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dirty talk
i know everyone likes being talked to dirty.
i love sex, im a sex feen. but i cant express (verbally) how i want things. i usually end up getting on top and doing what i want instead of telling my man how to make it just right. sometimes im imbaressed, and i really want to be able to be sexy and have fun but i need help.
basicially, i need someone to help guide me on what to say, when to say it, and what is sexy to a man.
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lol well let me tell you that i feel the same way. sometimes i tell my man that i want to say sexy thngs and that i can imagine me saying sexy things while havng sex but i never did. the only thing would say is oh daddy. but just the other day i loved sex with him and i was able to say some naughty things.i felt so relaxed and i felt like i was able to say all those things because i felt it in me. so boo take your time and start off with some simple words. trust me. :)
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Every guy is a bit different so I can't speak completely for your guy. But i'll try to help the best i can. first off, you have to understand that what appeals to you won't have the same effect on him. girls usually end up being too lovey dovey or too much into the foreplay/teasing aspects. guys tned to want to feel like "what have i gotten myself into??" that's the message you want to send. I'm sure guys have said crude things to you or your friends. That's the kind of stuff that turns on the male mind. They didn't translate it to be appealing to you and that's why it sucks. but i think you ahve to be that direct. you have to make things all or nothing. passionate statements, big statements, be a bit over the top. don't look to spare his feelings.
but on another note, you said you can't get what you want. why don't you play a game with him. just like softly attack him and say "oh you're going to get some...if you do exactly as i say" then when he goes to respond, say "shhhh, i didn't say you can talk.". you can use this time to have it more like your way. plus if it goes well, you can say "i really liked this and that." guys want to be called good in bed. most of us are willing to listen and try things. don't feel bad for wanting to work with him. you just can't say something is "bad". you have to say that such and such is better.
you could always just play around and do various things. while doing them as it goes on say numbers to him as far as how good things feel. but this would sort of guide him a bit. i don't know if you two are quite that open. but i'd say that you could take turns with each other doing so to just learn about one another.
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Sexy to a man, being a sexfanatic you should be very out spoken, okay little things to say and for (hints) to your man, maybe when watchin tv ask him do u think she's pretty, but not in a sexy way, more judge mental jus to get an answer from him, cause any little sexual remark or flirtatious move will upset him, and believe me will know! If he's shy in bed or is not a talker, or jus likes to concentrate, show insiative, be the first to make your move, take control, if he doesn't like that, and shows a sign of jelousy, go straight to the heart, like "I want you to make sweet love to me, from head to toe, be sweet but straight forward, the key to a good relationship, is a great sex life, and remember, the times you don't speak up, is another day loss of fufilling your wildest desires!!
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