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I'm a raw and living foodest. For those of you who are unfamiliar with what that is I only eat foods that have not been cooked. I do this because it maintains all of the nutrients and enzymes intact and is much healthier. I'm not here to try to convert anyone. I think you can reach maximum health by eating all kinds of foods fixed all kinds of ways. This is simply my life choice. What I'm here to do is help educate people as to what is happening to thier food. Did you know that the pharmaceutical companies have lobbied to have a law voted on called "Codex Aimentarius" that will take away our freedom to take suppliments? It has already been implemented in Europe. Of course it is still ok for them to put steroids, antiboitics and harmones in our foods. Have you wondered why there is a great influx of people acting aggressively and out of character? I'm here to help guide you through this mess. If you want to eat meat...eat meat...just get chemically free meat. I'm here to help you understand what is happening to you.
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ohkay, everyone is telling me that the world is going to end in 4 days (6-6-06) (the devil's number.) I AM REALLY SCARED OVER THIS. I CAN BARLEY SLEEP. im like pettrified. is what they're telling me true or is a myth? and do you believe it? and should i be scared?
thanks guys.
First of all the numbers 666 is in reference to the mark of the beast or anti-christ if you will. It is not a reference to a date. But let's take a moment and pretend that it was a reference to a date. The number 666 makes it's appearance in the Book of Revelations. This is the last book in the Bible, which was written thousands of years ago. Now thousands of years ago we were operating on a completely different calendar system. The calendars that were used then were the Julian calendar used by the Romans (Julius Caesar), the Hebrew Calendar used by-well, you know, the Jews, and then the Mayan Calendar, which for this purpose is not referred to. We now use what is called the Georgian Calendar and different countries adopted it at different times around the world but it was roughly adopted around the 1500s to the 1700s I think China was even later than that like the 50s or 60s. My reason for pointing this out to you is that if something was professed to occur at a particular date and time according to the Bible or any ancient document you have to look at the calendar and method of telling time that the people who wrote the book were operating under and since Revelations was written somewhere around 2000 years ago and John, who wrote Revelations, was Jewish, it is a pretty safe bet that he was operating under the Hebrew Calendar and we are in the year of 5766 according to their calendar. So, we've missed the deadline so to speak. Anyway, someone is always predicting the end. They were doing it back when Jesus was around and they are doing it now. Pay no attention to them. I hope that helps to settle your mind.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
i recently learned i am pregnant. so far, im thinkin its prolly a month and a half along. im 16, and there is NOOOOOOO way in the world i can have this baby. theres no way in the world i can tell anyone my boyfriend of over a year got me pregnant. my family's real good friends with his, and things just wouldnt be pretty. also, both our families are real religious and would drown us in all the 'sex before marriage is a sin' stuff. well, fact of the matter is, since we havent told anyone about it yet- i havent gone to a doctor. i know youre supposed to get prenatal care the second you find out youre pregnant- but i cant bring myself to tell anyone, and truthfully- i really dont want to have this baby. i will NOT have an abortion, but i think i might be having a miscarriage, or about to be having one. i have all of the symptoms. i guess my questions are;
1. how do i tell people?
2. how do i know for sure if im having a miscarriage?
and 3. am i a horrible person?
This is a tough position to find yourself in. I do wish I had the magic wand that could make it all better. First and foremost you must never think that you are a horrible person due to the fact that you find yourself in a precarious position. That's ridiculous. Believe me you are still beautiful in the sight of the Lord. What I would suggest you do is go to a family planning clinic of your choosing. There are people there that can help guide you in the direction that is best for YOU. If you don't agree w/what one says than go to another. There are plenty of them out there. Find the one that you feel a comfortable with. They are bound not to tell anyone anything that goes on between you and them. It is all confidential. They will guide you towards the procedures that would best fit your needs. As far as miscarriage symptoms there are so many different symptoms that I can’t list them all here , but a few of the common ones are, a lot of blood, you may see a small sack like object/you may not, you could feel light headed or faint, or you could experience abdominal pains. The best way to find out what is going on is to get yourself to a clinic. There are even free clinics, the Health Department in your area for one. Again, with regards to your personal health issues, they are obligated to be confidential if you request it. You have nothing to loose but your health. Good luck to you!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
do you guys know of any way I can get rid of my sore throat? I have a throat infection plus strep. They gave me vicoden and amocticillian, but it still hurts a little. Any ideas? I want to kick this thing and fast. It takes every bit of strength out of me.
Take Vitamin C 500 mg every two hours. If you start to have runny stools than back off a little. It should go away very quickly w/this method.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
okay, so i can't go a day without having to wash
my hair. i have friends who only wash their hair about..
2-3 times a month, and their hair is never oily or gross.
im white by the way, and so are they.
and of course they shower daily, but they dont
wash their hair and it always looks perfect.
they say they 'trained their hair' ?
is that possible.?
like to go every other day then wash it,
then every two days and then every three days etc?
if anyone know lemme know plz =]
Yep, it's possible. The more you wash it the more it gets oily. The reason is that washing stimulates the oil to produce more often. You may have to go a day w/oily hair, but after a while your hair will adjust.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
how can you get blackheads out?whats are some REALLY good things to get them out ??
Find yourself a great facial scrub like an almond scrub for example and scrub your face with it. Follow the scrub by taking a washcloth and soaking it in really hot water, but not boiling. Put it on the infected areas until it starts to cool, then do it again. Do this in a relaxed position such as lying down. Then take two Q-tips and try squeezing them. They should extract easily, but if not you quit. You don't want to squeeze too hard because it could create scaring. You also don't want to use your fingers if you can help it. After you've finished and you if you still have some you want to work on, then go back to the wash cloth step and repeat. What you are trying to accomplish is bringing all of the toxins to the surface that are trying to get out and loosening the surface area to make for an easier extraction. After a few attempts and some blackheads remain stubborn then quit for this first attempt. You don't want to overwork the area. Now that you've unclogged the area you don't want to clog them back up. What you want to do is make a cleanser of 1 part raw apple cider vinegar to 2 parts water and wash your face it. So that means that if you use 1/4 cup of apple cider vinegar you want to add 1/2 cup of water to it. This will bring your skin back to it's natural PH factor. Do this at night and go to bed w/o putting anything on your face. This gives it a chance to stay clean. The next mornings put egg whites on your face for 15 minutes and then wash it off. You will notice that your pores will shrink and your skin will feel fantastic after using egg whites. Then apply make-up and go.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I don't think there's enough questions on advicenators that mention abortions. I assume there's more females on this site then males, so why does it seem like there are mainly pro-life supporters? We're women. Women with so many choices and laws that allow us those choices. I agree in having your own opinion, but never force it onto someone else. If someone is considering an abortion, why talk them out of it, bringing it up as a sin and disgusting? I'm proud to be pro-choice & you'd think nowadays more women would be. Why aren't you?
I will start this off by saying I am pro-choice. I don't believe anyone has any right to dictate over another person what they should do w/their bodies. If someone is raped and becomes pregnant, I can understand why they would chose to abort the baby. But, Personally, I am against abortion. I consider it murder. You have to see a little known film called "Silent Screams". This film was produced by a medical doctor who USE to perform abortions. He was originally making it to teach the abortion process and what it did was teach him instead. When he viewed the film what he saw changed his practice forever. He saw the fetus screaming and crying for it's life while trying to escape being aborted. After that he never performed another abortion and he turned this film into one to teach against abortion. I have included some websites below so that you can view the film. CAUTION, YOU HAVE TO BE AT LEAST 12 YEARS OLD OR OLDER TO VIEW THESE PICTURES OR FILMS.
Personally I wish people would practice safe sex and/or preventive measures and not get pregnant in the first place. That would eliminate the need to have an abortion. But, if someone I know finds themselves in the position they feel they have to get an abortion, I'd support their decision and be there for them. There is no since in ridiculing someone for their decision because it is a lot tougher emotionally on women than is publicized. I have several friends who have had abortions and they regret it, or feel guilty. They have to live w/their decision for the rest of their lives. They don't need me or anyone else condemning them. They will do a great job doing it to themselves. So those of you who spit out hell and damnation edicts and say that you are Christian? Where is your compassion? Wasn't it Christ who said, "He who is without sin cast the first stone"? Christ was compassonate and loving. He was there for everyone, no matter what they did or where they came from. He loves and loved us and them all. Isn't it our mission to be Christ like? Then keep in mind that people who decide to get an abortion don't need the rest of us adding to their tribulations. They need our compassion and love. This is a very difficult decision to make. I've been up many a night with women who cried themselves senseless and have gone into depression after this experience. Years later they still speak of the experience with regret. I guess the reason you don't hear more about this is it is too personal an experience and they don't want to relive it publically. Am I pro-choice? Yes, I don't have the right to dictate to anyone what they should or should not do w/their bodies. But, I do wish that people would simply do what it takes not to get pregnant in the first place since we have so many safe readily accessible methods of preventing pregnancy.
http://www.abortiontv.com/Movies/silentscream.htm
http://www.abortiontv.com/Pics/AbortionPictures1.htm
http://www.abortiontv.com/Movies/MassacreOfInnocence.htm
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Okay, I am a 14 year old girl who recently started using tampons[[okay like two days ago]] My question is- is it suposed to hurt a little when you pull it out? Is it natural? or is it simply becuase im not used to it? please let me know. if it helps i will have my period for two years july 2nd.
You might be wearing the wrong size. Check to see if you can get a smaller size. You may have to change it more often, which is healthier anyway, but it won't hurt when you pull it out as much. If your in the smallest size available, then you may want to let it saturate a little more before pulling it out. The whole thing is an uncomfortable experience anyway. Best wishes to you in this new venture in life.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I'm a 16 year old female. I've never had problems with acne on my face but ever since I was about 13, I've had embarrassing acne on my chest and back. I've tried everything (ProActive, Acne-Free, all kinds of prescription creams and pills, etc) and the only thing that's ever worked was tanning on a tanning bed. I'm not sure why that works but after going a couple of days, my skin was totally clear.
Anyways, now, my parents don't want me to tan and I don't know what to do because I can't wear a bathing suit or any kind of revealing clothing at all because the acne is so obvious.
So is there any obscure, rarely heard of kind of treatment that I would be able to use to cure this acne? What is it that made sitting in a tanning bed make my acne go away?
Thank you so much.
I can understand completely the concern your parents have regarding the probability of your getting malignant melanoma. This is a very real and probable outcome if you are exposed to the wrong kind of uv rays. But, there are burgeoning studies now that are concluding that it's important for us to get some sun because it is the best source of vitamin D. There are a myriad of vitamin D deficient diseases that are developing in our country today such as rickets that were thought to be non-existent. They are re-emerging because of a vitamin D deficiency. The reason I am explaining all of this is because I feel that part of your problem is a vitamin D deficiency. There are a couple of ways we can approach this problem. One is that you can continue to get "some" sun. Now what I mean by that is that you can only go out into the sun for 10 minutes a day and that would have to be before 11:00 a.m. or after 4:00 p.m. You can also start taking vitamin D supplements. I've included some websites for you to look at that will have information on them w/pros and cons so that you and your parents can read the information and make an educated decision as to what you can do. Another supplement you may want to add to this will be MSM. MSM is a type of sulfur that has magnificent effect on the skin. You cannot overdose on MSM because your body will expel any excess w/in 12 hrs. But, it is my suggestion that you not exceed 500 mg in a day. I take 1000, but I'm an adult.
Something I want to explain before I get into some other treatments that you can try. Acne is one of the ways your body attempts to detox. What you have to do is take a good look at your diet. Are you eating a lot of fast foods, sodas, refined sugar, etc? These foods are filled w/chemicals (they are synthetic and your body doesn't want them in there)which when ingested have to come out someplace and one of them is acne. Something you should consider is cleaning up the foods you eat. Eat more fresh organically raised foods. That means vegetables, fruits, eggs, meats, dairy, etc. and eliminate processed foods and most of all cut out the white sugar products. If you're hooked on sweets like I am you can substitute it with a marvelous sweetener called AGAVE. It is made from the juice of a cactus and tastes a little bit like caramel and tastes great in everything. It also does not have the same reaction in the body as sugar does so even diabetics can have it. Break yourself in with these fresh new foods a little bit at a time. You will start to see improvement and as you start to see that you will want to go further w/it.
There are also treatments I have found that are very simple and easy to come by w/o a lot of money. Break open an egg and separate the yolk from the white then brush the white all over areas that you experience acne. At first only leave it on for 15 minutes at a time. You can start off doing it everyday because it is not harmful to you unless you are allergic to eggs. I leave it on for hours, but I've been doing it for years. It's also a great face-lift for those who are looking for an economical way to achieve that goal. Your skin will feel amazing after each treatment and you will soon love doing it. Also, you can go to your local drug store and pick up a product called Alpha Hydrox. It's in a red box and you want to start of w/an 8% alpha hydroxy. You can eventually work yourself up to a 10% formula, but you have to do it gradually depending upon your skins reaction to it. So, if you decide to go w/ the 10% formula you will need to do a spot test first. With both formulas start off doing it once the first week, twice the second week, three times the third week, until you are able to do it every night. Now, if you should decide to go this route you cannot go out into the sun. What this does is exposes fresh new skin cells that will be highly sensitive to the sun. This method does work but you cannot do both the sun and a alpha hydroxy. So, if you choose this method simply take vitamin D supplements and you will be covered. To add to whatever method you choose you can start doing a sea salt scrub once a week. Have you ever noticed that when you go into the ocean your skin clears up? Well it does and this will help as as well.
I hope I was able to come up with some ideas for you. Good luck and I wish you well!
PS: THERE IS SOMETHING ELSE YOU CAN TRY. YOU MAY BE ALERGIC TO THE LAUNDRY SOAP YOUR FAMILY IS USING. THAT'S WHY YOU ARE ONLY GETTING THE ACNE ON YOUR BACK AND CHEST AREA. THERE ARE LAUNDRY SOAPS OUT THERE THAT ARE FOR ALLERGIES AND ENVIRONMENTALLY SAFE ONES IN YOUR HEALTH FOOD STORES. TRY SOME OF THEM. I'VE HAD FRIENDS WHO HAVE HAD THAT SAME REACTION TO LAUNDRY SOAP. IT JUST DAWNED ON ME TODAY THAT IT COULD BE THIS. THE OTHER STUFF I TOLD YOU TO DO WILL STILL BE BENNIFICIAL, BUT I'LL LAY ODDS THAT IT'S SOME KIND OF ALERGIC REACTION. ALSO YOU MAY HAVE SENSITIVE SKIN AND CANNOT WEAR SYNTHETIC CLOTHES. YOUR SKIN MAY NEED TO BREATH, SO YOU MAY HAVE TO STICK W/NATURAL FIBER CLOTHING SUCH AS COTTON, BAMBOO, WOOL, ETC.
http://www.healthcentral.com/drdean/408/60762.html
http://www.dermnetnz.org/systemic/vitamin-d.html
http://dietary-supplements.info.nih.gov/factsheets/vitamind.asp
http://www.webmd.com/content/article/78/95751.htm
http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/articles/A43711-2004May20.html
Namaste!
LULABELLE
I'm not sure if its "legal" on this site to ask this question, but if it's not, could to re-direct me to a site that could help me?
This monday, I have off from school. I'm giving myself a total makeover. Hair, nails, everything. What I need, and what I have NO experience in, is makeup. Is there a place where I could submit my picture and have people give me makeup advice?
Thank you so much!
Ali
Better than that you can go to any department store and go to one of your favorite make-up lines like Clinique, Lancome, Channel, etc. and they will do a make over for you. Actually, it wouldn't hurt to try them all out. They can show you the colors and techiques that would work best on you and then you can go to the drug store and pick out comperable colors for less money. You don't have to buy anything form one of their makeovers. You can also check w/the department stores for upcoming makeover events. These are a lot of fun because during these events they give away gifts with the makeovers or with a minimum purchase for as little as $18. I use to be a Business Manager for Clinique and people were forever coming for makeovers w/o buying anything. We loved doing it, so don't worry about that and enjoy yourself.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Ever since I was 14, I could read people's minds. It scared me at first, and it still sort of does because I don't know much about it.
Sometimes it happens randomly. I'll be thinking of something and suddenly I start to think something completely different that I can't control. This has happened with my siblings and parents before, and I've been able to tell them exactly what they were thinking/feeling.
My family is thinking about sending me to a doctor (I know this because they think about it alot). But there's nothing wrong with me.
Is this mind-reading thing normal? How do I tell my parents to not send me away? =(
Actually I think it should be normal. The problem is that the majority of the people out there are afraid of this so they don't pay attention to it. I can do it with people that I'm around or if I see a picture of someone, that kind of thing. Since the idea of your being able to read minds scares your family don't talk about it anymore. Simply use it to your advantage. You tried to share it with your family and they don't want to know. They could have listened to you and picked up on their own ability to read minds. This sort of thing runs strong in families. I'm sure there are other family members who can do it like a grandmother, father, etc., but they have kept this to themselves. Notice if you don't have family members who come across as being really intuitive and knowing. They probably can do it but don't want to talk about it. Don't let it bother you. Enjoy like and all that it has granted you.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Okay, once I was looking at some questions, and I came across this girl who had this problem. Though after she was done explaining her problem she gave a list of ways that she would like the question to be answered. The most non secencial one was when she said, "For all you people who TlaK lyk DIs" Don't bother answering. That just pissed me off because if you REALLY need help, then you wouldn't care how people answered your question, as long as it gets answered in the first place. My question is: If people list ways to answer their question, then how are we suppose to answer it honestlly if we can't fully express our feelings due to their moranic limitations?
I just experienced this very thing. I answered a question for someone with the best of my ability. It was and is a very good answer to the question. The problem with people like the one you are speaking of is that they are simply seeking answers that support their opinion. They aren't looking to learn or improve their life. I think they want something they can print up and show to someone only to say, "see? All these people say the same thing I do. So, you are wrong." They don't want honesty or truth. They want to support their delusions. I'm not going to answer those questions anymore. They don't really want your opinion, so why give it to them. They will only burn you and why sacrifice your integrity by relenting to what they want. Look for people who are seeking your honest opinion and help. You can pretty much tell who those people are. A person who is giving you a list of preferences as to how they want you to answer their question is not looking for honesty and truth. They are looking for feel good answers. I also wonder if they don't look at your ratings before they rate you. For the longest time I had a perfect 5. All of a sudden people didn't want to give me anything more than a 4. I didn't change my honest style and true intent on helping. I think some people can't stand it if you are able to maintain a 5 and simply have to take you down a peg. It gives them a feeling of control and power. But, you will run across some that will fool you and you think they are looking for your true effort and boom they give you a bad feedback. When that happens let it go. Take my word for it.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Hi, this is selectopaque, I just wanted to reply to your feedback. One reason why I believe your report may have not worked was simply because of the edit that you put. I used to be a level two moderator, one of the poeple who answered the abuse reports, and I would not have been able to help you by changing your rating. I would have wanted to, but they can't really change the rating if your saying something mean. If you hadn't put the edit there, then I'm quite certain someone would have changed it. There's no reason for someone to give you a one for that answer. Especially considering that she gave almost everyone a one and nasty feedback.
Ok, that's my opinion. You don't have to reply to this if you don't want to.
Of course I'll answer this. I truly appreciate your input. You're insightful and kind. I've looked at your column before and have enjoyed your answers. I did realize at the time that I made my edit that it would not be reversed. I filed the abuse report before I did the edit believe it or not. I felt that if I filed the report it would alert Advicenators to this person's inappropriate behavior. I just felt the need to express myself to this person as well. She was rude and this is the 2nd time in a month that someone has done this to me. I'm tired of people asking questions they don't really want to know the answer to and I wanted them to know it. That's why I posted my question. Once I did that I would get my opinion on other columns and it would reach more people. I don't expect my edit to change or evolve this person. She WANTS to languish in her narcissistic illusion. She is filled with so much fear that she is incapable of seeing the truth, I understand that. It's obvious even her therapist can't even help her by her question. But, by my being able to express myself I released "me" from stress build up. You see, it is my belief that this girl is a symptom of our society today. I experience this attitude everyday in a myriad of situations. I'll bet you do too. Our society has become sociopathic. Do I now think she is a true sociopath? No, of course not. Do I think she is expressing sociopathic tendencies? Yes, I do. I stand by my first opinion. She is a product of our society. We have isolated ourselves to the point that we think that only "me" as "individual" is what matters instead of "us" as a collective. We are so busy worrying about what we think, what we like, what we want, how we feel as individuals that we've lost sight on how to compromise and work together as a group. We've lost sight of the fact that it takes us as a loving collective to survive, not me, me, me. We are painting ourselves in an individual corner, so to speak. Yes, our individuality has its place and matters, but it only matters as long as there are others within a loving group to make it matter. At the core of every major religious belief on this planet our major task is to learn to love each other in spite of each others flaws. Instead we pick on each other because of their flaws. People today are not the loving and caring beings I know they have the potential to be. Do I think what I did will create a space for that? No, I do not. I absolutely fell into the individuality trap. But, I am usually letting people say whatever they want to me and just taking it w/o a word. I really work on being passive and accepting for the most part. Obviously I have not taken this outlook into the core of my being but superficially or I would have let it roll off. This is obviously something I need to look at and learn from. I had a disillusioned week and I know this was not the place to express it, but it was where it came out. Do I think I was appropriate? No. Do I feel better? Yes. Her reaction to my honest effort just triggered my latent need to avenge myself someplace somehow. I thank you for giving me this opportunity to express myself and I appreciate you for your candor and honesty.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Im 13/f
I eat alot of chocolate and my mum thinks im addicted to to it, i do too, i always feel like chocolate and a bar is never enough.
I eat a chocolate bar every day and a sweet cereal bar too. some days i'll even have two choccie bars.
I'm worried that if i carry on i might get diabetes, i want to stop eating so much, but how?
How can i make myself motivated and resist chocolate?
Chocolate by itself is actually good for you. It raises your saratonin levels and lifts your spirits. Also chocolate is an antioxidant and is 10,000 Xs better than eating blueberries, which is rated as one of the highest antioxidants. It's the sugar and other additives that are added to your chocolate bar that is bad for you. What you may want to do is buy something called AGAVE (pronounced Augavay). This is a natural sweetener that comes from a cactus. It tastes like caramel or butterscotch (slightly). This sweetener does not have the same affect on the body as sugar does and diabetics can have it. I make my own chocolate milk w/it and chocolate bars. You want to use raw ground cacao (which is chocolate). It's the cooking process that makes it bad for you. If your local health food stores do not carry it I have included a website below that you can purchase it from. They also make chocolate bars too. To get more information to this healthy alternative simply put "raw cacao" in your search engine and you will be bombarded with tons of choices and price ranges. Good luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
http://www.goraw.com/
I have tiny feet so im having some trouble here. Could someone find me a cute pair of black shoes in a size 5? I need them for a Bat Mitzvah so they should look nice. I would be eternally greatful! I have so much trouble shopping for shoes!
The best way to handle that is to call your local department stores and/or shoe stores and special order them. I know for a fact that Nordstroms will special order any shoes they have for you in whatever size you want and they have some of the cutest shoes out there, but of course they are very expensive too. Check around locally. I use to be a buyer for a store and when someone wanted something special ordered I could tack it onto my orders. You may be surprised how easy it is. Also, look at the shoes the use in the windows and displays. Most of the time these are the smaller sizes they use because they are slower to sell. A lot of times the sales people act as if they don't exist because they don't want to have to tair down a display. Good Luck in your search!
NAMASTE!
LULABELLE
so i'll start by telling you a bit about myself.
i am 15 f. i don't want to sound arrogant but yes, i am popular which is why i don't get what is going on. I am vasrity cheerleader as a sophmore and have no trouble w/ guys and have alot of girl friends. so this is my question...
i got into a figth with this girl and it got bad, but girls are catty. she tried to ruin my reputation, but i ruined her life =] i got her kicked off of class vice president and her friends hate her. but to be fair, she really deserved it im not kidding. she posted pictures of me that were like edited and crap to make it look like i was naked, like photocopying my head onto the pic or w/e. and posted it on alot of the lockers. idk why she did it, shes just jealous b/c im dating her ex bf. seems to me like SHES the sociopath not me...
so after this i got in trouble, the school sent me to a therapist to talk about why i act the way i do. he diagnosed me a sociopath. But um... sociopaths are psycho anti-socials and im the center of attention. Im not a freak, i love shopping and guys and they say just b/c im a little decieving and like it my way, makes me a sociopath???
can somebody please explain to me how a popular varsity cheerleader can be a sociopath because i am way not antisocial.
IF YOU HAD READ MY ANSWER COMPLETELY WITH HEART AND COMPASSION (WHICH YOU OBVIOUSLY DON'T HAVE)YOU WOULD HAVE SEEN THAT I WAS SHOWING YOU HOW, I THOUGHT, YOU WEREN'T A SOCIOPATH. YOUR LACK OF APPRECIATION AND UNDERSTANDING AS WELL AS YOUR INABILITY TO SEE THAT THIS WHOLE ANSWER WAS ABOUT YOU ONLY PROVES TO ME THAT YOUR DIAGNOSIS BY YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AUTHORITY WAS CORRECT. YOU ARE AN UNGRATFUL AND HEARTLESS PERSON AND NEEDS SERIOUS HELP. I WAS SHARING AND RELATING ONLYTO SHOW YOU THAT IT HAPPENS TO EVERYONE. YOUR NARCASISTIC ATTITUTE PROVES THAT YOU NEED SERIOUS HELP AND I DO HOPE THAT YOU GET IT. YOU'RE A SAD, SAD PERSON WHO I DO BELIEVE IS BEYOND HELP AS ARE ALL SOCIOPATHS AND YOUR RESPONCE TO AN HONEST EFFORT AT HELPING YOU ONLY PROVES IT TO BE SO. TO ALL MY READERS, I APOLOGIZE, BUT I AM TIRED OF UNGRATEFUL SPOILED PEOPLE WHO SET US UP SO THAT THEY CAN FEEL BETTER ABOUT THEMSELVES BY PUTTING US DOWN. I FELT SHE NEEDED A GOOD TALKING TO, EVEN THOUGH I REALIZE IT WILL DO NO GOOD.
A sociopath is someone who can fit in well w/society and mimic appropriate behavior because they are taught to. They can be extremely popular and likeable. They don't have empathy for others or remorse for what they do. They can't deal with the reality of their behavior and can't accept their flaws. They are talented in turning things around on people and making it appear to others that they are responsible for what is going on so that they don't have to take responsibility for their own behavior. It's less painful that way. They are really good with the technique of projection. This means that they project their flaws onto others and say things like "I'm not the sociopath, she is", or blaming others for why they have to do whatever it is that they are doing, such as your blaming this girl for your getting her into trouble. They do not consider other people's wishes, welfare or rights because they are incapable of understanding or caring about the damage they impart onto others. They usually make great serial killers.
Now having said all of that...I don't know where a mental health professional gets off telling a teenager that she's a sociopath. All teenagers are sociopaths. They are always laying blame elsewhere and doing truly mean things to each other w/o remorse. They do not want to take responsibility for their behavior and blame others. They lie and have no empathy for others and their situation. They are narcissistic and think the world revolves around them...AND THAT is normal. That's being a teenager. Oh, man, some of the things I use to do when I was young...I look back and can't believe it was me. I could never hurt anyone today physically or mentally. I was a cheerleader too. I had this one guy pay me $5 a week so I wouldn't beat him up. It was simply pathetic some of the things I did and said to people back then. At the same time I had some kids under my protection too (they didn't have to pay anything I just liked them). It's an unfortunate part of growing up. I was diagnosed w/ depression and as an adult w/ADHD (they didn't have this diagnoses when I was a child). It's up to the adults to help young people see where behavior is problematic and personally I don't think you are a sociopath. That's an awfully strong diagnosis. Most mental health care professionals won't diagnose this until a person is an adult. I think you suffer from a well known condition which is simple to diagnose, you're a TEENAGER. Yes, I know, that in itself is pretty scary, but that's all I think that is going on. If it were up to me I would insist on a second opinion. You would be w/in your rights and deservedly so. Just because someone is a therapist does not mean they know what they are talking about all of the time. Also, you might want to take a second look at your behavior in all of this too. Even though this girl did some pretty appalling things, you might need to look at what you did and how you did it. Were your actions the best course of action? Could you have achieved your goals w/o stooping to her level? I agree, she needed to be punished for what she did. That was not right, but there are always other ways to achieve the same goals. I can't go into them because I don't know what you did that lead your school to recommend counseling. It had to be pretty big considering what that girl did to you. Whatever you do, don't let someone else label you. We do that too much in this country and once someone is labeled they start becoming the label. You were hurt and reacting out of anger. Sometimes we let the anger cloud our better judgment. Sounds to me you need more anger management counseling then labeling. I feel for you in all of this. Don't loose sight of who you are and you know deep down who that is. Don't let anyone's mis-diagnosis take that away from you.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
This is a site that gives you basic characteristics of a sociopath.
http://www.geoffmetcalf.com/psychopath.html
Yall know that thing in most bathroom sinks that you pull up and it clogs the sink so you can fill it with water..well i accidentally pulled too hard and it came out..has this happened to anyone before and is it going to be hard to fix? i dont want to get in huge trouble..thanks
It's actually easy to fix if you know how. Each stopper is different and the same. There is a lever down in the hole that connects to the stopper part which pushes it up and down. All you have to do is keep playing with it until it connects with this lever. I remember the first time I did that. It does fit in a certain way. You just have to keep putting in differently until it catches. Good luck and don't worry about it.
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LULABELLE
on one of my hair products, it says to dry hair with a diffuser... whats that!?
ill rate 5s. = ]
It's an attachment to your hair dryer that has the spikes at the end. It actually helps give you more body w/o a whole lot of air blowing on your hair. It can help keep your hair in the position you want it to stay in. I love how they work. They are all over the internet. Just put "hair diffuser" in your search engine and you will see tons of them.
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LULABELLE
okayy. i've been going through alot right now becasue i've lost people in my lives and getting bad grades and shit. i need help here to get happy. well now i just found out that my boyfriends parents are getting a divorce right now and im really upset for justin (my boyfriend) and i don't wanna lose him because of this i love him so much and i have no idea how to get him help and i know it might take a while and i just have to just be there for him whenever i talk to him how im i supposed to say?? i need help here
my life and this year have been tough yearr i need to get things out of my way!!
Thanks lauren
I can completely understand where you are coming from. My dad died when I was 14 and well, my grades? Forget about it. Anyway, this is about your boyfriend and you. One thing people don't realize is that being there for someone does not have to mean that you come up with the verbal answer that will make someone feel better. Words are hollow. It's our actions that are most remembered. The best way, I've found, to help someone is to keep them busy. Go to the movies, parties, hiking, swimming, or simply hanging out at the favorite spot. Let him be in control of the subjects y'all talked about and you don't always have to be talking either. Sometimes the most intimate moments are those when two people can just be together w/o saying anything at all. It's their presence that is most important to us. If he doesn't feel like hanging at times don't take it to heart. Sometimes people need their space during times like this. Simply tell him you will be there if he needs you. If he doesn't call you for a day or 2, don't get angry. Respond w/how are YOU doing? I've been concerned about you. That kind of thing. He'll get that you are coming from a true place of concern and love. The fact that you back off and let him be what he needs to be will carry a whole lot of weight. I wish you luck in all of this. I know how tough this has to be for you. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you on your journey, whatever happens, no matter how bad it may appear at this time, these things that have happened lately will help you become a stronger, smarter, and more insightful person. Just don't let yourself loose the love. Become aware that Love is all around you, all of the time, coming for more people that any of us are willing to see. Open yourself up to that love and take notice of other kinds of love you can draw upon to help you through this dark period of your life. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
Ok just so you know the other day i went and got a brizalin wax and they gave me this cooling cream to put on well later that night me and my Boyfriend ended up having sex. that night just so you know we had alot of sex. and well the next day we went to the beach and now he's still wearing the same pants in the water and then went to the pool and swam and then went back to my house and chilled well my question is the next morining he texted me to tell me he had some red rash down stairs and that i would want to get checked. well i'm going to the docters today so i am but could it have been him wearing the same pants and having them dry on this maybe irratate his skin or the cooling cream b/c i checked my self and i don't have anything wrong down there. so.... just want to know what ya'll thought. Thanks
It could be a heat rash. Men get that a lot in their genital area, but to be safe you both need to be checked out. I wouldn't be intimate with him until you find out what is going on just to be safe. I've heard of cases where people have been intimate w/someone who had something and they didn't get it w/only one contact, but with continual contact they got it. Also, things don't always show up right away. Some things can take up to two weeks incubation period, herpes will show up right away and yet AIDS can take years. Play it safe for now. Personally? I think it's something simple like a heat rash.
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LULABELLE
I was wondering if anyone can give me advice on activities to do with my 8 year old daughter this summer. All she seems interested in is watching TV or playing with her cousin, who is 10. We read together at night but usually she falls asleep right away. I've tried to get her interested in cooking, but I'm not much of a cook myself. Can anyone give me some ideas?
When I was young my mother signed me up at the "Y" and they have all kinds of activities all summer long. I first learned to swim (they have great swimming classes) and went on to become state champion in butterfly. I was also 3rd in diving. In the summer they have day camp where I learned basket weaving (I make hats now) and painting. Children also go canoeing, hiking, playing softball, tennis, basketball, and more. You can also look in your local paper each week for weekend events coming up that would be of interest for your daughter. You can round up a group of neighborhood kids and ask another parent to go with you as a chaperone. This will help your daughter develop friendships in your neighborhood and other kids will know of other activities that she will enjoy. At some point you may find yourself with too much for her to do. My mother use to say she felt like a taxi driver, but she also traded off with other mothers and had a lot of free time. I hope this helps stir those creative juices.
Namaste!
LULABELLE