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stop pressuring me. sorry for the length
yes i have been posting a lot about this situation, im sorry to keep doing this but i just dont know who to tell anymore..
this guy that i met a while ago yeah we talk online and ive seen him twice and ill probobly see him at my friend's in a few weekends but anyways, first he pressured me into sending him pictures which i didnt do. now he is pressuring me badly and keeps asking me to give him a bj. ive said, no sorry i dont think thats gonna happen , tons of times. but then he makes me feel so bad. and no i dont want to, and i wont. but its almost like i feel like this is sexual harrasment. the way he talks to me now..its like he doesnt even care about my feelings or what I want. its only what HE wants. he keeps on saying things like, yeah so just suck it. or, oh yeah your a good girl who doesnt give bjs, i forgot.
this is pissing me off and he is making me feel stupid and bad about myself, really bad. like im only good for one thing for him. i am being so pressured by him. and last night after I IMed him. [usually he IMs me but he hadnt talked to me since saturday night and i didnt know why] anyways after i kept saying sorry but i dont think so [in other words, no] yeah he was on for two hours today same time as me, never IMed me. why not. i know im paranoid but..ugh. i dont even know why i want him to talk to me. i wish i didnt care so much and could just get over him. he doesnt even treat me nice, at all. he orders me to do things for him. and then whenever i try to stick up for myself in a nice way, he just says k. or basically doesnt give a shit. or he just makes me feel dumb. like the whole picture thing? saturday night he was begging for pictures. and..i didnt know what to do..i said, would you be mad if i didnt send any..and he goes, um yeah kinda.
he is mean. doesnt even treat me fairly. i cant do this anymore. and then i have to deal with him going on and off with talking to me. i wonder why he does that..i know that he likes this other girl who lives in new york who is obsessed with him [seems like it] an writes on his wall I LOVE YOU. dont know what thats supposed to mean....
someone please help me
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First Id like to say your smart for not sending him pictures. If you sent him pictures then he will only try to go further with you and if you dont want any of that than what you did was right. Also did you know that it is illegal for teens to send other teens pictures that expose themselves and you can be arrested. Him pressuring you and not taking no for an answer the first time, shows that he truly does not care for you and only wants to use you. I know sometimes your heart can tell you one thing but you really need to listen to your head and not talk to this guy. Dont im him, let him im you, and if you want to talk then okay, but I wouldnt want someone like him in my life.
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Hunny stop talking to him.
He ain't worth your time.
You deserve WAY better.
Don't let this guy pressure you to do things you don't wanna do.
It's your life.
You can do what you want with it.
Hope this helps you sweetheart.
I kinda know how you feel in a way.
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time to ditch the loser hunny.
you deserve better then this. A man who loves a woman would never make her feel stupid or bad about themselves.
Dont let him pressure you into anything you know is not the right thing to do.
Do not lower your morals and standards for someone who is mean and doesnt steat you fairly.
he goes and on aoff talking to you because he is playing a game .. the next time he does that .. and he stops talking - when he starts talking again - dont give him the time of day -- watch how quickly his tone changes.
u need to start involving yourself in other activities - hang out with your friends - make new friends - join a club - get a job - .. do something that does not involve him..
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Inform this guy that sending pictures like
that is child pornography and no way will
you do that. Not to mention they will be floating around out there haunting you still when you are 80.
I really think you should just stop talking to this guy all together. Don't contact him and next time he contacts you tell him your parents are going to call the cops next time he contacts you. I know you think there are feelings there, but follow your instincts. Saying I love you and writing it on your wall is a cheap easy way to temp young girls into doing what he wants. Don't fall for it.
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Its guys like him who end up in jail for raping girls and sexual harrassment. Next time he asks you for anything sexual tell him to get lost or you'll report him to the police. If he's in fromnt of his mates and asks sexual favours, just walk up and say loud enough so everyone hears "i wouldnt go near it because from the photo you sent me, its wayyyy too small". That'll kill his ego and hopefully stop him doing what he's doing. Its time to stop being so damn nice!! Nice will only get you so far.
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you don't have to have us tell you what you already know- this guys is a JERK!
Honestly, next time he talks to you DISS him out!He's TRYING to manipulate you and trying to make you feel bad. I know exactly how you feel about making him feel bad-like besides the fact he wants things from you-besides him acting like this- he COULD possibly be a nice guy. But think about it-he's not to you. He's just trying to use you. You've tried saying "no,sorry"-which is very polite. But now you just have to say "oh really? well maybe you should go call up a hooker and leave me alone" Its okay to be rude to him. He's already making you feel umcomfortable and invading your space! I think the reason you want him to talk to you is maybe you've liked him before all of this-or at the beggining you would consider it-IF it weren't ALL he wanted from you. If he actually wanted a realtionship,then you MIGHT have hit it off. But this guy doesn't want a relationship-he wants his own weird little slave type thing from you-which is creepy. Its not even worth getting to know him. He's gone completely out of line and you've GOT to set him straight. He expects you to be vulnerable! Be strong and tell him to stop harrassing you. Its okay to be mean to him. he deserves it!Trust me,i've delt with guys like this before. Immature! Please don't waste your time on a guy like this anymore,you sound SO much better than that!Also creeps like this never want to be revealed. So if you start telling your friends about what he's doing he'll instatly get the picture and leave you alone. A creep never wants to be known as one :}
call him out! i know you can do it,haha good luck :D
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This guy isn't even worth your effort in asking this question!
He wants something, but is too lazy to actually try for it. Don't feel bad because he hurls insults at you when you turn him down. You're just showing some self-respect, and he's not showing you any respect at all. Next time he does it, tell him that if he wants it so badly, he should put some real effort into it and take you out for a few dates at the very least!
This guy has gotten what he wants in the past by behaving this way. You'll save yourself (and maybe some other girls) a lot of heartache by just ignoring his repeated demands. Maybe he'll learn that girls don't always want the jerk.
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he's like any normal teenager, he's just trying to get something and doesnt seem like there is anything wrong with it. this happpens to me, if I don't want to I pretty much make it seem like im really mad; so next time try that if you want , if it doesnt seem like he cares you're upset, I wouldnt waste my time on him. That shows you he's trying to use you, he probably used to people saying yes, so he gets mad when you don't give him his way. It seems like you like him, just try your hardest to move on, find someone new that will treat you right and not be an asshole. Remember you arent doing anything wrong.
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