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Hey. I need some advice and you seem like you like helping people out so here i go:
I'm a sophomore and ever since last year, I have liked this guy in my high school and he has liked me back. However, this guy is a player. He goes out with many girls at the same time. He gets over all of them, yet he's never been able to get over me. He always asks me out and I always refuse him. Who would want to go out with a player and get hurt? He promises me that he'll change. Sadly, I caught him making out with another girl the day after. I was devastated. I sent him a letter that told him how I felt. In it I told him how stupid I felt for liking and caring so much about him for such a long time. I also told him I was sick of lies and false promises. I ended it by saying "don't write back or talk to me anymore...leave me alone, you've hurt me enough." I should feel better now that it's over, but I don't. The thought that he'll never talk to me again makes me sad. Even though he's broken my heart and played me from the very start, I can't help but keep liking him. Should I talk to him again? Should I keep trying to make "us" work out? Please let me know your honest answer.
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If you like him that much then yes, but I say give him one more chance and if he's still a player, find someone new. Good luck =)
-xXoBrianna
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Wow, this is a hard question to answer so here I go! Well it's okay to be friends with him but I wouldn't date him again because he already broke your heart and I wouldn't want your heart broken again from the same person. If I were you, I wouldn't trust him anymore in a relationship because since he told you that he would change, he didn't. Instead, he finds a girl and starts to make out with her. If you want to try to talk to him again, you could write a note telling him that even though he broke your heart, you would still give him another chance by being his friend. Explain to him that it would be better if you guys were just friends because you just don't wanna get hurt again. You deserve more than what has happened to you. Some girls who are in this situation, don't even give the guy another chance but I think you could and should. I haven't been in a situation like this because I haven't had a real boyfriend yet so I'm trying to give the best answer that I can to you. I really hope I helped and I hope everything works out for the best!
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Good luck :)
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hey, i am SOO PROUD OF YOU GIRL!! u sound like the exact same typa girl i am...one thing that u shoulda added was how long ago u gave him that letter...listen..u, in his eyes, are different from any other girl. why? because he is use to girls jumping on his nuts, forgiving him, running back to him, etcetc...but u arent, u are rejecting him and being a strong girl..he sees that and LIKES it. BUT..a big reason why he likes u so much is cause u dont run back to him, u dont forgive easily, and u play hard to get..once u do forgive him, not nesessarily run back to him but once u give in, and stop playing hard to get [by forgiving him easily], thatll make him kinda loose interest a bit ya know? SO i know its fucking hard as hell to not talk to him, etc, but when u see him in the halls or at school make some eye contact with him, etc..not TOO MUCH at all, just here and there..i can almost promise u, if u play hard to get, act like ur TOTALLLLLY FINEEE, if he calls u, the first like 2 times he calls u, dont pick up or call back [after the 2nd time u can call him back], and basically just play it off..he'll come back and try some more...just give it acouple days/weeks after the letter u gave him, and try and follow whut i said to do..do that and see wat happens..u cant be the one to make it work, HE HAS TO..see how much he works for u, if u think he works for u enough, then ull know whut to do.. if u need more help, im here
love kristin
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Let me start off by saying, no girl deserves to be treated like that. You were right for sending him a letter saying what you did, it was definatly the right thing to do. As for trying to make you two work out, don't do it. I am sure you're beautiful, but you just get stuck on guys you know you could never have, just because of the way they act, like this guy. I've been dating the same guy for 6 months now, and he treats me like his everything, and that's how every girl deserves to be treated. When you told him not to talk to you ever again, that was right of you to do, he doesn't deserve to talk to you! How long has it been since you gave him the letter? Because every heart needs time to heal, and yours will heal in no time. Don't try to directly jump into a diffrent relationship, or get stuck on another guy, just put yourself out there and let guys know you're single. If you find a guy that sparks your intrest, get to know him, and try him out for a change. You'll be over that jerk in no time.
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Oh my goodness. I've been in that sort of situation before. Actually, I'm sort of in it now. lol. A lot of people are players, including girls, but when the right person comes, they can change their ways for them. Ask him if he's willing to change for you. He may just be all over other girls because he doesn't have you. He probably cares about you but since he doesn't have you, he thinks it can't hurt you and he's awaiting for you to actual accept his offers.
You should think about talking to him again to let him know how you feel about him. Ask him if he can try to change for you and if he can't, then it should definitely be over and you should try to move on. If he's willing to at least try to change his ways, he's trying to show you that he cares. Sometimes it's hard to change the way you've always been because it becomes a habit and he might need some time to fully not be a player anymore.. Kind of like when people are addicted to cigarettes if you know what I'm trying to say lol. Playing people is probably like an addiction to him as well as a habit and he has to work on breaking that habit.
If you two do get back together, let him know he has to earn your trust before he has all of it. Trusting a player too soon can lead to some very unhappy endings but don't always accuse him of things because that'll end the relationship too. That's what I did and it sucks really bad lol. Also if you get together, don't stalk him and not let him hang out with friends. He's gonna think you just wanna be around so he doesn't cheat on you ((i know you'll probably wanna do that. i would lol)) and he's gonna think you don't trust him and get upset.
Best of luck <3
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