perfect and he treated me like his number one. when we started dating he still treated me like his number one but he was also a huge asshole sometimes. when we fight we both put eachother down so much and says things like fuck u, i cant stand u, and just other dumb stuff. but we usually fight on the phone because fighting in person doesnt go so well.
funny story that you dont have to read, you can skip but this is why we dont fight in person (well we were yelling and i had just come home from a party and i was soaking wet because i had walked to his house in the rain and i was in a dress and stilletos and my hair was dripping. we started yelling and i finally had enough and said IM ABOUT TO SHOVE MY STILLETTO UP YOUR F****IN ASS IF YOU DONT SHUT UR MOUTH FOR 2 SECONDS. well he walked over to me shoved me against the wall grabbed my face, and we started making out kind of violently (we can be rough sometimes haha) and he ripped all my clothes off and yeah. so thats why fighting in person never works unless im upset and crying. then he holds me and tries to work things out. but apparantly my anger seems to turn him on. so most of our fights happen over text or a call which probably isnt a good way of communication.)
the thing is, i really love him. i couldnt imagine living wihtout him. we fight so much and at times cant stand eachother, but we always make up and hes my everything. i cant stand to be without him. but being in a relationship with a guy who has so many problems is so hard.
everything was going fine for the first 3 months and we were so in love. we still are but then we hit this patch that i really didnt think we would get over. it was fighting, not talking for days, crying and yeah it was no fun. but even in this stage, we still had our good days and that was what kept us going. but i didnt know how long this could go on for and after a month of this, he said we should take a break.
at first i was happy about it because i felt like i needed some space. but i still cried everyday because all i wanted was to be with him. i was a mess and didnt want to talk to anyone. after 2 weeks of this break, my boyfriend said that he didnt think our relationship was going to work. so we broke up. i was so upset, but a week later he wanted to get back together. (he always changes his mind about everything) ((schitzoooo))
so we got back together but now (2 months later) we are going through the same thing, he said that he hates being around me sometimes and that he just cant do it anymore. so we broke up. (again)we yelled and screamed and i slammed the door in his face because he was being an asshole and i walked out. he texted me later and we talked a little bit. he asked me what i wanted to do and i said i wanted to get back together but that i wasnt going to because he didnt want that. but he kept saying that he wanted to do whatever i wanted. i told hom to do whatever made him happy and he got pissed and told me to just stop worrying about his happiness and tell him what would make me happy. but i love him and was not going to make him unhappy so i said we should take a little break then maybe get back together in a while. so he said ok.
my question is, should i keep going back into this unstable on off relationship even though the same things keep happening and it hurts me. or should i just end it? and i cant just be friends with him because there are too many feelings so its either all or nothing.
i love him so much and i cant imagine ever being with somebody else. even if i did end this relationship with him i could never imagine being with another guy. but his bipolar is makin him love me one second and hate me the next. but even in the bad times he says he still loves me and thats what keeps me going. i just dont know if this relationship will work because one second we are fine, but the next he wants to break up and i dont want to keep it going if he seems like he doesnt want to and is just staying with me because he wants me to be happy. i just want him to be happy and sometimes i think the relationship is making him so unhappy and hes only in it for me. i want to be there for him and i know he has a hard time dealing with all his stuff but i want him to know that he can always come to me for anything and ill always be there.
im so confused i just dont know what to do. im so in love with him and hes my best friend too. what do i do?!?!?!?!? thankssssss (link)
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Wow!! Well I'm 25/m that's so crazy cause me and my high school sweetheart(now beautiful wife) were the same way in high school, the skizo, and all we had the exact same problems, so confused, and so in love, asshole and a bitch, I was the big player, and she was tryin to change me, wait chk this, I put her through so much shit, and she stayed, by myside,now were married wit two beautiful kids, and wouldn't trade it for the world, if you love someone hang on tight cause its gonna be an emotional roller coaster, nobody says life isn't easy no matter who u choose in life, your gonna have problems, you jus have to know you have eachothers back, building memories, then breakin it off, can really, shread a heart" I know your confused, but lookin back at my situation, then hearing your wonderful long story,lol, jus tells me you guys love eachother,good luck! Ps. Don't spend the rest of your life wondering what it could of been! Je
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Okay so i've been dating this guy for about 2 months now. But we've been really good friends before that too...
We were talking and hanging out about 4 or 5 months before we actually became boyfriend and girlfriend. We're both extremely happy with the relationship we have, we hang out about once or twice a week and even in the morning before school starts. We're crazy for eachother and we both know that....
I think i'm in love with him. But i don't know what his reaction will be if i tell him. I don't know if he'll be creeped out, or say he loves me back.
Basically my question is, should i go for it or not? (link)
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Ok well I think you should go with it one day at a time, if you like the way you guys are now, then takin that chance will probly ruin that!! What you guys have now, if your not sure he feels the way you do, then put him to the test, look at the small things like the way he looks at you, or the little things he does, really tells you how he really feels, but if you really like this guy, then don't rush jus enjoy it as it comes one day at a time!! Good luck!! Ps... This is your baby so ill jus say follow your heart and the rest will fall into place!!
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I'm so sorry if this is in the wrong category. picked the best I could... ANYWAY!!
My graduation is coming up. no, not the big old highschool graduation where the tears really SHOULD be shed, just junior high graduation... but I've been at the school as long as I can remember--leaving something so close to me is GONNA cause tears!! Haha..
So, how can I hold BACK those tears? I'm worried that I'm gonna be crying during the practice even, so please help! (link)
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Hey I'm jus like you very emotional, ok here it goes. To keep from crying blur out ur eyes like when u go cross sided, and think of something funny like a tv show or a joke(ignore the whole situation) while doin this even hum very lightly, it works practice it a couple times before, here's a lil secret when me and my girlfriend watch very sad movies she balls up all the time and looks at me to see if I'm crying, I always do exactly what I told you, and she never catches me, the funny thing is I was crying inside.. Good luck!!
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I am learning and have been practicing for a while the process of releasing fear and worry. I have had a few interesting moments in this process...oe of which was when I was crying about something i was worried about, and i sort of viewed my self from outside of my self, and realized i did not have to cry about it. My body continued to cry but my mind it's self was not sad or concerned. I have read before that when you feel fear you are not so much afraid of what you are actually afraid of, but more so of what your body is doing...cause often if a situation does present it's self you are much calmer than that of the imaginary situation. Thus my question, when something is going on in my life, and i choose to let go of worrying, i may bring my mind out of it but i still feel the left over pains in my stomach or in my side or perhaps it may be the body crying, is there a way to transcend these physical feelings, or perhaps release them along with my mental release? Thank you. (link)
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Well there's a lot of ways to release your physical pain, for one, pain is a state of mind a feelin that involves emotion, you only hurt cause your mind is tricked to do so when you bump your self or fall down, its kind of like when you get good news, your only reaction is (good feelings) the way to control yourself is to learn how to control your emotions, take deep breathes, meditate whatever can get you back to sane, its very easy to hurt and switch to be happy in a quick second, it takes time and practice, think with the strengh of your mind and not the warmth of your heart I actually jus wrote this poem about being 'one with yourself' its called.."Inside the head of my shadow". Feel free to give my website a peak. www.poetrypoem.com/sadi I wish you the best, and for more advice hit me on the advicanators...ps..time is the race of life...the faster you run... The quicker to your destination...and destiny takes its place.
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So i am going through a point in my life where I'm starting to see and do things in new and completely different ways. I feel like an adult. I am making my own choices and decisions, and I am becoming independent. I am 17 years old. Although I know this is normal, and this is how people grow up, i feel as though I am truly alone, and responsible for my own future and my happiness. My parents are too old it seems, to understand or even try to. They are pretty much doing their own thing. My friends are always there to help me though of course, but sometimes i feel as though I need to get a strangers view on things. That's the whole point of this question i guess. I am feeling more alone everyday even though I am surrounded by people that love and care for me. my boyfriend doesn't get it, but i know he cares. same with my friends... I guess i just want an opinion about all this and how normal it is for my age, and if this has happened to any of you before, and how to deal with it or embrace it...
i guess i just feel confused about life's lessons. I've been learning so much lately its hard to make sense of all of it... (link)
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Hello.. Well I'm 26 and what your goin threw is a small manic depression, not where ur sad, but kind of scared of the world scared to face it, its natural at your age.. When I was 15 threw 21 I stayed in my room 23 hours of the day cause I was scared of takin risk, in your case your adventourious, waitin to see what happens next. The way to deal with it is write poetry, get to know your brain a little bit and your actions, or go to the library and get a book on socialology that will show you how to adjust, take deep breaths, meditate that always works for me if you feel alone its cause you have a talent of some kind that needs to be shown or let out you are special, I feel alone everyday, but its cause you are one to yourself very independent, there's never a healing but jus ways to release your thoughts!! Check out my web site, its poetry and it really helps me release my thoughts...www.poetrypoem.com/sadi...ps its hard to make people understand, its almost impossible to let them know how you feel there's only certain people that will understand your ways.. If you ever wanna vent ill be here to listen and give you advice!! Jeric83
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me and my boyfriend (both 16) have tried having sex quite a few times with a few problems
first it didnt go in because we thought i was too tight
but now it doesnt seem to go in because it like bends?
i asked him if he wasnt hard enough and he just said idk kind of embarrassed so i didn't push the conversation
anyone have any ideas? (link)
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Okay well you have to be patient take it very slowly, no rush, he's 16 I'm pretty sure he's excited the best thing to do is erouse eachother, don't go straight for the kill, get in to it then work your way to the starting line that's when the race begins, ps..practice safe sex and don't rush into anything you don't feel comfortable doing!!
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okaayyy i dont think that youll be able to understand this casue its i think you have to know me and my friends to understand the situation. but i need to try cause i dont know what to do and i cant talk to anyone about this.
okay, Theres this kid karac, my bestfriend paige, and my boyfriend matt. Me and matt have been talking for over five months(dated before too) It took him three months to ask me out, he still wont kiss me in school, and he JUST told me he loved me on my birthday wednesday. hes really really not public about our whole relationship just casue hes shy, but hes defently a good guy. But while i was talking to matt i was also talking to this kid karac. and he wanted to be with me, but i kinda just blew him off for matt, even though i liked him and he acts so much better than matt. so we stopped talking talking and just were friends. and finally matt asked me out. now karac is talking to my bestfriend paige, but she is shy, unbelivable. like she like three other guys always blows him off and alll this stuff, he just wants to get in a realtionship but she is runing from him but still claims she really likes him. matt only comes to see me once a week, and doesnt talk to me much in school, but karac his does. i see him and talk to him so much more than matt. he offers to drives me home all the time when im stuck places and matt just walks away to his car when i tell him i have no way home. so yeah i like karac alooooot! problem is he likes my bestttttfriend and i have a boyfriend who just finally feel in love with me. what do i do!! like i kidna love my boyfriend. i do. but im young. karac always talks to me about paige and wants me to help him with her but sometimes i find myself hurting the situation between them. which is horrible. i just kinda like him and he use to really like me. )= do i ignore my feelings for him? he usually seems like he still likes me to but i know he wouldnt do anything casue matts his good friend. i cant really decide who i would be happier with? like im always sooooo upset cause matt never ever acts like he likes me and so much more. sorry this is long i hoope you understand. please what do i do? (link)
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Tell u what don't ever hold your feelings back jus go with them, matt sounds like a waste of time, I think if you break it off with matt and tell him why, cause he never shows no affection" he'll either,change his shy ways, or not, and if u do break it off,karac will know your single and things shall fall in place, look I know I'm not there or its harder then it sounds, but if you don't break it off with matt soon, and you hanging out with karac is only gonna fall into a disaster waitin to happen, so prevent it, cause you are the only one who has both keys to both doors, and which ever one you decide to open, make sure you close the other one all the way!...;) good luck!!
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i know everyone likes being talked to dirty.
i love sex, im a sex feen. but i cant express (verbally) how i want things. i usually end up getting on top and doing what i want instead of telling my man how to make it just right. sometimes im imbaressed, and i really want to be able to be sexy and have fun but i need help.
basicially, i need someone to help guide me on what to say, when to say it, and what is sexy to a man. (link)
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Sexy to a man, being a sexfanatic you should be very out spoken, okay little things to say and for (hints) to your man, maybe when watchin tv ask him do u think she's pretty, but not in a sexy way, more judge mental jus to get an answer from him, cause any little sexual remark or flirtatious move will upset him, and believe me will know! If he's shy in bed or is not a talker, or jus likes to concentrate, show insiative, be the first to make your move, take control, if he doesn't like that, and shows a sign of jelousy, go straight to the heart, like "I want you to make sweet love to me, from head to toe, be sweet but straight forward, the key to a good relationship, is a great sex life, and remember, the times you don't speak up, is another day loss of fufilling your wildest desires!!
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i have a problem and seriously need some help to figure out what to do i need someone to talk to (link)
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Don't feel bad we fall in and out of love everyday,we all like change some of us are terrified of it, the best thing to do is resure your feelings for your husband it can be a small phase, or the real deal, on your behalf its okay to fall out of love jus be prepared for his outcome, and falling out of love with someone, opens the door for the one you were ment to love all along!
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