Hey everyone, my name is Kristin, there's a picture of me on my advice column.. I'm a senior in high school and im 18 years olds.. I know I'm pretty young, but I've been through more than anyone would imagine and I've been through things most teenage girls haven't experienced yet in life. Here's a few things about myself, I've gone through a very serious one year relationship that ended a long long time ago, my parents have been divored for about 6 years, I cheerlead for my high school, I do ballet and have been playing the piano since I was seven, I work at a nearby UPS Store, and I am a dedicated Greek-Orthodox Christian. I hope to get accepted into Cal Poly San Louis Obispo and major in Nutrition..I love to hear about other peoples issues and problems so I could help them deal with it by relating them to my own experiences. So if you wanna talk, I'm here =]
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Okay, please Mods PLEASE do not delete this as I'm REALLY concerned!
Well, this girl at my school, she's not my friend or anything I don't know her that good, but she's pregnant. And, she's only 12. We're in 7th grade and all that, and she's expecting TWINS, she should get an abortion and all that but she wants to go through with it. At least that's what I heard, (I hear a lot of gossip. -__-;) Well, anyway, she also smokes and drinks, and she has purple hair and a ton of piercings, and I'm afraid if she goes through with it, her body won't be ready with all those drugs, and she's so young, and she might die...
She's got a pretty bad life, and nobody really likes her, but I still worry about these kind of things...and well, I'm not quite sure what to say to her to try to convince her not to do it. Can anyone give me ideas?
Sorry this was so long. =\
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wow...i admire u alot... u must be a really good friend to ur regular girlfriends...honestly, theres probably absolutly nothing at all you can do...the only thing i can think of is praying for her...if her parents cant even get to her, i really dont think ud be able to..theres really nothing u can do, but i admire you for how u think..
love kristin
ps sorry if this wasnt much help
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I went to camp as a counselor.. for about 5 days and I liked a boy there last year.. but this year when I went I had a boyfriend which things weren't going to great for us.. so I ended up dumping him.. Over the 5 days at camp the guy I liked was like flirting with me grabbing my hips and just being incredibly sweet.. now that i'm home from camp we have been talking on the internet.. and he says he wants to see me and asks me if I want a new boyfriend and stuff like that.. I really want to see him and miss him like crazy.. but sometimes I get mixed feeling from him.. should I just come out and ask him if he likes me?? (link)
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GIRL! tha same thing happened to me..DONT let this chance be passed up...i dont think u should flat out ask him if he likes u, etcetc..tell him to come up and see u!!!! go out, hang out...ofcourse ur gunna have mixed feelings cause every1 always gets mixed feelings when they are crushing on a camp guy ya know??? so hang out with him, flirt, do ur thing, and let tha rest happen on its own..love kristin
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I have a friend and me and her have been friends sense 4th grade we're in the 8th now , but lately she has been thinking that every single one of her exboyfriends likes me. I keep telling her that its not true, but she still thinks it. I dont want her mad at me over something like this. Its not like I like them back is what I tell her. What should I do? (link)
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alota times girls can see right thru their ex-bfs, especially when they think they like their best friends...all u can do is act like u dont care at all..if she ever says nething about it,be like ew u think he likes me..ugh..oh well sOo wutcha doin this weekand..or like change tha subjeCt and totallllly act like ur uninterested..dont argue back and say like no they dont, dont think that...cause trust me thatll get u no where...if she keeps talking about just keep on saying..i dunno maybe who cares..n stuff like that...
love kristin
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OK When I was about 14 my mom told me that when I wanted to go on birth control that all I had to do was ask her about it. Well its been over a year and I dont know how to bring it up. We're not really that cloce. She meant when I'm 'in love' and I want to do it with that special person. Well thats kinda not the deal rite now I'm not in love at all. I dont even have a bf. But I want to go on it .. how do I ask her ? I cant just bring it up out of nowhere.. (link)
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that could be kinda hard and even uncOmfOrtable..i kinda dOubt that ur mOm will put u on birth cOntrOl cause u dOnt have a bOyfriEnd, etCetC..i dont think u should like sit her down n make it like a big deal and have like "a talk" with her about it, cause then she will think that ur prolly gunna go and have sex, etcetc..so id just randOmly, in a TOTALLY casual way be like...hEy mOm i think i wanna be on birth cOntrOl..ofCoUrSe im nOt having sEx, but fOr sOme reaSon id feel alOt mOre cOmfOrtable being on it...say it like TOTALLY casual..and if she like freaks up...make a joke outta it and be like haha mom not like that, ill just feel more comfortable if im on it...i know thats hard to do, but i think thats the best way..
love kristin
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what do i do? my girlfriends's best friend hates me (or so i think)... (14/m) any advice is good, thank you (link)
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theres a reason why ur gfs best friend hates u..u prolly just dont realize it..maybe she thinks u dont treat ur gf right...when ur with both of them treat ur gf EXTRA good, like hold her tell her how much u like her, and how pretty she is, etcetc...if her friend still doesnt like u, then fuck her shes a bitch..or she might like u and be jealous...
love kristin
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Hey everyone.. well i need some advice here.. see my b/f is going away for 3/4 for labor day weekend, and i want to get him like a going away present, nothin too, i can't think of the word but you know, just something simple yet cute. i was thinking about getting a small box, not too small though, and decorating it, like maybe cutting out letters from magazines and make it say "i love you" or something. then in the box i want to put like hershey kisses in there and maybe a cute picture of me. then i wanna write like a little love note to put in the box as well. in the note i wanna say something along the lines of "this is since i can't be with you, since u can't have any kisses from me, or you won't be able to see me" but you know more detail, i wanna make it be almost a page long to make him feel special. and then at the end i'll use "xoxo hugs nd kisses" and stuff.. i haven't thought about everything i'm gonna put in the letter yet though. but anyways.. so i guess my question is, do you like my idea? (got it from somewer else though) or wut else can i do or put in the letter? also i was thinking about getting one of those big hershey kisses instead of a whole bunch of little ones but i'm not sure yet, which do you think would be better? oh also.. frame or no frame for the picture? i just wanna make him feel special, loved, ect.. i wanna let him know how much he means to me and how much i love him and am going to miss him over these days.. so any ideas would help me, thanks in advance and if you want rated ask. sorry if it's long Lol, bye. (link)
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OMFG, thats the CUTEST IDEA IVE EVER HEARD OF GIRL!!!!!!!!!!! thats PERFECT..i wouldnt but the pic of u in a frame tho, to me thats going alil overboard to be honest..the letter and herseys kisses are SUCH A PERFECT IDEA!!! He will love it soOoOoO much...
love kristin
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idk if this is the rite category but there really isnt one for it.. i have a trampoline and i was wondering how to do like a flip a back flip and other tricks so pretty much..
1) how do u do a backflip?
2) how do u do a front flip?
3) any other fun tricks to do on it?
thanks! aim: takemeaway032 (link)
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u should get some1 who knows how to do that kinda stuff, and have them teach it to u cause theres no way to explain how to do it online
kristin
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i have this one friend of mine who whenever other people are around, especially guys, she gets really obnoxious. She become loud and annoying trying to be the center of attention. She put on her annoying girly act, and its just frustrating because she never acts this way when its just me. How can i show her obnoxious she's being without her screaming at me? (link)
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pretend that u overheard acouple guys say that she was hella annoying and fake and loud...n be like yeah i told them to shuttup, but then it got me thinking and u act TOTALLY not urself when u are around guyz..get into it that way...
love kristin
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Does sex always hurt the first time? My friends say it does... but are there any ways for it to not hurt at all? (link)
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unlEsS u are lOoSe, yes, it always hurts...a way u can make it not hurt, is prepare be4 u do it, but making using a dildo to strEtCh it out alil..itll prOlly still hurt, but not aS muCh..
love kristin
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What should you do when a guy who is none of your classes, and you told him you liked him before graduation and he danced with you and acted like he liked you at the end-of-the-year dance, and now all he can say to you is "Hello" awkwardly whenever you see him? so like I said what should i do? I wanna be friends with him but have no idea what to do. HELLPPPP (link)
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uggggh i cannot stand when guyz do that..i kinda think that he saw that u liked him maybe alot and he got sCarEd off..if i wErE u, id kinda stay away frOm him awhile and trii n gEt ovEr this dude..he prOlly was juSt lOoking fOr a goOd time and thEn saw that u actually did like him alot...i know its hard, but i wouldnt lOok at him, talk tO him, say hi tO him, etc UNLEsS he dOeS it tO yOu...
lOvE kRiStin
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th3re iis a bOii ii liike. .ALOTT. but he has a girlfriiend that he dOesnt really like anyways. he flirts with me sOmetimes by like hitting me and hOldiin me. but he is like that with other gurls tOo. and he dOesnt even knO i like him. what shOuld i dO. Or tell me what you think.
thAnkyOu!!
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to be honest...i cant stand ppl who ask questions about tha guy they like who have a gf, and they say he flirts with me, etcetc...look at that, i mean if he can flirt with you WHILE having a gf, he can do the SAME thing to u when/if u guys ever g0 out..thats also really bad karma..if i were u, id let it be...i feel bad for his gf...even if he doesnt like her that much, be a better person than that and stay clear until they break up..if he wants u or likes u that much, they why isnt he with u?
kristin
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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer. (link)
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hey, i am SOO PROUD OF YOU GIRL!! u sound like the exact same typa girl i am...one thing that u shoulda added was how long ago u gave him that letter...listen..u, in his eyes, are different from any other girl. why? because he is use to girls jumping on his nuts, forgiving him, running back to him, etcetc...but u arent, u are rejecting him and being a strong girl..he sees that and LIKES it. BUT..a big reason why he likes u so much is cause u dont run back to him, u dont forgive easily, and u play hard to get..once u do forgive him, not nesessarily run back to him but once u give in, and stop playing hard to get [by forgiving him easily], thatll make him kinda loose interest a bit ya know? SO i know its fucking hard as hell to not talk to him, etc, but when u see him in the halls or at school make some eye contact with him, etc..not TOO MUCH at all, just here and there..i can almost promise u, if u play hard to get, act like ur TOTALLLLLY FINEEE, if he calls u, the first like 2 times he calls u, dont pick up or call back [after the 2nd time u can call him back], and basically just play it off..he'll come back and try some more...just give it acouple days/weeks after the letter u gave him, and try and follow whut i said to do..do that and see wat happens..u cant be the one to make it work, HE HAS TO..see how much he works for u, if u think he works for u enough, then ull know whut to do.. if u need more help, im here
love kristin
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ok well theres this guy and we had a relationship 4 a lil while but it ended so we talked on occasion. now he only wants 2 hang out when my best friend is here. i asked if he likes her and he sayd no but it doesnt make sense then. then i thought it was 2 hook his firned up with her but his friend has a girlfriend, my friend says its 2 try 2 get me jealous but i dont no if thats it, wha do u think? (link)
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i honestly think that he might have a thing for ur best friend..even if he says no, that doesnt mean nething...but he can also be trying to get u jealous..im pretty sure its one of the 2
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hey guys! i got my hair chemically straightened with my cuzin back in march. my hair doesnt really dry straight from it though. its kinda wavy when it used to be loose curls. i still have to straighten it which used to take me an hour now its like 20 mins. but my cuzins hair dries straight .. mine doesnt. my hair took to the chemicals real fast so they didnt let it sit in my hair as long as they should have. ok well getting to the point.. i have to get my roots straightened again soon and i was wondering if i should say something to them and if so.. what should i say? (link)
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i got my hair chemilcally straightened too acouple months ago...and its the EXACT same as yours...its not the ppls who did it fault, its your hair...som pplz hair dont take the chemicals good because the hair will fall out so they HAVE to take it off fast no matter what..if u want u can ask them about it, but its not their fault sOo yah
love kristin
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Hi everyone says that i am really skiny well when i look at mysealf in the mirror i look really big i just quit cheerleading and i want to go on a easy excersice diet but also eat at the sam time.i just wish i could just be like i used to plz help raiderhater121 :(!!! (link)
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i quit cheerleading acouple of years ago, now im back in it...a really good way to have easy excerisise diet is to take 20 mins outa ur day, go outside and do like 10 toe-touches and other jumps 10 times each..then make up a combination of jumps and do that...just spend like 20 mins doing that kinda stuff..itll help soo much!!!
love kristin
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13/Female...I have jouvenile diabetes, which is sad because everyday, i have to prick my finger everyday BUT i'm used to it so it doesnt matter. anyway, i'm going to school next monday (i have never been to regular school, only homeschool) and im thinking that everyone will make fun of me because during class, i will have to go to the bathroom and prick my finger. im afraid everyone will make fun of me :( How do i explain to them that this is okay and im just a normal human being and im just like everyone else? (link)
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i REALLY REALLY REALLY doubt that ppl will make fun of you.....ive been going to regular schools my hole life and i know like 10 ppl who have diabetes and have to priCk thEmselvEs...but nObOdy cares at all..i think that u being 13, and im pretty sure ur gunna be in 8th grade [?], but at that age, ppl might question it in heads, but thats IT!!! if u need more help, im here
love kristin
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Okay, here's my issue. I'm 18 and I've been seeing my boyfriend for over 3 months and we're starting to get really serious. The only problem is that his brother is incredibly rude to me all the time. I've known both guys for a long time, and his brother used to be quite nice to me. Its just since we started dating that he's begun treating me like dirt. I've asked him what his problem is and he won't admit to having one. My boyfriend claims that he's just "not a people person", but he is much ruder to me than my boyfriend realises. Help please! (link)
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it depends on the brothers age..if she is a youngster, i think the answer is, is that hes just being an immature lil shit and wants to get on ur nerves cause ur a "girl" and his brothers "gf"..but if he is older, then he definatly has a prOblEm..heres some gUeSseS..he might be jealOuS cause hiS brOthEr has a gf and hE dOeSnt, he might be jealOus cause the attentiOn is all on yOu nOw, or maybeeee just maybe, he use to like u and now that u got with his brOthEr, it hurt him..if i were u, if its bOthEring u that muCh, whiCh im sure it is..id tell ur bOyfriEnd hOw u fEel, even get teary-eyed..tell him that u cant take it anymore and if he doesnt stOp ull brEak up with him, tell him it hurts u THAT muCh to even riSk ur relationship...if u need more help, im here
love kristin
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ok, problem. theres this guy at my skooL.. he likes me a lot he even told me he loved me. i really like him too! i can't go out with him though.. he had sex when he was 11 and im afraid he'll want that from me and only think about sex. the thing is though i REALLY like him! i mean ive never liked anybody this much before. ive seriously thought about going out with him, even though he is considered a "nerd" but i really don't care what people think. i just dont know if i can go out with him bcuz of the whole sex thing.. what do i do? please if you could help me thatd be great =c) thanx! (link)
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i really think u shold go for it...u know urself that u WONT have sex with him and the only way to figure out if he just wants sex, is to actually go out with him......the FIRST time he even tries to do it with u and u wont and he gets mad, id dump him, cause then ur question was answered, he does just want sex...but defintly go for it..dont let this chance get passed up...just be careful cause alota guys just say they love u to have sex with you, dont be fooled..watch out for yourself but go for it..
love kristin
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Ok well Ive liked this guy since the first time i had ever layed eyes on him. I was the new girl so I thought he was out of my league... as years went on we got really close. We had liked each other at one point... but nothing really happened. Well I'm trying to get over him. I've tried everything! a different guy... trying to tell myself that I dont.. everything. But with a different guy I never have the same feelings as with him. And when i keep telling myself I dont, it works kind of good... until i see him and all my feeling start rushing back. He has hurt me so many time... I dont know how many times I have cried because of this guy. I just need help.. what do I do?? I dont THINK i'm like in love with him or anyhing... but every time I see him, all of a sudden, every care in the world goes away... and I get kind of nervous... but I try not to let it show. My bff keeps telling me that I need to get over him because it's been too long (like 4 years!) and he has hurt me so bad... but I cant help it! what should I do?!? ahh! please help! I'll rate if you ask! (link)
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im really sorry what ur going through..thats happened to me once...and it was like the same situation ur in...the only thing that i can say is ===give it time...i know its been FOUR YEARS...but so what? it could take 10 years..but u just need to let it go...give it time, dont try and find some1 new, its going to be even harder because ur gunna compare him to tha guy u really really like...then its gunna make u think about him even more and make u think that hes the only one for u because no other guy cant compare...but u know thats not true...so dont try and find some1 else, itll only make it worse...go0d lucK
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There is this guy that I REALLY like a lot, he's my friend and all and he said that he would hook up with me and he's hooked up with my other friend before and it meant nothing to him, I'm afraid of hooking up with him in case I get my hopes too high just to have them crash and burn. I really like this guy but I am afraid of getting hurt because it will mean nothing to him if I hook up with him and I really don't like that fact. PLEASE HELP! (link)
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u basically answered ur own question...u WILL get hurt...many many many hook ups are meaningless to guyz...especially girls who are throwing themselves at them...if i were u, id keep to urself and PLAY HARD TO GET...dont hook up with him unless he really likes u back!!!
lOvE kRiStIn
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