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I really need help!
Okay, please Mods PLEASE do not delete this as I'm REALLY concerned!
Well, this girl at my school, she's not my friend or anything I don't know her that good, but she's pregnant. And, she's only 12. We're in 7th grade and all that, and she's expecting TWINS, she should get an abortion and all that but she wants to go through with it. At least that's what I heard, (I hear a lot of gossip. -__-;) Well, anyway, she also smokes and drinks, and she has purple hair and a ton of piercings, and I'm afraid if she goes through with it, her body won't be ready with all those drugs, and she's so young, and she might die...
She's got a pretty bad life, and nobody really likes her, but I still worry about these kind of things...and well, I'm not quite sure what to say to her to try to convince her not to do it. Can anyone give me ideas?
Sorry this was so long. =\
<-Mystie->
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can you imagine being 12..and having a baby?? I cannot
She is probaly in denial..wow..
She does not want the baby ...it is clear....
And trust me..she does not want to live..if she cannot keep it togehter for her babies.
maybe she can get a couple to adopt them that will take her in.
She needs to get help..she needs therapy.
That you care enought about her to wtire heew..just shows me what a great person you are.
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You should tell her to stop drinking and smoking 1) it WILL mentally hurt the children and it will be harder on her 2)She should get an abortion (i dont really agree or like abortion) it might kill her cuz of the drugs 3) If she does go through with preganancy it would make her life even worse taking care of lil ones 4) tell an adult about it.
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You need a lot of help!First thing you should do is get her to stop drinking and smoking.Do whatever you can.Then give her a book for young girls who get pregnant so she can understand it better.Talk to her parents make sure they know she is drinking and doing drugs.She should have used a condem like I do.There is no excuse for getting pregnant at that age!!!Why did she is even having sex at 12!!!!Your friend needs you right now she doesn't know whats best for her.Do whatever you can for her and support her!
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Ok, this is what i think. If your concerned about this girl then what i think u should do is become sorta friends with her ( but don't become to good of friends because you seem like a good person and she might be a bad influence.. so don't get toooo closee.) and try to convince her to stop smoking drinking etc. If your a little closer to her she probably will listen to you more. You can help her out a lot, you seriously can make a huge difference in her life, and it's a great feeling to know that you helped someone out like that. So try it, become a little more closer to her, just a little remeber, and try to convince her. Oh yeah, and try not to listen to gossip. It's noooo good!
Well Good Luck!
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HeY hUn! well i just wanted 2 say that u r so sweet 4 being so concerned with this poor girl who u dont really know and nobody really likes. i'm sure most people dont really like her cuz they judge her and dont get a chance to know her but it sounds like she dosent have 2 many friends...and thats probably exactly what she needs. when i have a problem i turn 2 my friends and thats what most teenage girls do. her parents could be really pissed off at her for being pregnent and possibly could have shunned her so she might have no one. if u feel comfortable.. u should maybe try talking 2 her she needs some1 young and mature and willing to help her and not judge her or refer her 2 a counsler or trust-worthy adult. i am totally against abortion... i mean why should she kill the twins when she was the one who messed up... so i wouldnt suggest that. maybe if she isnt ready 2 be a mom (which at age 12 she really isnt) then she should consider adoption or a realitive. and the worst thing that she can do when shes pregnent is drink and smoke. the baby could have fas (fetal alcohol syndrome) which is a totally messed up brain disease and occurs when the mother drinks with pregnent. so sounds like this poor girl is in need of a lot of help right now and i'm sure she would love it if u helped her! good luck! hope i helped! ask me ne thing ne time! xOxO, aLeX!
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what this girl needs is someone who is there 4 her..even if no1 likes you try and b a friend shes going throu a rough time
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well ur doin the right thing by wanting 2 help some1 u dont no. i would talk 2 her wen no1s arond and tell her wat u think and b nice 2 her and that she shouldnt get an abortion but should ddefinatley stop smoking and drinkin and tell her that shes endangering her life by makin these hcoices. and tell her this "it is not our abilities that show who we truly are...it is our choices, chose wisley" hope this helps ;)
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It takes alot of guts to do what you are/have doing!GO search google about young teen parents and what not. get sites and give them to her. DO her parents even know?! Try to make her tell her parents about it and they should take her to a doctor. Being a teen parent isnt fun and its alot of stress to the family!
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Refer her to a Planned Parenthood clinic (plannedparenthood.org) and get a trustworthy school official such as a guidance counselor, favorite teacher or vice principal to talk to her and her parents about it. Any good information you can get her will help!
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ok this is a hard question to answer. theres really no right or wrong way to tell her as long as u do tell her. since u dont know her too well i wouldnt just go up to her and tell her this stuff trying to convince her not to have the twins because she could become very offended. but if u really want to i would just start talking to her as friends. then after awhile tell her how u feel but dont pour all of ur thoughts and ideas on her. just tell her that ur worried for her and her babies. ask her to stop her smoking and drinking for her TWINS SAKE!! instead of trying to convince her by saying its wrong make her think of her babies instead. she obviously cares for them if she wants to go through with it so maybe in that way u can get through to her and help her make a decision for her and her babies...hope i helped!! reply if u need anymore advice and help!!
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ok, she might not want to go through it because of her faith, but by the way you talk about her, i don't think thats the case.
see its really her choice. tell her you care, and that you think she needs help. tell her you think she might be in danger and stuff. tell her it wouldn't be fair to her children if they were born and that the state would probably take her kids away anyway.
hope i helped.
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wow...i admire u alot... u must be a really good friend to ur regular girlfriends...honestly, theres probably absolutly nothing at all you can do...the only thing i can think of is praying for her...if her parents cant even get to her, i really dont think ud be able to..theres really nothing u can do, but i admire you for how u think..
love kristin
ps sorry if this wasnt much help
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Tell her how you feel. Tell her that you're afraid that if she goes through with it she'll die because her body isn't ready for it. She might take it personally though. She's too young to have a baby and she's probably not strong enough. Birth is a hard thing to go through, especially twins with somebody that young. I hope I helped! Leave me one in my inbox if I can help you anymore!
Love, RacheL
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