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okayy. i've been going through alot right now becasue i've lost people in my lives and getting bad grades and shit. i need help here to get happy. well now i just found out that my boyfriends parents are getting a divorce right now and im really upset for justin (my boyfriend) and i don't wanna lose him because of this i love him so much and i have no idea how to get him help and i know it might take a while and i just have to just be there for him whenever i talk to him how im i supposed to say?? i need help here
my life and this year have been tough yearr i need to get things out of my way!!
Thanks lauren
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hey, well like you said you wanna be there for him 100%. dont force him into telling you anything that he doesnt want to. if he wants to talk to you about it, he will come to you. iv`e learned all taht from experience. because oen time i was dating this guy. then the guys father needed a transplant. but there was a long list and his father was pretty close to the bottom. then once he finally got teh transplant, hid fathers body was rehjected the transplant. this happened many motnhs ago and his father is still in the hopsital awaiting to see whats gonna happen. good luck. cait♥♥
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I can completely understand where you are coming from. My dad died when I was 14 and well, my grades? Forget about it. Anyway, this is about your boyfriend and you. One thing people don't realize is that being there for someone does not have to mean that you come up with the verbal answer that will make someone feel better. Words are hollow. It's our actions that are most remembered. The best way, I've found, to help someone is to keep them busy. Go to the movies, parties, hiking, swimming, or simply hanging out at the favorite spot. Let him be in control of the subjects y'all talked about and you don't always have to be talking either. Sometimes the most intimate moments are those when two people can just be together w/o saying anything at all. It's their presence that is most important to us. If he doesn't feel like hanging at times don't take it to heart. Sometimes people need their space during times like this. Simply tell him you will be there if he needs you. If he doesn't call you for a day or 2, don't get angry. Respond w/how are YOU doing? I've been concerned about you. That kind of thing. He'll get that you are coming from a true place of concern and love. The fact that you back off and let him be what he needs to be will carry a whole lot of weight. I wish you luck in all of this. I know how tough this has to be for you. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you on your journey, whatever happens, no matter how bad it may appear at this time, these things that have happened lately will help you become a stronger, smarter, and more insightful person. Just don't let yourself loose the love. Become aware that Love is all around you, all of the time, coming for more people that any of us are willing to see. Open yourself up to that love and take notice of other kinds of love you can draw upon to help you through this dark period of your life. Good Luck!
Namaste!
LULABELLE
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