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Hi, this is selectopaque, I just wanted to reply to your feedback. One reason why I believe your report may have not worked was simply because of the edit that you put. I used to be a level two moderator, one of the poeple who answered the abuse reports, and I would not have been able to help you by changing your rating. I would have wanted to, but they can't really change the rating if your saying something mean. If you hadn't put the edit there, then I'm quite certain someone would have changed it. There's no reason for someone to give you a one for that answer. Especially considering that she gave almost everyone a one and nasty feedback.
Ok, that's my opinion. You don't have to reply to this if you don't want to.
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Of course I'll answer this. I truly appreciate your input. You're insightful and kind. I've looked at your column before and have enjoyed your answers. I did realize at the time that I made my edit that it would not be reversed. I filed the abuse report before I did the edit believe it or not. I felt that if I filed the report it would alert Advicenators to this person's inappropriate behavior. I just felt the need to express myself to this person as well. She was rude and this is the 2nd time in a month that someone has done this to me. I'm tired of people asking questions they don't really want to know the answer to and I wanted them to know it. That's why I posted my question. Once I did that I would get my opinion on other columns and it would reach more people. I don't expect my edit to change or evolve this person. She WANTS to languish in her narcissistic illusion. She is filled with so much fear that she is incapable of seeing the truth, I understand that. It's obvious even her therapist can't even help her by her question. But, by my being able to express myself I released "me" from stress build up. You see, it is my belief that this girl is a symptom of our society today. I experience this attitude everyday in a myriad of situations. I'll bet you do too. Our society has become sociopathic. Do I now think she is a true sociopath? No, of course not. Do I think she is expressing sociopathic tendencies? Yes, I do. I stand by my first opinion. She is a product of our society. We have isolated ourselves to the point that we think that only "me" as "individual" is what matters instead of "us" as a collective. We are so busy worrying about what we think, what we like, what we want, how we feel as individuals that we've lost sight on how to compromise and work together as a group. We've lost sight of the fact that it takes us as a loving collective to survive, not me, me, me. We are painting ourselves in an individual corner, so to speak. Yes, our individuality has its place and matters, but it only matters as long as there are others within a loving group to make it matter. At the core of every major religious belief on this planet our major task is to learn to love each other in spite of each others flaws. Instead we pick on each other because of their flaws. People today are not the loving and caring beings I know they have the potential to be. Do I think what I did will create a space for that? No, I do not. I absolutely fell into the individuality trap. But, I am usually letting people say whatever they want to me and just taking it w/o a word. I really work on being passive and accepting for the most part. Obviously I have not taken this outlook into the core of my being but superficially or I would have let it roll off. This is obviously something I need to look at and learn from. I had a disillusioned week and I know this was not the place to express it, but it was where it came out. Do I think I was appropriate? No. Do I feel better? Yes. Her reaction to my honest effort just triggered my latent need to avenge myself someplace somehow. I thank you for giving me this opportunity to express myself and I appreciate you for your candor and honesty.
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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